The Psychology of Depression and Anxiety - Dr. Scott Eilers

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I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety.
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Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.

Thanks to Monarch for partnering with me! Start your free trial and get 50% off your first year of total money clarity using my link https://monarchmoney.yt.link/esovhAP or code drscott50 for 50% Off Monarch Core tier.Sometimes the hardest part of your life isn’t what’s actually happening—it’s what your brain does with what’s happening. Cognitive distortions are thinking patterns that can take real problems, uncertainty, or discomfort and add an entirely new layer of emotional distress on top of them.In this video, I break down four of the most common patterns I see: black-and-white thinking, personalization, emotional reasoning, and catastrophizing. More importantly, I’ll give you a practical strategy for challenging each one without pretending your problems aren’t real or forcing yourself into “positive thinking.”The goal isn’t to convince yourself everything is fine. It’s to stop paying an emotional price for problems that exist primarily inside your own thought patterns.
If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper
Next Steps:
📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
About me:
I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety.
Mental Health Coaching with me
Therapy with me (for people in Iowa)
Find me on YouTube
Resources
🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.

Get 10% off your Pulsetto FIT here: https://pulsetto.tech/pages/drscott or use my coupon code DRSCOTT. It’s completely risk-free with a 30-day money-back guarantee, so you can test it and see how your body responds.If you used to feel everything and now you mostly feel numb, there may be a reason. Sometimes emotional numbness isn't an inability to feel—it's the result of learning how to turn down painful emotions so effectively that you accidentally turn down the good ones too.In this video, I break down three less-obvious ways we can block our own emotions: constantly expecting the worst, living in a chronic fight-or-flight state, and carrying unresolved grief or trauma. These strategies may have helped you survive something once, but they can eventually leave your entire emotional range feeling smaller.If you've built a life you think you should be able to enjoy but can't seem to actually feel it, the answer may not be figuring out how to create happiness. It may be understanding what's preventing you from feeling what's already there.

If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper
Next Steps:
📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
About me:
I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety.
Mental Health Coaching with me
Therapy with me (for people in Iowa)
Find me on YouTube
Resources
🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.

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If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper
Next Steps:
📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
About me:
I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety.
Mental Health Coaching with me
Therapy with me (for people in Iowa)
Find me on YouTube
Resources
🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.

Thanks to Grow Therapy for sponsoring this video! Head to https://growtherapy.yt.link/hshEjBV to find your dream therapist today!Anhedonia can make you feel like a background character in your own life—still going through the motions, but unable to feel joy, pleasure, or meaning. In this video, I share seven strategies I personally use when depression leaves me feeling emotionally numb.I’ll walk through checking the lock, scaffolding positive experiences, finding “loopholes,” investing in future joy, apathyception, creating novelty, and what I do when none of those strategies work.If you’re stuck in that numb, repetitive “NPC mode” right now, I want you to remember that your current emotional state can make itself feel permanent—even when it isn’t.

If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper
Next Steps:
📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
About me:
I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety.
Mental Health Coaching with me
Therapy with me (for people in Iowa)
Find me on YouTube
Resources
🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.
😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.
📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning
Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.
But I do care.