5 for 50: The Truths I’m Carrying Into This New Decade
This week I turn 50. Instead of balloons or cake, I’m marking this milestone by sharing five truths that feel carved into me now. Call it my 5 for 50. These are the lessons I’m carrying into this next decade—about boundaries, embodiment, reciprocity, friendship, and trusting the timing of my life.If you’re in your 40s, 50s, 60s, I hope you hear yourself in these truths. And if you’re younger, I hope you take them as reminders to claim your life sooner rather than later.In this episode I share:Why I will no longer overexplain myselfHow my body, not the clock, sets the pace for my lifeThe line I’ve drawn around reciprocity in relationships and workThe honest truth about not knowing how to be a good friend until later in lifeWhy I am no longer comparing my timeline to anyone else’sMentioned in this episode:Book a B.E.I.N.G. SessionOur Sponsors:* Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcareSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Daily Boundaries That Save Your Sanity
Boundaries don’t always look like cutting people off or quitting jobs. The ones that actually keep you from burning out are the daily boundaries — the small choices that say: my time, my body, and my energy belong to me.In this episode, I’m breaking down five daily boundaries that protect your sanity:Not answering texts right awaySaying “I can’t talk right now”Blocking off the first 30 minutes of your morningLeaving when you’re readyRefusing to explain your “no”These may look simple, but they’re radical. Because every time a Black woman says no to urgency, over-functioning, or people-pleasing, she’s also saying no to the systems that demand her exhaustion.Listen in if you’re ready to stop being “on call” for the world and start saving your energy for yourself.Book a B.E.I.N.G. self-care session with me Our Sponsors:* Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcareSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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ETCF - Flexin' Your $$ One Month Then Broke The Next While Business Building
We are out here building businesses, doing side gigs, dreaming about walking in our purpose, right? Yes! As we do this, there may be a pull for you to get out there and showboat just how well you are doing by flaunting your income while encouraging others to quit their job and "get like you." This episode is a reminder that this isn't the way to grow. There will be ups and downs in your entrepreneurial journey. Don't let the "highs" fool you into thinking you need to flaunt because things can change very quickly.Our Sponsors:* Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcareSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Trust, Transformation and No Longer Constantly Bracing For The Worst Case Scenario
I’m sharing what it looked like to move from bracing for the worst to making space for the best. This shift didn’t happen overnight, but it’s changed how I move through life, how I feel in my body, and how I trust myself.We talk about:The moment I realized my trust was starting to changeHow my nervous system used to feel vs. how it feels nowWhy trust takes time to rebuildAlso, as mentioned: BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is where we sit together and put out the fires—whether it’s burnout from your job, the weight of family dynamics, being the go-to for everyone in your circle, community or church obligations, caregiving without support, or constantly feeling like you have to be the strong one—so you can reset and move forward lighter. You’ll leave with clarity and steps you can actually use right now. If you want to go deeper, we can work through the full BEING framework together. Book your session here.Our Sponsors:* Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcareSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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The Superwoman Contract We Never Agreed To
So many of us are walking around with an invisible contract we never agreed to—but we’re still out here living by it. It's the Superwoman Contract. In this episode, I’m naming what it is, where it comes from, how it keeps us stuck, and what it costs us to keep performing strength.We talk about:What the Superwoman Contract actually isWhy we feel obligated to carry so muchHow this “strength” is expensiveWhat it could look like to void the contract and choose something elseMentioned in this episode:➡️ BEING 1:1 Coaching is open. This is support for Black women who are navigating reinvention, self-trust, and soft power after survival. If you’ve been carrying it all, this is your space to finally set it down. Book your session today.Our Sponsors:* Check out Quince: https://quince.com/selfcareSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Join Bre, aka The Self-Care Pusher from Southern California, as she shares life experiences, weighs in on current events, amps up her wellness/health habits and finds clean(ish) products to try all for the sake of taking her physical, spiritual and emotional well-being to the next level and (hopefully) inspiring other women of color to do so as well. It's time to become obsessed with our self-care!
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