The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose

In this episode, Michael Bungay Stanier, author of the bestselling The Coaching Habit, discusses how to tame your advice monster and become a better listener. Michael shares the surprising story of self-publishing after multiple rejections, and discusses core coaching principles like staying curious longer and asking better questions. He explores paradoxes in coaching, including balancing humility with confidence and being both fierce and loving. Michael also reflects on personal growth, integrating one’s shadow side, and maintaining perspective after achieving extraordinary success.

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Key Takeaways:

The 10th anniversary of “The Coaching Habit” and its journey from rejection to self-publishing.

The philosophy of coaching and the importance of asking good questions.

The concept of taming the “advice monster” and the value of staying curious.

The paradoxes in coaching, such as balancing confidence with humility.

The significance of recognizing and integrating one’s shadow side.

The role of presence and deep listening in effective coaching.

The importance of being fierce and loving in relationships.

The challenges of personal growth and the internal conflicts we face.

The unpredictability of success in writing and the nature of creative work.

The idea of holding outcomes lightly while caring deeply about one’s work.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Michael Bungay Stanier, check out these other episodes:

Starting Well to Finish Well with Michael Bungay Stanier

The Coaching Habit with Michael Bungay Stanier

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In this episode, Lodro Rinzler discusses what it takes to believe you're good enough. He explains how guilt, shame, and negative emotions can become mistaken identity markers, and how meditation helps us recognize our inherent goodness. Lodro also shares personal stories about releasing shame, taking responsibility for past mistakes, and the Buddhist concept that we are fundamentally good but obscured by life's challenges.

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Key Takeaways:

Discussion of Lodo Rinzler's new book, You Are Good Enough. You Are Enough.

Exploration of themes related to guilt and shame.

The impact of modern distractions on mindfulness and presence.

Identification with negative emotional states and their effects on identity.

The role of meditation in recognizing and addressing negative mental patterns.

Personal anecdotes illustrating the struggle with guilt and the journey of personal growth.

The importance of expanding one's identity beyond limiting labels.

Philosophical perspectives on human nature and basic goodness.

Practical steps for cultivating mindfulness and compassion in daily life.

The significance of holding a nuanced view of oneself and others in fostering healing and connection.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Lodro Rinzler, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Meditation for Anxious People with Lodro Rinzler

Lodro Rinzler (Episode from 2014)

Hardcore Zen with Brad Warner

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In this episode, Suleika Jaouad, author of Between Two Kingdoms, discusses her experience learning how to live in the space between no longer and not yet. Suleika shares how illness shattered her plans and forced her to confront mortality, finding agency through journaling and creativity. She discusses the difference between pain and suffering, the importance of community, and learning to live in life’s uncertain “in-between” spaces. Following a recurrence of her disease, she reflects on resilience, love, and embracing discomfort as pathways to meaning and growth.

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Key Takeaways:

Suleika’s personal journey with acute myeloid leukemia at age 22.

The impact of illness on identity and life plans.

The psychological and emotional challenges associated with serious health issues.

The concept of living in the “messy middle” between past and future.

The role of creativity and journaling in coping with illness.

The importance of community and connection during difficult times.

The distinction between physical pain and emotional suffering.

The idea of bravery in responding to hardship and making active choices.

The significance of rituals in navigating uncertainty and transitions.

Finding meaning and beauty in life despite pain and suffering.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Suleika Jaouad, check out these other episodes:

How to Find Solace in Discomfort with Lanusha Dameris

Strengthening Our Resilience with Linda Graham

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In this episode, Manoush Zomorodi talks about tiny movements and their massive impact in reclaiming your energy in the digital age. Her new book, The Body Electric: The Hidden Health Costs of the Digital Age and New Science to Reclaim Your Well-Being, explores the hidden health costs of sedentary, screen-heavy lifestyles and shares research showing that just five minutes of gentle movement every 30 minutes can significantly improve blood sugar, blood pressure, mood, and focus. They discuss workplace culture’s resistance to movement breaks, the body-brain connection, and practical strategies for building sustainable habits. Manoush also emphasizes that small, consistent changes can yield transformative results, making better health accessible even within demanding modern work environments.

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Key Takeaways:

Health impacts of prolonged sitting and screen time

Importance of regular movement breaks for physical and mental well-being

Research findings on the minimum movement needed to counteract sedentary behavior

Societal norms and workplace culture surrounding productivity and sitting

Negative effects of sitting on blood flow, brain function, and overall health

Strategies for incorporating movement into daily routines

Overcoming barriers to establishing movement habits

The interconnectedness of body and brain in relation to movement

Historical context of sedentary lifestyles and the need for intentional movement

Practical takeaways for improving health through movement breaks

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Manoush Zomorodi, check out these other episodes:

Manoush Zomorodi (Interview from 2016)

Reclaim Your Mind: How to Build a Healthier Relationship with Technology with Jay Vidyarthi

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In this episode, Shane Parrish, author of Clear Thinking explains why your default behaviors are sabotaging you, and how to outsmart them. He explores how small, everyday decisions shape our lives more than major choices. Key insights include positioning yourself for success through preparation, creating personal rules to build positive habits, and using role models as a “personal board of directors.” Shane emphasizes that clear, conscious thinking in ordinary moments accumulates into extraordinary results, helping listeners make better decisions and live more intentionally.

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Key Takeaways:

The impact of storytelling on behavior and outcomes.

The importance of pausing before reacting to situations.

Managing emotions and ego in decision-making.

The significance of small, everyday choices in shaping life outcomes.

The concept of positioning oneself for better decision-making.

The role of rituals and rules in creating positive habits.

The influence of role models and exemplars on personal behavior.

The necessity of emotional regulation and awareness.

The dangers of impatience and the pursuit of quick fixes.

The value of vulnerability and reflection in strengthening relationships.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Shane Parrish, check out these other episodes:

How to Integrate Behavior Change with Your Values with Spencer Greenberg

How to Get Unstuck with Adam Alter

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