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Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...
 
What "kindergarten readiness" actually means (and what it doesn't).
Dr. Upshur and Dr. Bren share their personal experiences - with one choosing to send her child to kindergarten and the other deciding to hold her son back - and why.
The pros and cons of redshirting, and whether being one of the youngest in the class really leads to long-term struggles.
Why social-emotional readiness may matter less than you think.
How family logistics, finances, community norms, local school culture, and sibling dynamics can influence your decision.
What research says about long-term academic and life outcomes.
How to take the pressure off yourself so you can make a thoughtful, "good enough" choice.
 
If you're going back and forth about whether to send your child to kindergarten or wait another year, wondering if they're too sensitive or overwhelmed to start, or worried about making the "wrong" decision, this episode will help you zoom out, gather the right information, and move forward with more clarity and confidence.
 
 
REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:
 
👉 Want extra support in your parenting journey? Upshur Bren Psychology Group offers therapy and coaching to give parents the tools to feel more grounded and confident as they navigate parenthood and learn how to most effectively support their child. Visit upshurbren.com to explore our services and schedule a free 30-minute consultation call to find the support that's right for your family.
 
CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping kids cope with stress and become self-driven with Dr. William Stixrud
 
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping your child success in preschool with Meredith Gary
 
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping your toddler learn to share
 
 
WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU:
 
Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Devon Kuntzman, toddler expert and author of Transforming Toddlerhood, joins me to explain why the toddler years feel so intense and how understanding development can change everything.
 
Together we explore:
 
How toddlerhood is defined by contradictory needs for independence and attachment and why this creates so much emotional volatility.
How rapid cognitive, motor, and language development can leave toddlers feeling disoriented and overwhelmed.
How to slow down power struggles using developmentally informed tools like asking "What's your plan?" and turning "no" into "not yet."
Why helping toddlers organize their thinking supports regulation, impulse control, and cooperation.
How parents can stay flexible, grounded, and confident while navigating a stage that naturally pushes everyone's limits.
How to  grab your free spot in Devon's 9th Annual Transforming Toddlerhood Conference being held live virtually from March 11th-15th.
 
This episode is designed to help parents make sense of toddler behavior through a developmental lens, reduce self-blame, and walk away with practical strategies for setting limits while still supporting independence, emotional growth, and secure attachment.
 
 
LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:
🔗 Transforming Toddlerhood
 
🔗 Reserve your FREE spot in the Transforming Toddlerhood Conference 
 
🎧Listen to Devon's first Securely Attached podcast episode about how to effectively set limits, stay calm, and parent with confidence in toddlerhood
 
📚 Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Handle Tantrums, End Power Struggles, and Raise Resilient Kids—Without Losing Your Mind
 
 
FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM:
📱@transformingtoddlerhood
📱@drsarahbren
 
ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:
💥 Tired of constant battles with your child? Watch my ✨FREE✨ workshop, Overcoming Power Struggles, where I'll teach you the exact strategies I use in my clinical practice to help parents break free from the cycle of yelling, threats, and negotiations—and instead foster cooperation, connection, and calm. Just visit drsarahbren.com/powerstruggles to get instant access to this workshop.
 
CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:
🎧 94. Toddler sleep: Why it's different than infant sleep and how to use the attachment relationship to help them fall asleep, with Eileen Henry
 
🎧 90. Seeing the world through your toddler's eyes: Helping your child feel seen, understood, and validated with the co-authors of the Terrific Toddlers series
 
🎧 209. How can I get my toddler to share and play nicely with other kids?
 
🎧231. BTS: How can I build my toddler's assertiveness skills?

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...
 
- Whether it's okay to have different rules for different kids under the same roof in a blended family.
- How developmental differences and co-parenting agreements can shape household expectations.
- What to do when step-siblings notice (and protest) differences in discipline.
- How to align parenting styles in a blended family without creating resentment.
- Why transparency and age-appropriate conversations can actually strengthen family trust.
- How to approach your spouse when you feel protective, defensive, or out of sync.
 
If you're navigating parenting post-divorce in a blended family with different parenting plans and complex co-parenting relationships, struggling with fairness between step-siblings, or feeling unsure how to handle different rules in the same house, this episode offers clarity, nuance, and practical next steps.
 
 
REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:
 
👉🏻 Navigating separation or divorce? Upshur Bren Psychology Group offers specialized support at every stage of the process, including therapy and coaching, parenting and co-parenting support, family therapy, and weekly divorce groups for women and children. Whether you're in the middle of a split or adjusting to a new family structure, our team is here to help you and your children feel steady and supported. Visit upshurbren.com to learn more or schedule a free 30-minute consultation call to find the right support for your family.
 
 
ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:
 
CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about the best way to approach introducing your kids to your new significant other after a divorce
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode answering a mom who wondered if there was something she can do to strengthen her child's relationship with her ex 
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about getting on the same page with your partner in parenthood 
 
 
WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU:
 
Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Imran Ahmed, founder and CEO of the Center for Countering Digital Hate, joins me to talk about how social media platforms, algorithms, and AI systems are designed and what that means for our children's mental health and safety.
 
Together we explore:
 
How social media algorithms are built to maximize attention, and why emotionally extreme content is often amplified.
What research reveals about how quickly self-harm and eating disorder content can be served to young users.
How AI platforms can respond dangerously to vulnerable teens when guardrails are not properly in place.
Why this is not just a "screen time" issue, but a systemic design and accountability issue.
The difference between pulling the "emergency brake" and creating meaningful long-term change.
What parents can realistically do at home to build digital resilience, foster trust, and partner with their children in navigating online spaces.
 
This episode isn't meant to create more fear, but to offer greater clarity. My hope is that parents walk away feeling informed, empowered, and better equipped to both advocate for safer systems and strengthen the relationship that ultimately protects kids most: the one they have with you.
 
 
LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:
🔗Center for Countering Digital Hate 
 
 
FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA:
📱IG: @counterhate  FB: Center for Countering Digital Hate  Youtube: @CCDHate 
📱IG: @drsarahbren Youtube: Securely Attached 
 
 
ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:
 
💻 Protecting Kids Online - Download the guide for parents
🔗 Deadly by Design: TikTok pushes harmful content promoting eating disorders and self-harm into young users' feeds 
🔗 Fake Friend: How ChatGPT betrays vulnerable teens by encouraging dangerous behavior 
🔗 Resist and unsubscribe - Scott Galloway 
 
👉 Parenting in the age of AI, algorithms, and constant connectivity can feel like a lot. If you're feeling unsure, reactive, or overwhelmed, Upshur Bren Psychology Group offers therapy and parent coaching to help you feel grounded, clear, and confident as you support your child and manage your own stress. Schedule a free 30-minute consultation or go to upshurbren.com to learn more and find the right support for your family.
 
 
CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:
 
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about secure attachment vs. social media with Dr. Miriam Steele
 
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about the do's and don'ts for introducing screens to your toddler
 
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about teaching kids healthy tech habits free of guilt or power struggles with Ash Brandin
 
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about the hidden dangers of EdTech with Andy Liddell
 
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about rewiring the way our kids interact with screens with Alé Duarte

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about...
 
First things first, why are schools still sending out candy grams in this current climate with a loneliness epidemic on the rise? 
Cliques and posses that form in middle school are often rife with envy, jealousy, gossip, and temptation - how to help our kids navigate this. 
What advice to give your child when they are left out in a friend group.
How to help a child who tends to avoid conflict in their interpersonal relationships build a greater tolerance for joining in and addressing things directly.
"There is a difference between a kid who says 'I am going to let this go' vs. 'I am going to hold this in.'"
Understanding "social currency" and how that impacts children, especially as they move into the stage of development where their attention begins to move away from their parents and much more heavily toward their peers.
 
REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:
 
👉 Want extra support in your parenting journey? Upshur Bren Psychology Group offers therapy and coaching to give parents the tools to feel more grounded and confident as they navigate parenthood and learn how to most effectively support their child. Visit upshurbren.com to explore our services and schedule a free 30-minute consultation call to find the support that's right for your family.
 
ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:
 
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about talking with your teen with Elizabeth Bennett
 
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about respond to your child who you think is bullying other kids
 
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about social media's impact on your child's attachment security with Dr. Miriam Steele
 
 
WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU:
 
Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!