Just Sharing or Oversharing? The Cost of Vulnerability Online.
In this week’s episode of Because We Said So, we kick things off with all the looks, slays and serves from Durban July 2025 — the girls (and the gents) did not come to play! We also catch up on the latest Love Island drama (because duh, what’s a week without it?) and then dive into the story that’s taken over South African social media, the Grace Mandlana discourse.From there, we unpack a deeper conversation — the cost of vulnerability online.We reflect on our own experiences of opening up on the internet, how it’s sometimes healing, sometimes heavy, and what it really means to be soft in such a public space. We also tie it all back to the week’s pop culture rewind.As always, we’re keeping it honest, a little chaotic, and deeply reflective.Have you ever felt like you overshared online? Or do you think vulnerability is empowering?
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Real Friends.. How Many Of Us?
This week on Because We Said So, we’re getting real about friendship in your 20s — what it means to be a good friend, how to show up for the people you love, and how friendships change as we grow. Inspired by the viral Be Simone podcast moment where her best friend called her out, we unpack the emotional weight of feeling unseen, how to set boundaries, and what accountability in friendship actually looks like. We also catch you up on this week’s pop culture moments including Rita Ora proposing to her husband, Nelly and Ashanti’s new reality TV show, and of course, our weekly Love Island debrief. It’s a real girl chat about the friendships that shape us, the ones we outgrow, and what it actually means to be there for your people.
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Hookup Culture & Owning Your Sexuality
This week on Because We Said So, we’re diving headfirst into the complexities of hookup culture and what it means to explore your sexuality as a woman in your 20s. Inspired by a creators viral video questioning a woman’s worth in relation to hookup culture, we unpack the double standards, the freedom, the shame, and everything in between.Of course, it wouldn’t be a full episode without our usual debrief on Love Island drama (you already know we have thoughts), a quick chat on the newly announced Hey Neighbour Festival lineup, and a sprinkle of pop culture commentary—including what we’re expecting (and side-eyeing) from Cardi B’s upcoming album.It’s honest, unfiltered, and girlhood in its realest form.
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The End of the "Cool Girl" Era
This week on Because We Said So, we’re getting into the whole “cool girl” thing — what it actually means, why we’ve all tried to be her at some point, and how to still show up as yourself while protecting your boundaries. We also chat about people pleasing and how it shows up in both personal and professional relationships (and not in a cute way).And of course, we had to get into the Love Island USA drama and give our thoughts on the Real Housewives of Durban season finale. It’s a jam-packed episode — honest convos, hot takes, and lots of laughs.
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Sometimes It *IS* The Soul That Needs The Surgery
In this episode of Because We Said So, we kick things off with our thoughts on the Kelvin Momo Symphonic concert, the unexpected pairing of Teyana Taylor and Aaron Pierre, the latest Love Island drama, and why Amerie’s Tiny Desk performance has everyone talking.We then dive into a deeper conversation around body dysmorphia, cosmetic surgery, and the harmful impact of society’s obsession with one ideal body type. The girls open up about their body images woe’s growing up and Zama opens up about her personal cosmetic surgery experience and we reflect on how these pressures affect young girls growing up. We also share advice on building body confidence and embracing self-acceptance in a world that constantly tells you to change.Come sit with us bwss-ties, we've got a lot to say!
Because We Said So is a podcast by Zama Marubelela and Landzy Gama, two 20-something South African women figuring life out in real time. From navigating friendships, love, careers, and the chaos of growing up—no topic is off-limits. It’s girlhood, unfiltered. Come for the laughs, stay for the realness.
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