The BPD Bunch

What does BPD actually look like in real life, and what does recovery really take?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch Brunch, Megan shares her lived experience with Borderline Personality Disorder, including identity struggles, painful relationships, self-deception, emotional chaos, and the communication skills that helped her heal. This is an honest conversation about BPD recovery, relationships, truth, and learning how to feel seen and heard.
In this episode, we talk about:
• What BPD actually felt like in everyday life
• Why relationships can feel impossible with BPD
• The role of self-deception in BPD
• What it means to “stop lying to yourself”
• A communication skill that helped improve relationships
• Why healing from BPD takes longer than people expect
• How pain can become something you use, not just survive
👇 Megan's podcast + socials below.
Podcast: https://istheremoreworld.com/
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(Please not the current time may be subject to change - it WILL be the weekend of April 25, but it might be moved to Sunday. We'll keep you posted!)TikTok: @meganatullyInstagram: @meganatullyUPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday of every month! 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Hey…
This isn’t the video we planned for today.
This past week, I lost my dog. And I needed a little more time than I expected to get back on my feet.
I thought about just skipping this upload entirely, but there was something in this experience that felt important to share. Especially when it comes to what recovery from BPD actually looks like in real life.
There’s this idea that recovery means things won’t hurt as much anymore. And I’ve found that it’s not exactly that simple.
A lot of emotional contexts can and do change drastically in recovery, and it's possible to get to a point that feels emotionally stable most of the time.
But one of the universal human truths is that if you care a lot about someone or some creature, losing them will be painful. No amount of recovery will erase the grief process. And there's nothing abnormal or disordered about you if you feel the pain of loss.
So this video is a bit different from the usual, it’s just where I’m at right now and something I didn’t think we talk about enough.
Thank you for being here, seriously. I’ll be back to our regular episodes next week.
If you do want the more in-depth version of what’s been going on, I shared that over on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/i-had-to-put-my-155040984(this one is available to free members as well!)

❤️ Xannie

_____🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

So… what even counts as “BPD” anymore?Last week, we explored how the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD) moves away from strict categories. This week, we’re taking it further:What does BPD actually look like in this model, and do you even need the label at all?We break down the core of BPD through self and interpersonal functioning, how traits shape the “borderline” pattern, and why diagnoses like BPD and NPD might not be as separate as people think. If you’ve ever felt like the DSM didn’t fully capture your experience, this might hit differently.This is Part 2 of a 2-part series.⸻Featuring:Dr. Carla Sharp — Clinical psychologist and Professor at the University of Houston. Director of the Developmental Psychopathology Lab, with a focus on personality disorders, mentalization, and adolescent development.Dr. Frank Yeomans — Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College and Director of Training at the Personality Disorders Institute. Internationally recognized for his work in Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP).Dr. Alex Stein — Clinical psychologist, researcher, and advocate known for her work on attachment patterns and “favorite person” relationships in BPD.⸻Subscribe to see what these traits actually look like from a lived experience perspective! 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

What if Borderline Personality Disorder isn’t just a checklist of symptoms?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, we explore the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), a framework that shifts how we understand BPD from a set of categories to patterns of functioning, severity, and relationships.Joined by leading clinicians in the field, we break down what’s changing, why it matters, and how this model could reshape diagnosis, treatment, and stigma.This is Part 1 of a 2-part series.⸻Featuring:Dr. Carla Sharp — Clinical psychologist and Professor at the University of Houston. Director of the Developmental Psychopathology Lab, with a focus on personality disorders, mentalization, and adolescent development.Dr. Frank Yeomans — Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College and Director of Training at the Personality Disorders Institute. Internationally recognized for his work in Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP).Dr. Alex Stein — Clinical psychologist, researcher, and advocate known for her work on attachment patterns and “favorite person” relationships in BPD.⸻Subscribe for Part 2 where we break down what BPD actually looks like under this model.🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

What happens when grief, trauma, and misdiagnosis collide, and it turns out to be BPD?
Shaharin shares her story of being sexually assaulted, losing her marriage, struggling with rejection sensitivity, and finally receiving a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) diagnosis after years of confusion.
We talk about:
• Being misdiagnosed with grief instead of BPD
• Emotional abuse after a mental health diagnosis
• Rejection sensitivity and losing long-term friendships
• Dating again after divorce with BPD
• DBT therapy and real recovery
• Turning intense emotions into creativity and purpose

If you’ve ever felt “too much,” misunderstood, or ashamed of how deeply you feel, this episode is for you.
BPD recovery is possible. And this conversation proves it.

👇 Shaharin’s book + socials below.
TikTok: @shaharin.aura
Instagram: @theshaharinaura
The Girl Baba Left Behind: https://a.co/d/h953q4LUPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday of every month! 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.