Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

In this week’s episode, we discuss why it can bother you so much when someone doesn’t like you—even when you genuinely like yourself—and what may be happening underneath the urge to either change their mind or figure out why. We also explore how knowing how God views you can completely change the way you interpret someone else’s disapproval.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

How it’s possible to have healthy self-esteem without pretending that every feature, habit, or behavior is your absolute favorite.

The two common ways we respond when someone doesn’t like us—and how being preoccupied with others’ disapproval is actually a massive distraction.

How to uncouple someone else’s approval or disapproval from the way you view yourself.

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In this week’s episode, we discuss why the advice to “be content with what you have”—while true—can still feel extremely difficult to put into practice when you can’t seem to stop comparing yourself to other people. We go beneath the surface-level advice to explore one major, often-overlooked reason comparison can have such an unrelenting grip on you.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

Why you can feel genuinely grateful for everything God has given you and STILL experience an insatiable urge to compare yourself to others in nearly every area of your life.

The deeper reason comparison can feel automatic and almost impossible to turn off—even when you KNOW it’s stealing your joy and hate how it makes you feel.

Why it can be difficult to feel relaxed and secure in relationships, work, and business unless others perceive you as exceptional, impressive, or indispensable.

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In this week’s episode, we discuss what it looks like to live a slower, more intentional—and less chronically online—life by reducing the noise, embracing the ordinary offline moments of life, and reconnecting with your originality and individuality.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

How to ACTUALLY spend less time scrolling and more time living—present in your own life and less preoccupied with comparing it to someone else’s.

How experiencing your life through the eyes of an imaginary audience can quietly turn living into performing and curating.

How the habit of constantly consuming online can spill over into your opinions, speech, style, and everyday life—and why individuality requires a little less input.

In this week’s episode, we discuss what it means when you get along with someone but still can’t rest within the relationship or friendship—and how the internal war between what you keep noticing and what you keep trying to explain away may reveal a deeper difference in values.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

What it looks and feels like to share interests with someone, enjoy their company, and STILL experience a looming sense of unease within the relationship.

The difference between extending understanding to someone and losing yourself—and your values—in the process of trying to understand them.

What happens to your voice when you become passive about mismatched values in your relationships—and why following your convictions matters.

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In Part Three of The Loudest Boundaries Are Unspoken, we discuss how committing to not taking yourself lightly—that is, carrying yourself with high regard—is an unspoken boundary that speaks volumes about how others should treat you.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

The TRUE, firm foundation for carrying yourself as someone worthy of high regard—one that goes DEEPER than “self-love” and “seeing yourself as worthy.”

How the WAY you use your voice shapes how people perceive the strength of your boundaries.

What people register when you enter a room before you even SPEAK—and how it influences the way they treat and engage with you.

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