Ep. 10 Love is Not Enough-- Part 4 Dating Lessons From my 30's
2026/05/14 | 32 mins.
Why love... is not enough. Part 4. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 3 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road Navigating when a relationship seems good on PAPER with no obvious "problems" yet and still you feel something is OFF and remain restless in the relationship
Ep 9 Love is Not Enough Part 3-- Dating Lessons from my 30's
2026/05/07 | 32 mins.
In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 3. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 2 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road Positive, real life examples of what relational responsibility and caregiving temparament might look like in the RIGHT relationship-- a continued discussion from last week's episode.
Ep 8 Love is Not Enough Part 2-- Dating Lessons From my 30's
2026/04/30 | 38 mins.
In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 2. What I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 4 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road How I learned these lessons personally in my previous relationships--- the HARD way
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Ep 7 Love is Not Enough Part 1-- Lessons from my 20's.
2026/04/23 | 36 mins.
In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. The mistakes I made in my previous relationships. And what I got RIGHT in my 20's when it came to dating and what I undermined and didn't realize was important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone. You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: What I was evaluating and looking for in relationships that I actually got right and have taken with me in my 30's Where I've matured (and how you can too so you don't make my mistakes!) when it comes to really evaluating compatibility and saving yourself unnecessary STRESS. What I got WRONG in my 20's and would no longer dismiss (every woman should know these!)
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Ep 6. What Are You Willing to Endure?
2026/04/16 | 19 mins.
In this episode, we chat: A fresh perspective on the the ever-recylced conversastions around "Know[ing] Your Standards" and "Know[ing] Your Worth" through discussion of how to begin putting it into practice by examining and holding a magnifying glass to what you are willing to endure What you'll learn in this episode: Determining what you'are willing to endure in relationships and what its costing you. The difference between well-placed duty and misplaced duty and what its costing you in relationships (and not to mention with your sanity and self-esteem!) What scripture actually has to say about enduring things in life that are depleting you, taking from you, and causing you death by a thousand cuts
Clearer, not Louder Podcast (formerly known as the Self Love Fix Podcast) is a podcast about discernment, the power of the voice, and the intersection of how the two impact you and the world around you.
In a world that encourages constant reacting, overexplaining, and performing, this space is about learning to pause, notice what's actually happening, and respond with clarity.
Each episode explores the subtle dynamics that shape our relationships, decisions, and inner lives- the moments when something feels off, when we ignore our God-given wisdom, or when we realize we've been negotiating with things that don't align with our principles.
Through thoughtful reflections and insightful conversations, Clearer, Not Louder helps you develop the kind of clarity and discernment that doesn't require force or volume but rather, honesty, awareness, and the powerful, undiluted version of your voice.
Because the goal isn't to be louder.
It's to be clearer.
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