Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

In this episode, we chat:
The FINE line between what it's like to have a connection-- a friendship, a relationship etc-- with someone who is delighted to learn the ins and outs of you and someone who... wants to relate to you on their terms
What you'll learn in this episode:
What it looks like when you make a decision to no longer FIGHT and adjust yourself in order to be seen.
The difference between being mindful about how you communicate to someone and changing who you are to sustain the connection-- adapting vs. self-sacrificing.
Why someone NOT taking the time to know the ins-and-outs and quirky little facts about you does not mean you're not worth getting to know deeply-- they might just not be... for you ESPECIALLY if you're a whimsical and curious girly.
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In this episode, we chat:
How to stay CLEAR AND FIRM on what you know, want, and believe when someone else's pressure or reactions challenge your boundaries, values and opinions.
What you'll learn in this episode:
Why a friendly "come onnn" after you've already said no is worth paying attention to—and how easily a decision can become a negotiation you never agreed to have.
Why someone telling you all about who they're going to be can distract you from paying attention to who they're showing you they are right now.
How dramatic reactions and "well, what about you?" arguments can leave you questioning a choice you were perfectly clear about five minutes ago—and what that can tell you about your discernment.
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In this episode, we chat:
The fine line between someone loving you and someone loving who they ARE and who they BECOME around you.
What you'll learn in this episode:
Why someone can genuinely enjoy being around you—and still be more attached to how they feel with you than to who you actually are.
How to recognize the difference between someone who values you for your utility and someone who remains invested in you as a person.
The subtle difference between someone who carries your company and someone who carries your story—and why one leaves you feeling familiar, while the other leaves you feeling deeply known.
IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat:
Why it's high time you stop giving everyone but *yourself* the benefit of the doubt when something is off with that friendship, that job, that relationship etc.
What you'll learn in this episode:
• Why the benefit of the doubt becomes expensive when you're the only one paying for it.
•  Why grace needs... discernment and why you don't have to overextend yourself under the guise of "giving the benefit of the doubt"
• Why assuming everyone would handle a situation the way you would might be keeping you from seeing the truth (because yes, even though you think they would NEVER... they might just)
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In this episode, we chat:
Why you don't have to wait until you are a shell of yourself, hanging on a thread, practically on life support to leave or change your boundaries in that friendship, relationship, job, or business partnership.
What you'll learn in this episode:
• The difference between sacrificing yourself and making a willful sacrifice that doesn't steal from you
• Recognizing when to say WHEN... early, rather than waiting until you are completely exhausted and unrecognizable to make a decision for yourself
• Why noticing that something is... off over and over again—and having an internal WAR with yourself about it—might just be enough.
IG: @clearernotlouder