The Christian Mindset Coach with Alicia Michelle: Spiritual Growth and Mindset Tips for Christian Women

• 315: Are You Disappointed Because of Unrealistic Expectations?

  We all carry expectations of our spouse, our kids, and our faith journey. What happens when those expectations go unspoken… or unmet? In this episode, we’re uncovering how hidden assumptions lead to emotional disappointment and what it really means to align our expectations with grace, truth, and God’s timing. If you’ve been frustrated, resentful, or just tired of carrying the weight of what “should” be, this episode is your invitation to let go and find peace. What You’ll Learn: [00:00] Could Hidden Expectations Be the Root of Your Emotional Exhaustion? [03:00] What Are Unrealistic Expectations? [05:00] What Happens When Fantasy Versions of Others Distort Real Relationships? [07:00] Could “Prince Charming” Be Sabotaging Your Marriage Connection? [10:00] What Should I Expect From My Child—And Where Does It Become Unhealthy? [12:00] 5 Questions to Identify If an Expectation Is Quietly Becoming Toxic [15:00] Are You Expecting Someone to Meet a Need Only God Can Fill? [16:00] What Does Healthy Surrender Look Like When Reality Doesn’t Match Expectation?  RESOURCES: 6-WEEK LIVE STUDY with ALICIA in JULY/AUGUST 2025 on DISAPPOINTMENT:  Ready for healing from disappointment in marriage, mothering, career and more?  Join me in July/August 2025 in the Emotional Confidence Club where I'll be leading ladies through a 6-week process of noticing disappointments, processing the honest feelings behind it, and applying what we learn to everyday relationships.   Go to AliciaMichelle.com/club to apply and join us.   RELATED EPISODES Ep 312: What to Do When You Can’t Stop Crying, Snapping, or Shutting Down Ep 313: Is Disappointment the Real Reason You’re Overwhelmed, Tired + Irritated? Ep 314: The Disappointments We Carry in Motherhood + Marriage (But Don’t Talk About) Send us a textWant support applying what you’re learning here each week about managing emotions with science and scripture? Come join us in the Emotional Confidence Club—apply now at AliciaMichelle.com/club.

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• 312: What to Do When You Can’t Stop Crying, Snapping, or Shutting Down

  Ever find yourself constantly on the verge of tears, snapping at loved ones, or emotionally shutting down? You’re not broken—and you’re not alone. In today’s episode, Alicia shares what’s really going on inside your brain and body when emotions feel out of control and introduces two simple but powerful tools to bring calm and clarity. If you’ve been stuck in a cycle of guilt, shame, or exhaustion around your emotions, this episode offers a path forward grounded in both science and Scripture.WHAT YOU’LL LEARN: [00:58] Why Am I So Emotional Lately? Understanding What’s Really Going On in Your Brain and Body [04:00] Which of the 4 Coping Mechanisms Are You Using? (Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn) [08:10] Are These Emotional Responses Permanent—or Can I Change Them? [09:00] How the Brain Reinforces Emotional Overwhelm Through Neuroplasticity [14:00] What Am I Really Feeling? The First Step Toward Emotional Regulation [16:00] What’s Your Boiling Point? How to Catch Overwhelm Before It Spills Over [18:00] What’s Behind the Snapping and Crying? Uncovering the Hidden Emotions [19:00] What Is Emotional Prep + How Can It Keep You Grounded? [21:00] Practical Tools to Cool the Fire: Scripture, Breathing, Journaling & More [25:00] You’re Not Too Far Gone: An Invitation to Respond Differently with Grace RESOURCES: Want help applying what you’re learning here each week?  Come join us in the Emotional Confidence Club—a hands-on learning community of Christian women discovering how to handle everyday emotions with calm, clarity and confidence. Apply now at AliciaMichelle.com/club. RELATED EPISODES:302: How Toxic Thinking Led to Infidelity and How Managing Emotions Led to Healing with Mark and Jill Savage304: Stop Negative Thought Spirals: “Get Off the Mat” + “What Thoughts Will You Let Land?”306: On Addiction, the Enneagram and a Healthy Fix for Our Inner Brokenness with Ian Morgan Cron Send us a textWant support applying what you’re learning here each week about managing emotions with science and scripture? Come join us in the Emotional Confidence Club—apply now at AliciaMichelle.com/club.

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• 310: Detaching Yourself Emotionally from Your Kids' Decisions with Kate Battistelli

  Emotionally detaching from our adult children isn’t easy, especially when we’ve spent years guiding their choices and offering support. But at some point, healthy parenting boundaries become essential. In today’s episode, author Kate Battistelli joins us to share how we can embrace the empty nest season with purpose, release the urge to control or fix our adult children’s lives, and rediscover our identity beyond motherhood.WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:[02:46] What Are The Struggles With Detaching From Our Adult Children?[06:18] How Can We Let Go of The Responsibility of Our Adult Children's Decisions?[08:13] What Are You Meant to Do Aside From Being A Mom?[14:31] We Have to Make Time For Ourselves and Our Marriage While Our Children Are Home[17:09] “Don’t Be Afraid of The Path God Has Put You On. If You Follow It, You Can Change The World” [20:01] Alicia’s Reflections: There Will Be Triggers, Don’t Be Surprised by ThemRESOURCES:Want help applying what you’re learning here each week?Come join us in the Emotional Confidence Club—a hands-on learning community of Christian women discovering how to handle everyday emotions with calm, clarity and confidence. Apply now at AliciaMichelle.com/club.Connect with author Kate BattistelliRELATED EPISODES:308: Real Talk on Relief from Overwhelming Emotions in Motherhood with Becky Thompson309: Letting Go of Mom Guilt, Parenting Regrets, + Motherhood MistakesSend us a textWant support applying what you’re learning here each week about managing emotions with science and scripture? Come join us in the Emotional Confidence Club—apply now at AliciaMichelle.com/club.

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• 309: Letting Go of Mom Guilt, Parenting Regrets, + Motherhood Mistakes

  Do you carry mom guilt over things you said or did during the hard seasons of motherhood? Motherhood mistakes can feel heavy, but we were often doing the best we could at the time. Today, I am sharing how you can use the ADD model to let go of parenting regrets and unrealistic expectations as parents. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:[02:13] Why Does Mom Guilt Hit Us So Hard?[04:06] Does Nostalgia Have You Seeing the Past Through Rose-Colored Glasses While Also Wondering If You Did Enough as a Parent?[10:27] Do You Have Unrealistic Expectations And Misplaced Responsibility For Your Children?[15:56] Using The ADD Model to Process Mom Guilt[23:00] Want to Learn More About Ways You Can Apply The ADD Method in Your Life? If So, Grab a Copy of My Book, Emotional Confidence!RESOURCES:Tired of up-and-down feelings stealing your peace, sabotaging your relationships, and filling your mind with self-defeating thoughts? If so, make sure to get my new book, “Emotional Confidence: 3 Simple Steps to Manage Emotions with Science and Scripture”.RELATED EPISODES:210: My Daughter’s Story: A Christian Teen’s Journey Through Depression, Suicide + Eating DisordersSend us a textWant support applying what you’re learning here each week about managing emotions with science and scripture? Come join us in the Emotional Confidence Club—apply now at AliciaMichelle.com/club.

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• 308: Real Talk on Relief from Overwhelming Emotions in Motherhood with Becky Thompson

  Let’s be real friends, motherhood is hard. We’re all craving relief from the overwhelming emotions that come with it, but how do we actually find it? Today, I’m joined by best-selling author Becky Thompson to bring some deep encouragement for moms. We go beyond surface-level fixes and talk honestly about the real emotions in motherhood. This episode reminds us that real peace and rest are possible, even when motherhood feels relentless.WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:[03:21] How Can We Stop Feeling Overwhelmed in Motherhood?[08:09] Why Are We Running From Rest?[11:56] The Rest We Are Longing For Is a “Filling of The Spirit”[16:13] How Can We Feel Peace When The World is Full of Problems?[20:00] When God Becomes Our Peace, It Changes How We Move Through Life[26:16] Small Practical Steps We Can Take to Find Rest and Peace [30:53] Alicia’s Reflections: Jesus Wants Us to Go Deeper and Build Intimacy With HimRESOURCES:Tired of up-and-down feelings stealing your peace, sabotaging your relationships, and filling your mind with self-defeating thoughts? If so, make sure to get my new book, “Emotional Confidence: 3 Simple Steps to Manage Emotions with Science and Scripture”.Connect with author Becky ThompsonRELATED EPISODES:246: Join Me in Italy in 2025 for a Rest-Filled, Christ-Centered Travel Retreat for Women!247: Avoiding Burnout: Finding Emotional + Mental Rest Despite Everyday Overwhelm253: What Does Realistic Rest Look Like When You’re Tired of Being Tired? with Jess ConnollySend us a textWant support applying what you’re learning here each week about managing emotions with science and scripture? Come join us in the Emotional Confidence Club—apply now at AliciaMichelle.com/club.

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