Your Body Remembers Pleasure: Somatic Sex Education & Sexual Healing

"That was the best orgasm. That was an earthgasm."

Full show notes, transcript & practices: https://rahichun.com/podcast/skubella-earth-tantra-earthgasm/

In this episode, Tara L. Skubella, founder of Earth Tantra, Level 4 certified Tantra guide, earthing expert and death doula, and I explore earth-based tantra and erotic embodiment in nature. After 21 days naked in a Panamanian jungle on Naked and Afraid, Tara felt the earth's heartbeat move through her body, and a spiritual awakening began. We talk about grounding vs. earthing, silent retreat and the nervous system, the root to heart breath, tantra as preparation for death, and the student who named a new kind of orgasm.

Who this episode is for: Anyone who has felt more alive barefoot on the ground than anywhere else, and quietly wondered whether that aliveness is a doorway to deeper pleasure, intimacy and peace.

In this conversation:
The night by the fire when the pulse of the earth moved through Tara's whole body
Why Earth Tantra is not eco-sex based, and why erotic energy still arises
The 72-hour mark, when the mind quiets and the nervous system begins to open
Grounding vs. earthing: a distinction most wellness spaces blur
Tara's root to heart breath, and why she teaches the lower chakras first
Death, the little death, and the ecstasy of leaving the body
Earthgasms: an orgasmic exchange of energy with the earth itself
Chapters:
(00:00) Welcome
(01:39) Tara Skubella of Earth Tantra
(05:19) Naked and Afraid: from doing to being
(08:42) Feeling the earth's heartbeat
(21:06) Silence and the 72-hour reset
(30:18) Grounding vs. earthing
(38:10) The doorway of death and pleasure
(44:31) Where "earthgasm" came from

Resources & Links
Tara L. Skubella / Earth Tantra: https://earthtantra.com/ (@EarthTantra on Instagram and Facebook)
Turned On By Touch: https://rahichun.com/turnedonbytouch
Free guided meditation: Genital Awakening Meditation: https://rahichun.com/gift/

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"We are actually orgasming far more than we think we are."

Full show notes, transcript & practices: https://rahichun.com/podcast/cartwright-neo-tantra-orgasm/

In this episode, Dawn Cartwright, founder of the Chandra Bindu Tantra Institute in Los Angeles, creator of the Fragrance of the Lotus Teacher Certification Training and host of the Be Fully Alive podcast, and I explore neo-tantra, orgasm, the resistance model of pleasure and breathing beneath the belt. Dawn arrived at her first tantra retreat in a blue business suit and heels, drawn by an ad that promised "the art of sexual magic." More than three decades later, she describes orgasm as a doorway into how the body is designed to feel all the time.

Who this episode is for: Anyone who has quietly sensed that sex holds more presence, connection and aliveness than the brief release they were taught to aim for.

In this conversation:
Why the familiar "exclamation point" orgasm follows a resistance model, and what an ellipsis feels like instead
Where Dawn says orgasm is already happening in every body she has worked with
What tension in the jaw and belly during sex may be protecting
Numbness as a sensation worth tracking, not a verdict on your body
Breathing beneath the belt, and the oceanic breath that wakes the pelvic floor
Ceremony, which Dawn once thought would ruin sex, as a space for meeting
Holding back in pleasure as a mirror of holding back from love
Chapters:
(00:00) Welcome
(01:12) Meet Dawn Cartwright
(04:35) The Santa Barbara retreat
(09:00) What neo-tantra really invites
(16:05) Orgasm as a doorway
(25:30) Inside a session or retreat
(28:30) Tracking sensation, breathing low
(31:40) Ceremony as a space for meeting
(34:30) An invitation to the curious
(39:30) An integration reflection

Resources & Links
Dawn Cartwright: https://dawncartwright.com/ (@dawncartwright). Be Fully Alive podcast: Dawn Cartwright on Patreon
Reclaiming Your Pleasure: https://rahichun.com/reclaimingyourpleasure
Free guided meditation: Genital Awakening Meditation: https://rahichun.com/gift/

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"The fears that come up around the container are likely the fears that show up around sex in general."

Full show notes, transcript & practices: https://rahichun.com/podcast/routhier-kinkead-erotic-reclamation/

In this episode, Nicolette Routhier and Kari Kinkead, embodiment facilitators, relationship coaches and co-creators of Erotic Reclamation, and I explore kink, power dynamics, desire and consent as a living practice. Nicolette came to this work through a religious upbringing that silenced her vivid fantasy life; Kari came from a science-based field where she could feel little more than hot and cold in her own body. They share the somatic frameworks they teach, including the Weather Report, the North Star and their desire claiming process, and their in-person retreat, Temple of Yes.

Who this episode is for: Anyone carrying a desire they have never had the language, or the permission, to speak aloud, and who secretly wonders whether what they want is too much, too dark or too strange to ever be met.

In this conversation:
Why the fears that surface around a sexual container are the same fears living inside your sex life
Slowing desire so far down that its true nature is revealed beneath performance and conditioning
The Weather Report: a moment-to-moment somatic attunement practice for body literacy before anything erotic begins
Conflicting desires between partners, the yes and the no, as a doorway to co-created sex
Kari's belief that everyone is kinky, and the quiet liberation inside that claim
Aftercare woven through an entire intimate interaction rather than bolted on at the end
Erotic innocence: what retreat participants most often name as reclaimed
Chapters:
(00:00) Welcome
(02:20) Meet Nicolette and Kari
(03:55) What erotic reclamation means
(11:45) Slowing desire way down
(16:30) The weather report and North Star
(22:15) Navigating conflicting desires
(32:30) Clean boundaries for facilitators
(39:40) When desire outpaces capacity
(45:00) Reclaiming erotic innocence
(55:15) An integration reflection

Resources & Links
Nicolette Routhier & Kari Kinkead / Erotic Reclamation: https://www.eroticreclamation.com/ (@eroticreclamation)
Reclaiming Your Pleasure: https://rahichun.com/reclaimingyourpleasure
Free guided meditation: Genital Awakening Meditation: https://rahichun.com/gift/

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Susanne Roursgaard finds 70–80% of what lives in genital tissue traces to childhood wounds, not adult sex.

Full show notes, transcript & practices: https://rahichun.com/podcast/susanne-roursgaard-stine-krage-soft-de-armoring/

In this episode, Susanne Roursgaard, psychotherapist, sexologist and originator of soft de-armoring and the Gaia Method, and Stine Krage, certified midwife, somatic therapist, integral sexologist and co-creator of the Prostatic Portal, and I explore genital de-armoring, fascia and the nervous system, prostate healing, breathwork, sound and the psoas. Susanne brings 23 years as a midwife and over 30 years of experience to her practitioner trainings across Europe; Stine works through her practice, Amosoma, in male sexual health and prostate healing.

Who this episode is for: Pelvic floor and sexuality practitioners ready to go deeper, and anyone who senses their body is holding something that has never had language, or safe enough conditions, to surface.

In this conversation:
What de-armoring is, how it differs from massage, and what "matching tone" means in the fascia
Why so much of what the genital tissue holds traces to early childhood, not adult sexuality
The body testing the practitioner before it trusts, and what it takes to pass that test
Prostate work and male surrender, and the shame men carry about the area most in need of healing
Breath patterns that lock the nervous system in fight-or-flight, and why Stine starts with breath
Sounding in sessions: vocal cords, Tibetan bowls and frequency that bypasses the mind's defenses
The psoas as a psychoemotional and sexual organ, and why it cannot be massaged into release
Chapters:
(00:00) Welcome
(02:08) Meet Susanne and Stine
(06:02) How armor feels under the hand
(18:02) Early wounds held in the pelvis
(21:03) Inside The Prostatic Portal
(30:00) Breath practices to try tonight
(36:00) Sound and the body's vibration
(39:00) Their joint practitioner training
(51:06) The psoas, seed of the soul
(59:36) An integration reflection

Resources & Links
Susanne Roursgaard / the Gaia Method: https://the-gaia-method.com
Stine Krage / the Prostatic Portal: https://theprostaticportal.com/
Stine's practice, Amosoma: http://amosoma.com/
Advanced Gaia Method training: https://gaiatrain-ke7mejo6.manus.space/
The Gaia Method 21-Day Challenge: https://www.the-gaia-method.com/product-page/21-day-challenge-a-womens-journey
The 3 Keys to Genital De-Armoring: https://rahichun.com/the3keys
Free guided meditation: Genital Awakening Meditation: https://rahichun.com/gift/

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"Her rational brain said this is what happens at the border sometimes. Her body registered it as a sexual assault."

Full show notes, transcript & practices: https://rahichun.com/podcast/tema-mercado-birth-consent-sexuality/

In this episode, Tema Mercado, Licensed Midwife in California, Partera Profesional Certificada in Mexico and founder of La Matriz Birth in San Diego, and I explore birth trauma, consent in the delivery room, ancestral medicine and sexuality after baby. A first-generation daughter of Purépecha and Yoreme lineage, mother of six and grandmother of two, Tema spent years as a sexual assault survivor advocate before midwifery. In the delivery room she found the same power dynamics, the same coercion and the same PTSD symptoms, and built a practice grounded in somatic consent.

Who this episode is for: Anyone navigating postpartum disconnection, birth trauma, or the quiet question of whether desire and a felt sense of self can return after everything the body has been through.

In this conversation:
Why the delivery room mirrors the power dynamics of a sexual assault investigation
Somatic prenatal care that metabolizes fear before it becomes armor in labor
The woman who arrived saying "I have no trauma," and what her pelvis revealed
Why postpartum loss of desire is almost never about hormones
A father's newborn caregiving rewiring his brain, and reopening intimacy
Belly binding as ancestral somatic practice
Being truly seen during birth, and what it changes in how a woman moves through the world
Chapters:
(00:00) Welcome
(01:50) Meet Tema Mercado
(04:00) Births at 16 and 22
(09:40) From assault advocate to doula
(14:50) Making consent the priority
(22:30) Ancestral medicine and belly binding
(28:15) Consent, recovery and sexuality
(31:30) A border search the body remembered
(43:30) Resuming intimacy after birth
(57:35) An integration reflection

Resources & Links
Tema Mercado / La Matriz Birth: https://lamatrizbirth.com/ (@matrizmidwife)
Reclaiming Your Pleasure: https://rahichun.com/reclaimingyourpleasure
Free guided meditation: Genital Awakening Meditation: https://rahichun.com/gift/

If this resonates, follow the podcast, share it with someone postpartum or healing from a hard birth, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. It helps this work reach those who are ready for it.