Your Body Remembers Pleasure

What if reclaiming your sexuality didn’t just heal your pleasure — but restored your voice, your power, and your purpose?
In this raw and expansive conversation, I’m joined by writer, somatic sex educator, and creator of The Erotic Frontier, Ariel Szabo for an unfiltered dialogue at the intersection of erotic embodiment, plant medicine, cervical awakening, trauma healing, decriminalization of sex work, and cultural power structures.
Ariel shares her journey from numbness and sexual trauma to profound embodied pleasure — including how working with ayahuasca catalyzed a reclamation of her authentic sexual energy. We explore how shame and fear become “coupled” to erotic life force in the nervous system… and how grief, devotion, and radical self-inquiry slowly untangle that knot.
We dive deeply into:
• The difference between disconnected pleasure and embodied pleasure
 • How slowing down rewires sensation and opens the cervix to profound warmth and climax
 • Why sexual visibility can actually increase safety in the body
 • How erotic energy fuels creativity, voice, and life purpose
 • The power shift from “power over” to “power with” in intimacy and culture
 • The crucial distinction between consensual sex work and trafficking
 • Why decriminalization — not legalization — reduces harm
 • The emotional cost placed on survivors within our judicial systems
This episode moves from the deeply personal (cervical awakening and genital listening practices) to the collective (colonial power structures, the Epstein files, and the systemic roots of exploitation).
If you’ve ever felt numb… silenced… disconnected from desire… or confused about the cultural narratives shaping sexuality — this conversation will expand you.
Because erotic sovereignty isn’t about performance.
It’s about presence.
And your body may be waiting for you to ask one simple question:
What do I need? What do I want?
Links to Ariel’s work at sacredmoonflower.com and her Substack, The Erotic Frontier, are in the show notes.

What if arousal and pleasure weren’t “inappropriate”… but powerful markers of health?
In this richly embodied conversation, Rahi Chun sits down with Dr. Saida Desilets — pioneering teacher of sacred sexuality and creator of the Embodied Psychosexual Method — to explore sexual sovereignty, erotic innocence, and the body’s capacity to heal through pleasure, breath, and deep attunement.
Saida shares the astonishing origins of her life’s work: from a childhood rooted in natural sensual connection, to surviving violence, to being told at age twenty she had only two weeks to live — and the radical path of choosing life, reclaiming vitality, and rebuilding her relationship to desire from the inside out.
Together, we explore how shame disrupts the body’s natural aliveness, why relaxed arousal is the foundation of true intimacy, and how rewilding in nature can restore the pre-verbal sensual intelligence that makes us more connected lovers and humans.
This episode bridges:
embodiment • sexuality • nervous system wisdom • pleasure-based healing • and the wild intelligence of the body
Inside this conversation:
• Saida’s origin story and how her life force became her teacher
 • What “sexual sovereignty” actually means — beyond the buzzword
 • Why arousal and pleasure can be normalized as wellness indicators
 • The difference between performance sex and relaxed arousal
 • Erotic innocence: reclaiming turn-on without shame or meaning-making
 • How wilderness rewilding restores sensual attunement and presence
 • Why leaning into discomfort in intimacy can transform into deeper pleasure
 • Breath as the simplest daily practice for reclaiming aliveness
 • “Yum vs. yuck”: training attention as a pathway to more vitality
 • What it really means to “marinate in your own essence”
Learn more about Saida’s work:
Embodied Love University + Dare Your Desire + Desire and The Emergence of the Sensual Woman
More resources and writings on sexual embodiment:
rahichun.com
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What if your sexuality was never broken — only buried?
In this expansive conversation, somatic sexuality coach Victor Warring explores the process of “rewilding eros” — reconnecting with the innate erotic intelligence we’re all born with before shame, culture, and conditioning taught us to disconnect.
Drawing from his work in somatic psychology, grief work during the AIDS epidemic, and sexological bodywork, Victor shares why grief and pleasure are inseparable, how shame limits our erotic capacity, and why reclaiming your aliveness is a radical act of healing — and even activism.
We explore:
the connection between grief and eros
sexual shame and “upper limits” to pleasure
erotic sovereignty and owning your desire
how culture domesticates our bodies and sexuality
creating an erotically alive home and community
why healing is subtractive (removing conditioning, not fixing yourself)
erotic embodiment as activism
practical ways to expand your pleasure ceiling safely
This episode is an invitation to remember: your erotic nature isn’t something to learn — it’s something to uncover.
Learn more about Victor’s work at RewildEros.com
More resources and writings: rahichun.com
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What if your deepest wounds could become the doorway to your greatest healing?
In this powerful conversation, Rahi Chun sits with somatic sex educator, pelvic care provider, and birth worker Katie Spataro to explore how the body itself can initiate us into sacred work through grief, birth, trauma, and pleasure.
Katie shares her extraordinary personal journey — from miscarriage and spontaneous ritual… to an unexpectedly orgasmic birth… to nearly a decade of supporting survivors of childhood sexual trauma through somatic, pelvic, and erotic healing practices.
Together, they explore the profound connection between birth, sexuality, grief, and pleasure — and how tending the pelvis can unlock deep nervous system healing and reclaim embodied power.
Inside this episode:
• What an orgasmic birth really is (and why birth is inherently erotic)
 • Miscarriage, grief rituals, and womb healing
 • How trauma is stored in the pelvic floor and fascia
 • Somatic pelvic and prostate bodywork as activism and healing
 • Why pleasure is medicine for the nervous system
 • Prostate and anal care through a therapeutic, trauma-informed lens
 • Community healing for survivors of sexual trauma
 • The role of consent, touch, and attuned presence in deep repair
 • How grief and pleasure are portals into one another
This conversation is tender, grounded, and radically hopeful — an invitation to trust the body’s wisdom and remember that healing doesn’t happen by forcing… but by feeling.
Learn more about Katie’s work:
SacredWombServices.com
Explore Rahi’s somatic sexuality resources:
Rahichun.com
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Why do so many people long for deeper pleasure and intimacy — yet feel blocked, disconnected, or unable to receive?
In this grounded and illuminating conversation, somatic intimacy guide Darna Avila shares how trauma-informed somatics and consent practices create the foundation for true erotic liberation.
Together, we explore how nervous system safety, regulation, and clear boundaries open the door to authentic desire, deeper connection, and more expansive pleasure. Darna introduces her four phases of erotic liberation — regulation, receiving, allowing, and expressing — and explains why many of us, especially women and AFAB bodies, have been conditioned to people-please, overgive, and disconnect from our own needs.
We talk about:
the link between trauma and sexual shutdown
the fawn response and people-pleasing in intimacy
why receiving pleasure can feel unsafe
the Wheel of Consent and clear communication
rebuilding trust in the body
reclaiming desire and erotic sovereignty
pleasure as a source of power and activism
how personal healing supports collective liberation
This episode is an invitation to slow down, listen inward, and remember that your pleasure is not selfish — it’s life force.
More resources and writings: rahichun.com. darshanaavila.com
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