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• 436: STOP Expecting Marriage to Be Easy! Gabe & Rebekah Lyons on Intimacy Myths, Emotional Equivalence, and Affair-Proofing Your Relationship

  Many enter marriage believing it will be effortless—a seamless fusion of two souls destined for harmony. But what if this belief is the very thing setting couples up for disappointment? What if the key to a thriving marriage lies not in ease, but in intentional effort and understanding? This week on Win Today, Gabe and Rebekah Lyons join us to dismantle pervasive myths about marriage and intimacy. Drawing from their 28 years together, they offer candid insights into: The biggest lie about intimacy that's sabotaging relationships. Why viewing your spouse as a 'problem to solve' undermines connection. Understanding the anatomy of an affair and how to safeguard your marriage. The concept of marrying your emotional equivalent and its impact on relational dynamics.   In a culture that often glamorizes the idea of effortless romance, Gabe and Rebekah present a refreshing narrative—one that champions resilience, mutual growth, and the beauty of navigating challenges together. Whether you're single, engaged, or have been married for years, this conversation offers invaluable perspectives to cultivate a relationship that not only endures but flourishes. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

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• 435: MAKE YOUR MOVE! Kait & JJ Tomlin Drop the HEAT on Why Love Is Forged, Not Found, Red Flags vs. Deal-Breakers, Sliding into the DMs, and Why Women SHOULD Drop the Hanky

  In today's swipe-right culture, many believe love is something you stumble upon—a serendipitous event. But what if that mindset is sabotaging your relationships? What if true love is less about finding and more about forging? This week on Win Today, Kait and JJ Tomlin, renowned dating coaches and hosts of the Heart of Dating podcast, join us to dismantle dating myths and offer raw insights into building intentional relationships. They delve into: The myth of "the one" and why love is intentionally built, not passively found. Differentiating between red flags and deal-breakers—and why knowing the difference can save you heartache. The art of sliding into DMs with authenticity and respect in the digital age. Empowering women to "drop the hanky"—taking initiative without compromising femininity.   In an era where ghosting is rampant and commitment is fleeting, Kait and JJ provide a refreshing perspective rooted in authenticity, intentionality, and faith. Whether you're single, dating, or reevaluating your relationship approach, this conversation offers actionable insights to navigate modern romance with clarity and purpose. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

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• 434: The Emotional Maturity Epidemic: Stephen Chandler on Sex, Shame, and Spiritual Dysfunction in Relationships

  We’re in a relationship crisis. Everyone’s talking about chemistry and compatibility, but no one’s talking about maturity. And when emotional immaturity meets unaddressed shame, sexual frustration, and spiritual avoidance? It’s a recipe for dysfunction. This week, Stephen Chandler joins Win Today to kick off a hard-hitting four-week series on relationships. In this conversation, we’re getting real about the deeper issues driving relational pain—and why surface-level fixes don’t work. Stephen unpacks: Why emotional immaturity is sabotaging modern relationships How sexual frustration creates silent fractures in marriages The role shame plays in both intimacy and avoidance The subtle ways we use spiritual language to hide dysfunction This isn’t another “five tips for better communication” episode. It’s a wake-up call. Whether you’re dating, married, engaged, or trying to get back into the relationship game, this conversation will expose the patterns keeping you stuck—and invite you into a maturity that transforms everything. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.  

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• NEW SERIES: LOVE LIKE THIS

  Let’s be honest, when it comes to relationships, most of us are winging it. We chase chemistry, avoid conflict, and wonder why we keep repeating the same cycles. But what if the problem isn’t compatibility... it’s maturity?   This month on Win Today, we’re tearing the lid off what no one wants to talk about—with a four-week series called LOVE LIKE THIS. These aren’t fluffy conversations. They’re real, raw, and disruptive—in the best way.   WEEK ONE (04/02): Stephen Chandler kicks us off with a hard-hitting conversation about emotional immaturity, sexual frustration, and how shame is sabotaging intimacy from the inside out. WEEK TWO (04/09): Kait and JJ Tomlin are coming for your dating life—talking about red flags, deal-breakers, why love is forged, not found, and yes… why women should absolutely drop the hanky. WEEK THREE (04/16): Gabe and Rebekah Lyons show up with the truth every married couple needs to hear—why your spouse isn’t a formula to solve, how emotional pain sets the stage for infidelity, and why the marriage you want is built, not wished for. WEEK FOUR (04/23): Dave and Ann Wilson close out the series with a raw look at how your wounds are showing up in your marriage, the power of your words to either crush or restore, and how intimacy becomes manipulation when pain goes unhealed.   This is the series your relationship needs—even if it’s not the one you want. Whether you’re single, dating, married, or just trying to heal—LOVE LIKE THIS will call you up, not just call you out.   Subscribe now on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or YouTube, and don’t miss a single week.

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• 433: The Art of Lament: Aubrey Sampson on Our Weird Pressure to Perform for God, and Why We Have Yet to Be Formed by Mystery in Loss

  We live in a culture that demands constant performance, even in our spiritual lives. We're pressured to present a curated faith—one that hides our doubts, fears, and grief. But what if this relentless pursuit of a flawless facade is keeping us from experiencing the depth of God's presence? This week, Aubrey Sampson joins Win Today to explore the transformative power of lament—a practice often overlooked but deeply rooted in biblical tradition. She reveals: Why our obsession with performing for God leaves us spiritually empty The lost art of lament and how it draws us closer to the Lord The danger of avoiding grief and the mystery it holds for our formation Practical steps to embrace lament as a pathway to genuine faith For centuries, lament has been a sacred practice, allowing believers to express raw emotions and find solace in God's presence. Yet, today's fast-paced world encourages us to suppress these feelings, leading to a shallow faith experience. If you've ever felt the weight of unexpressed sorrow, struggled with the need to appear 'okay,' or wondered how to connect deeply with God amidst pain, this conversation is for you. Aubrey guides us back—not to a performative faith—but to an authentic journey where every emotion has a place before God. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

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