Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

When a couple can meet each other with non-judgmental empathy, it draws you closer to each other. Nobody is shamed, questioned or put down and it leads to a deeper intimacy.

This is the power of mutual vulnerability and it’s one of the bedrocks of a healthy marriage (and sex life).

But most people don’t do a very good job at it! (which makes sense- who taught us how???)

In today’s podcast episode, my husband and I explored this topic, sharing what we were taught about vulnerability, offering a role-play of what to do (and not to do), and practical tips on responding to vulnerability effectively.

If you thought new sex positions were the key to hot sex, think again! Mutual vulnerability leads to safety and you can’t get sexier than safety!

I hope you enjoy this feel-good episode 🙂

Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In my work, I highlight the terrible things that gender inequality does to a couple’s sexual relationship but it extends far beyond the bedroom impacting connection, financial health, individual happiness, physical health, and, ultimately, relationship satisfaction.

Which is why as soon as I finished the book, “Equal Partners: Improving Gender Equality at Home” by Kate Mangino, I knew I needed her to come on the podcast.

Thankfully, she agreed 🙂

In this episode of the podcast, we talk about:

The consequences of not working towards equality in the home as well as the benefits
Common excuses for not working towards equality
How men can grow into equal partners
Lessons from 40 men who are working towards equality in their marriages
Advice for women trying to move towards gender equality

You can find out more about Kate and her work here: https://www.katemangino.com/

Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

After decades of quiet frustration in their sex life, DeeDee and her husband made a bold decision: they would burn their “traditional” sex life to the ground and rebuild something that actually worked for them.

For most of her life, DeeDee struggled with low libido. It affected her relationships, her self-esteem, and especially her marriage. She tried everything—books, advice, and years of therapy—but nothing truly changed. She felt broken, unheard, and alone.

Now in her 50s, DeeDee shares what finally made the difference. She describes discovering Doing It Together as a miracle. For the first time, she felt truly seen and heard. After years of hiding her truth, she found the courage to say the hard things out loud—and received the support she needed.

With that support, she and her husband reimagined intimacy on their own terms. They let go of pain, pressure, and obligation. In their place, they built something new: a sex life rooted in honesty, comfort, and connection.

And for the first time, it feels right.

Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

This episode provides an update on what Janna and her husband are working on in their sex life. Both talk about how anxiety affects their sexual experience in different ways.

Janna shares her anxieties about:
trying to have an orgasm and it not progressing
getting in her head about what “should” happen next
being worried about his experience and if he's "getting bored”

Dwayne shares his anxieties about:
being a “perfect” partner and feeling inadequate
trying to communicate to connect
the progression of moving from something that feels good into “What to do next?”

This episode will remind you that you aren't alone in your sexual struggles and that all couples are a work in progress in the bedroom.

Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

My podcast guest is Dr. Kervins Clement and his story is one that I hear about all the time- where a dependency on porn use and masturbation is justified as helping the relationship when, in fact, it often does the opposite.

In this episode we explore:

How Kervins’ own recovery shaped the way he now works with men and couples.
What his research revealed about the role of culture and history in treating Black men with sex addiction.
Why guilt and remorse don’t reliably stop lying and secrecy in addiction.
What partners actually need after betrayal and where their focus often goes too soon.

This is a thoughtful, nuanced conversation that isn’t just about sex addiction- it’s about honesty, courage and what healing truly requires.

You can find Dr. Kervins Clement on:
YouTube @DrKervinsClement
Instagram @drkervinsclement

Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs June/July 2026.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Get immediate access to Janna's free video series for women, The Low Libido Myth.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.