Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Why are we still defining sex in a way that doesn’t feel good for many women?

In this eye-opening episode, my guest Anne and I challenge one of the most normalized (and harmful) beliefs about intimacy: that intercourse is the main event. Through Anne’s story, you’ll hear how cultural messaging, lack of real education, and silent expectations led to pain, confusion—and feeling broken.

But this conversation doesn’t stop there. Anne shares how she began to question everything, find her voice, and create a more honest, pleasurable, and connected relationship with her partner.

If you’ve ever wondered why sex doesn’t feel the way it “should,” this episode might change the way you see everything.

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn more? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs May 28 to July 26, 2026. Registration deadline is May 26.

I’ve been scratching my head for years trying to figure out how to help couples talk to each other about sex and share the helpful information on the podcast.

I knew that a simple, non-threatening video was necessary for both men and women to be able to send to their partners to explain the basic concepts.

I also knew that I needed to make the podcast accessible for newbies with an easy “start here” place to go (with 188 episodes, it just doesn’t work to begin with episode 1, although many try…).

And, lastly, I knew that both men and women needed guidance on how to start the conversation with their partners in a way that felt safe and doable.

And I’m SO FREAKIN’ HAPPY to announce that I have accomplished all of this and am ready to share it with you.

Today’s episode on the podcast is part of the men’s side of this "beginner's guide” but I’m sure everyone will enjoy it. I’ve edited 6 stories together- 3 from men and 3 from women, to highlight the commonalities of the sex struggle so many heterosexual couples face.

It’s an episode that I hope makes you see the bigger picture of what we are all facing from culture with individual differences sprinkled in.

If you want the full beginner’s guide, starting with the intro videos, here are the links:

Women’s Video

Men’s Video

(If you are looking for the conversation guides, sign-up for the videos and you’ll find them on the next page.)

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn more? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs May 28 to July 26, 2026. Registration deadline is May 26.

Jo shares her journey from confusion and pressure around sex to rediscovering connection, safety, and genuine pleasure with her husband.

She opens up about:
How cultural messaging shaped her relationship with sex
The hidden impact of “obligation” and silent pressure in long-term relationships
The turning point that helped her and her partner finally understand each other
Why emotional safety—not technique—is the foundation of real intimacy

If you’ve ever felt disconnected, confused, or pressured in your intimate life, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, hopeful, and inspired.

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn more? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs May 28 to July 26, 2026. Registration deadline is May 26.

Do you ever feel like you are the one with all the "baggage" in your relationship?

This is exactly how Liz felt for years. In every category she looked- religious, cultural upbringing, and past life choices, she felt inferior to her spouse. To make up for the gap, she tried to be the “perfect” wife by providing her husband sex and keeping her body up even through four pregnancies.

No surprise, it didn’t work out great.

Join us as we talk through:

The two major turning points in her marriage and how they helped transform her relationship.
Her reckoning with the cultural and religious teachings she was raised on.
What she’s experimenting with now to reclaim her joy and autonomy.

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn more? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs May 28 to July 26, 2026. Registration deadline is May 26.

When a couple can meet each other with non-judgmental empathy, it draws you closer to each other. Nobody is shamed, questioned or put down and it leads to a deeper intimacy.

This is the power of mutual vulnerability and it’s one of the bedrocks of a healthy marriage (and sex life).

But most people don’t do a very good job at it! (which makes sense- who taught us how???)

In today’s podcast episode, my husband and I explored this topic, sharing what we were taught about vulnerability, offering a role-play of what to do (and not to do), and practical tips on responding to vulnerability effectively.

If you thought new sex positions were the key to hot sex, think again! Mutual vulnerability leads to safety and you can’t get sexier than safety!

I hope you enjoy this feel-good episode 🙂

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn more? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Get all the details about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs May 28 to July 26, 2026. Registration deadline is May 26.