Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

We're re-releasing one of our most listened to episodes! If you’ve been curious about what the concepts of Doing It Together can do for your sex life and marriage in the long term, you'll want to listen to Justin and Sandra's story.

Married for 19 years, they took Doing It Together two years ago and they graciously share VERY specific details about what their relationship and sex life look like now. They open up about how they’ve learned to talk, play, remain curious, and change things up through life’s ups and downs.

They also share how their marriage has changed outside the bedroom and the routines they’ve incorporated to keep their connection at the forefront of their marriage.

You can listen to Justin and Sandra's personal stories by listening to these previous episodes:

Justin's Story in Episode 82
Sandra's Story in Episode 74

The Michelle Mays episode on Betrayal Trauma can be found here: Episode 108

Registration is open for the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026. Registration deadline is Jan. 27.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.

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There is no shortcut to heal from a toxic world that has tricked us into thinking sex is just a series of acts designed to physically stimulate us. The only way through is to slow down, unlearn and heal- not just for your marriage but for your well-being.

It’s understanding safety, not just physically, but emotionally.
It’s questioning the model of sex you were handed, instead of trying to perform it better.
It’s rebuilding trust with your own body.

And, when you’re doing this together, it’s learning how to create a sexual environment that doesn’t require forcing, convincing, or enduring.
This is exactly what I talk about in the podcast episode today- why trying harder is often the very thing that makes sex feel worse, not better.

Registration is open for the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026. Registration deadline is Jan. 27.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Justin joins me for a foundational episode in which we zoom out and discuss the role that men play when their wives have “low libido”.

He starts off by sharing how he felt when his wife stopped wanting to have sex with him- the feelings of confusion and worrying if he had done something wrong.

Then we take a journey through the unique ways men can contribute to a great sex life, how to create a comfortable, pressure-free environment and the work they can do outside of the bedroom.

I’m so grateful to work alongside Justin in supporting men and if you’d like to hear more of his story, you can listen to Episode 82 as well as Episode 148 with his wife, Sandra.

Registration is open for the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026. Registration deadline is Jan. 27.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Many women I talk to struggle enjoying physical touch during sex. They don’t know their experience can be any other way so they continue trying to enjoy things they don’t like and then label themselves as “non-sexual”.

In our conversation, my husband and I discuss:
• why so many women push themselves to initiate or say yes even when their body is clearly uncomfortable
• why discomfort is so often normalized through culture, media, and silence
• the real fears women carry about speaking up and the consequences they’re trying to avoid
• why this can feel shocking or confusing for men when the truth finally comes out

If having a closer, more connected and joyful sex life is something you want in your relationship, this episode is an important one to listen to.

Registration is open for the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026. Registration deadline is Jan. 27.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most important elements of moving towards freedom in your relationship and that is…a reset from sex.

It’s something that you may have heard many times on the podcast in interviews with alumni of Doing It Together but it’s the first time I’ve addressed it directly.

If you are tired of the mental energy sex is taking up in your life right now, I highly encourage you to listen to this conversation.

Registration is open for the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026. Registration deadline is Jan. 27.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.

Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.