"Almost all of the interventions that make us happier work because they make us feel more connected and more loved,’ says Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D.
Lyubomirsky is a Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside, a Fellow of the American Association for the Advancement of Science, and the bestselling author of The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness—and her latest, How to Feel Loved (Harper Collins, 2026), paired with a mainstage TED talk. A Harvard and Stanford-trained scientist whose research has been featured in the New York Times, on podcasts, and in documentaries worldwide, she is one of the world's leading experts on the science of happiness
00:00 - What connects every happiness practice
03:24 - Why you should talk to strangers
04:41 - Kindness changes your DNA
08:32 - Money, power, & fame are overrated
10:36 - The case for reaching out to old friends
13:49 - Why 70% don't feel loved enough
17:03 - The walls we walk around with
18:52 - The radical curiosity mindset
23:55 - How to really listen
28:19 - AI as a companion
31:05 - The relationship SEAsaw
39:00 - When introverts act extroverted
43:40 - The conversation to have tomorrow
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For more about Lyubomirsky & her research, visit her website: https://sonjalyubomirsky.com/
Buy her new book: https://a.co/d/04sCyQSj
Listen to her mainstage TED talk: https://youtu.be/pdRWeK9f02w?si=1vV8cwwsSHeCMZ3y
For more about Nicholas Epley’s research & upcoming book, visit his website: https://www.nicholasepley.com/ We hope you enjoy this episode, and feel free to watch the full video on YouTube! Whether it's an article or podcast, we want to know what we can do to help here at mindbodygreen. Let us know at:
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