Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

One line from Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart hit me like lightning during my own post-divorce unraveling—exposing the exact shame trigger I’d carried for years, the hidden identity fueling quiet resentment, self-criticism, and that exhausting push-pull of “too much” versus “not enough.”
In this powerful episode, I take you straight into the moment it landed (page 30, in the section on resentment), share the raw, tender answers that flooded in when I texted the question to my inner circle (“weak,” “bitch,” “lazy,” “fake,” “unmotivated”…), and walk through my own vulnerable evolution—from “too much or not enough” to fully owning “too much” as the big, intense, storm-cloud-and-sunshine truth of who I am.
Through a trauma-informed, spiritually grounded lens, we explore:
How this single sentence stem reveals our deepest unwanted identity—the shame elicitor Brené says is the most powerful trigger.
Why resentment after divorce often stems from failing to claim what we need, and how naming the fear (“It’s really important for me not to be perceived as…”) cracks open the door to radical self-acceptance.
Somatic practices to locate the trigger in your body (that chest tightness, belly clench, or heat rising) and meet it with fierce compassion instead of more judgment.
The spiritual invitation: transmuting the exiled parts (your intensity, your darkness, your bigness) into medicine—because divorce isn’t just loss; it’s the sacred threshold to reclaiming your full aliveness.
This isn’t passive listening—it’s an embodied exercise we do together. I guide you to answer the question in real time, feel what surfaces, and begin pouring love exactly where you’ve withheld it. The more we love the vulnerability we’ve feared, the clearer we become about who belongs in our next chapter… and who we lovingly release.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence

Divorce isn’t just an ending—it’s a sacred disruption, a call to reclaim what’s been missing: true polarity, grounded masculine leadership, and the feminine surrender that lets you finally soften without losing yourself.
When I read GS Youngblood’s The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman, my nervous system exhaled. I felt seen in ways I hadn’t before. That instant somatic shift is why I brought GS on—to share the medicine that helped him rise from his own painful divorce and now helps men (and the women who love them) rewrite the story.
In this raw, heart-centered conversation, we explore:
The divorce origin that ignited GS’s mission: protecting kids from fractured homes and ending the cycle of missing masculine leadership
Why strong women often end up in toxic masculine patterns (anger, control, desperation) when polarity collapses—and how naming it creates instant safety in the body
Masculine-feminine polarity decoded: clear lead/follow that reignites sacred juice in intimacy (beyond rigid gender roles)
The Masculine Blueprint in action: life leadership (decisions, structure), sexual leadership (primal desire without entitlement), emotional leadership (holding space somatically)
Why men resist (deep shame around "not enough")—and gentle, non-pressuring ways women can invite change: clean pain expression, no amplification from old wounds, refusing to fill the vacuum
Somatic rewiring as the foundation: daily embodiment practices to quiet reactivity and cultivate spaciousness (years-long, but life-changing)
Post-divorce dating discernment: spotting grounded masculine energy, owning your wild feminine sexuality without rushing, building devotion through slow courtship
Mutual accountability: women reclaiming clean vulnerability and heart-led expression; men stepping into power that evokes trust, lust, and devotion
This is integrative medicine for the midlife soul—somatic, spiritual, relational. If divorce cracked you open and you’re ready to heal the patterns that led there (and attract what your feminine essence truly craves), this episode is your invitation.
Resources:
The Masculine in Relationship → gsyoungblood.com/books (or Amazon link)
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence

This is us. Moms who’ve lived it — sitting together having a real, unfiltered conversation about the one thing that keeps so many of us stuck: the feeling that it’s all so damn unfair.
We talked about the hard parts of co-parenting after divorce — the uneven load, the chronic illness with no support, the special-needs kids mostly on one parent’s shoulders, the guilt, the waiting for him to step up or see what he lost, the resentment that still flares even when we think we’ve done the work.
We named it all.
Then we went deeper.
We explored how that loud “it’s so unfair” story is often rooted in something quieter: an old belief that we’re not quite worthy, not quite enough, not safe unless someone else makes it right. We talked about the moment we realized we chose these men (the signs were there), how guilt can quietly turn us into over-functioning parents, and why acceptance doesn’t have to feel like giving up.
We also got honest about what finally started to move the needle for us: looking at the resentment in the body (especially the liver), using gentle homeopathic support to help clear what talk therapy alone sometimes can’t touch, and doing the slow work of reclaiming our own worth instead of waiting for fairness from the outside.
There were a few mic-drop moments. There was laughter. There were tears. And there was a lot of “oh… that’s why it’s been so hard to let go.”
If you’re tired of carrying the unfairness like a quiet weight in your chest every time you co-parent, this conversation might be the one that helps you see it differently — and finally feel some space around it.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence

You keep it together.
Calm texts. Steady schedules. Polite handoffs.
But every time his car pulls up, your body betrays you: heart races, chest tightens, breath goes shallow.
That’s not just “leftover divorce stuff.” That’s anxiety living in your nervous system—and it’s been quietly growing every time you swallow the unfairness to stay the “bigger person.”
He’s got the new life.
You’re carrying the kids’ big feelings, the invisible load, the resentment no one thanks you for.
And the more you perform “fine” for everyone else, the more your own healing slips through your fingers.
Why does being the bigger person feel like slow self-betrayal?
Why does the anxiety keep coming back even when you’ve done “all the work”?
And what if the real shift isn’t more boundaries or better scripts… but something deeper that finally lets your body and spirit exhale?
In this episode, we go straight into:
The hidden way “bigger person” energy keeps your nervous system braced
How resentment and unfairness get stored somatically—and why that blocks real repair
The quiet spiritual wound his moving-on keeps poking
And the integrative path out that most people never talk about
You’ll get the truth that lands in your chest… and the curiosity to find out what “instead” actually feels like in your body.
If every handoff still leaves you raw, this is the episode that stops the performance and starts the real release.
Send me a DM and tell us: What’s the moment being the “bigger person” hurt the most? We read every one.
You don’t have to keep carrying it alone, love.
Press play. Your body’s been waiting.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence

This Thursday, you’re invited into something sacred and real.
One of our most cherished community members — the one who shows up honest, even when life feels like a rocket ship up her ass — sat down with Coach Tiffini for a live, unfiltered IFS coaching session.
She came in carrying the familiar post-divorce exhaustion: extra work responsibilities dumped without warning, barely time to eat, resentment simmering… yet underneath it all, a new kind of calm she hadn’t felt in years.
What rose to the surface was a younger part of her — the 22-year-old still living in the apartment from her early marriage — who learned, over and over, that being fully herself meant blame, betrayal, and rejection.
A husband who punished her opinions.
A workplace that gave her impossible tasks, then asked “why did you do that?”
Years of choosing partners who offered scraps instead of the whole table.
So she adapted the only way a tender heart knows how: she started accepting less than she deserves. She shrank. She stayed quiet. She took the crumbs so she wouldn’t risk being told — again — that she’s “too much.”
In this session, we gently meet that part in her body (right in the heart space). We witness the loneliness she’s carried alone for decades. And we give her the words she’s been waiting to hear:
“You are not too much. Your voice, your boldness, your wild, beautiful energy — these are sacred gifts. The people who belong with you now will celebrate every inch of who you truly are.”
You’ll hear the somatic softening that happens when a protected part finally feels safe.
You’ll feel the spiritual re-parenting that begins when Self steps forward with love instead of management.
This episode is for every woman who’s walked through (or is still walking through) divorce and still notices herself:
Saying yes to extra loads at work when her body is screaming no
Staying in connections that offer half-hearted effort
Quietly putting her own needs last… again
It’s the medicine of seeing how old rejection wounds don’t vanish when the marriage ends — they live on in patterns until we meet them with compassion.
Gentle invitations to carry into your week
Where in your life are you still quietly accepting less than your full worth — in love, work, friendships, or your own body?
What would it feel like to let the version of you who’s done settling speak one small, honest truth this week?
Whisper (or write) to that younger part inside: “I see how hard you tried to keep us safe. I’m here now. I’ll stand up for what we deserve.”
This is the deep, integrative work we do together — somatic witnessing, spiritual truth-telling, layered healing that touches mind, body, and soul.
Premium only, because some conversations are too tender, too powerful, for the open feed.
And here’s the part that makes this space different: Premium members aren’t just listeners — you’re invited to be coached, andheld in the same loving container. 
Come home to yourself.
We’re waiting with open arms. ❤️
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Stress-Less Flower Essence