Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

Dating after divorce is a whole different world.
Dating apps. Men holding fish. Men who apparently have never taken a decent selfie. Threesomes. Ethical non-monogamy. And the occasional man who looks way better in person than his profile would have you believe.
But underneath all of the chaos is a much more important question:
How do you know who you're actually dealing with before you get attached?
With Dawn away, Coach Tiffini and Joy are joined again by Christianna, Kelly, and Jo from our current A Different D Word cohort for a very unfiltered conversation about what it actually looks like to start dating after divorce.
And this one goes places.
We're talking about the questions women often don't ask soon enough:
What was your part in your divorce?
What does “I want a long-term relationship” actually mean to you?
How do I know you've done the work?
Are you actually ready for a relationship—or do you just think you are?
How do you talk about your ex?
What are you looking for five years from now?
Are we monogamous?
And how early is too early to start asking the really uncomfortable questions?
Plus, Jo shares what it's like to date again after nearly 50 years—and why she's asking about everything from STD testing and meeting the family to sexual boundaries, physical health and, yes… whether the pipes still work.
But the biggest conversation isn't really about finding the right man.
It's about who you are while you're looking for him.
Can you state what you want without shrinking it when someone attractive shows up? Can you hold a boundary and watch what he does instead of getting swept up in what he says? Can you walk away when something doesn't fit instead of convincing yourself you can live with it?
Because chemistry can make a lot of things feel negotiable that weren't negotiable five minutes before you met him.
Before you swipe right—or get attached to the next person who does—this is the conversation we want you to hear.
Ask the hard questions. Have a plan. Stick to it. And don't do it alone.
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What does it actually take to become yourself again after divorce?
Today, Dawn is away—which means Joy and Coach Tiffini have been left unsupervised. And they invited three women from the current A Different D Word cohort to take over the mic with them.
Christianna, Kelly, and Jo came into this year in very different places.
One was in free fall after the end of a 30-year marriage. One was already in therapy but felt like she spent every session catching her therapist up instead of actually moving forward. One says she felt like she was physically dying—her hair was falling out, she couldn't sleep, and she'd lost 60 pounds.
Nearly a year later, they sat down together to talk about what happened in between.
The fear of joining. The money. The resistance to needing other women. The hard work they didn't see coming. The boundaries they learned to set. The relationships that changed. The retreat moments they'll never forget. And the strange, beautiful experience of realizing that somewhere along the way, they had actually started to feel like themselves again.
This isn't a polished before-and-after story.
It's three women telling the truth about what a year of intentional healing really asked of them—and what became possible when they said yes.
And if you're somewhere near the beginning of your own divorce, wondering who you'll be a year from now, you need to hear what they have to say.
Because as one of these women puts it: the next 12 months are going to pass either way.
The question is who you might meet on the other side.
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Divorce has a way of exposing everything you were never taught.
Not because you're broken.
Not because you're "too emotional."
And certainly not because you're failing at healing.
The truth is, most of us were never taught how emotions actually work.
We were taught to push them down.
To "be strong."
To stop crying.
To get over it.
To keep the peace.
To believe that having big feelings somehow meant we were too much.
In this episode, Dawn, Joy, and Coach Tiffini unpack 10 powerful emotional lessons that most women never learned—but desperately needed long before divorce forced them to figure it out on their own.
From why suppressing emotions never works, to the difference between feelings and actions, to how childhood, relationships, and even faith can shape the way we experience emotion, this conversation will help you understand yourself in a whole new way.
If you've ever wondered:
 Why your emotions feel so overwhelming... 
 Why you bottle everything up until you explode... 
 Why you question your own feelings... 
 Or why healing has felt so much harder than you expected... 
...this episode may finally give you the emotional education you never received.
Because your emotions aren't the problem.
Understanding them changes everything. 
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Have you ever caught yourself thinking...
"I'm so tired of healing."
You went to therapy. You read the books. You journaled. You listened to the podcasts. You learned about attachment styles, your nervous system, boundaries, and trauma.
So why does it still feel like your ex is taking up space in your mind?
In this episode, Dawn, Coach Tiffini, and Joy unpack the quiet resentment so many divorced women carry: the feeling that you're doing all the work while your ex seems to have moved on without looking back.
Together, they explore why healing can start to feel like another full-time job, how self-improvement quietly turns into burnout, and why trying harder isn't always the answer.
In this episode, you'll learn:
 Why healing after divorce can feel like it never ends. 
 The difference between actually healing and endlessly processing the same pain. 
 How to tell if you're spiraling upward—or simply spinning your wheels. 
 Why comparison and perfectionism keep so many women stuck. 
 The surprising reason some of the smartest, most self-aware women struggle to move forward. 
 Why self-compassion—not self-improvement—is what finally creates lasting change. 
 How to know you're making progress, even when healing still hurts. 
If you've ever wondered whether you'll ever be done healing after divorce—or whether your ex gets to haunt your nervous system forever—this conversation is for you.
💛 Ready to stop healing alone?
Enrollment for A Different D Word, our signature 12-month divorce recovery program, is now open. If you're ready to stop collecting healing tools and start creating lasting transformation, we'd love to walk alongside you.
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Have you ever asked yourself what you really need... and drawn a complete blank?
After divorce, many women become experts at anticipating everyone else's needs while slowly losing touch with their own. The voice that plans, solves problems, overthinks, and keeps everything together gets so loud that the quieter parts of us barely get a chance to speak.
In today's VIP episode, I'm guiding you through a powerful non-dominant hand journaling exercise that helps you access those quieter parts of yourself.
Don't worry—you don't need to be artistic or have good handwriting. You just need:
A journal
A pen
A crayon, colored pencil, or marker for your non-dominant hand
Together, we'll explore prompts like:
What has been keeping me up at night?
What do I really feel about that?
What haven't I said yet?
What do you need me to understand?
What have you been missing?
If I didn't have to hold everything together... what would I want?
This isn't about finding the "right" answers.
It's about slowing down long enough to hear the parts of yourself that may have been overlooked, silenced, or carrying more than you realized.
If today's practice brings up big emotions, I encourage you to follow it with our recent VIP Yoga Nidra episode. It's a beautiful way to help your nervous system settle and integrate whatever surfaced.
The wisdom you've been searching for may not be somewhere outside of you.
It may simply be waiting for you to listen.
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You can't think your way into healing 🥵 You have to practice your way there 👭If you're ready for the next step, learn more about  A Different D Word and apply here ✨