Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

This Thursday, you’re invited into something sacred and real.
One of our most cherished community members — the one who shows up honest, even when life feels like a rocket ship up her ass — sat down with Coach Tiffini for a live, unfiltered IFS coaching session.
She came in carrying the familiar post-divorce exhaustion: extra work responsibilities dumped without warning, barely time to eat, resentment simmering… yet underneath it all, a new kind of calm she hadn’t felt in years.
What rose to the surface was a younger part of her — the 22-year-old still living in the apartment from her early marriage — who learned, over and over, that being fully herself meant blame, betrayal, and rejection.
A husband who punished her opinions.
A workplace that gave her impossible tasks, then asked “why did you do that?”
Years of choosing partners who offered scraps instead of the whole table.
So she adapted the only way a tender heart knows how: she started accepting less than she deserves. She shrank. She stayed quiet. She took the crumbs so she wouldn’t risk being told — again — that she’s “too much.”
In this session, we gently meet that part in her body (right in the heart space). We witness the loneliness she’s carried alone for decades. And we give her the words she’s been waiting to hear:
“You are not too much. Your voice, your boldness, your wild, beautiful energy — these are sacred gifts. The people who belong with you now will celebrate every inch of who you truly are.”
You’ll hear the somatic softening that happens when a protected part finally feels safe.
You’ll feel the spiritual re-parenting that begins when Self steps forward with love instead of management.
This episode is for every woman who’s walked through (or is still walking through) divorce and still notices herself:
Saying yes to extra loads at work when her body is screaming no
Staying in connections that offer half-hearted effort
Quietly putting her own needs last… again
It’s the medicine of seeing how old rejection wounds don’t vanish when the marriage ends — they live on in patterns until we meet them with compassion.
Gentle invitations to carry into your week
Where in your life are you still quietly accepting less than your full worth — in love, work, friendships, or your own body?
What would it feel like to let the version of you who’s done settling speak one small, honest truth this week?
Whisper (or write) to that younger part inside: “I see how hard you tried to keep us safe. I’m here now. I’ll stand up for what we deserve.”
This is the deep, integrative work we do together — somatic witnessing, spiritual truth-telling, layered healing that touches mind, body, and soul.
Premium only, because some conversations are too tender, too powerful, for the open feed.
And here’s the part that makes this space different: Premium members aren’t just listeners — you’re invited to be coached, andheld in the same loving container. 
Come home to yourself.
We’re waiting with open arms. ❤️
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Stress-Less Flower Essence

Hi, love—welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, where midlife women move beyond talk therapy to process grief held in the body, release what's braced inside, and reclaim the confidence divorce tried to steal. I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, integrative healer, and the woman who once lay awake thinking, “I should feel better than this… but my body never got the memo.”
Toothpicks holding your eyelids open. Moving through molasses. Wired-tired even after more sleep, fewer spirals, all the supplements and rest hacks. The big scary thing is over, yet exhaustion lingers—rest lands on the surface but never reaches the cells. Why?
Because negative beliefs quietly program your nervous system to stay on high alert, and your body stays braced, unable to downshift and truly receive at a cellular level.
In today’s episode, we name the two hidden drivers of post-divorce exhaustion that won’t quit:
The beliefs silently fueling chronic fatigue (even when life “should” feel lighter)
The body patterns reinforcing the brace—and why gentle somatic-spiritual shifts are essential to let rest land
Real stories of pausing to process dysregulation in real time (no performative bullshit, just remedies, tears, and grace)
How receiving support—without apology—builds the capacity you’ve been craving
This isn’t about pushing harder. It’s about softening protector parts, reprogramming at the belief and neural level, and inviting layered homeopathic harmony to amplify your body’s natural recharge.
If this stirred something deep in your chest, join premium for $5/month: exclusive tools, our February 23rd live workshop on receiving as the key to healing, and the full ritual that makes shifts cellular.
Resources & Links:
Free Nervous System Divorce Recovery Quiz → [quiz link] – Discover your pattern in under 2 minutes.
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Dawn Wiggins Therapy → [therapy site] – High-ticket EMDR-homeopathy hybrid sessions.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence

Thursday episodes are for when your body won’t do what your mind understands.
If you’re exhausted after divorce but still feel like you can’t drop the ball…
 If rest makes you anxious instead of relieved…
 If part of you believes that if you stop managing everything, it will all fall apart…
This episode gives you something to do in that moment.
Not a mindset shift.
 Not a pep talk.
 Not “just rest more.”
In this premium episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn guides you through a body-based reset designed to interrupt the overfunctioning loop that so many women get stuck in during and after divorce.
Because divorce exhaustion isn’t a motivation problem —
 It’s a nervous system survival pattern built on the belief:
“If I don’t carry everything, nothing will hold.”In this episode, you’ll:
Locate where the “I have to handle this” response lives in your body
Identify the belief that keeps you overcontrolling even when you’re depleted
Work with the part of you that learned effort = safety
Practice a guided tapping sequence to test a new experience of support
Begin loosening the reflex to chase, force, or overextend yourself
This is especially for you if:
You’re doing everything “right” but still feel braced
You don’t trust help yet — or feel safer relying only on yourself
You’re tired but can’t relax
You feel hyper-vigilant, responsible, or on edge when you try to slow down
Coaching, therapy, or insight hasn’t translated into relief in your body
You don’t have to believe anything new for this to work.
You just need to notice what your body does when effort stops being the only way you feel safe.
🎧 Come back to this episode whenever divorce exhaustion shows up as overcontrol, urgency, or the fear that you can’t afford to stop.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence

After divorce, women are often told to “step into their masculine energy” — be strong, decisive, productive, self-sufficient.
But what if you’re not choosing strength at all?
What if your body simply doesn’t expect help to arrive? And, do you know what to do about this?
In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we talk about why so many women feel stuck in over-functioning after divorce — and why what looks like competence is often a nervous system stuck in survival mode.
You’ll learn:
Why safety must come before softness
How over-functioning becomes a substitute for trust
Why feminine energy doesn’t show up just because you tell yourself to relax
How childhood beliefs quietly shape the partners we attract
Why receiving help can trigger guilt, shame, or emotional shutdown
The difference between true support and trying to be “held” before you feel safe
We also share insights from hundreds of women who’ve taken our Divorce Recovery Nervous System Quiz, revealing how most women actually feel when someone tries to help them — and why that reaction keeps them stuck in burnout.
And stay until the end for My Body Said No, where we each share a real moment when honoring a physical “no” — instead of pushing through — changed everything.
If you’re exhausted, capable, and secretly wondering why rest feels impossible…
 this episode will name what your body has been trying to tell you.
💛 Want help applying this work in real time?
Inside The Room Where It Happens (our premium Thursday episodes), we guide you through the nervous system and belief-level shifts that make softness possible again.
🎧 Links to the community, quiz, and premium episodes are in the show notes.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence

Behind the Mic is where we slow the conversation down.
In this premium episode, we speak candidly about dissociation during and after divorce—not in clinical terms, and not from a distance, but from inside our own lived experience.
This is a quieter, more intimate conversation about the ways women cope when life becomes overwhelming… and how easy it is to miss what’s really happening while you’re busy surviving.
We talk about:
The moment you realize something has been operating under the surface
Why certain habits, patterns, and “coping strategies” feel hard to change
The difference between functioning and actually being present
How the body protects us long before the mind understands what’s happening
This episode isn’t about fixing anything or tying it up neatly.
It’s about noticing.
Getting curious.
And letting yourself hear something you may not have had words for yet.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things after divorce but still feel oddly disconnected…
If you’ve ever wondered why certain patterns keep repeating…
If you sense there’s more happening beneath the surface than you’ve been able to name…
This conversation is for you.
As always, Behind the Mic is raw, personal, and meant to be experienced—not skimmed.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence