Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

Hi love.
Have you ever felt like no one listens…until you lose it?
You ask calmly.
You explain clearly.
You regulate yourself.
And nothing changes.
But the moment you explode? Suddenly, everyone’s paying attention.
In this premium Behind the Mic episode, Tiffini, Joy, and I unpack the dynamic that hit a nerve in the office this morning:
Why do some systems only respond to anger?
We talk about:
– The pattern of suppressing anger to be the “good girl”
 – The breaking point where suppression turns into explosion
 – Why some partners (and kids) only respond when you’re dysregulated
 – Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the war between your Manager and Firefighter parts
 – The Anacardium pattern: “Everybody breaks.”
 – How codependency is rooted in the refusal to feel
 – Why leaning in feels scarier than leaning out
 – The guilt that comes when you stop over-functioning
 – Parenting from regulation instead of control
 – And how to break generational suppression before it reaches your daughter’s Saturn return
We also explore a powerful truth:
Codependency isn’t just “doing too much.”
It’s:
 “I don’t want to feel.
 And I don’t want you to feel.”
And when feelings are suppressed long enough, rage becomes the only available language.
This episode is raw.
We talk about screaming fights.
Throwing clothes in the yard.
Village parenting.
Undoing 20 years of over-functioning.
And what it looks like to assume goodwill instead of defending.
If you’ve ever thought: “They only hear me when I’m angry,”
This conversation will help you understand why.
And more importantly, how to stop needing to break to be seen.
Welcome to Panel Rant Thursday.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence

You’re either eating everything in sight to numb the ache…
or staring at food like your body forgot how to be hungry.
Welcome to what so many women quietly call the divorce diet.
After divorce, your nervous system is on high alert. Grief, resentment, fear, and mental load don’t just affect your thoughts — they change your biology.
In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we unpack:
• Why cortisol and adrenaline shut digestion down — or drive intense sugar and carb cravings
 • How heartbreak, betrayal, and chronic stress deplete specific organs in the body
 • The Traditional Chinese Medicine organ–emotion connection (liver resentment, spleen worry, kidney fear, heart heartbreak, lung grief)
 • Why therapy alone sometimes doesn’t “stick”
 • And the nourishment layer most women are missing
This isn’t about willpower.
It’s not about discipline.
And it’s definitely not about another diet.
It’s about survival physiology.
Your body has been keeping the score — and it may be asking for deeper nourishment, not more control.
We also share a whole-food approach to rebuilding from the inside out using grass-fed beef organs, collagen, and colostrum — ancestral nutrients that support the exact systems divorce stress depletes. 
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When the organs are nourished, resentment softens.
Worry quiets.
Energy returns.
And appetite stabilizes naturally — because your body finally feels safe again.
Divorce recovery is holistic — mind, body, spirit.
When we nourish the body, the spirit exhales.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence

One line from Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart hit me like lightning during my own post-divorce unraveling—exposing the exact shame trigger I’d carried for years, the hidden identity fueling quiet resentment, self-criticism, and that exhausting push-pull of “too much” versus “not enough.”
In this powerful episode, I take you straight into the moment it landed (page 30, in the section on resentment), share the raw, tender answers that flooded in when I texted the question to my inner circle (“weak,” “bitch,” “lazy,” “fake,” “unmotivated”…), and walk through my own vulnerable evolution—from “too much or not enough” to fully owning “too much” as the big, intense, storm-cloud-and-sunshine truth of who I am.
Through a trauma-informed, spiritually grounded lens, we explore:
How this single sentence stem reveals our deepest unwanted identity—the shame elicitor Brené says is the most powerful trigger.
Why resentment after divorce often stems from failing to claim what we need, and how naming the fear (“It’s really important for me not to be perceived as…”) cracks open the door to radical self-acceptance.
Somatic practices to locate the trigger in your body (that chest tightness, belly clench, or heat rising) and meet it with fierce compassion instead of more judgment.
The spiritual invitation: transmuting the exiled parts (your intensity, your darkness, your bigness) into medicine—because divorce isn’t just loss; it’s the sacred threshold to reclaiming your full aliveness.
This isn’t passive listening—it’s an embodied exercise we do together. I guide you to answer the question in real time, feel what surfaces, and begin pouring love exactly where you’ve withheld it. The more we love the vulnerability we’ve feared, the clearer we become about who belongs in our next chapter… and who we lovingly release.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence

Divorce isn’t just an ending—it’s a sacred disruption, a call to reclaim what’s been missing: true polarity, grounded masculine leadership, and the feminine surrender that lets you finally soften without losing yourself.
When I read GS Youngblood’s The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman, my nervous system exhaled. I felt seen in ways I hadn’t before. That instant somatic shift is why I brought GS on—to share the medicine that helped him rise from his own painful divorce and now helps men (and the women who love them) rewrite the story.
In this raw, heart-centered conversation, we explore:
The divorce origin that ignited GS’s mission: protecting kids from fractured homes and ending the cycle of missing masculine leadership
Why strong women often end up in toxic masculine patterns (anger, control, desperation) when polarity collapses—and how naming it creates instant safety in the body
Masculine-feminine polarity decoded: clear lead/follow that reignites sacred juice in intimacy (beyond rigid gender roles)
The Masculine Blueprint in action: life leadership (decisions, structure), sexual leadership (primal desire without entitlement), emotional leadership (holding space somatically)
Why men resist (deep shame around "not enough")—and gentle, non-pressuring ways women can invite change: clean pain expression, no amplification from old wounds, refusing to fill the vacuum
Somatic rewiring as the foundation: daily embodiment practices to quiet reactivity and cultivate spaciousness (years-long, but life-changing)
Post-divorce dating discernment: spotting grounded masculine energy, owning your wild feminine sexuality without rushing, building devotion through slow courtship
Mutual accountability: women reclaiming clean vulnerability and heart-led expression; men stepping into power that evokes trust, lust, and devotion
This is integrative medicine for the midlife soul—somatic, spiritual, relational. If divorce cracked you open and you’re ready to heal the patterns that led there (and attract what your feminine essence truly craves), this episode is your invitation.
Resources:
The Masculine in Relationship → gsyoungblood.com/books (or Amazon link)
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence

This is us. Moms who’ve lived it — sitting together having a real, unfiltered conversation about the one thing that keeps so many of us stuck: the feeling that it’s all so damn unfair.
We talked about the hard parts of co-parenting after divorce — the uneven load, the chronic illness with no support, the special-needs kids mostly on one parent’s shoulders, the guilt, the waiting for him to step up or see what he lost, the resentment that still flares even when we think we’ve done the work.
We named it all.
Then we went deeper.
We explored how that loud “it’s so unfair” story is often rooted in something quieter: an old belief that we’re not quite worthy, not quite enough, not safe unless someone else makes it right. We talked about the moment we realized we chose these men (the signs were there), how guilt can quietly turn us into over-functioning parents, and why acceptance doesn’t have to feel like giving up.
We also got honest about what finally started to move the needle for us: looking at the resentment in the body (especially the liver), using gentle homeopathic support to help clear what talk therapy alone sometimes can’t touch, and doing the slow work of reclaiming our own worth instead of waiting for fairness from the outside.
There were a few mic-drop moments. There was laughter. There were tears. And there was a lot of “oh… that’s why it’s been so hard to let go.”
If you’re tired of carrying the unfairness like a quiet weight in your chest every time you co-parent, this conversation might be the one that helps you see it differently — and finally feel some space around it.
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Welcome to Panel Rant Thursday.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
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Stress-Less Flower Essence