In this episode, Emily and Han discuss making decisions in recovery. The key takeaway points are:It is ok to want everything. This is so often the root cause of paralysis.Do not attempt to please both (ED and recovery). This is impossible.Utilise the concept of ‘and’ not ‘or’Remember: there is no upper ceiling Utilise quick, convenient and ED unapproved Go-To’s.Challenge ED driven perfectionism Abundance mitigates paralysis. Stop tickling hunger!
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How Important Is Food Quantity in Recovery?
In this episode Han and Emily discuss food quantity in recovery. The key takeaways from this episode are:The RAVES model showcases how formative adequacy is for all other aspects of your healingAdequacy and abundance of food is at the foundation of neural rewiringYour body feeling safe from famine largely depends on food abundanceVolume eating of non-recovery aligned foods is not the same as food abundance. A truly good relationship with food is being able to eat food without conditions or caveats, not just tick a box of 'I can eat X'Permission and necessity of food adequacy does not reduce with physical progress Take action upon your awareness
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How Do I Prioritise Recovery Alongside Studies?
In this episode, Emily & Han discuss how to make recovery work whilst studying. The key takeaways from this episode are:Position recovery at no.1 of your to-do list Remember that your health is at foundation of everything elseDo not continuously adopt the ‘I just need to get through this’ delay tacticSee this as an opportunity to head towards Ed unapproved (e.g., messiness, convenience, rush)Consistently remind yourself of where you want to be long term and what your studying is ultimately all for.
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What Should I Keep Close In My Mind Whilst I Take The Leap Into Full Recovery?
In this episode, Han and Emily speak through an array of reminders that were important to hold close when diving into a committed recovery. The key takeaways are…Surrendering involves consistently doing. Even in the presence of doubt.Doing good often doesn’t feel good.Your brain doesn’t have to be on board.Neuroscience and psychology tells us the brain is wired for familiarity and survival, not joy or fulfilment.Your thoughts are not the truth. They cannot force you to act.Hunger is normal and safe. A body relentless communication of it (including mentally!) is absolutely reasonable.Discomfort is temporary. The hard moments will pass. Slips are not failures. Recovery is non linear.Embrace the fact that recovery is messy.Recovery is absolutely possible, and absolutely going to be worth it!
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What Are The Most Important Things a Recovery Buddy Should Know About Recovery?
“What Are The Most Important Things a Recovery Buddy Should Know About Recovery?”In this episode, Emily and Han speak through advice for a recovery buddy who is supporting a healing journey. The key take away points are…- Get to know the basics about recovery in order to be able to provide grounding advice that reconnects your loved one with their healthy self (see rec. resources)- Stand by their side through that discomfort without enabling them to use disordered means to alleviate anxiety. Holding somebody to account to follow through with the most recovery aligned action is the kindest thing you can do. - Acknowledge that the place that somebody is in their recovery is not represented by their weight. Somebody can be ‘under weight’ at any weight, if they are beneath where their body wishes to be. - View recovery with urgency until the point of fully recovered. The amount of deficit somebody is in shows up their behaviours and inner experience.- ‘Better than before’ is not good enough. Encourage unrestricted eating. Remember that under eating is often invisible.- Engage in practical support where possible. Keep offering. Keep challenging. Hold to your word with consistency and plenty of hope. - Acknowledge that the ED will not like the recovery buddy. Friction that arises is not representative of your wrongdoing. Stand firmly in the recovery ground. -Some resources that we both recommend:Tabitha Farrar's 'Rehabilitate Rewire Recover'.Becky Freestone's YouTube videos.Helly Barnes' blog Chris Sandel's '@sevenhealthcompany'.
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