The Addicted Mind Podcast

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Are you your own worst enemy in recovery? This episode tackles the hidden barrier that keeps many people stuck in addiction - a harsh inner critic. Hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind explore how self-blame can sabotage recovery efforts and share research-backed strategies for developing self-compassion. Drawing from Dr. Kristen Neff's groundbreaking research, they explain why being kind to yourself isn't just "feel-good talk" but a powerful tool for lasting change. The hosts break down practical steps to transform your inner dialogue and explain why self-compassion actually leads to better accountability than harsh self-criticism. Whether you're in recovery or supporting someone who is, this episode offers actionable tools to break free from shame and build lasting resilience.

Key Topics
The difference between self-compassion and self-excuse
Research evidence supporting self-compassion in recovery
How shame fuels addiction cycles
Practical steps to develop self-compassion
The role of community support in building self-compassion
Connection between self-compassion and accountability
Tools for identifying and transforming your inner critic

Key Timestamps
[00:01:23] Why we're kinder to others than ourselves
[00:03:35] Understanding the trap of self-blame
[00:05:02] Introduction to Dr. Kristen Neff's research
[00:07:34] Self-compassion vs. making excuses
[00:08:23] Practical steps for developing self-compassion
[00:11:36] The importance of common humanity
[00:14:31] Different timelines for change

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In this episode of The Addicted Mind, Duane Osterlind talks with Noel Rihm and Bill Brady, founders of Kaleidoscope. Both Noel and Bill spent decades as high-functioning professionals—Noel in healthcare leadership and Bill as a high-powered Wall Street lawyer—while battling severe, life-threatening alcoholism.
After years of being labeled "treatment resistant" by traditional rehabs, they discovered that the problem wasn't their lack of willpower; it was that the root cause—unprocessed trauma—had never been addressed. They discuss how EMDR, psychedelic-assisted therapy, and a "bespoke" approach to healing allowed them to move from "white-knuckling" sobriety to living as "unburdened souls."
Guests:
Noel Rihm
A veteran of the healthcare industry for over 25 years, Noel struggled with alcoholism for three decades. Despite cumulative years in residential treatment and AA, she found true liberation through EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), which resolved the trauma symptoms that had driven her addiction for 30 years in just six sessions.
Bill Brady
Bill spent 25 years in Wall Street finance and private equity. To the outside world, he was "killing it," but internally, he was consuming up to two liters of vodka a day. After traditional treatments failed and hope was gone, Bill found a "miracle" through psychedelic therapy, which allowed him to forgive himself and reconnect with his life.

Key Discussion Points
1. The Myth of the "Treatment Resistant" Addict
The Problem: Traditional rehab often treats the habit without addressing the pain driving it.
The Reality: If treatment isn't working, it is often a failure of the protocol, not the patient.

2. Redefining Trauma
The Definition: Trauma is not what happened to you; it is how your nervous system responds to what happened.
The "Paper Cut" Effect: Small, recurring "little T" traumas—like a dismissive remark in childhood—can create a false narrative of unworthiness that persists for decades.

3. The Kaleidoscope Model: The Arc of Healing
Stabilization: Getting the body and mind regulated.
Preparation: Gentle, trauma-informed work to prepare the soul for a shift.
The Shift: Utilizing tools like EMDR, psychedelic therapy, or somatic processing to "unhook" from the trauma.
Integration: The most critical phase—having a "Sherpa" (permanent coach) to help apply insights to daily life.

4. The "Sherpa" and Family Healing
The Sherpa Model: Unlike traditional rehab where the relationship ends at discharge, Kaleidoscope provides a permanent guide to help navigate the "scavenger hunt" of resources in the local community.
Healing the System: In the final week of treatment, spouses and significant others are invited to undergo their own healing, ensuring the addict doesn't return to a toxic or unhealed home environment.

Memorable Quotes
"From the outside, it looked like I was killing it. From the inside, it looked like I was killing myself." — Bill Brady
"Unprocessed trauma is like a keg of dynamite waiting to go off. I knew how to address my trauma: Two liters of vodka reliably would get me into a blackout." — Noel Rihm
"It’s not about not drinking. It’s about not wanting to." — Bill Brady
Resources Mentioned
Kaleidoscope:
Innovation Lab: Kaleidoscope’s research-driven facility in Cabo, focused on clinical rigor and tracking healing outcomes.
Key Therapies: EMDR, Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy, and Somatic Processing.

Links to Guests Below:
LinkedIn/Noel Rihm
LinkedIn/Bill Brady
Kaleidoscope Ventures
Smashed: Sober (with a Twist)
Contact The Addicted Mind:
Website: theaddictedmind.com

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Supporting Resources:
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Welcome back to The Addicted Mind Podcast. This week, we are diving deep into the transformative work of therapy pioneer Virginia Satir. Joining us is Teresa McClellan, a seasoned expert with 18 years of experience across the therapeutic spectrum—working with couples, families, and groups of all kinds.
Teresa is currently doing groundbreaking work by applying Satir’s methods within a men’s prison, witnessing firsthand how these "growth-oriented" practices can revolutionize addiction recovery.

A Visionary Ahead of Her Time
Virginia Satir’s approach was revolutionary, prioritizing human connection long before modern neuroscience caught up to prove why it works. While traditional models often focus on the "pathology" of a person (what’s wrong with them), Satir’s model focuses on growth and the untapped potential within every individual.
In this episode, we explore how Satir’s emphasis on the "experiential"—feeling emotions within the body and using imagery—creates a bridge for those in recovery to finally reconnect with their true selves.

Episode Highlights
The Growth Model vs. Pathology: Why shifting the focus from "the problem" to "the person" changes the recovery trajectory.
The Experiential Shift: How the Satir Method moves therapy from a mental exercise to a felt, physical experience.
Somatic Recovery: Understanding how emotions are stored in the body and how to fill those "gaps" in the healing process.
Satir in the Modern Age: How her decades-old practices align perfectly with our current understanding of brain science and psychology.
Recovery Behind Bars: Teresa shares the amazing results of using imagery and experience to help incarcerated men rediscover their humanity.

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Ever wonder why showing your true self feels so terrifying, yet could be the very key to your healing? In this powerful episode, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind explore how embracing vulnerability, despite its discomfort, can become your greatest strength in recovery. Drawing from both research and real-world experience, they break down why many of us hide behind masks and how this actually hinders our healing journey. The hosts share practical strategies for safely opening up to others and building authentic connections, backed by insights from Dr. Brené Brown's groundbreaking research on shame and vulnerability. Whether you're struggling with addiction, trauma, or mental health challenges, this episode offers a roadmap for transforming vulnerability from a perceived weakness into a powerful tool for recovery and personal growth.

Download: Vulnerability Transforms Recovery Worksheet.

Key Topics
The connection between vulnerability and authentic healing
Why we resist being vulnerable and its impact on recovery
Research evidence supporting vulnerability in recovery
The myth of "fixing yourself" before seeking help
Five practical steps to practice healthy vulnerability
Finding safe spaces and people for sharing
Managing intimacy backlash and self-compassion

Timestamps
[00:01:16] Understanding masks and hiding in recovery
[00:03:45] The role of shame in avoiding vulnerability
[00:07:09] Research insights on vulnerability as strength
[00:11:42] Five practical steps to develop vulnerability
[00:13:43] The importance of self-compassion
[00:15:18] Managing intimacy backlash
[00:16:31] Resources and community support
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In this episode of The Addicted Mind, host Duane Osterlind sits down with Dr. Judy Rosenberg, founder of the Psychological Healing Center, to dive deep into the psychology of smoking addiction.
Dr. Rosenberg shares her journey from the early days of aversion therapy at the Schick Center to developing her transformative "Mind Map" for healing. They move beyond the surface-level habit of nicotine to explore the "hole in the soul"—the childhood wounds and narcissistic injuries that often drive us to "fill" ourselves with substances rather than finding true "fulfillment."

Key Highlights & Themes
The Failure of Aversion Therapy: Why "shocking" people out of a habit often leads to high relapse rates if the underlying psychological cause isn't addressed.
The "Hole in the Soul": Identifying the childhood wounds—physical, sexual, verbal abuse, neglect, or narcissistic injury—that create a void we try to fill with cigarettes.
Filling vs. Fulfilling: A powerful distinction between using a substance to temporarily plug a hole (the "vampire effect") versus generating internal light and generative health.
The Narcissistic Cigarette: How we assign value to an object that drains our health, money, and power, much like a toxic relationship.
The Three Smoking Personalities: * The Comfort Smoker: Seeking the attunement and nurturing missed in early childhood.
The Control Smoker: Using the cigarette to manage a chaotic or unpredictable environment.
The Performance Smoker: Using nicotine to "show up," create, or please others, often rooted in narcissistic wounds.
Destination Disgust: How to use the emotion of disgust as a protective mechanism to "unhook" from the addiction and view the substance as the poison it truly is.
The Oxygen Trick: Recognizing that the "relief" of a cigarette often comes from the deep breath of the inhale, which the cigarette then "hijacks" and takes credit for.

The Mind Map for Healing
Identify childhood wounds and the "cracked lens" of perception.
Decode the "poison" of negative core beliefs (e.g., "I don't matter").
Recode the psyche into a state of health, power, and self-causality.
Guest Resources
Website: Psychological Healing Center
Books: * Kick It: Stop Smoking and Be the Cause of Better Outcomes for Your Life
Be the Cause: Healing Human Disconnect
YouTube: Dr. Judy WTF (What the Freud) – Over 500 episodes on healing from narcissistic abuse and addiction.

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