Sex for Saints

In this episode of Sex for Saints, I walk through the six stages of marriage and explain why so many couples feel stuck, disconnected, or ready to give up around stage three. I break down what each stage looks like in real life, from the honeymoon phase to frustration, growth, true love, and legacy, using real client stories to show what's actually happening beneath the conflict. We talk about why stage three feels like failure, how emotional triggers and unmet needs collide there, and why this stage is not a sign you married the wrong person but an invitation to learn new relationship skills. I also explain how emotional regulation, boundary setting, and clean communication move couples into deeper intimacy, passion, and long-term connection. If your marriage feels hard right now, this episode will help you understand where you are and what it takes to move forward together instead of drifting apart.
Source: The six stages framework referenced in this episode comes from mental.aspect on Instagram.

In this episode, I talk about a struggle I hear from women all the time but that rarely gets named out loud: loving your husband deeply while feeling disconnected from his body. I discuss where that discomfort often comes from, especially for women who grew up with strong messages about modesty, safety, and avoiding anything sexual before marriage. I explain how that conditioning can quietly shape how you see male bodies, how it affects your intimacy, and what your husband may be experiencing on the other side of it. I also share how attraction can be learned, how safety and curiosity can replace fear and avoidance, and the real steps you can take to begin seeing your husband's body differently. This episode is an honest, compassionate look at how body acceptance can transform not just your sex life, but the emotional connection in your marriage too.

In this episode, I'll talk about one of the most painful sexual dynamics I see in marriages: when a wife has been self-betraying for years by having sex she doesn't want, while her husband still feels unsatisfied. I'll explain why orgasms aren't the same thing as satisfaction, and how duty sex can actually block the connection both partners are craving. I'll unpack how this pattern creates deep resentment for her, confusion for him, and eventually a crisis point that forces the relationship to change. I'll also share what real repair can look like, how couples can move from obligation to genuine desire, and why quality and connection matter far more than frequency. This episode will be especially helpful for anyone who feels stuck in a painful sexual stalemate and wants clarity on what's really going wrong and what healing could look like.

In this episode, I talk about what happens when a spouse's sexual past becomes a source of anxiety, comparison, guilt, or secrecy inside a marriage. I unpack why obsessive thoughts about a partner's past aren't really about what happened then, but about fear and insecurity now, and why no amount of details ever brings peace. We also look at the other side of the equation: carrying a past you never disclosed, how secrets quietly create distance, and how to thoughtfully decide whether disclosure is actually the right step. Throughout the episode, I separate repentance before God from emotional healing in marriage, and explain why believing in the Atonement doesn't mean you're required to feel nothing. This episode is for anyone struggling with jealousy, rumination, moral superiority, or the weight of an unresolved sexual past in a faith-based marriage.

In this episode, I want to talk about something a lot of women quietly wonder but rarely say out loud: what if sex isn't bad, but it's also not very good? In this episode, I unpack why so many women experience sex as "meh," even in loving marriages where both partners are trying. We look at how expectations, anatomy, mental patterns, and our relationship with pleasure all shape how sex actually feels. I explain why nothing is broken about you if sex hasn't lived up to the hype, and how pleasure is something that's learned, not automatic. If you've ever wondered why sex feels underwhelming or why you'd rather do almost anything else, this conversation will help you understand what's really going on and what can change.