Episode 392 - Why Sexual Rejection Feels So Personal
Sexual rejection is one of the most painful experiences in marriage, but is your spouse really rejecting you or just rejecting sex? In this episode, I break down the two types of rejection, how to tell the difference, and why understanding this can change everything in your relationship. We'll talk about what rejection looks like when it's personal, what it looks like when it's not, and how to stop letting painful stories in your head dictate the way you feel. If you've ever wondered, "What's really happening when my spouse says no?" this conversation will give you clarity, hope, and practical steps forward.
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Episode 391 - I Meet Her Needs, Why Won't She Meet Mine?
So many men tell me, "I meet all her needs, why can't she meet mine?" Almost always that "need" is sex. I understand the frustration behind that question, but here's the truth- it's not helping your sex life, it's hurting it. In this episode, I talk about why framing sex as a "need" actually shuts down desire, and what to do instead if you want real intimacy and connection. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of obligation, resentment, or just going through the motions, this conversation will give you a new perspective and a path forward.
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Episode 390 - The Brain Chemistry of Sex
Have you ever wondered why you can feel like a totally different person during sex than afterward? In this episode, I break down what's actually happening in your brain before, during, and after intimacy, and why it matters for your sex life. I'll show you how your neurobiology impacts desire, openness, and connection, and how you can use that knowledge to feel more present, communicate better, and stop judging yourself for normal responses. If you've ever been confused about why you or your partner seem "on different pages," this conversation will make so much sense.
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Episode 389 - The Good Guy She Doesn't Desire
In this episode, I'm diving into a pattern I see so often in marriages: good men with the best intentions who unintentionally invalidate their wives' feelings. I'll share real stories of couples who get stuck in this cycle and explain why it happens, especially when a husband's identity is tied so closely to being "the good guy." You'll hear how this dynamic leaves wives feeling unseen and husbands frustrated, even though neither partner wants that outcome. Most importantly, I'll talk about what both husbands and wives can do to break free from this pattern and build deeper connection and intimacy. Whether you see yourself in these stories or simply want a stronger marriage, this episode has something for you.
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Episode 388 - Sexual Grief
Sexual grief is something many experience but few talk about. In this episode, we explore what it means to grieve the sex life you thought you'd have, and why making grief your companion instead of your enemy can lead to deeper healing, connection, and hope. You'll hear how sexual grief shows up in different ways, from unmet expectations to struggles with desire or intimacy, and why acknowledging it matters. Most importantly, you'll learn how grief, when faced with compassion, can become a guide toward creating a more authentic and meaningful intimate life. If you have ever felt grief, and then shame, about your sex life, this is the episode for you.
As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!
In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.
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