Black Girl Burnout

Five years into Black Girl Burnout, this season premiere serves as a manifesto and recommitment to living fully without self-abandonment. Kelley reframes burnout as more than a work issue, challenges the lie that success requires suffering, and invites listeners to build lives rooted in softness, ambition, and sustainability—without disappearing, shrinking, or betraying themselves.Key TakeawaysYou can be ambitious without being violent to yourself.Healing does not require disappearing from your life.Soft living is not weakness or laziness—it’s discernment.A meaningful life does not have to cost you your body, joy, or peace.Episode Highlights + Timestamps00:00–01:30 — We’re back: reflecting on five years of Black Girl Burnout and a renewed sense of clarity and purpose05:00–06:30 — “We don’t want to opt out of life—we want to opt out of harm”11:45–13:10 — What living softly actually means (and what it doesn’t)18:30–20:00 — Why you don’t have to abandon yourself to heal, succeed, or live wellA Gentle InvitationAs you move through your week, notice where you may be pushing, forcing, or overriding yourself out of habit. Ask gently: Is this supporting me—or costing me myself? Let this episode be permission to choose a rhythm that allows you to stay present in your life while still moving toward what matters to you.Support the ShowLike, share, and subscribe on all platforms, and find us on social media@blackgirlburnoutSubscribe to our newsletter: blackgirlburnout.comWatch the episode on YouTubeDrop a review—help us spread the word that rest is not weakness.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid Substack subscriber ($5/month—the cost of a latte!) for exclusive resources to support your burnout-free life.Our SponsorsCheck out PharmaNutra and use my code BGB for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comSavvy Ladies: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCirclePrivacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this manifesto-style year-end episode, Kelley closes out 2025 by naming the new foundation of Black Girl Burnout: five gentle “commandments” designed to help Black women opt out of struggle and choose softness, joy, and liberation. Reflecting on a year of global change, personal evolution, and collective exhaustion, she reframes rest, ease, joy, softness, and freedom from unnecessary pain as non-negotiable truths—not rewards. This episode sets the tone for 2026 and introduces the four pillars guiding the podcast forward: soft life liberation, practical healing for real life, joy and creative living, and sustainable money, work, and productivity without burnout.Key TakeawaysRest is not a reward—it is the first response and a necessary foundation for clarity, creativity, and survival.Ease and excellence are not opposites; joy- and ease-led living creates more sustainable success.Joy is not frivolous—it is data that helps guide decisions, boundaries, and aligned living.You are allowed to choose a life that does not hurt, even if no one around you ever has.Episode Highlights + TIMESTAMPS00:02:44 – Introducing the Black Girl Burnout Commandments and why this moment calls for a new foundation00:05:10 – Commandment #1: Rest as the first response, not the last resort00:06:30 – Commandment #2: Why ease is not the enemy of excellence00:08:09 – Commandment #3: Joy as a powerful and necessary data point00:13:00 – Commandment #5: Choosing a life that does not hurt—and opting out of inherited struggleAn Invitation for the Year AheadIf this episode resonated, choose just one commandment to carry with you into 2026. Let it be a quiet anchor rather than a checklist. And if you want to go deeper, you’re invited to join Kelley on Substack for monthly workshops and Q&A—designed with joy, ease, and sustainability at the center.Support the ShowLike, share, and subscribe on all platforms, and find us on social media@blackgirlburnoutSubscribe to our newsletter: blackgirlburnout.comWatch the episode on YouTubeDrop a review—help us spread the word that rest is not weakness.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid Substack subscriber ($5/month—the cost of a latte!) for exclusive resources to support your burnout-free life.Our SponsorsCheck out Pharmanutra: pharmanutra-us.comSavvy Ladies: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCirclePrivacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of Black Girl Burnout, Kelley revisits the idea of the Soft Lock-In as a gentler alternative to end-of-year hustle culture. Designed for moments of deep exhaustion and burnout, this conversation offers a compassionate December reset rooted in nervous system safety, realistic expectations, and care-first productivity.Key TakeawaysYou don’t need to “finish the year strong” — you need a reset that supports your body, not pushes it.The Soft Lock-In centers gentle consistency, not discipline, shame, or hustle.Small, nervous-system-safe actions can create meaningful emotional and energetic relief.Episode Highlights + Timestamps00:00–03:00 — Reframing the “lock-in” and why hustle culture no longer fits this season07:00–08:45 — Shifting from “fix your life” thinking to self-support and care09:00–13:45 — The four pillars of the Soft Lock-In: soft structure, expectations, productivity, and rest14:30–18:15 — Creating a simple December reset plan with one thing to finish, maintain, release, and rest aroundYour Gentle Reset InvitationAs you move through the end of the year, try creating your own Soft Lock-In. Choose just one thing to finish, one thing to maintain, one thing to release, and one place where you’ll stop pushing yourself to have more energy than you do. Let this be an experiment in kindness — a reminder that you’re allowed to reset softly, without earning rest or proving your worth.Support the ShowLike, share, and subscribe on all platforms, and find us on social media@blackgirlburnoutSubscribe to our newsletter: blackgirlburnout.comWatch the episode on YouTubeDrop a review—help us spread the word that rest is not weakness.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid Substack subscriber ($8/month—the cost of a latte!) for exclusive resources to support your burnout-free life.Our SponsorsCheck out Pharmanutra: pharmanutra-us.comSavvy Ladies: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCirclePrivacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of Black Girl Burnout, Kelley explores how empowerment has quietly shifted into performance — and why that shift is especially exhausting and harmful for Black women. She unpacks the cultural, economic, and patriarchal pressures driving hustle culture, aesthetic wellness, and performance-based worth, while offering a softer, more liberatory way forward as the year comes to a close.Key TakeawaysEmpowerment loses its power when wellness, beauty, and productivity become performances instead of choices rooted in joy.Black women are uniquely impacted by overlapping pressures to be exceptional, desirable, resilient, and endlessly productive.Grief over unmet expectations (partnership, motherhood, timelines) is valid — but it is not a measure of worth.Soft Life Liberation is about choosing ease, rest, and humanity without needing to earn them.Episode Highlights + Timestamps00:00–02:00 — Why ending the year softly matters, and how performance culture is fueling burnout03:00–05:15 — When wellness becomes an aesthetic and self-improvement turns into exhaustion08:49–10:00 — The unique pressure Black women face at the intersection of worth, desirability, and resilience19:54–26:00 — Introducing Soft Life Liberation and a gentle practice to release performance-based worthSoft InvitationAs you move through the end of the year, notice one message you’ve absorbed about who you “should” be. Gently ask yourself who benefits from that belief — and then offer yourself one softer truth instead. There’s no rush, no fixing required. Just space to choose ease, even in small moments.Support the ShowLike, share, and subscribe on all platforms, and find us on social media@blackgirlburnoutSubscribe to our newsletter: blackgirlburnout.comWatch the episode on YouTubeDrop a review—help us spread the word that rest is not weakness.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid Substack subscriber ($8/month—the cost of a latte!) for exclusive resources to support your burnout-free life.Our SponsorsCheck out Pharmanutra: pharmanutra-us.comSavvy Ladies: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCirclePrivacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, Kelley names what’s really behind the collective exhaustion so many Black women are feeling: layer after layer of crisis, an overworked nervous system, and the cultural push to lock in when we barely have anything left to give. Drawing from her lived experience and burnout expertise, she breaks down the three layers of the Great Crash Out of 2025 and offers a liberatory alternative: finishing the year softly. Instead of urgency, shame, or “push harder” thinking, this conversation ushers listeners into practical softness, lowered bars, micro-permission slips, and deep rest — a grounding reset for anyone who is tired in their spirit, body, or bones.Key Takeaways (3–4 max)Nothing is wrong with you — you're living through a collective burnout event.Survival mode is incompatible with high performance, and your nervous system is doing its best to protect you.Finishing the year softly is an act of liberation, not laziness.Practical softness > performative productivity, especially in seasons of depletion.Episode Highlights + Timestamps00:00 — Naming the Great Crash Out of 2025Kelley opens with a clear, compassionate framing of the exhaustion so many are feeling and affirms that nothing is wrong with you.07:30 — “Me too, girl. Me too.”She shares transparently about grief, family stress, financial uncertainty, and her own nervous system overwhelm — offering shared humanity rather than performance.10:31 — Survival Mode vs. High PerformanceKelley explains why creativity, focus, and motivation go offline under chronic stress, grounding the conversation in evidence-informed truths about burnout.18:00 — The Soft Pivot: Practical Over ProductiveShe offers three soft-life strategies: lowering the bar, finishing the year softly, and giving yourself micro-permission slips.22:43 — Your Only Goal This Month: SoftenA liberatory reframing of December as a time to reclaim capacity rather than perform productivity or self-reinvention.If This Episode Spoke to You…If this episode made you feel seen, relieved, or less alone, share it with another woman who deserves softness and liberation in this season. Leave a review on Apple or Spotify to support the movement — it’s free, deeply impactful, and helps this message reach more women who need it. And stay connected across platforms at Black Girl Burnout for community, softness, and what’s coming next.Support the ShowLike, share, and subscribe on all platforms, and find us on social media@blackgirlburnoutSubscribe to our newsletter: blackgirlburnout.comWatch the episode on YouTubeDrop a review—help us spread the word that rest is not weakness.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid Substack subscriber ($8/month—the cost of a latte!) for exclusive resources to support your burnout-free life.Our SponsorsCheck out Pharmanutra: pharmanutra-us.comSavvy Ladies: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCirclePrivacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy