Black Girl Burnout

• Opt Into Caring Without Collapsing:

  This episode invites you to look honestly at the weight you’ve been carrying—family roles, cultural conditioning, religious expectations, emotional labor—and notice where care has turned into collapse. Kelley unpacks why so many Black women feel stretched thin and offers a grounded path back to caring in a way that honors your capacity, preserves your joy, and keeps you connected without abandoning yourself.Key TakeawaysCaring becomes harmful when it requires self-erasure, chronic overgiving, or inherited roles that leave you invisible.Cultural, familial, and religious conditioning often normalize collapse, and unlearning these scripts is essential.You can care deeply while protecting your energy through pausing, honest capacity checks, and letting grown people be grown.Caring without collapsing brings lightness, reciprocity, steadiness, and the return of your joy.Episode Highlights & TimestampsNaming collapse and its signs — The internal breaking point so many Black women hide behind resilience. [00:02:03–00:03:00]How collapse shows up: resentment, exhaustion, invisibility[00:09:00–00:09:15]Tools for boundaries and presence — Capacity checks, time parameters, and redirection without abandoning yourself. [00:18:11–00:20:29]What caring without collapsing feels like — Lightness, reciprocity, safety, and joy’s return [00:21:00–00:22:00]Gentle Call to ActionTake one small step today: choose one place where you’ve been giving from depletion and practice a pause before responding. Let your body tell you the truth about your capacity.If this episode brought clarity, share it with someone who is carrying too much. Let them know there’s another way—care can coexist with ease.Support the ShowAre you experimenting with new ways to rest? Whether it’s saying no to one more obligation, shutting your laptop at 5 p.m., or taking a slow walk with no agenda, capture that moment of ease. Share it with us:@blackgirlburnoutSubscribe to our newsletter: blackgirlburnout.comWatch the episode on YouTubeDrop a review—help us spread the word that rest is not weakness.Stay in TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid Substack subscriber ($8/month—the cost of a latte!) for exclusive resources to support your burnout-free life.Our SponsorsCheck out Green Chef: https://greenchef.com/50BGBCheck out Pharmanutra: pharmanutra-us.comSavvy Ladies: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCirclePrivacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleOur Sponsors:* Check out Green Chef: https://greenchef.com/50BGB* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code BGB for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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• When Juggling Isn’t Joyful: The Cost of Carrying It All

  In this deeply personal episode of Black Girl Burnout, host Kelley opens up about the exhaustion that comes with trying to hold everything together—career, caregiving, friendships, and self-care. She examines why so many high-achieving Black women feel pressured to “keep all the balls in the air,” and what it means to pause, realign, and choose peace over perfection. Kelley invites listeners to question the story behind their constant juggling and to gently let go of the myth that balance means doing it all.KEY TAKEAWAYSThe belief that we can “have it all” and “do it all” is a system trap that fuels burnout.Silence around struggle keeps us isolated—naming the cost of success is an act of healing.Balance isn’t the goal; alignment is. True peace comes from dropping what doesn’t serve you.Giving yourself permission to pause is not failure—it’s an act of reclaiming your capacity.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS & TIMESTAMPS00:00 – Kelley shares her personal experience of juggling multiple roles and feeling stretched thin.03:00 – The myths of “having it all” and “doing it all” as silent traps for high-achieving women.07:50 – Why “balance” keeps us burned out—and how “alignment” offers a softer, truer alternative.15:30 – Practical reflection: What are you juggling right now, and what can you safely put down?GENTLE CALL TO ACTIONTake a quiet moment this week to notice what you’ve been juggling out of fear or obligation. Ask yourself: What can I set down, even for a little while? Share your reflections with us on social media @blackgirlburnout, or leave a review to help another Black woman find this space of rest and relief.Our Sponsors:* Check out Green Chef: https://greenchef.com/50BGB* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code BGB for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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• Opt Into Delicious Discipline: Finding Joy in Everyday Habits

  In this episode of Black Girl Burnout, Kelley invites you to rethink what discipline can feel like. Instead of viewing structure as a restriction, she shares how to make discipline delicious by weaving in joy and pleasure through a practice called dopamine anchoring. This gentle, neuroscience-backed approach helps you stay consistent without relying on willpower or burnout cycles—proving that pleasure isn’t a distraction from your goals, it’s the fuel that enables you to reach them.KEY TAKEAWAYSJoy isn’t a reward—it’s the engine that makes meaningful work possible.Discipline becomes sustainable when it’s paired with consistent pleasure and sensory anchors.Small rituals like scent, music, or sunlight can rewire your brain to associate joy with effort.You don’t have to earn rest or play—integrating them into your routines leads to lasting change.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS00:58 — Why “work hard, play later” doesn’t work for your nervous system04:53 — How dopamine anchoring transforms chores and routines into joyful rituals08:29 — Kelley’s personal journey from hustle and burnout to rhythm and ease15:22 — Simple ways to create your own sensory and movement anchors for daily joyA GENTLE INVITATIONStart small: choose one daily task and pair it with a simple pleasure—a favorite scent, a song, or a five-minute stretch. Notice how that shift changes your energy.Then, share your experience with us on Instagram @blackgirlburnout or tag us using #OptIntoJoy.If this episode helped you reimagine what discipline can feel like, follow Black Girl Burnout on your favorite podcast platform and leave a gentle 5-star review to help more women find this community of rest, joy, and abundance.SUPPORT THE SHOWAre you experimenting with new ways to rest? Whether it’s saying no to one more obligation, shutting your laptop at 5 p.m., or taking a slow walk with no agenda, capture that moment of ease. Share it with us:@blackgirlburnoutSubscribe to our newsletter: blackgirlburnout.comWatch the episode on YouTubeDrop a review—help us spread the word that rest is not weakness.STAY IN TOUCHJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid Substack subscriber ($8/month—the cost of a latte!) for exclusive resources to support your burnout-free life.OUR SPONSORSCheck out Green Chef: https://greenchef.com/50BGBCheck out Pharmanutra: pharmanutra-us.comSavvy Ladies: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCirclePrivacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleOur Sponsors:* Check out Green Chef: https://greenchef.com/50BGB* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code BGB for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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• Opt Into Doing Your Best

  In this reflective solo episode, host Kelley explores what it means to “do your best” when your best no longer looks the same. Drawing from her experience with grief, aging, and shifting capacity, Kelley redefines productivity and success through softness and self-compassion. She invites listeners to release perfectionism, honor their limits, and embrace a gentler approach to achievement.This episode is a tender reminder that your best self is not about doing more—it’s about doing what’s sustainable and aligned with who you are today.KEY TAKEAWAYSDoing your best changes with your season of life—honor your current capacity.Softness and rest are not weakness; they are essential to long-term fulfillment.Cultural and familial conditioning can disguise perfectionism as ambition.Redefining excellence can help you reclaim balance, visibility, and joy.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Redefining “Your Best”Kelley opens up about end-of-year pressures and how “soft lock-in” challenges the old habit of grinding.04:00 – Listening to the Body’s SignalsShe reflects on grief, aging, and the body’s cues for rest and slowing down.07:00 – Unlearning the Need to OverperformKelley unpacks how cultural narratives about excellence and representation shaped her identity.18:00 – Choosing Ease and VisibilityShe closes by discussing how striving for perfection leads to burnout and invisibility—and how choosing ease brings peace.SUPPORT THE SHOWAre you experimenting with new ways to rest? Whether it’s saying no to one more obligation, shutting your laptop at 5 p.m., or taking a slow walk with no agenda, capture that moment of ease. Share it with us:@blackgirlburnoutSubscribe to our newsletter: blackgirlburnout.comWatch the episode on YouTubeDrop a review—help us spread the word that rest is not weakness.STAY IN TOUCHJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid Substack subscriber ($8/month—the cost of a latte!) for exclusive resources to support your burnout-free life.OUR SPONSORSCheck out Green Chef: https://greenchef.com/50BGBCheck out Pharmanutra: pharmanutra-us.comSavvy Ladies: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCirclePrivacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleOur Sponsors:* Check out Green Chef: https://greenchef.com/50BGB* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code BGB for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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• Opt Into Joy-First Productivity: Why Pleasure is the Power You’ve Been Denying Yourself

  In this powerful episode of Black Girl Burnout, Kelley invites us to radically rethink how we approach productivity. For generations, Black women have been conditioned to believe that joy must be earned—that rest comes only after the grind. But what if that belief is not only outdated, but harmful?Through personal stories, science-backed insights, and cultural truth-telling, Kelley introduces us to dopamine anchoring, a technique that helps you pair joy with effort to create ease, motivation, and emotional safety. This isn’t about tricking yourself—it’s about healing yourself. It’s time to opt out of burnout and into a life where joy leads.Key Takeaways:Willpower is not your problem—depleted dopamine is. Chronic stress disrupts your motivation, making “push through” productivity unsustainable.Black women have been sold a lie: grind now, rest later. That mindset leads to burnout, not breakthroughs.Dopamine anchoring can rewire your brain for joyful productivity. Pairing pleasurable activities with hard tasks helps you create new habits grounded in ease.Pleasure is not a distraction—it’s a resistance tool. Choosing joy is a radical act of self-preservation and cultural healing.Episode Highlights + Timestamps[00:01:00] – Calling Out the Willpower MythKelley breaks down how the brain’s chemistry—not mindset alone—determines our motivation. Willpower doesn’t stand a chance when dopamine is depleted.[00:06:00] – A Personal Story of Burnout and BetrayalKelley shares her journey of grinding in her twenties and thirties, achieving professional “success,” but still feeling depleted, overlooked, and disrespected.[00:14:51] – What is Dopamine Anchoring?A clear, simple explanation of this practice: pairing joyful sensations with difficult tasks to build sustainable motivation and safety in the nervous system.[00:23:00] – Three Practical Anchor RitualsKelley offers a sensory anchor, a connection anchor, and a celebration anchor—three gentle rituals you can try today to reclaim joy and make work feel softer.Support the ShowAre you experimenting with new ways to rest? Whether it’s saying no to one more obligation, shutting your laptop at 5 p.m., or taking a slow walk with no agenda, capture that moment of ease. Share it with us:@blackgirlburnoutSubscribe to our newsletter: blackgirlburnout.comWatch the episode on YouTubeDrop a review—help us spread the word that rest is not weakness.Stay In TouchJoin our Substack family for weekly reflections, tools, and behind-the-scenes notes from Kelley.Become a paid Substack subscriber ($8/month—the cost of a latte!) for exclusive resources to support your burnout-free life.Our Sponsors:Check out Green Chef: https://greenchef.com/50BGBCheck out SideralXL for your Iron needs: https://pharmanutra-us.com/Savvy Ladies: https://www.savvyladies.org/Advertising Inquiries: RedCirclePrivacy & Opt-Out: RedCircleOur Sponsors:* Check out Green Chef: https://greenchef.com/50BGB* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code BGB for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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