You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

When you grow up with a narcissistic parent or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, boundaries are understandably complicated. But, what if you could start making changes by setting some with yourself?
In this episode you'll learn:
Boundaries with yourself: what they are, and why knowing your limits comes before anything you communicate to your parent
Why the urge to explain every change runs so deep when you grow up in this type of family dynamic
What this can look like IRL
Why this isn't all or nothing, and what small steps look like
Ready to go deeper?
Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie's self-guided course on how to set and enforce boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back.
Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/course
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Need help getting ready for your next interaction with a difficult parent? Check out, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent.
Get instant access to the 12-page guide: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide
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A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors!
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline.
You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

You've known for months exactly what boundary you need to set. And every time you sit down to do it, something in your body says absolutely not, and you tell yourself you'll deal with it later.
If you grew up with a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder or narcissistic traits, you learned early on that reading the room kept you safe and while expressing your emotions was a problem. It's one of the many reasons cycle breakers often grow up to be great intellectualizers who find themselves struggling to make the changes they desperately want to make.
In this episode you'll learn:
Why you know what you "should" do but can't bring yourself to actually do it 
The difference between knowing what to do and having the skill set to tolerate how distressing change can be
Why the hardest part of a boundary is almost never the logistics, it's the guilt and anxiety that come after
The story your brain tells about laziness and lack of motivation, and what's actually happening
Why being too close to the fire makes your own family the hardest one to see clearly
If you've spent years trying to understand your dysfunctional family system and still can't bring yourself to make the changes you need to, this episode is for you.
Ready to go deeper?
Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie's self-guided course on how to set and enforce boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back.
Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/course
Want access to ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed: confidentboundaries.com/private
Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist
Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist
Need help getting ready for your next interaction with a difficult parent? Check out, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent.
Get instant access to the 12-page guide: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide
Support the show
A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors!
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline.
You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

A quick update first- I'm shifting into a more sustainable rhythm for the podcast this fall, then I get into part two of my story. I talk about growing up with a Jekyll and Hyde mom, what that taught me, and how my understanding of what was actually going on with her has changed over the years.
I talk about how if I could stumble through my own healing as clumsily as I have and still end up with the skills and support I have now, I firmly believe anyone who is invested in breaking the cycle is capable of learning how to do so too. 
Ready to go deeper?
Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie's self-guided course on how to set and enforce boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back.
Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/course
Want access to ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed: confidentboundaries.com/private
Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist
Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist
Need help getting ready for your next interaction with a difficult parent? Check out, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent.
Get instant access to the 12-page guide: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide
Support the show
A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors!
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline.
You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

A quick update on the podcast and when the next episode will drop.
Support the show
A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors!
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline.
You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

>>>Grab my new guide, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide
This week I'm sharing more about me: who I am, why I do the work that I do, and what led me to start this podcast.
In this episode you'll learn:
About my clinical background and how that led to me working almost entirely with adults who have parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders
About my attempts to fill the gap so many cycle breakers face when searching for support
How to work together and the various ways I can help
Ready to go deeper?
Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie's self-guided course on how to set and enforce boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back.
Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/course
Want access to ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed: confidentboundaries.com/private
Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist
Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist
Need help getting ready for your next interaction with a difficult parent? Check out, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent.
Get instant access to the 12-page guide: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide
Support the show
A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors!
Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline.
You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.