You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

In this episode, I walk you through:

What patterns are common in narcissistic vs. borderline personality disorder

Why the diagnosis itself isn’t what matters most

What it feels like to grow up as a child dealing with a parent with these dynamics

The key differences in behavior, motivation, and emotional impact

Why these relationships feel so confusing, intense, and destabilizing

We also talk about emotional volatility, lack of empathy, and why being emotionally vulnerable with these parents isn’t a good idea.
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If you grew up with a parent who had narcissistic or borderline traits, chances are no one ever showed you what being an emotionally healthy adult actually looks like.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why healing feels so confusing, messy, and unclear and what you actually need in order to move forward.

We’re talking about:

Why “I don’t want to be like them” isn’t enough to create healthy change

The skills cycle breakers were never taught growing up

How dysfunctional family systems create blind spots

What it actually takes to break the cycle

I’m also walking you through the exact framework I use inside The Cycle Breaker’s Vault so you can see what a real, practical roadmap looks like.
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When you grow up with an emotionally unpredictable or narcissistic parent, it’s easy to get stuck trying to figure out their intent especially when there were both good and painful moments.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why that question keeps you stuck and what actually matters when it comes to healing and setting boundaries.

Because the truth is, it’s not about whether they mean to hurt you. It’s about what they continue to do and how it impacts you.

Show Notes:

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In this episode, I’m talking about why that happens and why “just feel your feelings” isn’t actually helpful for most people who grew up in chaotic or emotionally unpredictable family environments.

When you grow up with a parent who lacks emotional regulation skills, you learn to analyze, anticipate, and problem-solve. Not because something is wrong with you, but because it helped you function in an environment that didn’t feel safe.

In this episode, we’ll get into:

-Why intellectualizing your emotions is a learned survival response

-Why feeling your emotions can feel unsafe or inaccessible

-The role safety plays in being able to process emotions

-Why you might feel stuck even if you want to heal

Healing isn’t about forcing yourself to feel more. It’s about creating enough safety to feel brave enough to feel.

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In this episode, we’re talking about:

Why forgiveness is often misunderstood

Why you don’t need to forgive your parent to heal

How focusing on forgiveness can actually keep you stuck

The difference between forgiveness and healing

Why acceptance is what actually helps you move forward

What “radical acceptance” looks like in real life

Listen to learn more about the fallacy of forgiveness and what it actually takes to heal from growing up within a dysfunctional family system.
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