281: Vex King: Transforming Pain into Purpose & Finding Self Love
What if the love you’re searching for has been within you all along? In this episode, Vex King shares his journey of healing from trauma, embracing self-love, and turning pain into purpose. We explore the deeper meaning of love, the difference between relationships and true inner connection, and how to manifest an aligned life. Tune in to remember your wholeness—and feel inspired to come home to yourself.
Vex King is the Number 1 Sunday Times bestselling author of Good Vibes Good Life and Healing is the New High, amongst other books and journals. As a child and young adult, he experienced many challenges: his father died when he was just a baby, his family were often homeless, and he grew up in troubled neighbourhoods where he regularly experienced violence and racism. Despite this, Vex successfully turned his whole life around and is now leading a revolution for the next generation of spiritual seekers.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:10 – Vex’s story
16:52 – The writing process
21:32 – Keys to Vex's success
27:05 – Tips for manifesting
32:19 – New book
39:27 – Practicing self-love in relationships
45:30 – Healing from trauma: What worked for Vex
53:00 – Vex’s creative process
58:08 – Final message
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Bonus Episode: Becoming the Artist of Your Own Life: Aileen Xu on Embracing Your True Identity and Creativity
What does it really take to create your dream life? In this episode, Erika interviews Aileen about the story behind her success—from feeling invisible to inspiring millions through her creativity. They talk identity shifts, getting zero views, and staying true to your dreams—even when no one else sees the vision yet. If you’ve ever felt unseen, this conversation is your reminder: you can always become the artist of your own life.
Erika Casupanan is a media personality, keynote speaker and host of the award-winning podcast, Happy to See Me. She was the first Canadian to win the U.S. reality show Survivor. She uses her platform to spotlight and inspire people who have felt overlooked and underestimated.
TIMESTAMPS
0:00 - Hair Color as Identity
5:08 - Feeling Underestimated
7:35 - Breaking the Praise Cycle
11:59 - From Music to Self-Love
17:05 - The Early Days of Lavendaire
19:47 - The Pressure of Social Media Metrics
21:55 - Staying Neutral Through the Ups and Downs
24:10 - Moments That Made It All Worth It
27:26 - Living as an Artist of Life
32:15 - Listening to Your Intuition
34:36 - Human Design
36:20 - The Key Questions Aileen Asked Herself
38.22 - Last Message
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280: A New Approach to Success: How Tiny Experiments Can Transform Your Life with Anne-Laure Le Cunff
Are you tired of feeling behind, burned out, or like you're chasing a version of success that doesn’t actually fulfill you? In this episode, we explore a gentler, more joyful way to grow: through tiny experiments. This experimental mindset helps you shift away from perfectionism and pressure, and instead approach your goals with curiosity, creativity, and self-compassion.
Dr. Anne-Laure Le Cunff is a neuroscientist, entrepreneur, and writer who used to work at Google as a global lead for digital health. As the founder of Ness Labs, Anne-Laure writes to over 100,000 subscribers about evidence-based ways to achieve more without sacrificing your mental health. Her upcoming book, Tiny Experiments, is a transformative guide for living a more experimental life, turning uncertainty into curiosity, and carving a path of self-discovery.
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TIMESTAMPS
1:50 Her story
8:03 Relationship with success
14:32 Top tiny experiments
20:24 Is it fear or just not right for you?
28:33 Embracing the Unknown
32:03 Relationship with failure
33:46 Letting go of perfectionism
38:47 How to start a tiny experiment
41:18 How to prioritize experiments
42:37 Bringing play into daily life
45:55 Last message
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49:39
Bonus Episode: Staying True to Yourself Through Every Season with Aileen Xu
In this bonus episode, Aileen shares the story of how Lavendaire came to life and the beauty of embracing creativity, healing, and the unknown. She reflects on how music, dance, and journaling have become soulful tools for emotional well-being and authentic expression. Through her personal journey, Aileen explores how her struggles became seeds of connection, growth, and purpose. This heartfelt conversation is a reminder of the power in presence, beauty, and creating a life aligned with your truth.
Cathy Heller is a dynamic transformational coach, spiritual guide, meditation teacher, and inspirational speaker dedicated to helping individuals find ease, joy, and fulfillment in their lives. As the host of the Abundant Ever After podcast and author of the empowering book Don’t Keep Your Day Job: How to Turn Your Passion into Your Career, Cathy inspires her audience to pursue their dreams and live authentically.
TIMESTAMPS
1:09 – What Keeps Aileen Inspired
3:38 – What Guided Lavendaire Forward
6:34 – Catching the Wave of Opportunity
8:07 – How to Create Your Most Successful Year
11:27 – Discover What You Truly Want
18:34 – How Aileen Got Into Personal Growth
24:25 – Biggest Pain Points
30:42 – Self Love Rituals
36:00 – Manifestation
38:22 – Energetic Practices
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279: Energy Mastery: Unlock Your Confidence & Express Your True Self with Ariel Niu
What if you could master your energy and experience more authentic, balanced interactions with others? In this episode, we explore the power of becoming aware of your energy to help you navigate social situations with ease. You'll learn practical tips to stay grounded and present, allowing you to show up as your true self in every moment.
Ariel Niu is a thought leader on self and social dynamics through demonstrations on presence, delivery, and energy mastery. Through a blend of practical insights and spiritual principles, Ariel empowers individuals to balance their inner and outer worlds to better interact with themselves and others. Her mission is to show the world that energy is everything, helping others elevate their lives through intention, breathing, and balance.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:01 – Ariel’s Journey Into Energy And Social Dynamics
7:28 – Social Dynamics And Energy Basics
10:10 – Inner Vs. Outer Energy
14:10 – The Trifecta Formula
23:22 – Self-Love And Energy Mastery
30:07 – Confidence And Charisma
40:42 – Alert Nonchalance
50:15 – Ariel’s Meditation Practice
57:49 – Final Thoughts
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Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece.
The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to shine as your brightest self and create your dream life.
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