Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Why do you keep doing the exact things you told yourself you wouldn’t… even when you know better?
In this episode, we’re breaking down the truth about self-sabotage and why it’s not actually about discipline, willpower, or “being better.” I’m walking you through what’s really happening in those everyday moments… like when you say you’re going to go to the gym, start your routine, or get off your phone… and then don’t. Because what if self-sabotage isn’t you messing up… but you choosing between two very real needs?
You might want to listen if:
You keep saying you’ll start something… and then don’t follow through
You feel frustrated because you know what to do, but still don’t do it
You find yourself choosing the “wrong” thing and then judging yourself after
You struggle with consistency in your habits, routines, or even your relationships
You’re ready to stop the shame spiral and start understanding what’s actually going on underneath it

FIND OUT MORE!
Join the Speak Honest Academy 
Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn 
Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! 
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DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

Have you ever told yourself “I know this isn’t about me”… but still felt completely hurt, triggered, or thrown off by it anyway?
In this fifth coaching session with Cordelia, we get into what it actually looks like to be in the middle of healing when real life hits. When something happens that brings up old feelings, unmet needs, and that familiar frustration of “why is this still affecting me?” We talk about the tension between what you know logically and what your body feels emotionally. We explore how to stop judging your reactions, how to move out of shame spirals, and how to start getting curious about what your emotions are actually trying to tell you.
You might want to listen if:
You keep telling yourself not to take things personally… but still feel hurt when something happens
You feel frustrated that you “know better” but your emotions still take over
You tend to judge or shame yourself for having emotional reactions
You’re stuck in cycles where people hurt you and you’re not sure how to change it
You want to understand what your emotions are actually trying to tell you instead of pushing them away

Want more of Cordelia’s story? Check out her previous coaching sessions below.
Part 1: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2253591/episodes/18288326 
Part 2: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2253591/episodes/18457312 
Part 3: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2253591/episodes/18576189 
Part 4: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2253591/episodes/18729603 
FIND OUT MORE!
Join the Speak Honest Academy 
Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn 
Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! 
Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! 
Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

Ever wondered why you keep choosing the same kind of man… even when you know you deserve better?

In this episode, I’m breaking down what’s really going on beneath the surface. Because this isn’t about a lack of awareness… it’s about the emotional patterns your nervous system learned a long time ago. We’ll talk about why attachment wounds can feel like facts, how they quietly shape who you’re attracted to, and the difference between understanding your patterns and actually changing them. If you’ve ever felt like “I know better, so why do I keep ending up here?” This conversation is going to connect a lot of dots.

You might want to listen if:
You keep attracting emotionally unavailable men and don’t understand why
You know your patterns intellectually but still feel stuck in them
You find yourself overanalyzing, chasing, or trying to “fix” the connection
You feel frustrated because you know you deserve better but your choices don’t reflect it yet
You’re ready to stop repeating the same relationship cycle and start creating something different

FIND OUT MORE!
Join the Speak Honest Academy 
Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn 
Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! 
Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! 
Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

What the hell is attachment theory anyway… and why does it explain so much about the way we love?
In this special episode of Speak Honest, I’m giving you a sneak peek inside my bestselling book Dance of Attachment. Because I’m heading into the studio to record the audiobook, I wanted to share a piece of the book with you and walk you through the foundation of attachment theory. We explore how the emotional blueprint you developed in childhood can shape the way you connect in adult relationships, and why patterns like chasing, overthinking, or pulling away often make perfect sense once you understand your nervous system.
You might want to listen if:
You keep ending up in confusing relationship dynamics and can’t figure out why
You feel anxious or overthink everything when someone pulls away
You’ve heard of attachment styles but don’t fully understand what they mean
You want to understand the patterns behind your relationships
You’re ready to start learning a new way of showing up in love

FIND OUT MORE!
Join the Speak Honest Academy 
Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn 
Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! 
Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! 
Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

What if the “luck” you see in other people’s lives isn’t luck at all?
 In this episode of Speak Honest, I’m unpacking the belief that some people are just luckier than others. Whether it’s relationships, opportunities, or the way things seem to fall into place, it can be easy to feel like life keeps working for everyone else but you. But what if the real difference isn’t luck, it’s momentum? In this conversation, I’m walking you through the psychology behind locus of control, the powerful distinction between outcomes and inputs, and how secure women create movement in their lives by focusing on the choices they can repeat. If you’ve ever felt stuck, discouraged, or like life just keeps happening to you, this episode will help you start seeing where your real influence lives.
You might want to listen if:
You feel like life keeps working out for other people but not for you.
You find yourself waiting for the right timing, opportunity, or relationship to finally change things.
You spend a lot of emotional energy analyzing situations you can’t actually control.
You know your attachment patterns but still struggle to respond the way you want to in the moment.
You’re ready to stop waiting for luck and start creating real momentum in your life.

FIND OUT MORE!
Join the Speak Honest Academy 
Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn 
Join our FREE Community!  Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! 
Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! 
Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.