Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Have you been feeling heavier, more reactive, or emotionally exhausted lately, even though nothing specific seems “wrong”?
 In this episode of Speak Honest, I’m unpacking how collective grief, political unrest, and ongoing exposure to distressing news impact your nervous system and quietly spill into your closest relationships. We’ll talk about why your body might feel on edge before your mind catches up, how unprocessed stress shows up as anxiety or conflict at home, and why staying regulated is not avoidance but protection. This is a grounding, compassionate conversation for women who care deeply and want to understand what’s really happening beneath the surface right now.
You might want to listen if:
You’ve been feeling more tired, irritable, or emotionally sensitive lately and don’t know why
The news or social media has been leaving you with a low-level sense of unease or dread
You’re noticing more tension, reactivity, or distance in your relationships
You feel guilty for enjoying your life when so much is happening in the world
You want practical nervous system insight without being told to “just calm down”

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Join the Speak Honest Academy
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Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
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Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
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DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t because you don’t know what to do… but because you’re afraid of choosing the wrong thing?
 In this coaching call with Cordelia, we talk about what it really looks like to get clear on what you want when fear, uncertainty, and old patterns keep pulling you in different directions. We unpack job search anxiety, shiny object syndrome, and the very real fear of ending up back in environments where you don’t feel heard. This episode is about slowing down, listening to your body, and learning how clarity actually creates safety, confidence, and forward momentum.
You might want to listen if:
You feel paralyzed by too many options and second guess every decision you make
You’re afraid of starting over because you don’t want to repeat past patterns
You keep chasing new ideas or opportunities but never feel fully settled
Your nervous system gets activated around work, money, or being “put in a corner”
You want to feel more confident standing up for what you want without over explaining or backing down

FIND OUT MORE!
Join the Speak Honest Academy
Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

Should you tell your avoidant partner about attachment theory, or is that actually making things harder?
In this episode of Speak Honest, I unpack the very real urge to explain, teach, and hope that if your partner just understood attachment theory, everything would finally feel safer. We talk about why that urge so often comes from an activated nervous system, how timing and safety matter more than insight, and what actually creates change in anxious–avoidant dynamics. This episode isn’t about fixing your partner. It’s about understanding what’s happening inside you and learning how to get your power back in the process.

You might want to listen if:
You feel the constant urge to explain yourself or overteach when your partner pulls away
You’ve learned about attachment theory and want your partner to “get it” too
You notice yourself feeling more anxious, not less, after trying to help him understand
You’re stuck in a push–pull dynamic and don’t know how to change it without chasing
You want to feel calmer, clearer, and more grounded no matter how your partner shows up

FIND OUT MORE!
Join the Speak Honest Academy
Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

Is this your intuition… or is your anxious attachment getting activated?
In this episode of Speak Honest, I answer a listener question that so many self-aware women struggle with. You’ve done the work. You usually feel secure. And yet, in a new connection, something feels unsettled. Not dramatic. Not chaotic. Just off. Together, we break down the difference between intuition and anxious attachment, what secure attachment actually feels like in real life, and how to stay curious instead of turning on yourself when those feelings show up.
You might want to listen if:
 You thought you were secure but dating someone brought up anxious attachment
 You struggle to tell the difference between intuition and attachment activation
 You feel pressure to decide quickly whether to stay or leave a relationship
 You tend to judge or shame yourself when anxious attachment shows up
 You want to make more grounded, secure decisions in dating and relationships

FIND OUT MORE!
Join the Speak Honest Academy
Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

Do you ever feel like being easygoing somehow turns into being overlooked, dismissed, or taken advantage of?
In this episode, I sit down with Cordelia for our second coaching session and we unpack a pattern so many people live inside of without realizing it. When you’re flexible, capable, and willing to help, those traits can quietly become the reason you end up carrying more than your share, questioning yourself, and feeling trapped or burned out. Together, we explore how these dynamics form, how your nervous system responds when boundaries aren’t honored, and what it actually looks like to start responding differently in real time. This is an honest, grounded conversation about confidence, boundaries, and learning to trust yourself again without becoming rigid or shut down.
You might want to listen if:
 • You’re often described as easygoing but feel like it costs you
 • You struggle to say no and then feel resentful or overwhelmed afterward
 • You notice anxiety, shutdown, or burnout building over time
 • You second-guess yourself and wonder if you’re the problem
 • You want to set boundaries without feeling guilty, harsh, or unsafe
Check out Cordelia’s First Coaching Session

FIND OUT MORE!
Join the Speak Honest Academy
Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.