recovered-ish with chloe cox

Episode Description
Audio only this week — my phone broke, so no video version.
Our first real mini-sode. This one came out of a conversation with my Quasi-Recovery Exit alumni group about why rest is so uncomfortable for so many of us in recovery.
If you feel like you have to earn your rest the same way you once felt you had to earn your food — that's not a coincidence. I get into where that wiring comes from, what pushing past your limit is actually costing you, and the challenge I want to give you this week.
In This Episode:
Four days without a phone and what it woke me up to
Why rest feels unsafe when you've had an eating disorder
The transactional logic of earning rest — and why it mirrors earning food
Effort and ease, and why it was never meant to be one or the other
What pushing past your limit actually takes from you, even when it doesn't feel like it
Why challenging rest works the same way as challenging a fear food
Why we're hardwired for joy, and what it means that we treat it as optional
What I'm making peace with going into maternity leave
Your challenge this week: do the enjoyable thing before you feel like you deserve it
Timestamps:
0:00 Why this one is audio only
 2:30 What four days without a phone did for me
 3:30 Where this topic came from
 4:30 Why rest is so hard in recovery
 5:30 Earning rest the way you earned food
 7:00 Effort and ease
 8:30 Why rest makes effort feel better
 9:30 The episode I didn't record last week
 11:00 What pushing past your limit costs you
 13:00 How to actually practice resting
 14:30 Why joy isn't optional
 15:30 Making peace with maternity leave
 17:00 Your challenge this week
Resources + Connect with Me:
The Quasi-Recovery Exit — next cohort early 2027: https://recover-with-chloe.moxieapp.com/public/quasi-recovery-exit-application
Recovery Skills Training: https://www.recoverwithchloe.com/recovery-skills-training
Instagram: @recoverwithchloe
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Keywords/Tags: rest in eating disorder recovery, earning rest, productivity and eating disorders, perfectionism recovery, slowing down, hustle culture recovery, recovered-ish podcast, chloe cox, ED recovery podcast
Resources + Connect with Me:
Instagram: @recoverwithchloe
Recovery Skills Training: https://www.recoverwithchloe.com/recovery-skills-training
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Episode Description
I've been putting this episode off for months, honestly because I've been scared to record it.
I'm about to have a daughter, and ending the cycle of eating disorders in my family is one of the most important things to me. In this one I'm sharing where my head is at — what I used to think I had to be for her, what I actually believe now, and the specific things I've decided about how I'll talk about bodies and food in our house.
It's a shorter one. She could arrive any day!
In This Episode:
Why this feels different with a daughter, even though I want the same for my son
Parenting a child with dietary restrictions when you have an eating disorder history
How my eating disorder knowledge unexpectedly helps me keep my son safe
Why I no longer think I need to be perfectly recovered to raise a kid who is
What I'll say instead on hard body image days
Why I'm careful with positive body comments too — and what "you're so tiny" did to me
How I want to handle it when she's critical of her own body
Why "fat" is a descriptor in our house, not an insult
What I've learned watching my sister parent her kids
The blind spots I know I'm walking in with
Timestamps:
0:00 Intro + 37 weeks and honoring my limits
 1:30 Why I've been afraid to record this
 2:30 My son, his condition, and food restrictions
 3:30 When eating disorder knowledge becomes useful
 6:00 Why this hits differently with a daughter
 8:30 Identity outside the body as the real goal
 10:30 Why I don't have to be perfectly recovered
 13:30 What I'll say on hard body image days
 15:30 Why I won't pretend I love my body all the time
 17:30 Compliments, identity, and what I reflect back to her
 19:00 The "you're so tiny" problem
 20:30 Fat as a descriptor
 22:30 What I've learned from my sister
 25:00 Beginner's mind and the blind spots I know I have
Resources + Connect with Me:
Recovery Skills Training: https://www.recoverwithchloe.com/recovery-skills-training
Instagram: @recoverwithchloe — baby and maternity leave updates here
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Keywords/Tags: raising a daughter eating disorder, breaking the cycle, parenting after an eating disorder, body image and kids, intuitive eating kids, girl mom eating disorder, recovered-ish podcast, chloe cox, ED recovery podcast
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Instagram: @recoverwithchloe
Recovery Skills Training: https://www.recoverwithchloe.com/recovery-skills-training
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Episode Description
Almost twelve years into recovery, and a lot of what I once held as non-negotiable has shifted. Some of it through my own healing, some of it through years of sitting across from clients.
In this episode I'm walking through six things I used to believe about eating disorder recovery and now think differently about: exercise, being "recovered," harm reduction, intuitive eating, recovery content, and keeping it all private. Some of these might surprise you. You might disagree with some of them. That's okay. You're allowed to change your mind too.
In This Episode:
Why I no longer think exercise has to be 100% off the table for everyone, and the nuance that matters
Yoga, embodiment, and reconnecting with your body
Why "recovered" as a finish line bred perfectionism and hopelessness for me
Why I believe in harm reduction, even though some clinicians don't
Why intuitive eating is a great goal and a hard place to start
What I've come to believe about recovery content, including my own
Why I stopped keeping my eating disorder private
A season 2 preview, plus what maternity leave will look like for the show
Timestamps:
0:00 Intro + season 2 guest ideas
 1:30 Maternity leave and cocooning
 3:30 Today's topic: what I've changed my mind on
 6:00 #1: Exercise in recovery
 12:45 #2: "Recovered" as a destination
 17:45 #3: Harm reduction
 21:30 #4: Intuitive eating
 25:45 #5: Recovery content and influencers
 30:15 #6: Keeping my eating disorder private
 35:30 Closing thoughts
Resources:
Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch: https://www.intuitiveeating.org/
Recovery Skills Training: https://www.recoverwithchloe.com/recovery-skills-training
Instagram: @recoverwithchloe
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Keywords/Tags: eating disorder recovery, exercise in recovery, harm reduction eating disorders, intuitive eating recovery, recovery influencers, recovered vs recovered-ish, ED therapist, recovered-ish podcast, chloe cox
Resources + Connect with Me:
Instagram: @recoverwithchloe
Recovery Skills Training: https://www.recoverwithchloe.com/recovery-skills-training
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Episode Description
We talk about eating disorders in labs and vitals and weight. But when I look back at mine, the physical stuff was never the thing that woke me up.
What actually got me was everything else it took — the dinners I sat through without being there, the party I ran away from, the year in New York where I never once let myself have a bagel, the photo of my nana and my sisters that I'm not in.
In this episode I walk through those moments honestly. And then I tell you what each one looks like now, twelve years later. Because I got all of it back.
In This Episode:
Why we measure eating disorders by the wrong things
My sister's 21st birthday and the cup of minestrone soup
Why that night was about depression more than food
The opening night party I ran from in the middle of
The dinner my dad made — and the moment I still think about
A year in New York and a list of restaurants I never walked into
The ice cream photo I'm not in, and why it matters more now
What every one of those moments looks like today
Why the real cost isn't physical — and what that means for how you decide to recover
Timestamps:
0:00 Intro + the free class and RST launch
 3:00 Why this episode — the post that hit a nerve
 4:30 Why we focus on the physical and miss the rest
 8:00 My sister's 21st birthday
 14:00 What that same restaurant looks like now
 16:00 Opening night — the party I ran from
 22:00 Weddings, events, and where I am with that now
 25:00 The dinner my dad made
 31:00 Sunday family dinners now
 32:00 New York, bagels, and the list I never used
 36:00 Going back and doing it differently
 38:00 Hawaii, my nana, and the picture I'm not in
 42:00 Why I say yes to photos now
 43:00 What the eating disorder is taking from you right now
Resources + Connect with Me:
Recovery Skills Training — doors open, lifetime access: https://www.recoverwithchloe.com/recovery-skills-training
Instagram: @recoverwithchloe
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Keywords/Tags: what eating disorders cost you, eating disorder recovery, life after eating disorder, missing out eating disorder, recovery motivation, eating disorder and family, recovered-ish podcast, chloe cox, ED recovery podcast
Resources + Connect with Me:
Instagram: @recoverwithchloe
Recovery Skills Training: https://www.recoverwithchloe.com/recovery-skills-training
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Episode Description
Almost twelve years into recovery and body image is still hard for me sometimes. Pregnancy has made it harder.
In this episode I'm getting honest about where I actually am with it — and why "just be grateful for your body" has never been the thing that helps. I walk through a session of my own EMDR therapy, tracing my body image back to a memory from when I was about seven, and what came up that finally shifted something.
Spoiler: it wasn't self-love. It was anger — pointed at the right thing.
In This Episode:
Why body image is often the last piece to shift in recovery
What body dysmorphia actually feels like from the inside — and why "uncomfortable" doesn't cover it
Why "be grateful for what your body can do" falls flat, and who it leaves out
Holding gratitude and distress at the same time
What EMDR is and why I got trained in it for eating disorder work
The memory I traced my body image back to — and what came up when I processed it
Why anger turned out to be the most useful emotion in this work
Why your body is the least interesting thing about you (and why I won't soften that)
What to do if you can't connect to your own worth yet
Timestamps:
0:00 Intro + the September 15th class 2:30 Today's topic — body image 4:00 Why body image is the last piece to go 6:00 What body dysmorphia actually feels like 9:00 Why "just be grateful" falls flat 13:00 Holding gratitude and distress at once 15:00 Where I'm at with body image right now 16:00 What EMDR is and why I use it 19:00 My own session — tracing it back to age seven 22:00 What came up when I processed it 27:00 Anger as the thing that actually moved the needle 24:00 Your body is the least interesting thing about you 29:00 Looking back at the kid you were 31:00 The recipe — anger plus authentic connection to worth 33:00 Closing thoughts
Resources + Connect with Me:
🎓 FREE class September 15th — register and get the workbook right away: https://recover-with-chloe.myflodesk.com/masterclass
Instagram: @recoverwithchloe
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Keywords/Tags: body image eating disorder recovery, EMDR eating disorders, body dysmorphia, body neutrality, body image anger, what helps body image, recovered-ish podcast, chloe cox, ED recovery podcast, eating disorder therapist
Resources + Connect with Me:
Instagram: @recoverwithchloe
Recovery Skills Training: https://www.recoverwithchloe.com/recovery-skills-training
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