Life Uncut

Today’s episode is with one of our very favourite Bach alums Tara Pavlovic. Tara was on Laura's season of The Bachelor back in 2017, and despite the slightly unusual premise of competing for the same man, she's one of the people Laura has genuinely stayed close with ever since.
Tara is currently going through a separation. Not in the past tense, not with the benefit of two years of hindsight. She’s currently in the thick of it, while co-parenting two young kids and figuring out what life looks like on the other side. And she wanted to come and talk about it, because she knows there are women out there sitting exactly where she was sitting a few months ago, wondering if it's okay to make the decision to leave.
We chat:
The post-Bachelor world: fake attention, disingenuous people, and why it made trusting anyone so hard
Years of couples counselling, trying everything, and the moment the penny finally dropped
What it physically felt like in her body when the relationship was no longer working
Why "staying for the kids" isn't always the best thing
Separation and equal parenting
The judgment that comes when you're the one who leaves
Discovering she can kill spiders, mow lawns, and do everything she thought she needed someone else for
"Do I believe in love anymore? Absolutely not" and what she actually means
Life now: calm, present, peaceful, and genuinely happy
Tara also teases an upcoming podcast she's launching with Bachelor alum David Lloyd! Watch this space.
You can follow Tara on Instagram

Timestamps
0:00 — Introducing our sister wife: Tara Pavlovic
9:45 — Tara's love of kids, starting in childcare at 18, and becoming a mum
11:10 — What the post-Bachelor world was really like
16:00 — Dating again after BiP and why she went back to someone she already knew and trusted
17:15 — Getting into the separation: years of trying, couples counselling, and going quiet
19:45 — The cruise that changed everything — feeling peace for the first time in years
22:20 — How couples counselling helped, and when the counsellor finally said "staying for the kids isn't enough"
24:55 — Why staying together isn't always the answer for kids
28:25 — Did she feel guilty? Honestly, no — here's why
29:00 — The mental load she didn't know she was carrying
33:15 — Navigating what to share (and not share) on social media during a separation
37:30 — The surprising things: friendships shifting, being seen as the one who "broke the family"
38:30 — All the things she's discovered she can do by herself: spiders, lawns, everything
47:00 — Dating with kids: what she would and wouldn't introduce into her children's lives
46:45 — "I'm living the fairytale right now"
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Hey Lifers!
We kick off this week with Britt calling in from Italy (hungover, again 👀) and why it took us YEARS to stop performing on camera and actually just be ourselves with our naturally low voices.
Laura had a suspicious parcel arrive at her front door. It was full of syringes, tiny vials, and one very tanned man who came to collect it. We speak about the world of Melanotan, carrot maxing, and the very real question of whether eating 20 carrots a day will make you glow.
The roommate phase
Is your relationship resting or rotting? There's a big difference, and we break it all down from the red flags that say you're rotting to why the roommate phase is actually really common, and sometimes even kind of… nice? We chat about the trenches of parenthood, feeling a little flat in your relationship and finding novelty. Keeshia opens up about where she's at in her relationship and why she's genuinely embracing the rest.
We wrap up with sucks and sweets; Britt is a year into marriage and almost forgot her anniversary, Laura's baby Poppy is pulling herself up on everything and immediately face-planting, and Laura's heading to India with her sister.
TIMESTAMPS
0:00 — Britt's calling from Italy, hungover (again)
2:00 — 7 years of podcasting and our voices have completely changed
7:40 — The mysterious package
14:00 — What IS carrotmaxxing?
17:20 — The roommate phase: is your relationship resting or rotting?
19:30 — Having kids and the relationship shift — does it have to be negative?
22:30 — How to tell if you're just in a lull vs. something more serious is happening
30:00 — Keeshia opens up: she's embracing the roommate phase
35:20 — Resting vs rotting and what the real line is between the two
43:00 — Suck and Sweet
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Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deepest, darkest and most burning questions!
Vibes of the week:
Britt - Imperfect Women on Apple TV+
Laura - Kidnapped: Elizabeth Smart on Netflix
Keeshia - Kylie on Netflix

Then it's into your questions!
Q1: MY BOYFRIEND HAS BEEN USING MY TOOTHBRUSH. REGULARLY.
Six months in, she catches her boyfriend putting her toothbrush back in the holder. He casually says, "I thought we were at that stage." She was so shocked she didn't react. Now she has the biggest ick of her life and doesn't know how to bring it up.
Q2: OUR FRIENDS COPIED OUR ENTIRE RENOVATION
After years of work, late nights, and an enormous amount of emotional labour, her renovation is done and she loves it. Then her friends started their reno, asked a lot of very specific questions — and have now copied the whole thing. Right down to the tiles, stones and room colours. Her husband doesn't see the issue. She does.
Q3: I THINK MY BOYFRIEND MIGHT BE SECRETLY RICH AND HIDING IT FROM ME
Eight months in, she loves him and can see a future with him. But he's weirdly intense about splitting everything to the dollar and she's accidentally seen investment account balances, a large transfer, and a land tax invoice on his kitchen bench. He's never mentioned any of it.
Q4: FIANCE BROKE OFF ENGAGEMENT AFTER ‘FALLING OUT OF LOVE’
They'd been together four years, engaged for one. Both mid-20s. This was her first relationship and therefore her first heartbreak. He told her he'd been dealing with doubts internally for months before finally saying he'd fallen out of love and ending the engagement. She moved back home to her mum's. They've had three weeks of no contact and it's killing her. She still loves him and wants to know: can people fall back in love?
TIMESTAMPS
0:00 — Intro
2:57 — Vibes of the week
10:31 — Q1: My boyfriend has been secretly using my toothbrush. Regularly.
15:40 — Q2: Our friends copied our entire renovation
22:52 — Q3: I think my boyfriend is secretly rich and hiding it from me
34:44 — Q4: My fiancé ended our relationship three weeks before our engagement party
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Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne
Produced by Keeshia Pettit
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Hey Lifers! Welcome back to your weekend treat.
The nom nom nom discourse is real, it is divisive, and the feedback has been received. Laura is personally victimised. We will poll you.
Then we get into it:
Taylor Swift is getting married and there’s plus one drama. We ask if wedding guests have a right to feel hurt when their partner doesn't make the cut?
A woman on TikTok cried on camera because 39 children took over the pool and hot tub at her hotel; a hotel she specifically chose for the pool and hot tub.
You can hire a woman for $500 to turn up to your funeral. It’s petty, but it’s also impactful.
The Enhanced Games just wrapped up in Las Vegas. We speak about legal doping, $1 million prize pools, and Aussie Olympic swimmer James Magnussen throwing himself back in a decade after his Olympic career ended. Did anyone break any records? Is the IOC being petty? Should the Olympics just pay their athletes more? We get into all of it.

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS
0:00 — The nom nom nom saga
7:56 — Taylor Swift's wedding: no venue on the invites, no plus ones, and is Blake even invited?
21:16 — Woman goes viral crying over 39 kids taking over the hotel pool and hot tub
30:57 — The $500 funeral mourner: arrives in a limo, cries, disappears
39:49 — The Enhanced Games: legal doping, $1 million prize pools, and it just happened in Vegas

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Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne
Produced by Keeshia Pettit
Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley
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Hey Lifers!
Ellie Gonsalves is an Australian model, actress, podcaster and Wildlife Warriors Ambassador with a collective audience of over 5 million followers. Ellie first rose to prominence in the modelling world and has since built an international career, appearing in major campaigns like superbowl commercials and has transitioned into acting. Ellie has also been very open about some deeply personal experiences like losing her father to suicide, going no contact with her mum and the kind of life she wants to live.
One of the things that sparked huge conversation online was Ellie’s viral list of “117 reasons not to have kids,” a post that challenged expectations around motherhood and opened up a much bigger conversation about choice, pressure and what a fulfilling life can look like.
We chat:
Ellie’s excellent driving skills
How a Facebook page turned into a Super Bowl commercial and a Hollywood career
17 years with partner and manager Ross
The dark side of Hollywood
Losing her dad to suicide and the phone call that changed everything
Cutting off her mum completely and how she responds when people say "but she's your mum"
The viral list — 117 reasons she doesn't want kids — and what she says to people who call it selfish
Why moving back to Australia during Covid made her fall back in love with this country

TIMESTAMPS
0:00 — Intro
1:20 — Most embarrassing story
4:18 — Growing up a tomboy, modelling rejections & building a following
8:58 — Getting discovered on Instagram & the Super Bowl commercial
10:15 — 17 years with Ross
12:38 — Filming Fighting with My Family with Dwayne Johnson
14:30 — The viral list: 117 reasons she doesn't want kids
26:39 — Losing her dad
33:08 — Estrangement from her mum
42:25 — Ross as chosen family
45:12 — The reality of Hollywood vs the glamour
49:30 — Falling back in love with Australia

You can find everything from Ellie Gonsalves here
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Produced by Keeshia Pettit

Video produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley
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