#284 Let the Truth Set You Free: Amber Rae’s Story of Leaving to Love
In today's episode, I'm joined by international best-selling author Amber Rae of the book Loveable, who shares her incredible story of breaking free from a nine-year sexless marriage after realizing she was living out a "good girl" narrative that kept her needs and desires suppressed. Amber and I dive into the difficult process of coming to terms with a relationship that looks good on paper but isn't fulfilling in reality, how meeting a soulmate became the catalyst for honesty and change, and the often-unspoken shame around discussing intimacy issues within relationships. We talk about rationalizing our way into staying, the courage it takes to leave, and the even deeper work of healing childhood wounds and learning to show up authentically in a new relationship. Amber also shares what it was like navigating others’ judgments, processing her family history, and building a partnership based on true connection and willingness. Whether you’re questioning your relationship or seeking permission to honor your own needs, this conversation is all about finding freedom and self-love on the other side of heartbreak.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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#283 Listener Episode: Breaking Anxious-Avoidant Patterns with Chris
In today’s listener episode, I’m interviewing Chris, a man in his late 30s living in Arizona who is nearly two years out from a relationship that was marked by a classic anxious-avoidant dynamic. Chris opens up about navigating repeated breakup and reconciliation cycles with his ex, coming to terms with patterns of emotional unavailability, and the challenging process of finally walking away for good. We talk about what taking a full year to be single and focus on self-growth looked like for him, the deep patterns he noticed (both in his ex and himself), and how therapy and community support helped him rebuild his confidence after feeling completely lost. Chris also shares how dating again after a long break led him to a new, much healthier relationship, and what it’s been like to rewire old patterns and experience genuine emotional safety with a partner. This conversation is a refreshing look at heartbreak, healing, and growth from the male perspective, and I know so many listeners will relate to Chris’s story.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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#282 The Power of Doing What You Don’t Feel Like After a Breakup
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into one of my favorite—and most powerful—tools for breakup recovery: contrary action. I talk about how, in the midst of heartbreak, your thoughts and feelings can often steer you in the wrong direction, and why doing the opposite of what you feel like doing can be a true game changer. I share actionable ways to put contrary action into practice, how routines can support your healing, and why building self-trust and self-esteem really starts with showing up for yourself—especially when it feels hardest. I also discuss the tricky balance between listening to your feelings and pushing yourself just enough, providing tips for what to do when motivation is at its lowest. If you’re feeling stuck or unsure how to move forward, this episode is for you!To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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#281 Loneliness and the Power of Radical Listening with Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Robert Biswas Diener, pioneer in positive psychology and co-author of the book “Radical Listening.” We dive into the power of radical listening—what it actually looks like, why it’s so hard to practice during breakups, and how improving your listening skills can radically change how you process heartbreak and receive support. Dr. Robert and I talk about why loneliness is so prevalent right now, how to coach your friends and family to be better listeners, and why so many people feel misunderstood during a split. We also dig into why it’s important to understand your motives when you’re listening—or when you’re sharing—and how to ask for the kind of support you need, whether that’s to be heard, hugged, or helped. Plus, we cover what to do when you have to listen to things you really don’t want to hear (like “I don’t want to be in this relationship anymore”) and how so much clarity actually comes from hindsight listening. This conversation is packed with practical advice for anyone navigating heartbreak, wanting to be a better support system, or looking to have healthier conversations—breakup or not.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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#280 Learning to Love Better with Yung Pueblo
In today’s episode I’m joined by none other than Diego Perez—who many of you know as Yung Pueblo. This was such a pinch-me moment for me, getting to sit down with the author behind so many of my favorite books, and especially his newest release, “How To Love Better.” Diego opens up about his relationship with his wife and how their journey became the foundation for this new book. We talk about self-awareness, the idea of impermanence in relationships (and why we resist change so much), and how working on ourselves transforms the quality of our connections. Diego also shares his thoughts on how to accept breakups, when it might be time to let go, and why letting an incompatible relationship drag on can be an injustice to everyone involved. Whether you’re healing from heartbreak, looking to grow in your single life, or reflecting on what you want in your next relationship, there’s so much wisdom packed into this conversation. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Heal Your Heartbreak with your Break Up Bestie is a weekly podcast where each week I walk you through a topic as it relates to healing your heartbreak and helping you move through your break up. Topics include breaking up, healing, dating, and moving into happier and healthier relationships. The goal of this show is to provide hope, support, tips, and to remind you that you're not alone and don't have to go through this alone.
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