#276 Listener Episode: Breaking the On and Off Cycle
In today’s listener episode, I’m talking with Dionne, a proud Gen Xer who shares her story of a six-and-a-half-year, very on-again, off-again relationship that was marked by several breakups—some lasting just a weekend, others stretching to six months. We discuss how easy and addictive the breakup-get-back-together cycle can be, especially for those with anxious attachment styles, and the emotional toll it takes over time. Dionne opens up about the moment she finally decided to choose herself and the power of sticking to no contact after their final breakup. We also touch on the importance of self-compassion, learning from past patterns, and making empowered choices as you move forward in healing. I know so many of you will resonate with Dionne’s self-awareness and reflection, and I hope this episode inspires anyone who is struggling to break free from a similar relationship cycle.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out Effecty and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://www.effecty.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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#275 The Power of Rock Bottom
In today's solo episode, I'm diving into the topic of hitting "rock bottom" after a breakup—what it really means, why it matters, and how it can actually be a catalyst for deep change and healing. I share personal stories and draw some powerful parallels to sobriety and recovery, discussing why so many of us avoid fully feeling the pain after a breakup and the ways we try to distract or numb ourselves to avoid that lowest point. We talk about the importance of allowing yourself to truly be "done," what that looks like (and doesn't look like), and why embracing the pain instead of fighting it can provide the motivation you need to start genuinely healing. If you're struggling to let go, stuck in a cycle with your ex, or afraid of facing the sadness, this episode is here to remind you that rock bottom can be a turning point—and that this, too, shall pass.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out Effecty and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://www.effecty.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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#274 Healing Heartbreak with Intuition and Action with Laura Day
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by New York Times bestselling author Laura Day to dive into her newest book, The Prism, through the lens of heartbreak and healing. Laura and I talk about why breakups are so uniquely painful, what happens in our brains and bodies when we lose a relationship, and how intuition and ego both play a role in how we cope. We get into the seven centers of the ego, how the structures of our previous relationships can become both comfort and prison, and Laura shares practical tools for redirecting your energy after a breakup—rather than just telling yourself to “stop thinking about them.” We also cover the phenomenon of telepathic communication with exes, how to cut those invisible ties, the importance of rituals around breakups, and why action and building new routines are essential to healing. If you want real, actionable advice to rebuild after heartbreak (plus a peek into Laura’s own story), this episode is packed with wisdom and support.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out Effecty and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://www.effecty.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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#273 Using CBT to Rewire Your Thoughts with Judith Belmont
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Judith Belmont, an experienced therapist and author of multiple self-help books, including her latest, “110 CBT Tips and Tools.” We dive deep into the practical side of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and how its tools can help you through a breakup. Judith shares the most common unhelpful thought patterns people get stuck in after heartbreak, like all-or-nothing thinking and fortune telling, and gives actionable advice on how to identify, reframe, and work through those thoughts. We also talk about the difference between healthy journaling and spiraling, how to build self-compassion, and why healing is about getting through—not just getting over—a breakup. If you’re looking for tangible ways to support yourself and shift your mindset while feeling seen in your grief, you won’t want to miss this conversation.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out Effecty and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://www.effecty.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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#272 How Overusing Therapy Terms Can Hurt Your Breakup Recovery with Dr. Isabelle Morley
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Isabelle Morley, a clinical psychologist specializing in couples therapy and author of the recently released book They’re Not Gaslighting You. We dive deep into the rise and overuse of “therapy speak”—think labels like gaslighting, narcissism, and red flags—and how these terms, while validating for many, can sometimes stall real healing after a breakup. Dr. Morley and I discuss why we’re so quick to diagnose our exes, the emotional pay-off behind it, and how social media has amplified these trends in dating and relationships. We also explore how focusing on an ex’s pathology can keep us stuck, the real definitions behind words like “love bombing” and “gaslighting,” and how to safely navigate vulnerability and boundaries in new relationships. If you’re finding yourself lost in TikTok jargon or anxious about red flags, this episode will help you set the record straight and refocus your energy on real healing.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out Effecty and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://www.effecty.com* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Heal Your Heartbreak with your Break Up Bestie is a weekly podcast where each week I walk you through a topic as it relates to healing your heartbreak and helping you move through your break up. Topics include breaking up, healing, dating, and moving into happier and healthier relationships. The goal of this show is to provide hope, support, tips, and to remind you that you're not alone and don't have to go through this alone.
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