Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha

• How to Love Your Spouse When You Don’t Like Them with Ken and Tabatha Claytor

  Send us a textHave you ever found yourself loving your spouse but not particularly liking them in certain moments? That light switch they never flip off, those socks perpetually abandoned on the floor, or the crumbs consistently left on the counter – these small irritations can feel surprisingly monumental in marriage.In this heartfelt and humor-filled conversation, we unpack the critical distinction between love and like in marriage. After 26 years together, we've learned that those "little foxes that spoil the vine" – the everyday annoyances – can either become relationship-destroying mountains or opportunities for growth, depending on how we respond.We share candidly about our own friction points (bathroom door policies and house shoes rules included!) while exploring how these seemingly insignificant issues often reveal deeper relationship dynamics. The truth? Most conflicts arise when someone refuses to bend, creating power struggles that can eventually lead couples to divorce court citing "irreconcilable differences" – when really, they just never learned the art of mutual submission in small things.Beyond just identifying the problem, we offer practical wisdom for rekindling "like" in your marriage: intentionally building a case FOR your spouse rather than against them, getting curious instead of frustrated, reconnecting with what initially attracted you to each other, and closing emotional distance through meaningful conversations. Remember – love is a choice and a commitment that transcends fluctuating feelings.Whether you're in the butterfly-filled infatuation stage, the challenging "fight for power" phase, or working toward mature, committed love, this episode provides the tools to strengthen your relationship. Ready to transform how you view those everyday irritations? Listen now, and discover how to not just love your spouse, but genuinely like them again.GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/giveConnect with us:- Website:https://www.kenclaytor.comhttps://www.tabathaclaytor.comhttps://www.myalivechurch.org- Socials:Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/TikTok-@Ken_Claytor@Tabathaclaytor@myalivechurchFacebook-https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch- Ask us questions: [email protected]

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• Unlocking a Spirit-Fueled Marriage with Ken and Tabatha Claytor

  Send us a textMarriage can be beautiful, but it can also be incredibly challenging. In our case, the first two years were some of the hardest. What transformed our struggling relationship into a thriving partnership wasn't better communication or date nights—it was supernatural power.Many believers are missing a crucial element in their spiritual lives and marriages: the baptism of the Holy Spirit. This isn't just theological jargon—it's a real, transformative experience that Jesus promised to every believer. While salvation brings the Holy Spirit to live within you, there's a second, distinct experience where He comes upon you with power. Think of it like drinking water versus being immersed in it.For us, everything changed when we received this gift in 2001. Depression that had plagued our home for years disappeared. Priorities shifted naturally. Living a holy life became desire rather than duty. Most importantly, loving each other became easier because we weren't doing it in our own strength.Throughout the Bible, we see this pattern clearly. John the Baptist said, "I baptize with water, but Jesus will baptize you with the Holy Spirit and fire." In Acts, new believers regularly received this power through simple faith. It wasn't reserved for special Christians—it was (and is) for everyone who asks.The beautiful thing about this gift? You don't need to wait, tarry, or become perfect first. Jesus promised that if earthly parents know how to give good gifts, "how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask?" That's all it takes—simple, childlike asking.Ready to experience supernatural power in your marriage and life? Listen as we share our journey and practical guidance for receiving everything God has for you. This could be the missing piece you've been searching for.GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/giveConnect with us:- Website:https://www.kenclaytor.comhttps://www.tabathaclaytor.comhttps://www.myalivechurch.org- Socials:Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/TikTok-@Ken_Claytor@Tabathaclaytor@myalivechurchFacebook-https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch- Ask us questions: [email protected]

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• Your Spouse Isn’t the Enemy: How to Fight for Your Marriage Together

  Send us a textHave you ever felt like your marriage was under attack? You might be right—but the attacker isn't your spouse.When Ken and Tabatha Claytor stood at the altar 26 years ago, they had no idea their marriage would nearly end within two years. What saved them wasn't marriage counseling or communication techniques (though those helped). It was recognizing the spiritual warfare targeting their relationship."Marriage is God's idea, and it's the one relationship that shows the world how much Jesus loves the church," Ken explains. "This is precisely why Satan attacks it so fiercely." From their own near-divorce experience to now helping countless couples, the Claytor's have identified six tactical weapons the enemy uses to destroy marriages: division through distraction, bitterness and unforgiveness, sexual temptation, spiritual disconnection, miscommunication, and generational patterns.The turning point in their relationship came when they realized they weren't fighting each other—they were experiencing spiritual warfare. "It's not me against you," Tabatha emphasizes. "It's us against the devil." This perspective shift transformed their marriage from battlefield to partnership.Through transparent sharing of their early struggles—Ken's anger and resentment, Tabitha's depression, their communication breakdown—the Claytor's offer practical wisdom for recognizing when you're fighting the wrong enemy. Their candid discussion reveals how spiritual immaturity creates vulnerability to attack and how spiritual weapons can protect your marriage covenant.Whether you're newlyweds struggling through those challenging first years or long-married partners wondering why you keep having the same conflicts, this episode equips you with strategies to stand united against the true adversary of your marriage.Ready to transform your relationship by fighting the right enemy? Listen now and discover how to wage spiritual warfare that strengthens rather than destroys your marriage. GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/giveConnect with us:- Website:https://www.kenclaytor.comhttps://www.tabathaclaytor.comhttps://www.myalivechurch.org- Socials:Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/TikTok-@Ken_Claytor@Tabathaclaytor@myalivechurchFacebook-https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch- Ask us questions: [email protected]

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• Why You Should Stop Arguing Over the Little Things with Ken and Tabatha Claytor

  Send us a textWhat if the secret to a thriving marriage isn't found in solving every problem, but in choosing which problems actually matter? Drawing from 24 years of marriage experience, we reveal why "not sweating the small stuff" might be the relationship superpower you've been overlooking.Remember your wedding day? The birth of your children? The special celebrations? Of course you do. But do you remember every dirty dish, unmade bed, or forgotten errand that triggered an argument? Probably not—and that's precisely the point. When we fixate on minor irritations, we risk damaging something permanent over something temporary.We tackle the critical distinction between mothering and wifing—a relationship dynamic that silently erodes many marriages. A mother hovers, controls, and directs; a wife comes alongside, supports, and honors. Through the powerful concept of "incubation," we explore how wives can nurture their husband's vision rather than dominating or dismissing it. This partnership approach creates space for both spouses to flourish.Kindness emerges as the cornerstone of marital harmony. Many withhold kindness fearing it signals weakness, but scripture reveals kindness as divine strength in action. By becoming "Chief Encouragement Officers" in our homes, we create atmospheres where love thrives despite imperfections. The challenging question we pose: Would you want to live with you?Through the lens of the "love chapter" in 1 Corinthians 13, we provide practical guidance for letting love—not irritation—guide your responses. When we remember that "love keeps no record of wrongs," we free ourselves from scorekeeping and create space for genuine connection.Join us next Thursday as we continue unpacking marriage wisdom that transforms relationships from battlegrounds into sanctuaries where both partners can thrive.GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/giveConnect with us:- Website:https://www.kenclaytor.comhttps://www.tabathaclaytor.comhttps://www.myalivechurch.org- Socials:Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/TikTok-@Ken_Claytor@Tabathaclaytor@myalivechurchFacebook-https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch- Ask us questions: [email protected]

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• When to Hold On and When to Let Go: Navigating Life's Pivotal Moments

  Send us a textHave you ever faced a moment when everything you were working toward seemed to hit a wall? That intersection of disappointment and decision is exactly what we're diving into today as we explore the powerful concepts of pivoting and rebounding.Life rarely follows a straight line. Dreams get derailed, plans fall apart, and sometimes what seemed like the perfect path suddenly becomes impassable. But what if these moments aren't failures but invitations to something better? Drawing from our own journey through cancer, ministry transitions, and business pivots, we share how to discern when it's time to change direction versus when to push through resistance.The principle is simple yet profound: evaluate fruitfulness. Has what you've been doing produced the results you hoped for? If not, perhaps it's time for a strategic pivot. This doesn't mean abandoning your vision—it means finding a better route to get there. As we discuss in this episode, sometimes what appears to be a roadblock is actually divine redirection toward something greater than you initially imagined.Equally important is the art of rebounding after failure. Your past is just a chapter, not your whole story. Many of the most successful people attribute their greatest achievements to lessons learned through their biggest disappointments. What if your current setback is actually setting you up for your greatest comeback?The enemy of both pivoting and rebounding is a victim mentality. When we see ourselves as victims of circumstances rather than overcomers through Christ, we surrender our power to write the next chapter. Developing what we playfully call a "Scrappy" mentality—that determined spirit that refuses to stay down—positions you for victory regardless of what you're facing.Whether you're considering a change in your career, ministry, relationships, or personal development, this conversation will equip you with practical wisdom to navigate life's inevitable transitions with courage and faith. Subscribe, share with someone who needs this message, and join us at KenandTabitha.com for more resources to fuel your journey.GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/giveConnect with us:- Website:https://www.kenclaytor.comhttps://www.tabathaclaytor.comhttps://www.myalivechurch.org- Socials:Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/TikTok-@Ken_Claytor@Tabathaclaytor@myalivechurchFacebook-https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytorhttps://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch- Ask us questions: [email protected]

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