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The Danger of Loving Success More Than Your Spouse | Ezekiel Nkotsoe
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here -https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Support the vision and join the community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 29: ALTAR OF AMBITION In this episode, we sit down with Ezekiel Nkotsoe, seven months into marriage and already confronted with the question most men never dare to ask: "Am I idolizing success at the expense of my wife?" Ezekiel shares how his obsession with performance, numbers, and being “the best” collided head-on with the quiet but holy demands of marriage. What began as a journey to build wealth and legacy was slowly revealed as a quest for validation, rooted in childhood trauma and masked as ambition. As husbands, we often say we’re grinding “for the family,” but how many Christmases can you miss before you’ve actually started grinding away from them? Ezekiel opens up about the difficult conversations with his wife, his coach, and God, uncovering the subtle lies we believe about ambition, provision, and masculinity. He reminds us that spiritual, emotional, and physical presence matters more than the car you pull into the driveway. And sometimes, the most godly ambition is learning to be content, to be present, and to serve the family God has placed in front of you. This episode is not just for the high performers or sales guys in Jozi, it’s for every husband trying to reconcile his grind with his calling. Whether you’re newly married, seasoned, or still considering what kind of man you want to be, this conversation is a sacred space for honest reflection. Because at the end of the day, no amount of ambition can hold your hand when you're old, only the woman you chose to love well can do that. #thathusbandpodcast #ChristianHusbands #MarriageMatters #godlymarriage #husbandswholead #FaithAndAmbition #MarriageOverMoney #contentmentinchrist #menofgod #christianmanhood #MarriageIsWork #BlackLoveMatters #generationalwealth #AmbitionWithPurpose #FaithfulNotFamous #HusbandsSupportingHusbands #ModernMarriageTalks #HustleAndHoliness #EmotionalProvision #GodlyMasculinity #KingdomMen #christcenteredmarriage #marriagepodcast #RealTalkForHusbands #marriageandfaith
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Divorce, Loss, Hitting Rock Bottom - My Struggle To Provide For My Family | Caskey Ndaba
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here -https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Support the vision and join the community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 28: DON'T LEAVE A MESS BEHIND What happens when the baton is passed to us and we’re not ready to carry it? In this conversation with the incredibly grounded and eloquent Caskey Ndaba, we talk about what it means to become the uncles, the fathers, the leaders we once looked up to. From drafting a will to defining a family vision, we wrestle with the reality of death, not in fear, but in wisdom. Caskey reminds us that masculinity is less about the muscle and more about the mind, and that real manhood means planning, preparing, and protecting. Mr. Ndaba opens up about walking from Diepsloot to Centurion to restart his life after losing everything, including his home and career. He shares how his divorce and later, the tragic loss of his children’s mother, shaped his journey as a father and a husband. These are not just stories, they are scars with purpose. His vulnerability, wrapped in clarity and determination, reminds us that being a husband is not about perfection but about showing up, again and again, even when it hurts. We don’t just talk policies and funeral plans, we go deeper into the fears, insecurities, and silence that often keep men from leading well. Whether you're a newlywed, a father of three, or a man trying to fix the brokenness you inherited, this episode offers both a mirror and a map. Because in the end, being a husband isn’t just about loving your family, it’s about leaving them ready when you’re no longer here. Let’s talk legacy, leadership, and love—because silence is no longer an option. #thathusbandpodcast #failingforward #legacybuilding #husbandswholead #fatherhoodmatters #BlackMenLead #purposedrivenmen #masculinityredefined #ManhoodJourney #menoffaith #VisionForFamily #DeathPreparedness #WillAndTestament #lifeinsurancematters #financialfitness #ModernHusband #healingfromloss #breakinggenerationalcycles #BePresentDad #ManUpMovement #authenticmanhood #griefandgrace #RealMenPlan #LeadershipInMarriage #intentionalliving
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⁠Why Getting Married In Your 30's Doesn't Make You More Ready | Sbu Dube
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here -https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Support the vision and join the community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 27: CALLED TO BE PRESENT, NOT PERFECT! This week we sit down with Sbu Dube, for a heartfelt conversation where he opens up about the sacred moment he chose to love not just his wife, but her child too. He shares the weighty but beautiful decision of stepping into marriage with intention, not as a rescue plan, but as a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church. With honesty and humility, he reminds us that becoming a husband isn’t about perfection, but instead, it’s about presence, sacrifice, and a willingness to grow. Together, we explore the quiet fears that fathers often carry, the pressure to get marriage “right,” and how grace makes space for dreams to flourish in the home. Sbu's story takes us through his upbringing in a family that modeled long-term commitment, the lessons he gleaned from watching his father provide with silent strength, and how he carries those values into raising his own children. From changing nappies with trembling hands to the sacred joy of baptising his daughter, Sbu reveals that fatherhood isn’t just a title, it’s a calling, and sometimes, it starts the moment you say "I do." Whether you’re in the thick of raising young children, navigating a busy work-life balance, or wrestling with the tension between dreams and duty, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone. It's a call to stay home, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually. Because being a husband and father is less about doing everything right, and more about being right there when it matters most. Get in touch with us - [email protected] FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #HusbandsWhoLead #christianmarriage #blacklovestories #IntentionalFatherhood #modernmarriage #StepdadLove #marriagegodsway #PresentFathers #fathersmatter #faithandfamily #biblicalmanhood #marriagewisdom #lovelikechrist #parentingwithpurpose #husbandgoals #menoffaith #StayAtHomeDadVibes #marriageconversations #legacybuilding #fatherhoodjourney #godlymarriages #dadlifeunfiltered #christcenteredmarriage #marriagematters
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The Danger Of Marrying Someone Who Can't Handle You | Tshepo Hlongwane
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here -https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Support the vision and join the community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 26: BE THE HUSBAND YOU ENVISIONED What does it mean to be a husband in a world that’s constantly shifting its standards? In this episode, we sit with Tshepo Hlongwane, not just to talk about marriage, but to reflect on the weight and wonder of this sacred calling. From the lessons of mentorship, the quiet strength found in friendship with your spouse, to the spiritual responsibility of protecting your family, not just from physical harm but from the subtle spiritual battles, we leave no stone unturned. This is a conversation about choosing to show up even when it's hard, about repentance before repair, and about seeing your wife as a friend before a role. We dive into the real stuff. What happens when you're called to lead but feel underqualified? When your personal wiring clashes with your spouse's? When your dreams won’t let you rest? This episode unpacks how men can steward their marriages, their emotions, and their faith without letting shame or culture dictate the pace. Through laughter, conviction, and layered storytelling, this isn’t just theory, it’s lived experience. Blaque & Tshepo, wrestle with the everyday decisions that shape the men they become at home. If you're a husband who’s ever asked, "Am I doing enough? Am I becoming who God called me to be?", this episode is for you. Whether you’re newlywed, ten years deep, or just dreaming of what kind of husband you want to be, this conversation will meet you where you are. And it will push you, gently, intentionally, toward growth, friendship, and spiritual clarity. This is not just a podcast, it’s a mirror, it's a map, and it's a call to step up. Get in touch with us - [email protected] FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #ChristianHusband #FaithfulMen #KingdomMarriage #MarriageMatters #GodlyManhood #HusbandLife #LeadWithLove #MenOfFaith #HusbandGoals #MarriageGodsWay #SpiritualLeadership #BiblicalManhood #ProtectAndProvide #MenWhoPray #HusbandsWhoLead #RealMenRealTalk #MarriageConversations #MentorshipMatters #FriendshipInMarriage #ChristCenteredMarriage #HusbandGrowth #PurposeDrivenMarriage #ModernManOfGod #StepUpHusbands
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⁠I Hid My Pain So I Wouldn't Look Weak: The Price Men Pay To Pretend We're Okay | Alvin Fredericks
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up! https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband Support the vision and join the community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 25: FROM PAIN TO PROMISE In this episode, we sit with Alvin Fredericks of @thetruedadventurer a husband, father, and faithful follower of Christ, who walks us through a raw, heartbreaking, and ultimately redemptive journey through 5 miscarriages depression, spiritual wrestling, and healing. This isn’t just a story about grief, it’s a story about carrying unbearable weight silently, about standing at the edge of faith and finding God even when you feel abandoned. It’s a rare glimpse into what miscarriage and loss feel like for a husband, one who is expected to be strong, while silently fracturing on the inside. What do you do when you’ve done all the “right” things, but life still knocks the breath out of you? What does it mean to reflect Christ to your wife when you yourself are crumbling? Alvin opens up about being forgotten in the grief, misunderstood by the church, and pushed to the brink of ending it all. But he also shares the power of faithful friends, fatherly love, and how God used an unexpected encounter to plant the seed of hope again. This episode is not about easy answers, it’s about honest questions, deep pain, and a real Saviour. If you're a husband walking through loss, or standing beside someone who is, this episode will move you. It’s for the men who feel unseen in their suffering. It's for the ones who keep showing up despite the weight. And it’s for anyone who needs a reminder that even in deep suffering, God is not absent, He is forming something eternal. This is not just an episode; it's a lifeline. Get in touch with us - [email protected] FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #faithinsuffering #husbandswholead #MarriageAfterLoss #miscarriageawareness #MenAndGrief #christianhusbands #fatherhoodjourney #infantlosssupport #biblicalmanhood #HopeInHeartbreak #GodInTheStorm #marriageministry #faithoverfeelings #healingtogether #christiantestimony #MenWithFeelings #HusbandPerspective #JesusInThePain #RealMarriageTalk #failingforward #christianpodcast #griefandgrace #christcenteredmarriage
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