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She Was Fed Up With Church Boys, Then God Interrupted Her With Me | Kevin Makhubo
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband's Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 19: DIVINE PLOT TWIST Sitting across from Blaque Nubon is Kevin Makhubo—a husband, father, and man of God, who opens up about his journey from rejecting the idea of marriage to becoming a husband defined by love and sacrifice. His reflections are not polished soundbites but raw truths, soaked in years of wrestling with God, unlearning broken definitions of masculinity, and submitting to a higher calling. Kevin’s story is not just inspiring; it is deeply confronting for any man who has wondered if he has what it takes to be a present, intentional, and loving husband. What makes this conversation especially rich is Kevin’s transparency about his relationship with his absent father. At 23, he chose to forgive a man who had wounded him not with violence, but with silence and absence. That act of forgiveness, rooted in obedience to God, unlocked a freedom that shaped the kind of husband and father Kevin would become. It's a testimony that manhood is not inherited, it’s forged. Kevin chose to become the man he never had, breaking generational pain with courageous vulnerability and relentless faith. His reconciliation with his father wasn’t about receiving closure, it was about releasing the burden so he could walk into marriage whole. The episode also dives into the sacred messiness of marriage, how passion, playfulness, purpose, and pain coexist in a lifelong covenant. Kevin’s reflections on sex, spontaneity, spiritual alignment, and shared purpose with his wife are refreshingly honest and disarmingly insightful. This isn’t a highlight reel of a perfect marriage, it’s a living, breathing example of two people choosing each other every day, even when it costs them. His encouragement about the power of brotherhood, the importance of accountability, and the freedom that comes from open conversations, especially about sex and finances, makes this episode a gift for any man who wants to grow, not just as a husband, but as a whole person. Get in touch with us - [email protected] FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #christianmarriage #godlymarriages #MarriageWithPurpose #KingdomCouples #HusbandsWhoLead #marriagetestimony #LoveAndSacrifice #marriagegodsway #PurposeDrivenMarriage #faithfulhusbands #healingformen #MenWhoPray #breakinggenerationalcycles #VulnerableManhood #GodlyMasculinity #HusbandInProcess #failingforward #MenNeedBrotherhood #PurposeOverPride #RedemptiveLove #frompaintopurpose #GodRewritesStories #ObedienceOverComfort #graceinmarriage
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Saying Vows Was Easy - Walking In Love, Honesty & Regret For 43 Years Is Something Else | The Gules
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband's Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 18: IT’S NOT MAGIC, IT’S MAINTENANCE In this deeply personal episode, we sit down with Drs. Jerry and Gugu Gule, a couple whose love story spans more than 43 years of marriage. From a chance encounter in a university book queue to decades of shared life, the Gules offer a rare glimpse into a covenant marked by friendship, faith, and fierce commitment. Their story is not just about longevity—it’s about intentional love, expressed through the small, ordinary moments that become extraordinary in hindsight. They show us that behind every lasting marriage are difficult conversations, the willingness to say “I’m sorry,” and the sacred act of wiping away each other’s tears—even when you’ve been the cause of them. What makes this episode especially profound is the vulnerability and humility with which the Gules reflect on their journey. Dr. Jerry shares the painful memory of missing a key moment in their second child’s birth due to work, a regret that still weighs heavily on him. Dr. Gugu opens up about the ways in which her early life shaped a guarded, assertive posture and how Christ slowly transformed her heart toward gentleness and forgiveness. They describe how prayer, humour, and a shared commitment to reconciliation helped them navigate heartbreak, misunderstandings, and evolving needs across different seasons of marriage. Together, they model a kind of love that is deeply sacrificial, wholly authentic, and refreshingly unpretentious. This episode is more than just a conversation—it’s a testament. A reminder that marriage, at its best, is not built on grand romantic gestures, but on the slow, steady accumulation of mutual service, grace, and laughter. For every husband and wife wondering if it’s still possible to love and be loved for a lifetime, the Gules offer hope and a blueprint. And in a world that often tells us to walk away when things get hard, this story gently insists: stay, listen, forgive, and grow together. Get in touch with us - [email protected] FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #MarriageThatLasts #RealMarriageStories #FaithAndMarriage #BlackLoveMatters #MarriedForLife #MarriageBlueprint #IntentionalLove #StayingPower #GritAndGrace #LoveInTheOrdinary #MarriageTestimony #ChristCenteredMarriage #PrayerfulLove #HumbleLove #MarriageGrowth #LifelongLove #SacrificialLove #MarriageVowsLived #HopeForMarriage #ForgiveGrowRepeat #LegacyOfLove #MarriedNotPerfect #EverydayMarriage #GraceInMarriage
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Stop Chasing, Just Commit – What I Keep Learning From Loving a Good Woman | Bonko Khoza
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband's Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 17: SHE GAVE ME FREEDOM TO FIND MY VOICE In this episode, we sit down with the incredibly thoughtful and grounded Bonko Khoza — not just as an actor, but as a husband, father, and man who continues to wrestle honestly with what it means to show up for the people he loves. This is a conversation between husbands for husbands, where we strip back the performances and talk real about legacy, failure, oneness, sacrifice, and the quiet strength it takes to stay committed — not just to our wives, but to the kind of men we aspire to be. We talk about the gift and weight of fatherhood, the long road of partnership, and how black men are redefining marriage not as an institution of performance, but of purpose. Bonko shares deeply about how his wife has been both his safety and mirror, and how navigating change within marriage requires humility, introspection, and a kind of teamwork that often goes unseen. This episode isn’t about perfection — it’s about persistence, vulnerability, and learning to love from a place of truth, not tradition. If you're a husband, or hope to be one, this episode is a love letter to the sacred and messy middle of marriage. It's for those who grew up without examples and those who carry the legacy of good men. It's for the ones trying to break cycles, build homes, and do the work of becoming. As always, this space is for us — to know better so we can do better. Welcome back to That Husband Podcast. Get in touch with us - [email protected] FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #BonkoKhoza #BlackMenInLove #marriagematters #HusbandsForHusbands #modernmarriage #BlackLoveMatters #fatherhoodjourney #husbandgoals #authenticmanhood #creativecouples #marriagewisdom #VulnerableConversations #sacredmasculinity #faithandfamily #emotionalintelligence #LoveAndLegacy #CommitmentOverComfort #healthymasculinity #buildingtogether #MarriageIsWork #OnenessInMarriage #blackfathersmatter #LoveIsLabor #marriageiswork
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A Shack, A Secret & A Dream: She Stayed Even With A Leaking Roof - Jacob Msipha
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband's Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 16: HOW FAR ARE YOU WILLING TO GO? In this episode, we sit down with Pastor Jacob Msipha, a man whose 20-year journey through marriage and ministry defies the odds and dismantles the myths. From building a church in a leaking shack to nurturing a vibrant home, Pastor Jacob opens up about the grace, grit, and vision that have carried him through seasons of triumph and turbulence. His story is not one of perfection, but of relentless faith and deeply intentional love. If you've ever questioned whether favour follows marriage, this conversation will challenge and uplift you. We unpack what it means to be a husband—not just in title, but in spirit, vision, and responsibility. With humility and wisdom, Pastor Jacob reflects on the importance of vision-casting in marriage, the power of vulnerability, and how trust in God becomes the anchor when clarity fades. He doesn't shy away from the hard moments—those when depression, doubt, or silence from heaven fill the room—but he reminds us that the strength of a marriage often lies not in answers, but in who we become while waiting for them. More than a podcast episode, this is a masterclass in building: building marriages, building families, and building legacy. Whether you're newly married, a decade in, or still wrestling with what partnership looks like, Pastor Jacob’s reflections will meet you where you are. Tune in, take notes, and be reminded—this isn't about becoming superheroes; it's about showing up, every day, and choosing to build anyway. Get in touch with us - [email protected] FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/
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I Was A Christian Leader, Then I Got Her Pregnant - Lebohang Mohoera (fixed audio)
BEANS & BONDS happens every month! Sign up here - https://thathusband.kit.com/63905de2db Join That Husband's Corner, our mailing list, and community - https://linktr.ee/ThatHusband [S2] EPISODE 15: REALITY CHECK! In this raw and soul-baring episode, we sit down with Lebo—a young man, a youth leader, a soon-to-be husband—who opens up about the most sobering season of his life. From preaching on the streets, to falling in love with a woman he dreamed of marrying, Lebo takes us through a journey marked by conviction, love, and an unexpected pregnancy. What unfolds is not just a story of “crossing the line” but one of wrestling with leadership, identity, and faith under the weight of public failure. This isn't your typical testimony. It’s the emotional unpacking of what it means to own your mistakes, not just privately but publicly—before your church, your family, your peers, and the very youth you were leading. Lebo doesn’t run from his role as a man; instead, he leans into it, bearing the full weight of accountability and finding unexpected strength in the process. In a world where ghosting responsibility is the norm, this is a call back to staying—when it’s hardest, most humiliating, and when the stakes couldn’t be higher. Whether you’re a man struggling with hidden shame, a couple navigating blurry lines, or someone needing a reminder that grace isn’t just an idea but a lived reality, this episode will meet you in the thick of it. It’s unfiltered, reflective, and redemptive—and ultimately, it’s about a man who slipped on the job but didn’t stay down. This is what it looks like to lead even when you’re broken. Get in touch with us - [email protected] FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #MarriageUnfiltered #RealTalkMarriage #ModernMarriageMatters #YoungBlackMarried #BlackLoveTruths #UnplannedPregnancy #MarriageWithoutFilters #MillennialMarriage #HusbandChronicles #MarriageIsWork #FaithfulHusbands #HusbandLife #MarriageTruths #SexBeforeMarriage #MarriageIsNotEasy #UnspokenMarriage #ChristianMarriageTalk #VulnerableHusbands #NoMoreGatekeeping #MarriageLessons #MarriageStruggles #BlackMenLove #WeDoTalk #ThatHusbandPodcast #KingdomMarriage #Let’sTalkMarriage #ManhoodMoments #Celibacy
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