That Husband Podcast

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[S3] EPISODE 37: WHY DO YOU HANDLE CONFLICT THE WAY YOU DO?

In this episode, Blaque sits down with VTJ Masakona for an honest conversation about conflict, pressure and the different ways husbands respond when marriage gets difficult. They unpack the different kinds of husbands that can emerge under pressure: the husband driven by ego, the husband who needs to be needed, and the husband driven by fear. What looks like love, leadership or sacrifice on the surface can sometimes be rooted in something much deeper.

VTJ and Blaque talk about what happens when a husband tries to be everything for his wife, why some men struggle to admit they no longer have the capacity to show up the way they once did, and how the need to be needed can become part of a man's identity.

They also get into the harder side of conflict: silence, emotional capacity, difficult conversations and the importance of choosing the right language when emotions are high. Sometimes the issue isn't the person you're fighting with. It's the thing that has happened — and learning to face that thing together can change the entire conversation.

VTJ also shares deeply personal experiences of loss, vulnerability and learning to process pain alongside his wife, including the realisation that two people can experience the same loss without experiencing it in the same way.

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[S3] EPISODE 36: WOULD I LET MY SON MARRY THIS EARLY?

In this episode, Blaque sits down with Allan P to talk about getting married young and what 13 years of marriage has taught him about the decision he made at just 21. While he doesn’t regret marrying his wife, but looking back, there are things he wishes he had understood before saying “I do.” They talk about what it really means to be ready for marriage, the role of financial stability, the importance of having a healthy community around you, and why faith without preparation can sometimes become an excuse for poor planning.

They also wrestle with a bigger question: If his son came to him at 21 and said he wanted to get married, would he encourage him to do it? From growing up alongside his wife to building a family together, Allan P reflects on the challenges of learning marriage while already living it, the mistakes he made in his younger years, and the bond that can come from building a life together from the ground up.

This isn't a simple argument for or against getting married young. It's an honest conversation about maturity, responsibility, preparation, community, faith and whether you're actually ready for what marriage requires.

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[S3] EPISODE 35: 12 YEARS IN AND STILL LEARNING

In this week's episode Blaque sits down with Anele for an honest and necessary conversation about divorce, identity, healing, and the journey of finding your way again. Drawing from his book, Thrive, Anele Matshisi opens up about the phases men go through after divorce moments many are never prepared for and few feel safe enough to talk about. Together, they unpack the weight of separation, the questions it raises around purpose and identity, and the quiet struggles men often carry behind closed doors.

This conversation goes beyond simply surviving heartbreak. Anele reflects on what it takes to confront pain honestly, rebuild your life with intention, and heal in a way that does not leave you repeating the same patterns. From loss and loneliness to self-worth, responsibility, and rediscovering purpose, this episode makes space for the real work of becoming whole again.

They also explore why men need healthier conversations around divorce, support through life’s hardest transitions, and the courage to seek healing instead of hiding behind strength. If you’ve experienced divorce, felt disconnected from who you are, or are trying to rebuild after a season that changed everything, this conversation is for you.

 

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[S3] EPISODE 34: THE GRIEF MEN AREN'T PREPARED FOR

In this week's episode Blaque sits down with Anele for an honest and necessary conversation about divorce, identity, healing, and the journey of finding your way again. Drawing from his book, Thrive, Anele Matshisi opens up about the phases men go through after divorce moments many are never prepared for and few feel safe enough to talk about.

Together, they unpack the weight of separation, the questions it raises around purpose and identity, and the quiet struggles men often carry behind closed doors. This conversation goes beyond simply surviving heartbreak. Anele reflects on what it takes to confront pain honestly, rebuild your life with intention, and heal in a way that does not leave you repeating the same patterns. From loss and loneliness to self-worth, responsibility, and rediscovering purpose, this episode makes space for the real work of becoming whole again.

They also explore why men need healthier conversations around divorce, support through life’s hardest transitions, and the courage to seek healing instead of hiding behind strength. If you’ve experienced divorce, felt disconnected from who you are, or are trying to rebuild after a season that changed everything, this conversation is for you.

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[S3] EPISODE 33: SHOWING UP IS NOT ENOUGH

In this live episode of Beans and Bonds, Blaque sits down with Muzi Mthabela for an honest conversation about marriage, leadership, family, and the intentional work of building a home that lasts.

Filmed in March 2025, they unpack what it means for a marriage to be grounded by vision, grown through hard work, and kept alive through the joy of truly enjoying one another. Muzi reflects on the example of the men who shaped him, the importance of leading with love, and why marriage is something we build brick by brick not simply walk into.

They get real about the trauma we bring into relationships, the unspoken expectations that quietly create pressure, and the need to communicate before resentment takes over. From forgiveness and healing to fatherhood and faith, this conversation challenges husbands and future husbands to take responsibility for the kind of family they are building.

They also explore the role of men in restoring the Black family, the power of having a clear vision for your home, and what it looks like to lead your family with intention, humility, and godliness. If you’ve ever felt the weight of marriage, struggled to communicate what you need, or wondered how to build a family that is rooted in more than appearances, this conversation is for you.

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