Dad Starting Over

A guy emailed me something that a lot of men are quietly thinking but don’t want to say out loud…
“My wife used to be wild before me. Now she barely wants anything to do with me.”
This one stings. Because it forces you to compare yourself to her past—and wonder what changed.
In this episode, I break down what’s really going on when a woman who once had a strong sexual side suddenly shuts it down in a long-term relationship.
We talk about:
• The science behind the honeymoon phase and why it fades
• Why novelty and newness play a bigger role than most people realize
• How some people are wired to need “new relationship energy” to feel desire
• Why this isn’t always about you—but sometimes it is
• What men can actually do (and what they can’t fix)
If you’re in a sexless marriage and feel like you’re not getting the version of her that other men got… this one will hit home.
Start here:
https://deadbedroomfix.com

If you want to talk to other men going through this and get real feedback:
https://helpformen.com/join

A guy reached out to me after 15 years of marriage and a completely dead bedroom.
No intimacy. No desire. Nothing.
Then one day, he finds out his wife is cheating.
But not with another man… with another woman.
Now he’s trying to make sense of it:
Is she gay?
Is this just a phase?
Why does she suddenly have a sex drive again… just not with him?
In this episode, I break down what’s really going on when a woman checks out of a marriage and redirects her desire somewhere else.
We talk about:
• Why female sexuality tends to be more fluid than most men realize
• What the research actually says about attraction and arousal
• Evolutionary psychology theories behind same-sex exploration
• Why sexless marriages don’t mean “low libido”
• The uncomfortable truth most men avoid facing
If you’re in a sexless marriage or feel like your wife has completely lost interest in you, this will hit close to home.
Start with my book here:
https://deadbedroomfix.com

If you want support from men who understand this and won’t sugarcoat things, check out the Brotherhood:
https://helpformen.com/join

A husband wrote to me after 16 years of marriage.
Their sex life had slowly faded until they were barely intimate at all.
Then he noticed something strange.
His wife became very protective of her phone.
One day he looked.
What he found wasn’t explicit cheating… but it explained a lot.
In this episode we talk about:
• Emotional affairs and how they begin
• Why sexless marriages create vulnerability
• What to do when you discover suspicious messages
• Why confrontation often backfires
If you’re dealing with a sexless marriage, start here:
https://deadbedroomfix.com

If you want grounded support from men navigating similar situations, check out the Brotherhood:
https://helpformen.com/join

Have you ever noticed how your wife or girlfriend can recall arguments from 10… 15… even 20 years ago with incredible detail?
Not just the event itself.
The exact words.
The tone.
Where you were standing.
What you said.
Meanwhile you're sitting there thinking, “I barely remember last week.”
In this episode, I explain why this happens and why women often remember emotional events in relationships far longer than men do. It’s not just a stereotype. There are real psychological and biological reasons behind it.
We’ll talk about emotional memory, rumination, relationship pattern tracking, and why unresolved emotional injuries can stay alive in someone's memory for decades.
Understanding this dynamic can completely change how you view long-term relationships and recurring arguments.
If you’re dealing with a struggling marriage, resentment that never seems to go away, or a sexless relationship, this video will give you some useful insight.
If you're struggling with a sexless marriage, check out my book:
https://deadbedroomfix.com
And if you want support from men dealing with the same issues, learn more about the Help For Men Brotherhood:
https://helpformen.com/join
We host multiple live meetings every week where men talk openly about marriage problems, divorce, dating after divorce, and rebuilding their lives.
You're not alone in this.

A husband wrote to me after 18 years of marriage.
Their sex life had slowed down like many long relationships.
Then one day his wife said something he never expected:
She wanted an open marriage.
She said it could make their relationship stronger.
He feels like the ground under his marriage suddenly shifted.
In this episode, I discuss:
• Why open marriage conversations often appear suddenly
• The role of novelty and new attention
• Why agreeing under pressure leads to resentment
• What a man should do when the relationship rules suddenly change
If you’re struggling in a sexless marriage, start with The Dead Bedroom Fix:
https://deadbedroomfix.com
If you want grounded support from men navigating similar situations, check out the Brotherhood:
https://helpformen.com/join