“30 Years in a Dead Bedroom… Then She Finally Told Me Why” - Live Chat With Michael
Michael reached out to me with a story I hear way too often. Thirty years of a sexless marriage, confusion, shame, guilt — and then, one day, his wife finally opens up with a truth that changed everything.In this raw, honest conversation, we explore what it means to sacrifice your needs, the silent damage it does, and how deeply hidden trauma can shape a marriage for decades.This one’s for the guys out there wondering:“Is it me?”“Am I broken?”“Should I just stay?”…or finally walk away.Join The HFM Brotherhood!
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“We Divorced, Remarried… Now She Wants to Date Again?”
In today’s Dear DSO, I respond to a heartbreaking story from a 39-year-old Army Special Ops veteran who's been through the wringer—divorce, remarriage, infidelity, therapy, and now… his wife wants to separate again, “date,” and possibly reevaluate in six months.If you've ever felt like you're living in a constant loop of chaos in your relationship, especially after betrayal, this one will hit home. We unpack anxious attachment, gaslighting, guilt, PTSD, and how military culture compounds all of it.Join The HFM Brotherhood!
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“Depressed About Marriage… Is It Even Worth It Anymore?”
In this episode of Dear DSO, I respond to a letter from Jerome—a man who’s feeling disillusioned and depressed about relationships and marriage. After a breakup and years of being told that “marriage is the dream,” he’s beginning to question everything.Does long-term monogamy even work anymore? Are women really wired for it? Is the “wife and kids” dream still alive for men today?I unpack all of this and more—including what I’ve learned from helping thousands of men, my interview with Women’s Infidelity author Michelle Langley, and my own personal experiences.📩 Submit your own story or question at https://DearDSO.comJoin the HFM Brotherhood!
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How Nice Guys Sabotage Their Relationships | Dr. Robert Glover (No More Mr. Nice Guy)
In this live conversation, I sit down with Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, to talk about the psychology of the modern man—especially the ones struggling in dead bedrooms, difficult marriages, and post-divorce confusion.We dig into why so many men unknowingly sabotage their relationships, how covert contracts fuel resentment, and what it takes to stop being the “nice guy” and start living a better life. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a marriage with no affection, no sex, and no answers—this is the episode for you.👉 Want to meet Dr. Glover in person? He’ll be at BroFest 2026 in Louisville, KY! Sign up here: BroFest2026.com
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Comfort Kills Desire? The Erotic Cost of Feeling Safe in Marriage
We all crave emotional safety and stability in our long-term relationships…But what if that very safety is what slowly smothers erotic desire?In this livestream, I dive into one of the most frustrating and misunderstood dynamics in long-term monogamy: the trade-off between comfort and sexuality.Why does it feel like the more secure your relationship becomes, the more the passion disappears?Join The HFM Brotherhood!
Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place.
I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books called "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" and "Red Flags". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on-one coaching, and the member-only part of my site called the Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com
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