In this powerful Dear DSO entry, I read a message from a man whose wife left him after 20 years of marriage. He gave everything to his family—his time, energy, identity—and now he's completely lost. No friends. No hobbies. No direction.This story is not uncommon, and it shines a light on what happens when men sacrifice themselves entirely for the sake of family and end up with nothing when it all falls apart.In this video, I break down his story and share what men in similar situations can do to rebuild and come back stronger than ever.👉 Need help rebuilding your life after divorce?Join the HFM Brotherhood
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"My Wife Is Polyamorous Now – And Wants Her Boyfriend in Our Bed"
A husband writes in with a heartbreaking and outrageous story: after 16 years of marriage and raising six boys together, his wife gave him an ultimatum — “Open marriage or no marriage.” She claims to be polyamorous and bisexual… and already has a boyfriend she’s in love with. Now she expects her husband to accept it — even while the boyfriend sleeps with her in their own marital bed.In this episode of Dear DSO, Ralph (Dad Starting Over) breaks down the emotional chaos, what’s really happening behind the scenes, and what this man — and others in similar situations — need to do next.🧠 Topics Covered:Open marriages and polyamoryBetrayal trauma and denialEmotional manipulation in relationshipsWhat healthy boundaries actually look likeWhy men must take back control of their lifeJoin The HFM Brotherhood!
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"My Wife Cheated with Our Neighbor and Lifelong Friend – What Now?"
What happens when your wife cheats... not just with anyone, but with your married next-door neighbor you've known since childhood?Jake wrote in to share his heartbreaking story of betrayal and confusion after discovering a year-long affair between his wife and their neighbor. They've been together 13 years, have kids, and he’s trying to work through it—but the emotional fallout is brutal.In this episode, we break down:Why affairs feel so addictively powerfulWhy “forbidden and new” is a dangerous comboWhat healing really looks likeThe brutal truth about reconciling after infidelityJoin The HFM Brotherhood!
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She Used a Vibrator… and He Called It Cheating - A Live Chat With a Female Follower
Victoria reached out to share her story — a candid, emotional, and often shocking look into a toxic relationship filled with insecurity, gaslighting, and infidelity.From being accused of cheating over a sex toy…To discovering her partner was visiting massage parlors and hiding condoms…To finding the strength to walk away for the sake of her child and herself.This is one woman’s raw account of breaking free, setting boundaries, and learning to trust herself again.If you’ve ever stayed too long in the wrong relationship, this one’s for you.Join The HFM Brotherhood!
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Do Men Still Need Marriage? - My Live Chat With Dr. Orion Taraban
In this candid livestream, Ralph is joined by psychologist and creator of @psychacks , Dr. Orion Taraban, for a powerful and thought-provoking conversation on modern masculinity, dating, marriage, and purpose. Topics include:Why fewer men are choosing marriageWhether commitment still makes sense in today’s dating landscapeThe reality behind sex, status, and the modern mating gameDeveloping purpose without relying on external validationHow to become a high-value man in today’s world🔥 Whether you’re divorced, in a dead bedroom, or just lost in the dating world—this episode is for you.Join The HFM Brotherhood!
Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place.
I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books called "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" and "Red Flags". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on-one coaching, and the member-only part of my site called the Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com
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