Dad Starting Over

I want to read you a short email from a married man in a dead bedroom.
There’s no cheating.
No screaming fights.
No dramatic collapse.
Just a quiet decision to stop bringing it up.
I break down how a lot of men end up in sexless marriages not because they chose them — but because they slowly became passive. They stopped rocking the boat. They stopped advocating for themselves. They let things happen instead of taking control.
We’ll talk about:
Why men confuse passivity with patience
How avoiding conflict slowly erodes self-respect
Why guilt replaces desire in long-term relationships
How silence becomes the unspoken agreement
And why wanting intimacy doesn’t make you selfish
This isn’t about demanding sex or blaming your partner.
 It’s about agency — and what happens when a man quietly gives it up.
If you’ve ever felt like your relationship just drifted into something you didn’t choose, this one will probably hit close to home.
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Most men don’t feel like their life is falling apart.
It just feels… off.
Not bad enough to force change.
Not good enough to feel proud of.
So they try new routines, new habits, new motivation — and nothing sticks.
I break down why that happens and what actually causes men to stay stuck for years without realizing it. This isn’t about discipline, hustle, or grinding harder. It’s about structure, identity, and the quiet patterns that keep pulling you back to the same place.
If you’ve felt frustrated by starting strong and slowly drifting back, this video will probably hit close to home.
If you want support applying this kind of work in real life — with other men dealing with marriage problems, divorce, rebuilding, and direction — the Help For Men Brotherhood exists for that:
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And if you’re in a rebuilding phase after a major life shake-up, my book REBUILD – The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man was written specifically for that chapter.
This isn’t about reinventing yourself.
 It’s about choosing a direction you can actually live with.

A lot of men reach a point where they say something quietly and honestly:
“I did everything right… and it still fell apart.”
I hear this all the time from men who showed up, stayed loyal, worked on themselves, went to therapy, avoided conflict, and tried to be good partners.
And yet the relationship still deteriorated.
The attraction faded.
The resentment crept in.
I explain why “doing everything right” often becomes the problem.
We’ll talk about:
How being patient, understanding, and accommodating can slowly erase you
Why avoiding conflict kills attraction and self-respect
How over-functioning turns good men into manageable men
Why some men work on themselves and suddenly see the relationship clearly
And why doing the right thing doesn’t always mean doing the healthy thing
This isn’t about blaming women.
And it’s not about becoming cold or selfish.
It’s about understanding how self-abandonment sneaks into long-term relationships — and why some men outgrow a relationship the moment they stop disappearing.
If you’ve ever felt exhausted, resentful, or confused about how things still went wrong, this one will probably hit close to home.
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Most men in sexless marriages did exactly what they were told to do.
They opened up more.
They communicated better.
They became more emotionally available.
They went to therapy.
And somehow, the sex life didn’t come back.
In many cases, it disappeared completely.
In this episode, I explain why that happens — especially when you’re married to a dismissive-avoidant partner.
We’ll talk about:
Why “more emotional connection” can actually create less attraction
How anxious and avoidant attachment styles quietly kill desire
Why many men work on themselves and then realize the relationship itself isn’t healthy
Why dismissive-avoidant partners often resist getting help
And why effort and effectiveness are not the same thing in long-term relationships
This isn’t about blaming women.
It’s about understanding dynamics most men were never taught — and why doing everything “right” can still lead to a sexless marriage.
If you’re confused, frustrated, or starting to question your relationship, this conversation will likely hit close to home.
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A lot of men end up believing things like “women cheat more,” “women want sex more than men,” or “most women cheat”.
Those beliefs don’t usually come from careful analysis.
They come from pain.
I break down why these stories feel so convincing — especially for analytical, system-oriented, and neurodivergent men — and why certainty often feels safer than ambiguity after betrayal, dead bedrooms, and relationship failure.
We’ll talk about:
why men gravitate toward black-and-white explanations
how hidden-truth and conspiracy-style thinking sneaks into relationship beliefs
what the data actually says about libido differences
what long-running surveys show about infidelity
why “women just lie on surveys” isn’t the argument people think it is
and why flattening an entire sex into a slogan quietly keeps men stuck
This isn’t about defending women or blaming men.
It’s about understanding how the male brain copes with uncertainty — and why rigid, comforting stories often cost you more than they protect you.