In this Dear DSO submission, Richie asks a brutally honest question: What do you do when your wife is on SSRIs, has no sex drive, and has basically shut down in the bedroom?He’s not alone. A lot of men are quietly struggling with this. Kids, careers, medication, depression—it all adds up. And many men are left wondering if they’re crazy for wanting more. You’re not.In this video, I break down what SSRIs actually do to your sex life, how to approach the conversation with your wife, and when it’s time to either accept the reality… or walk away. 🧠 Talk to men who’ve been there → https://helpformen.com/join
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The Final Talk: Should You End a Sexless Marriage?
In this episode of Dear DSO, a man named Mark writes in about the pain of being stuck in a long-term, sexless marriage. He’s done the work—therapy, self-improvement, romantic gestures—but his wife still shows zero interest. Now he’s wondering: Should he blow up the family just to feel loved again?This one hits hard, and it’s a story I hear all the time. If you’ve ever felt like a ghost in your own home… like you’re just the guy who pays the bills and takes out the trash… this video is for you.I’ll walk you through what I call The Final Talk—a direct, compassionate, no-BS way to confront the situation and take back your self-respect. This is the conversation that could change everything.If you’re in this boat and don’t know what to do next, join the Brotherhood:👉 https://helpformen.com/join
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Is She Avoidant... or Just Not That Into You?
I hear from a lot of men who fall hard for a woman… and then she starts pulling away. Hot one minute, cold the next. Is it an avoidant attachment style—or is she just not that into you?In today’s Dear DSO episode, we break down Paul’s situation. He’s stuck in the push-pull dynamic with a woman who’s triggering every anxious bone in his body. I explain why this dynamic is so damn addictive… and what it says about him that he’s still holding on.If you’ve ever felt stuck trying to “figure her out,” this one’s for you.👇 Submit your story to be featured:https://deardso.comJoin The HFM Brotherhood!
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"Worried About My Adult Kids Stuck With a Toxic Mom"
In this Dear DSO episode, we tackle Holden’s powerful story: ✅ A 22-year marriage, wrecked by infidelity ✅ A toxic ex dragging their adult kids down ✅ A father who rebuilt his life, career, and confidence — but still worries about his boysI break down what happens long-term when kids get stuck in a toxic home and what (if anything) you, as the healthier parent, can realistically do to help.If you’re facing similar struggles, you’re not alone — join me and other men like you in the HFM Brotherhood: helpformen.com/join👉 Submit your own story at deardso.com for a future episode.
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Why She Hasn’t Touched You in 8 Years (And Why Chores Won’t Fix It)
In this episode of Dear DSO, I tackle Dave’s story — he’s been married 13 years, but for the last eight, the bedroom has been dead. Less than 10 times a year. He’s doing the chores, paying the bills, helping with everything, hoping it will reignite intimacy… but it hasn’t worked.We talk about perimenopause, the harsh biological and emotional shifts that happen in long-term marriages, and the hard truth: sometimes, no amount of chore-play will bring back the spark.👉 Submit your story at deardso.comJoin The HFM Brotherhood!
Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place.
I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books called "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" and "Red Flags". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on-one coaching, and the member-only part of my site called the Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com
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