How Your Child’s Hurtful Words Reveal the #1 Thing You Need Most
How Your Child’s Hurtful Words Reveal the #1 Thing You Need MostJoin the Calm Superpower Cohort HERE!In this 3-week live experience, starting November 3rd, we’ll walk through the three biggest areas of toddler struggle:1️⃣ Listening and cooperation 2️⃣ Meltdowns and emotional coaching 3️⃣ Triggers and your own calm superpowerYou’ll get live Q&As, short lessons, and strategies that actually work in real life.And when you enroll by October 31st, you’ll save $100 and get a free Toddler Toolkit T-shirt while supplies last.Listen to a related and helpful episode, 'The Hidden Reason You Snap and 4 Things That Stop the Cycle' here.Back to the Episode:Ever feel stung by your toddler's words? In this episode, we talk about why toddlers say hurtful things like 'Go away, Mommy' and 'I don't love you,' and how these moments reveal what you need most as a parent. We'll discuss toddler tantrums, emotional boundaries, and the hidden fix-it loop that can leave you feeling drained. Learn how to stay calm and ensure your peace doesn't depend on your child's behavior. Plus, join the Calm Superpower cohort starting November 3rd for strategies to handle listening, meltdowns, and triggers. Sign up by October 31st to save $100 and get a free Toddler Toolkit T-shirt!00:00 Introduction: The Hidden Fix-It Loop00:31 Understanding Toddler Tantrums and Hurtful Words00:58 Introducing the Calm Superpower Cohort02:19 Exploring Emotional Boundaries06:51 The Hidden Fix-It Loop Explained10:14 Nervous System Link: Safety vs. Seeking11:30 Emotional Boundaries vs. Emotional Walls18:26 Practical Responses to Hurtful Words20:25 Conclusion and Next Steps------------------------------------------------------"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.Grab the The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them FastCheck out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!Join the Toddler Mom CommunityFollow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparentingWatch the YouTube channelCheck out the blog
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The New Way to Handle Toddler Tantrums and Big Emotions w/ Devon Kuntzman, Transforming Toddlerhood
Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Embrace and Enjoy Parenting with Devin Kuntzman!Follow Devon Kuntzman here on InstagramGet Devon's new book, Transforming Toddlerhood here!Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit podcast! In this episode, we're thrilled to have modern parenting expert Devin Kuntzman. Devin is well-known for her work on Instagram as the original toddler parenting coach, trusted by millions of parents worldwide. Devin shares her mission to shift the narrative around toddlerhood, viewing it as a stage filled with opportunities rather than challenges. She discusses her comprehensive new book, 'Transforming Toddlerhood,' coming out on October 21, 2025, that's packed with actionable advice for caregivers. Devin also talks about the importance of understanding toddler behavior as communication and shares practical tips for dealing with power struggles and tantrums. Join us as we explore ways to navigate the ups and downs of toddlerhood with confidence and joy.00:00 Introduction to Toddler Behavior Challenges01:05 Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit Podcast01:11 Meet Devon Kuntzman: Transforming Toddlerhood03:59 Understanding Toddler Behavior as Communication09:03 The Importance of Realistic Expectations12:54 Practical Tips for Positive Parenting22:40 Behavioral Red Flags to Watch For25:23 Navigating Parenting Overwhelm26:33 The Messiness of Toddlerhood27:31 Empathy and Parenting Challenges29:11 Balancing Discipline and Emotional Wellbeing31:00 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting34:17 Real-Life Parenting Struggles38:35 Building Awareness and Growth Mindset42:15 The Impact of Transforming Toddlerhood46:10 Final Thoughts and Resources------------------------------------------------------"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.Grab the The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them FastCheck out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!Join the Toddler Mom CommunityFollow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparentingWatch the YouTube channelCheck out the blog
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Stop Trying to Get Your Toddler to Listen: Right Intention, Wrong Strategy
Stop Trying to Get Your Toddler to Listen: Right Intention, Wrong StrategyThe Calm Superpower Cohort starts the week of November 3rd. It’s three weeks, three live Q&As on Zoom (recordings available after), and one calm superpower that changes everything.You’ll learn how to handle meltdowns, power struggles, and those “push your button” moments with tools that actually work in real life.Enroll before October 31st to get the Sweet Treat Deal — $97 (regularly $197) and a free Toddler Toolkit T-shirt (value of $30 USD) for the first 5 sign-ups. Sign up here!In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast, we’re exploring the true meaning of 'listening' when it comes to toddlers. Learn how to distinguish between mere compliance and genuine cooperation, and discover why the latter is crucial for your child's long-term development. Join us as we discuss practical tips for fostering cooperation, the hidden costs of enforcing compliance, and the importance of connection in shaping resilient kids. Plus, get all the details on the upcoming Calm Superpower cohort starting the week of November 3rd, designed to equip you with real-life tools for handling toddler meltdowns and power struggles.00:00 Introduction to Toddler Toolkit Podcast00:02 Understanding Listening vs. Cooperation00:56 Introducing the Calm Superpower Cohort02:38 Back to the Episode: Listening vs. Compliance04:04 The Importance of True Cooperation06:26 Compliance vs. Cooperation Pathways12:07 The Hidden Costs of Good Listening16:51 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes------------------------------------------------------"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.Grab the The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them FastCheck out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!Join the Toddler Mom CommunityFollow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparentingWatch the YouTube channelCheck out the blog
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The Hidden Reason You Snap and 4 Things That Stop the Cycle
The Hidden Reason You Snap and 4 Things That Stop the Cycle | Toddler Toolkit Podcast"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, I reflect on a key insight inspired between my personal life and by an interview with Katie Krimitsos (coming on air soon!): why is it easier for moms to show compassion to their children than to themselves? We dive into real-life scenarios where self-criticism depletes our patience, explore the concept of 'compassion leaks,' and discuss how this imbalance affects our ability to care for our kids effectively. I share personal stories and offer practical steps for practicing self-compassion and maintaining emotional balance. Join me for an honest conversation about the importance of giving yourself grace and how it benefits both you and your family.00:00 Introduction: The Compassion Dilemma01:11 A Real-Life Example: Nighttime Meltdown04:28 Understanding Compassion Leaks04:44 Common Compassion Leak Scenarios08:30 The Importance of Self-Compassion12:47 Practical Steps for Preventative Regulation14:44 Conclusion: Embracing Imperfection------------------------------------------------------"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.Grab the The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them FastCheck out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!Join the Toddler Mom CommunityFollow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparentingWatch the YouTube channelCheck out the blog
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Toddler Fighting You? 3 Ways Parents Accidentally Shut Down Kindness
Toddler Fighting You? 3 Ways Parents Accidentally Shut Down Kindness🎤I’m so honored to be a speaker in the Happily Family Online Conference (Oct 9–13) alongside Dr. Daniel Siegel, More than 100,000 families are already joining in. Together, we’ll hear from 25+ parenting experts sharing practical tools for real family life—the messy, imperfect, beautiful kind.👉 Get a Free Ticket Here. 🎫------------------------------------------------------In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, we explore why toddlers often seem defiant and how parents might unintentionally suppress kindness in their children. Learn the three common mistakes—missing the care, shaming the care, and focusing on the negative—and find out how to reframe these moments to foster kindness instead of conflict. I'll share real-life examples, exact words you can use, and practical tools for parenting. Plus, don't miss insights from the upcoming Happily Family Conference, featuring experts like Dr. Daniel Siegel. Tune in to strengthen your parent-child bond and nurture emotional intelligence in your kids. 00:00 Introduction: Understanding Toddler Behavior01:00 Common Parenting Challenges01:47 The Concept of Invisible Care04:04 Three Ways Parents Shut Down Kindness05:28 Real-Life Examples and Reframes12:32 Biology and Negativity Bias16:20 Growing More Kindness18:05 Conclusion and Upcoming Events------------------------------------------------------"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.Grab the The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them FastCheck out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!Join the Toddler Mom CommunityFollow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparentingWatch the YouTube channelCheck out the blog
The complete toolkit for understanding toddler behavior (e.g. hitting, throwing, biting, pushing), navigating tantrums and meltdowns, fostering healthy sibling relationships and dynamics so your kids can get along and raising skilled resilient self-regulated toddlers. If you have toddlers that are close in age or multiple kids then this podcast is made for you! Heather helps parents transform their aggressive toddlers behavior into a calm, kind and caring toddler with a more peaceful and joyful home.
Heather is the Founder of Heather Schalk Parenting, a Twin Mama, Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, Teacher for 10 years (pre-k through 9th grade), specialization in behavior, with her M.Ed.
Heather's passion is helping moms of toddlers who have disruptive tantrums develop proactive and 'in the moment' strategies to Transform their toddlers disruptive tantrums, aggressive ‘button-pushing’ behavior into a Calm, Kind and Caring Toddler so you have a joyful family and enjoy motherhood.
Next Toddler Mom Cohort to Transform Aggressive Toddler Behavior taught by Heather is in September 2024!
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