The Birth Experience with Labor Nurse Mama

If your sex life basically disappeared after baby, this one's for you, mama.
You're touched out, running on fumes, and the LAST thing on your mind is sex - but your partner keeps bringing it up, and now you're stuck in this exhausting cycle of guilt, resentment, and disconnection. Sound familiar?
This week I'm sitting down with Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy, a certified sex and couples therapist (and mama of two) who's spent 15 years helping couples navigate exactly this. We're getting real about why your desire disappears after baby, why "just fix the emotional connection and the sex will follow" is actually bad advice, and what's really going on when one partner pursues and the other withdraws.
We also dig into resentment, the mental load, reclaiming your body, and why accepting imperfect help from your partner might be the missing piece (pajama drama included 😂).
In this episode, we cover:
Why low libido after baby is so common - and it's not "just about sex"
The pursuer/withdrawer cycle and how to break it
How resentment and mental load quietly kill intimacy
Reclaiming your body after birth (even after trauma)
3 practical ways to reconnect with your partner, starting today

This is such an honest, validating conversation - whether you're the one who's touched out or the one who feels rejected, you'll walk away with real tools (and a lot less shame).
More from Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy, PhD, LMHC:
Grab her book: Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids
rebeccaeudy.com
Follow her on Instagram: @RebeccaHowardEudy
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Helpful Timestamps:
00:00 Why Sex Drive Disappears Postpartum
02:43 Desire vs Connection After Baby
06:05 Pursuer Withdrawer Cycle
10:35 Birth Trauma and Triggers
15:15 When Sex Becomes a Chore
16:44 Resentment and Mental Load
23:49 Accepting Imperfect Help
28:09 Micro Moments Connection
30:26 What Holds Desire Back
33:14 Book And Where To Find

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You've probably already made a decision about your epidural. The problem? You made it before anyone walked you through what actually happens.
In this episode, I'm breaking down the entire epidural process from the moment you say "I think I want it" to the moment we pull the catheter out after delivery - the timing, the placement, what it actually feels like, the side effects nobody mentions, and the questions I get asked most as a 16+ year L&D nurse. Whether you're planning to get one, planning to go unmedicated, or you're a "let's see how I feel" mama, this episode is for you. Because pain management is part of every birth map, and knowing what's coming means you make the decision from education - not fear.
No horror stories. No agenda. Just what really happens in the labor room.
In this episode:
When you can actually ask for an epidural (and why timing isn't as simple as "too early" or "too late")
What has to happen behind the scenes before the anesthesiologist walks in
The step-by-step placement process - and the one moment that actually hurts
Common epidural side effects and how your nurse manages them
What "recovery" looks like and why it's not the time for visitors
How to know you're progressing once your epidural is in

More from this episode:
Grab our free Third Trimester Birth Prep Bundle at labornursemama.com/third or comment "THIRD" on any Instagram post @labor.nurse.mama.
Listen to episode 245: Epidural or Unmedicated? How to Decide Without Regret
Helpful Timestamps:
00:00 Epidural Decision Reality
03:27 Why Preparation Matters
05:43 When To Request It
07:11 Hospital Prep Steps
08:58 Positioning And Placement
11:12 Recovery And Monitoring
12:44 Blood Pressure + Side Effects
14:58 What It Feels Like
16:53 Rest And Pushing Tips
18:08 Turning It Off And Removal

Join The Calm Labor Birth Bundle - everything you need from bump to baby! Use code POD50 for $50 off!
Over 15k mamas have used our classes to prepare for a birth that they love 🤍
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Connect w/ Trish:
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For more pregnancy & birth education, subscribe to The Birth Experience on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.
Produced and Edited by Vaden Podcast Services

Your discharge is not a problem to Google in a panic - it's one of the most powerful fertility signals your body produces. And yet, most of us were never taught that. In this episode, Trish sits down with Sabrina Nowicki, CEO of Cyclisity - the official charting app of the landmark book Taking Charge of Your Fertility - for a conversation about body literacy, fertility awareness, and why understanding your cycle might be the most empowering thing you do for your reproductive health.
Sabrina brings an engineering and product design background to her role as CEO of Cyclisity, the official charting app of Taking Charge of Your Fertility (TCOYF). Cyclisity was co-founded alongside Toni Weschler, MPH, the author of Taking Charge of Your Fertility and Sabrina's aunt. Built from the ground up to align with the TCOYF knowledge base, Cyclisity is designed to make the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) as accessible as possible for women everywhere - without sacrificing the science or the agency that makes FAM so powerful.
What You'll Learn in This Episode
What the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) actually is
The three biomarkers FAM uses to identify your fertile window: cervical fluid, basal body temperature (BBT), and optional cervical positioning
What your cervical fluid is actually telling you - from dry to sticky to creamy to egg white - and why that progression matters
How BBT confirms ovulation and why that temperature shift is your body's built-in confirmation system
Why stress, illness, and lifestyle can delay ovulation
The problem with predictive cycle apps and why apps that just calculate averages from past cycles are not the same as tracking your actual body

More from Sabrina Nowicki, CEO of Cyclisity:
Cyclisity App - Available now on the Apple App Store (US & Canada); Android version coming soon
Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, MPH
Follow Cyclisity on Instagram: @Cyclisity & on TikTok: @Cyclisityapp
Follow Sabrina personally: @wanderingsabrina on all platforms
Visit Cyclisity.com

Helpful Timestamps:
00:00 Discharge as Fertility Signal
02:21 Why Fertility Awareness
05:56 FAM Basics Explained
13:04 Stress Delays Ovulation
16:48 Cycle Syncing Myths
22:07 Why Build Cyclisity App
27:39 Why Predictive Apps Fail
39:01 Regulating After Birth Control
45:35 Where To Find Cyclisity

Join The Calm Labor Birth Bundle - everything you need from bump to baby! Use code POD50 for $50 off!
Over 15k mamas have used our classes to prepare for a birth that they love 🤍
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Connect w/ Trish:
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For more pregnancy & birth education, subscribe to The Birth Experience on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.
Produced and Edited by Vaden Podcast Services

In this insightful podcast episode we focus on preparing for an unmedicated birth.
Emphasizing on how you can address your fears and the importance of understanding your “WHY” for choosing an unmedicated birth.
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6 Ways to Prepare for An Unmedicated Birth:
Mindset Matters: Addressing your fears and your mindset happens long before the labor room. Replace your fears with TRUTH, and having a clear “WHY” for choosing an unmedicated birth is essential for a positive mindset.
Being Educated: Education gives you a sense of calm & peace to make the best decisions for your during your birth. Winging your birth is not an option.
Preparing Your Body: Understanding the power of the pelvis and movement during birth is monumental to your birth experience.
Creating a Supportive Birth Environment: If you create a birth environment that is supportive, you are going to feel safe while allowing the natural pain killers that we have flowing through our body to flow.
Unmedicated Pain Management Tools & Techniques: Understanding the importance of various unmedicated pain management techniques, including breath work, hot/cold therapy, & the comb technique.
Understanding Your Interventions & Your Birth Rights: Like I’ve said before, we don’t just refuse willy nilly. You need to know what this intervention is for, why it is used, and when it is appropriate. Should I say yes? Should I say no? You need to know your rights to navigate this.

Helpful Timestamps:
00:00 Knowing your why
03:00 How fear can physically stall or stop labor progression
05:00 Why birth education is non-negotiable
08:30 Preparing your body for birth - why the pelvis is your most powerful tool
13:30 Creating a supportive birth environment and team
19:30 Understanding interventions, the cascade effect, and your rights

Join The Calm Labor Birth Bundle - everything you need from bump to baby! Use code POD50 for $50 off!
Over 15k mamas have used our classes to prepare for a birth that they love 🤍
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Connect w/ Trish:
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For more pregnancy & birth education, subscribe to The Birth Experience on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.
Produced and Edited by Vaden Podcast Services

Most birth prep focuses on you - your breathing, your birth plan, your body. But what about the person standing next to you? Because here's the truth: if your partner isn't prepared, they will default to the doctor. Every single time. And you'll be left feeling completely alone in one of the most intense, vulnerable moments of your life.
That's exactly why I brought Lena Athena onto the show. Lena is changing how the world understands boundaries. She created the Kind Boundaries framework to show that boundaries aren't a source of conflict, they're the foundation of every healthy relationship. She's a TEDx speaker, founder of the boundaries practice app HEARD, and author of a forthcoming book on belonging and boundaries. She specializes in supporting women in the most boundary-violated season of life: the transition into motherhood.
In this episode, we cover:
Why partners shut down in the labor room
The conversation you need to have before you ever go into labor
How to have the hard conversations without blowing up your relationship
The role relationship dynamics play in the birth room
Three steps to get back on the same team if you've already drifted apart

You should not have to choose between advocating for yourself and keeping the peace. With the right preparation - and the right conversations ahead of time - you can have both.
More from Lena Athena:
Try the HEARD boundaries practice app free: https://heard.lenaathena.com/
Work with Lena privately: https://lenaathena.com/coaching
Follow Lena on Instagram & Threads @lenasathena
Helpful Timestamps:
00:00 Welcome Lena Athena
01:52 Boundaries in Motherhood
05:20 Why Advocacy Fails
08:14 Talk Before Labor
11:13 Align as Decision Makers
14:45 Practice Hard Talks
16:55 Team Based Conversations
24:45 Three Steps to Reconnect
28:19 Where to Find Lena

Join The Calm Labor Birth Bundle - everything you need from bump to baby! Use code POD50 for $50 off!
Over 15k mamas have used our classes to prepare for a birth that they love 🤍
⭐ Download immediately ⭐App available ⭐Life-time access⭐
Connect w/ Trish:
On Instagram
On YouTube
For more pregnancy & birth education, subscribe to The Birth Experience on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.
Produced and Edited by Vaden Podcast Services