Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Friendship Advice for Kids (K-8)

Ep. 132- Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Finding the right words in a conflict | Friendship advice for kids
Parents, check out my online workshops for kids at workshops.eileenkennedymoore.com.
FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098f
Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast?
SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Think of a recent conflict you had with a friend. What happened? How did you deal with it? Is there something you would like to do differently next time?
- What are some reasons why a friend might not want to talk about a problem?
- What does the statement “We can’t force someone to be friends with us” mean?
- Why is saying or implying, “I’m good; you’re bad” not a helpful way to deal with conflict? What could you do instead?
*** You might also like these podcast episodes:
Ep. 1 - Friendship ends over small thing (Naomi, Age 7) 
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-ep-1
Ep. 129 - Kindest way to break up with a friend (Audrey, Age 9) 
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep129-kindest-way-to-break-up-with-a-friend-audrey-age-9
Ep. 73 - Best friend suddenly stops playing with him (J.J., Age 11) 
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep73-jj-age-11-best-friend-stops-playing-with-him


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Ep. 131 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Giving versus getting as a friend | Friendship advice for kids
Parents, check out my online workshops for kids at workshops.eileenkennedymoore.com.
FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098f
Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast?
SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get podcast episodes sent to your email plus articles for parents.
*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Have you ever wished you had more playdates? Who do you think you’d like to invite over? What would you like to do with them?
- How is friendship different from a game?
- Dr. Friendtastic said, “Positive and negative actions don’t have equal impact” on relationships. What does that mean? (Hint: How do kind or unkind actions affect a friendship?)
- Why is a one-on-one get-together a good way to deepen a friendship?
*** You might also like these podcast episodes:
Ep. 49 - Feeling different and rejected (Charlotte, Age 8)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/charlotte-age-8-feeling-different
Ep. 70 - Knowing when and how to stop (Owen, Age 8)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep70-owen-age-8-stop-signals
Ep. 77 - Friend is nicer to someone else (Maya, Age 8)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep77-maya-age-8-friend-is-nicer-to-someone-else



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Ep. 130 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Ways to contribute to a team | Friendship advice for kids
Parents, check out my online workshops for kids at workshops.eileenkennedymoore.com.
FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098f
Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast?
SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get podcast episodes sent to your email plus articles for parents.
*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Why do you think kids sometimes want to quit a sport or activity if they’re not instantly the best performer on the team?
- What could you say to someone who wants to quit that might convince them to continue an activity?
- When is it a good idea for kids to quit a sport or activity?
- What is the difference between process and performance? They both matter, but which do you think is often most important? Why?
- What can you do now that you weren’t able to do last year? How did you manage to improve your skills?
- What are some ways to contribute to a team, besides scoring in a game?
*** You might also like these podcast episodes:
Ep. 7 – Friend is a poor sport (Emma, Age 11)https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-ep7-poor-sport-friend
Ep. 75: Upset when he loses a game (Alex, age 10)https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep75-alex-age-a10-upset-when-he-loses-a-game
Ep. 125 - Not picked to play on the team (Charlie, Age 9)https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep125-not-picked-to-play-on-team-charlie-age9


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Ep. 129 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Big friendship break-up, slow fade, or something else? | Friendship advice for kids
Parents, check out my online workshops for kids at workshops.eileenkennedymoore.com.
FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098f
Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast?
SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get podcast episodes sent to your email plus articles for parents.
*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Have you ever had a friendship end? What happened? Was it your choice, their choice, neither, or both?
- If you were the friend being dumped, how would you want your former friend to handle it?
- Dr. Friendtastic believes it’s very mean to suddenly refuse to speak with someone. What do you think? Why is this not a good way to handle friendship rough spots?
- Why is it not a good idea to involve other people in a conflict between you and a friend?
- How do you decide whether to try to work things out or end a friendship? (Hint: what might make you want to stay or go?)
*** You might also like these podcast episodes:
Ep. 127 - Friend wants space (Sloane, Age 6)https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep127-friend-wants-space-sloane-age-6
Ep. 114 - Friend is ignoring her! (Emma, Age 13)https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/friend-is-ignoring-her-emma-age-13
Ep. 73 - Best friend suddenly stops playing with him (J.J., Age 11)https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep73-jj-age-11-best-friend-stops-playing-with-him



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Ep. 128 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: 5 Things to Do When You Feel Like Crying But Don't Want To | Friendship advice for kids
Parents, check out my online workshops for kids at workshops.eileenkennedymoore.com.
FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098f
Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast?
SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get podcast episodes sent to your email plus articles for parents.
*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Think of a time you cried recently. What triggered your tears? Were you alone or with others? If you were with others, how did they respond?
- Everyone cries sometimes. What do you think are some good or not-so-good places to cry? Why? [Hint: Who’s around and how are they likely to respond?]
- Have you ever tried to comfort a friend who was crying? What did you do?
- Dr. Friendtastic mentioned 5 self-soothing strategies to use when you feel like crying but don’t want to cry. Which of these appeals to you? What other strategies might be helpful?
- Research says that females tend to cry more often than males. Why do you think that is?
*** You might also like these podcast episodes:
Ep. 102 - How to express your feelings with friends (Aida, Age 5)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep102-how-to-express-your-feelings-with-friends
Ep. 97 - How and why to understand a friend’s feelings (Zoya, age 5)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep97-how-and-why-to-understand-a-friends
Ep. 5 - Friend doesn’t want what I want (Edith, age 8)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-episode-af3



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