190 | jealousy in autism parenting: why it’s normal (and what to do with it)
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay, a licensed child psychologist and parental coach specializing in neurodiversity affirming care, explores the concept of jealousy and why it is a valid and normal emotion. Dr. Tay discusses the importance of experiencing and processing jealousy, rather than suppressing it, and how this can impact personal growth and well-being. The episode also addresses the complexity of co-existing emotions like hope and jealousy, and provides insights on how to navigate these feelings as a parent of an autistic child. Dr. Tay shares personal stories, professional insights, and practical advice on emotion regulation to help parents better support themselves and their families.00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview00:05 Understanding Jealousy as a Valid Emotion01:15 The Impact of Suppressing Emotions04:06 Coping Mechanisms and Emotional Processing12:06 Real-Life Applications and Parental Support18:27 Affirmation and Momentum18:42 Understanding Jealousy19:06 Balancing Emotions19:31 Validating Emotions20:53 Navigating Jealousy and Hope21:39 Seeking Support24:00 Embracing Jealousy26:38 Reflecting on Jealousy33:15 Final Thoughts and Resources RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here and listen to my glimmers training that helps you to better understand progress ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered. visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
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189 | building a neuro-inclusive family through couples therapy with Dr. Ali
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay delves into the underexplored topic of couples therapy within the autism community, emphasizing its proactive rather than reactive use. Joined by Dr. Ali Perkinson, a neurodiverse couples therapist and licensed psychologist, the discussion covers how couples therapy can support harmonious family dynamics, understanding neurodiverse communication styles, and breaking down stigmas around couples therapy. Dr. Ali shares insights from her practice, highlighting the importance of co-regulation between parents and addressing executive functioning differences. The episode also offers practical tools such as the emotion wheel and the significance of sensory management, aiming to equip parents with strategies that can foster a more neuro-inclusive household.00:00 Introduction to Couples Therapy in Autism Parenting00:50 Meet Dr. Ali: Neurodiverse Couples Therapist02:22 Understanding Neurodiverse Relationships03:13 Communication Challenges in Neurodiverse Couples07:15 Common Reasons Couples Seek Therapy08:25 Proactive vs. Crisis Couples Therapy10:56 Navigating New Autism Diagnoses as a Family20:28 Tools and Tips for Neurodiverse Families22:44 The Importance of Venting in Relationships22:56 The Fixer Mentality: Strengths and Pitfalls23:45 Alternative Date Night Ideas for Neurodiverse Couples24:21 Co-Regulation and Physical Activities24:54 Therapeutic Modalities for Couples26:20 Exploring Psychedelic Therapy30:32 Addressing Executive Dysfunction in Relationships34:18 Understanding Neurodiverse Love Languages38:01 The Value of Couples Therapy40:14 Final Thoughts and Resources RESOURCES⚡️ connect with Dr. Ali on Instagram @connectingwithali and learn more about her practice Connection Squared ⚡️ resource to find a neurodiverse couples therapist or coach ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
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188 | the chaos of the new school year
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses the chaos surrounding the start of a new school year, especially for families of autistic kids. Sharing insights and practical advice from her extensive experience, she addresses anticipatory anxiety, the challenges of advocating within educational systems, and the importance of psychological safety for children. The episode also provides resources on using tools like AI for understanding your rights and articulating your thoughts and emphasizes the power of collaboration with educators and advocates. Tune in for strategies to ensure your child's smooth transition into the school year.00:00 Introduction to the Chaos of Starting School02:02 Navigating the Chaos of School Starting02:49 Anticipatory Anxiety and Its Impact04:56 Advocating for Your Child in the School System16:50 The Importance of Psychological Safety at School21:57 Final Thoughts and Resources25:51 Conclusion and Ways to Connect RESOURCES⚡️check out episodes 53, 57, 115, and 142 to learn more about educational rights and advocacy ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
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187 | a membership sneak peek: neuroaffirming ways to share a diagnosis Q+A
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇this week, i’m giving you a behind-the-scenes listen into a question from inside EVOLVE the membership — my neurodiversity-affirming space for parents of autistic children. in our private weekly q&a, a parent asked how to explain their child’s autism diagnosis to other adults in a way that’s both clear and affirming. in this episode, you’ll hear my full response, with approaches you can start using right away — from choosing identity-first language to framing your child’s strengths and support needs when talking with educators, family, and friends. you’ll also get a feel for what it’s like inside EVOLVE the membership, where members can bring their real-life questions instead of turning to Google, ChatGPT, or social media, and get thoughtful, personalized guidance. 00:00 introduction 00:25 welcome to this parenting space01:34 why EVOLVE the membership?03:59 behind the scenes of EVOLVE the membership06:37 this week’s Q&A11:01 neuroaffirming language explained22:29 conclusion and membership invitation RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
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186 | do you really need the ADOS-2 to diagnose autism?
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay addresses a commonly asked question: Is the Autism Diagnostic Observation Schedule, Second Edition (ADOS-2) necessary for an autism diagnosis? Dr. Tay explains what the ADOS-2 is, its role in autism evaluations, and clarifies that while it is a widely respected tool, it is not required for diagnosing autism. The episode emphasizes the importance of using multiple assessment tools and clinical judgment in making an autism diagnosis. Dr. Tay also offers guidance for parents on how to advocate for their children, including questions to ask clinicians. Finally, Dr. Tay highlights the importance of neurodiversity affirming practices and discusses the role of other evaluation tools and telehealth assessments.00:00 Introduction and Common Questions00:31 Understanding the ADOS-201:02 Training Levels and Misconceptions02:09 Clinical vs. Research Use04:07 Sensitivity, Specificity, and Misuse06:50 Neurodiversity Movement and High Masking10:26 Alternative Tools and Insurance Challenges12:26 Challenges with Insurance-Mandated Assessments12:45 Telehealth Evaluations: Validity and Tools13:20 Alternative Assessment Tools for Autism15:58 Key Questions to Ask Your Clinician19:28 Understanding Autism Traits: Quantity vs. Quality20:59 Free Resource Guide and Final Thoughts RESOURCES ⚡️Download the Autism Traits Guide ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
About EVOLVE with Dr. Tay: the podcast for parents of autistic kids
welcome to a parenting space actually designed for YOU! where you can get answers about navigating a life that includes autism.
I’m Dr. Tay, a licensed child psychologist specializing in autism and neuroaffirming care. I have supported 100s of autistic children and their families and have been in the autism field for over a decade.
on this podcast, we focus on supporting your autistic child AND your whole family, including you! every topic is on the table, and your questions (which you can submit through my social media) inspire the episodes created. I share some of my personal stories growing up with a brother who was diagnosed at 23 months of age as well as feature other families' stories so you know you are not navigating this journey alone. this is a space for you to be SEEN. HEARD. SUPPORTED. and get reputable and reliable information about autism instead of searching Google endlessly for hours. I am so dang grateful that you are here.
***disclaimer: not clinical advice, for educational purposes only***
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