Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

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How To Date Men When You Hate Men: Ways To Open Yourself Up To Connection Even When The Internet Tells You Not To
2026/08/11 | 30 mins.Can you actually date men when it feels like everyone is telling you not to trust them? We're unpacking how social media, clickbait headlines, and a constant stream of negative dating stories can make distrust feel like the default. We discuss why the loudest relationship narratives often aren't the most common ones, how to separate real red flags from fear-driven assumptions, and why paying attention to patterns of behavior matters more than blanket rules about who can or can't be trusted. We also explore how past experiences shape our expectations, where accountability belongs on both sides of dating, and how to balance healthy skepticism without closing yourself off to genuine connection. Enjoy!
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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy- What if the secret to feeling more alive is going back to the good ol' days of having a crush? In this episode, Yue explores why the excitement, curiosity, and unpredictability of an innocent crush can reconnect us to the very things that make us human. As technology and AI make our lives increasingly efficient and predictable, she argues that it's spontaneous, real-world interactions that spark joy, creativity, and emotional vitality. Whether you're single, partnered, or simply craving more excitement in your everyday life, this episode will inspire you to embrace the small moments of anticipation that remind us what genuine human connection feels like. Enjoy!
Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/
Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable
Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.
Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE
Our Sponsors:
* Losers Part One and Two by Harley LaRoux: Go get the book wherever books are sold in print or ebook or through https://www.kensingtonbooks.com
* Omaha Steaks: Try the Burger Perfection Flight at OmahaSteaks.com today. That’s 20 premium steak burgers for just $79.99. Plus, get $35 off with promo code BEEF.
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Is The Cost Of Living Killing Your Dating Life?: How the Economy Is Changing Modern Dating
2026/08/04 | 37 mins.Is the rising cost of everything making you question whether love is still worth pursuing? We're unpacking how inflation, financial stress, and layoffs are impacting modern dating – and why media has declared 'dating has become a "rich person's game.' We discuss how money influences everything from who asks whom out to whether couples should split the bill, why financial anxiety is causing people to delay dating altogether, and how to date in practical ways that eliminate overspending (and why emotional investment matters more than expensive dates anyways!) Enjoy!
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Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling Dating app in the app store or visit fling.me today
Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/
Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable
Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.
Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE
Our Sponsors:
* Losers Part One and Two by Harley LaRoux: Go get the book wherever books are sold in print or ebook or through https://www.kensingtonbooks.com
* Omaha Steaks: Try the Burger Perfection Flight at OmahaSteaks.com today. That’s 20 premium steak burgers for just $79.99. Plus, get $35 off with promo code BEEF.
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable
Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy- While it's true that trust takes time to grow, it absolutely starts revealing itself from the very beginning...if you know what to look out for. In this episode, Julie breaks down the subtle early signs of trustworthiness, how you can tell so much based on how someone responds after moments of disconnection, and ways you can show you're the type of person people trust on early dates too. If you've been relying on chemistry to tell you whether someone is right for you, this episode will help you shift the question from "Do I feel a spark?" to "Is trust being built between us?" because that's the foundation that allows healthy, secure relationships to grow. Enjoy!
Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/
Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable
Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.
Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE
Our Sponsors:
* Losers Part One and Two by Harley LaRoux: Go get the book wherever books are sold in print or ebook or through https://www.kensingtonbooks.com
* Omaha Steaks: Try the Burger Perfection Flight at OmahaSteaks.com today. That’s 20 premium steak burgers for just $79.99. Plus, get $35 off with promo code BEEF.
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable
Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy - In the final day of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're talking about one of the deepest sources of self-doubt in dating: our relationship with our bodies.
In this episode, Natalie Carey shares how body image struggles can shape our self-esteem, relationships, and what we believe we deserve in love. We discuss moving toward body acceptance, letting go of impossible standards, and learning to appreciate yourself in a deeper way. If you've ever felt like your appearance determined your worth in dating, this episode is your reminder that confidence isn't about looking a certain way—it's about believing you're already deserving of love and connection exactly as you are.
Learn more about Natalie Carey visit https://www.barbellblondie.com/
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Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling Dating app in the app store or visit fling.me today
Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/
Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable
Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.
Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE
Our Sponsors:
* Losers Part One and Two by Harley LaRoux: Go get the book wherever books are sold in print or ebook or through https://www.kensingtonbooks.com
* Omaha Steaks: Try the Burger Perfection Flight at OmahaSteaks.com today. That’s 20 premium steak burgers for just $79.99. Plus, get $35 off with promo code BEEF.
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable
Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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About Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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