Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

We often blame bad luck when dating doesn't work out, but what if luck is only part of the story? In this episode, Julie unpacks the idea that "dating requires luck," inspired by a line from Nobody Wants This. She explores why we think we're unlucky in love and what it could mean instead. She also makes room for the real role chance plays, so self-worth doesn't become one more way to blame yourself for being single. If you've been wondering whether you're just unlucky in love, this episode will help you separate what's out of your control from what you can shape. Enjoy!
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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

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We often get questions like "How do I know if I should go on another date?" "Should I DTR with someone or keep dating other people?" So we are breaking down the complexities of dating, commitment, and how to navigate uncertainty in when to move forward (or not). We discuss the difference between taking a blind leap of faith vs making calculated risks, how to handle uncertainty and fear of making the wrong choice, and how to rethink the concept of "wasted time" when dating and having romantic relationships. Enjoy!
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Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/
Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/
Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable
Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show!

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We often assume real connection grows out of ease and availability, but what if it's born from inconvenience? In this quickie, Yue shares how a new weekly commute to the Bay Area, and a weekend-only schedule in LA, changed the way she dates and keeps friendships. With limited time, her yeses became real yeses, and she can see who makes an effort to see her. She explains why many of her past relationships were born of convenience, how that can lead to situationships or incompatbile relationships, and why she now treats inconvenience as a structure that shows who really wants to invest in her. Whatever your schedule looks like, this episode will help you invest in yourself and spot the people who make the time. Enjoy!
Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/
Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable
Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show!

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Have you ever wonder why you have seemingly great dates yet none of them seem to go anywhere? Yue used to have no problem having acing the date, and thought she's get the same feedback when we interviewed Andrew about their first date together. But the feedback she got changed her dating life forever and made it all make sense why these great dates never resulted in relationships. 10 years later, we're reflecting on the dating experiment that changed her entire dating trajectory because that's how instrumental it was for Yue's love life. We'll re-air the epic dating experiment and then we debrief on the essential shift from performative to authentic dating, how you actually build connection on a date, and why it's never too late to reset a date that's boring, awkward, or simply not going as well as you'd like (through a trick we'll share with you on this episode.) Enjoy!
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Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/
Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/
Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable
Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show!

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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Halloween is one of the best nights of the year to meet someone, but what makes it so much easier to strike up a conversation with a stranger? In this episode, Julie explores what makes Halloween feel different from an ordinary night out, from the costumes and easy conversation starters to the shared sense of fun and possibility. But what if you didn't have to wait until Halloween to experience that kind of connection? She looks at how we can recreate that same energy any night of the year and make meeting new people feel a little more natural, spontaneous, and fun. Enjoy!
Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/
Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable
Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Have you ever had a time in your life where you genuinely didn’t want a serious relationship but still wanted connection and chemistry? Download the Fling app in the app store or visit fling.me today.

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

Our Sponsors:
* Quince: Download the Quince App for app-exclusive offers and get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com and tell them you heard about them through Dateable to support the show!

Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy