BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

In today’s episode, I’m getting real about the moment I didn’t look at the facts and how my relationship paid the price. If you’re an overthinker, a scenario-maker, a “what if” queen, or someone who keeps searching for problems when there are none… this episode is for you.

Because here’s the hard truth:

👉 Overthinking in relationships isn’t emotional intelligence.

👉 It’s avoidance.

👉 And it quietly pushes safe, loving partners away.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Wait… am I the drama?” (lovingly), you’re in the right place.

In this episode we talk about:

✨ Why anxious attachment makes you question healthy relationships

✨ How self-sabotage shows up as “being logical” or “being cautious”

✨ The difference between facts vs. stories your anxiety creates

✨ Why safe love can feel boring, uncomfortable, or “wrong” at first

✨ How trying to control conversations and outcomes kills intimacy

✨ What it actually takes to stop pushing good people away

 

I also share a personal update after my hysterectomy recovery, how this same self-sabotage pattern showed up in my health journey, and why anxious attachment isn’t just about dating... it’s about how we avoid deeper emotional truth in every area of life. If you’re a high-achieving woman who is crushing it in your career but spiraling in your relationship… I see you. You are not broken. You’re just running an outdated emotional system.

🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 

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Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! 🧠💘

Today’s episode is for the girlies who are exhausted from being the emotional project manager of their relationship. You know the one: the planner, the fixer, the emotional laborer, the one Googling “how to stop being anxious but still be lovable.”

If your brain tells you, “If I stop trying, nothing will happen,” and you're scared your relationship will crumble unless you give 200% every second… this episode will hit. hard. 👀

We’re talking:

- The lie anxious attachment tells you about effort = love

- How overfunctioning is killing your vibe and your connection

- What it actually means to feel safe and loved without working overtime

- And why letting your partner choose you requires you to chill (even if it makes you twitchy)

Plus... an update from my hysterectomy recovery era and how Head Nurse Craig is thriving, and I am deeply humbled and deeply moisturized.

🎧 And don’t forget: if you’re tired of the spiral, the resentment, and the fake chill girl act, the Healing Girl Gang is where we turn information into actual transformation. It’s not just “awareness,” babe. It’s reps, it’s nervous system work, it’s receipts. Come do the work and feel good doing it!

🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 

🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 

💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖

🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕

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If your brain goes from 0 to 100 the second something feels “off” ... if you replay conversations, wait for texts, or feel that frantic “I have to fix this” energy... this episode is for you! In today's podcast I’m walking you through a simple, science‑backed breathing tool you can use right now to slow down an anxious spiral and bring your nervous system back online.

This is the tool I personally use when:

• I feel the urge to check my phone

• My thoughts start racing

• My body feels buzzy, panicky, or unsafe

• My anxious attachment is running the show

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

✨ Why anxiety and anxious attachment thrive on speed

✨ What a “psychological sigh” is and how it calms your nervous system

✨ A step‑by‑step breathing technique to use when you’re spiraling

✨ The difference between calming a symptom vs. rewiring the system

And I’m also going to be real with you: This tool will slow the spiral, but it won’t heal anxious attachment by itself. That happens when you change the system your nervous system is running on.

That’s exactly what we do inside Healing Girl Gang through reps, structure, and real‑life nervous system retraining, not just mindset hacks.

And just know: You are not broken.

You are not too much.

Your nervous system learned a pattern... and it can learn a new one.

 

🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 

🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 

💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖

🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕

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If you’ve ever said *“I’m gonna be the BEST partner ever and do all the right things”… and then wondered why you still feel anxious, on edge, or like you're constantly spiraling... this episode is for you.

Today, I’m breaking down why over-focusing on your relationship is actually making you feel less secure, more anxious, and totally disconnected from yourself.

Inside this episode, we dive into:

💔 The sneaky anxious attachment loop that leads to emotional burnout

🔁 Why logic alone won’t soothe your nervous system

🧠 How hyper-focusing on your partner creates fragility in your relationship

📱 The role your phone (yep!) plays in your spirals

🌱 What “watering your own garden” actually looks like when you have anxious tendencies

Plus, I share a personal story about going to the movies alone (and loving it!) something old-me would never have done, and why this tiny moment marked a huge healing milestone.

This episode is part love letter, part wake-up call and it’s the kind of grounded nervous system reframe I wish I had years ago. If you’re an anxious achiever, a closeted overfunctioner, or a recovering people-pleaser who’s tired of trying to “fix” your relationship by fixing yourself... listen to this one all the way through. There’s no shame here, just clarity, tools, and space to breathe again. 👇

Let me know in the comments if this hit home, and say “girlgang” if you’re ready to rewire this pattern with me inside The Healing Girl Gang.

 

🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 

🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 

💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖

🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕

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In this episode we’re breaking down the 3 most common (but sneaky) anxious attachment habits that slowly destroy connection over time... even in loving relationships!

If you:

- Feel like you’re too much or never enough

- Constantly overanalyze texts, tone, or timing

- Chase closeness, but end up feeling even more alone…

This episode is your wake-up call and your path to healing!

 

We’ll dive into:

💔 The hidden habits rooted in fear of abandonment

🧠 Why “logic” won’t save you from spiraling

💡 What to do instead to create security, closeness, and calm

 

Whether you’re currently in a relationship or just trying to break old patterns before your next one, this is a must-listen!

🎧 Save it, share it, and come back when you need the reminder.

P.s. If you're new here, this is exactly the kind of deep nervous system work we do inside of my community, the Healing Girl Gang - because healing anxious attachment doesn’t just change your relationships… it changes you.

Let me know which habit resonated most in the comments 💬👇

 

🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 

🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 

💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖

🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕

FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session