BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

• Why Stillness Feels Unsafe When You Have Relationship Anxiety

  This week, we’re diving deep into a topic I know hits home for so many high-achieving, anxious girlies: why stillness can feel so unsafe when you have relationship anxiety. If you ever catch yourself spiraling because the vibe feels “off,” or if a little space in communication has you convinced the whole relationship is doomed…this episode is for you. Inside this episode, I’m sharing: ✨ Why anxious attachment makes rest and stillness feel dangerous ✨ How I learned to stop overfunctioning and start receiving love (hint: it took surgery and a lot of surrender) ✨ What my explant and fibroid journeys taught me about safety, slowing down, and trusting myself ✨ The belief I had to UNLEARN in order to feel secure in my body and my relationships   ✨ Why stillness is a skill (especially if you grew up in a high-pressure, achievement-driven household)   ✨ How I support Healing Girl Gang members in rewiring their nervous systems for safety and self-trust ✨ A powerful listener Q&A about breaking the cycle of anxious spiraling in a secure relationship Whether you’re a career rockstar, business owner, or have a few letters behind your name (MD, RN, Esq, PhD…) — and yet still feel like a mess when someone doesn’t text back, you’re in the right place. This episode isn’t about fixing you... it’s about helping you feel safe enough to finally rest, receive, and trust yourself and your partner. If you’re ready to learn how to stop self-sabotaging and start feeling safe in love, hit play. And if you’re craving step-by-step support, come join us inside The Healing Girl Gang (where we practice these tools every single month!)   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

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• How To Stop Over Giving And Still Feel Like A Priority

  If you're constantly planning, smoothing things over, doing the most in your relationship while low-key wondering “Why can’t they just do more??” — this episode is for you. 💥 If you're a high-achieving, hyper-capable girly who’s exhausted from holding it all together in love, this is your sign to stop performing and start receiving. Period. 👀 In this episode, I break down: • The sneaky ways anxious attachment disguises itself as “being helpful” • Why trying to “earn love through effort” is killing your intimacy • How overgiving actually blocks your partner from stepping up • What it really means to feel chosen without performing • How to stop managing your relationship like a second job • What to do instead — so you feel prioritized and adored 🎧 We also get into: • A client win that had me in my feels 🥹 (from overthinking queen to secure & supported) • A peek inside what’s working inside Healing Girl Gang • How my husband Craig reminded me (with an accent wall no less 😅) what can happen when we let go and receive This one’s part tough love, part best friend pep talk, and all soul truth. Because you don’t need to earn love. You deserve to feel it, just as you are. 👇 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG Weekly trainings, nervous system resets, and live support so you stop spiraling and start receiving: HealingGirlGang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

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• How to Feel Like a Priority Without Chasing or Being Needy

  In this episoe we’re talking about how to feel like a priority in your relationship... without slipping into overthinking, over‑analyzing every text, or feeling like you’re “asking for too much.” This episode is for you if: • You know they care about you… but you can’t always feel it • You find yourself checking for proof or reassurance • You are tired of being the one initiating, planning, or emotionally leading • Your brain does wind sprints when there’s space or distance in the relationship • You’re successful in every other area of life, but your nervous system goes ✨ feral✨ in love   Trust me, I’ve lived this. I went from anxiously attached (and chronically exhausted from managing the relationship in my head) to actually feeling chosen, safe, and prioritized in a secure partnership. And we’re unpacking exactly how that shift happens today. 💛 🌙 If you're new: I’m Clare! Relationship and attachment coach for high‑achieving women who are incredible at life… but feel wobbly in love. MDs, founders, attorneys, academics, corporate powerhouses - the girlies who “have their life together” but still spiral at the slow text response? Yep. You’re home. Love you, mean it. x Clare 🤍 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

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• How I Accidentally Rewired My Anxious Attachment Into a Secure One

  You're not needy. You're just healing! In this episode, I’m sharing how I accidentally rewired my anxious attachment into a secure one...without forcing it, faking it, or labeling myself as “crazy.” If you’ve ever found yourself wondering: “Why am I spiraling when everything is fine?” “Why do I panic when things finally feel safe?” …or “Why can’t I just stay calm in a good relationship?” This one’s for you, bb 🫶 👇Here’s what we’re unpacking today: ✨ Why your brain freaks out when your body finally relaxes ✨ How “self-awareness” can actually be a form of over-control ✨ Why you still feel unsafe in a healthy relationship ✨ What it really means to self-regulate vs. spiral ✨ The power of experiencing consistent love (instead of just talking about it) ✨ And how your partner’s stability can rewire your nervous system—if you let it PLUS: real wins from the Healing Girl Gang! 💌 If you’re a high-achieving, emotionally intelligent woman who crushes it at work but crumbles inside a text bubble… this one’s for you. 🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed. 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

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• How Being ‘Chill’ Can Push a Safe Partner Away (When You Have Relationship Anxiety)

  Welcome back BBs! In this episode, we’re diving deep into a pattern I see all the time: acting “chill” when inside, you're spiraling. You know the drill...trying so hard to come off as the "cool-low-maintenance-unbothered-girlie" so you don’t scare a good partner away… but then end up feeling lonely, disconnected, or like they’re slipping further away anyway... Yeah, we’re unpacking THAT. We’re talking: ✨ Why “being chill” is often just masked FEAR ✨ How inauthenticity actually erodes intimacy ✨ What safe partners are really craving (hint: it’s not perfection) and ✨ How to stop false-signaling and start authentically expressing what’s real for YOU! Whether you're anxiously attached, healing from abandonment, or a high-achieving, high-performing baddie who secretly (or not-so-secretly) melts down when someone doesn’t text back right away… this one’s for you. 🫶 PLUS: I’m answering a juicy Healing Girl Gang Hotline question from someone navigating a relationship blowup and trying to repair trust after spiraling. 🎧 This episode is for you if you’ve ever: Said “I’m fine” through gritted teeth Pretended to be cool with ambiguity but were low-key obsessing Felt like your partner didn’t get how much effort you were putting into not freaking out Or thought, “Ugh, maybe I’m just not meant to be in a relationship” (spoiler: you are) P.S. Inside the Healing Girl Gang community, we’re not about faking it till we make it... we’re about becoming actually unbothered from the inside out. If you're ready for deeper connection, more ease, and to stop abandoning yourself to keep someone else, you’ll love this episode!! 🦋 And If You're Ready for The Deeper Work, Checkout These Resources: 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

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