BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

Have you ever worried that you're just... TOO MUCH in your relationship? 😭

Too needy. Too sensitive. Too emotional. Too many questions. Too much reassurance.

Meanwhile, you're a fully functioning, independent, successful woman in literally every other area of your life.

MAKE IT MAKE SENSE.

In this episode, we're talking about that awful feeling that your anxious attachment is going to push someone away, and what happens when you're so afraid of being "too much" that you start making yourself smaller.

Because there's a difference between having needs, experiencing relationship anxiety, and letting your fear decide how you show up in love.

And babe, you don't have to become the world's chillest, lowest-maintenance girlfriend to have a secure relationship. 🫶🏽

Not sure if it's your anxiety or something actually wrong in your relationship?

I made you a 2-minute quiz to help you start figuring that out.

Take it here:

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You rearrange your schedule. Keep your weekends open. Make sure there’s time to see them.

And somehow you’re STILL sitting there thinking… why don’t I feel like a priority?! 😭

In this episode, we’re talking about what can actually be happening when you feel unimportant or unchosen in your relationship, even when your partner is kind, considerate, and showing up for you.

Because sometimes the problem isn’t that they stopped prioritizing you.

It’s that somewhere along the way, you stopped prioritizing yourself.

I’m getting into why anxious attachment can make us completely merge with our relationships, the “cool chill girlfriend” trap, why knowing you self-abandon isn’t the same as knowing how to STOP doing it when the stakes feel high, and what my own relationship with Craig taught me about keeping your own damn life.

Because secure attachment isn’t caring less about your relationship.

It’s realizing you don’t have to abandon yourself to feel chosen by someone else. 🫶🏽

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You know when your partner has told you they love you, shown you they love you, and your anxious attachment is STILL like... okay but can you tell me again? 😭

In this episode, we’re talking about why you crave constant reassurance in your relationship and why trying to force yourself to “stop being needy” doesn’t actually solve what’s happening underneath.

I’m breaking down why reassurance can start to feel like a caffeine tolerance, the difference between wanting reassurance and needing proof, and how learning to sit with discomfort and trust yourself can help you move toward secure attachment.

Plus, I’m answering: “My partner says I ask for reassurance too much and it’s pushing them away. I know it’s a problem, but I can’t stop. What do I do?”

Because secure attachment isn’t never wanting reassurance again. It’s being able to receive the love that’s already there without needing them to prove it to you 15 more times. 🫶🏽

 

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You’ve read the books. Saved the posts. You KNOW you have anxious attachment. So why are you still overthinking everything?! 😭

In this episode, we’re talking about the frustrating gap between knowing your patterns and actually changing them. Because being wildly self-aware doesn’t necessarily stop you from analyzing the text, replaying the conversation, or wondering if something is wrong.

At some point, we have to stop becoming experts in why we spiral and start changing what happens when we do.

If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware girlie who is very tired of knowing better and still doing the thing... hiiiii. This one’s for you. 🫶🏽

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In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 things I learned to tell myself when my anxious attachment was triggered that helped me stop turning one tiny vibe shift into an entire relationship spiral.

We’re talking about why you can’t out-logic your nervous system, why what feels hysteric can be historic, and the BIG one: urgency does not equal truth.

I’m also answering a listener question about catching feelings during the talking stage and how to stop anxiety from rushing you into treating someone like a committed partner before you actually know them.

Because the goal isn’t to never get triggered. It’s learning how to feel the trigger without letting it write the entire story. 🫶🏽

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