BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

Have you ever been convinced something was wrong in your relationship... only to realize later your brain completely made it up?

Maybe they took longer to text back.
Maybe they seemed quieter than usual.
Maybe one tiny moment turned into a full-blown story that had you convinced they were losing interest, pulling away... or worse.

If you've ever felt trapped in those spirals, this episode is for you.

In this episode of the Be That Healing Girl Podcast, I'm sharing one of the most personal stories I've ever told. During a solo wilderness retreat, my anxious brain convinced me—with absolutely zero evidence—that my husband was having an affair. It felt completely real... until I was finally able to watch my mind create the story in real time.

We dive into why anxious attachment doesn't just react to reality—it often fills in the blanks, creating stories that feel true even when they aren't.

In this episode, we cover:
✨ Why your anxious brain creates fake relationship scenarios
✨ The difference between intuition and anxiety
✨ Why your brain always assumes the worst
✨ How anxious attachment turns uncertainty into "proof"
✨ Why distraction isn't the same as healing
✨ The fear loop that keeps reinforcing relationship anxiety
✨ How to recognize when you're reacting to a story instead of reality
✨ The first step toward breaking the cycle

If you're a high-achieving woman who's exhausted from overthinking every text, replaying conversations, or waiting for the other shoe to drop—even in a healthy relationship—this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface.

💚 Want to stop living in false alarms and finally feel safe in love?

Check out the Secure Love Lab, my coaching program designed to help you break free from anxious attachment, stop spiraling, and build lasting emotional security.

 

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Hey Girlies! It's your girl Clare back at it with another episode of the BeThatHEalingGirl Podcast where we're diving into the real and sometimes messy parts of our love lives.

🌟 This week is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that especially with those sweet, secure types who just wanted to love us, right? Wondering why things seem to implode just when they're getting good? Girl, you're not alone, and this episode is here to unpack all of that mess with you. We're talking about the signs, the whys, and how to finally stop self-sabotaging our love lives.

🚫💔 Whether you're the queen of 'big city moves' but can't seem to hold down a city boy, or you're married and picking fights over who left the cap off the toothpaste - this chat is for you.

Plus, I'm sharing some super personal stories and client experiences that'll make you say, "Omg, that's totally me!" Ready to kick those bad habits and start owning your love story? Press play, and let's get into it!

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In this week's episode, I'm unpacking why reassurance never seems to stick and why asking for more isn't actually the thing that's going to make you feel safe.

One of the biggest mindset shifts I ever had was realizing I wasn't really asking:

"Do you love me?"

I was asking:

"Am I safe?"

And those are two completely different questions.

We get into:

✨ Why reassurance feels good... for about five minutes

✨ The anxious attachment loop that keeps resetting itself

✨ Why your partner can't fix something that isn't actually coming from them

✨ The difference between communicating your needs and chasing reassurance

✨ How to build the kind of internal safety that doesn't disappear every time they take three hours to text back

If you've ever felt embarrassed by how much reassurance you need or wondered why you can absolutely crush it at work but completely unravel over one delayed text... this episode is for you.

And if you're tired of understanding your patterns but still feeling trapped by them... I have something coming that's built exactly for that.

🎧 Let's get into it!

 

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If you've ever felt like you're pushing a good person away because of your anxiety, or if you're caught in the same argument cycle every few weeks, this episode is a must-listen for you. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or even married and finding those anxious triggers popping up, I'm here to guide you through it. 💖

In today's episode, I get real about my own journey with anxious attachment, share insights on how these symptoms can sabotage a good thing, and offer strategies to not only stop pushing your partner away but to actually bring them closer. Plus, don't miss the hot tip at the end where I reveal the internal shift that changed everything for me!!!

🔍 Inside This Episode:

- Personal anecdotes and lessons learned from my own relationship struggles 📚

- Understanding the impact of anxiously attached symptoms on your love life 💔

- Strategies to manage triggers and avoid pushing your partner away 🛑

- A transformative hot tip that will help you bring your partner closer instead of driving them away 🔥

If you're a high-achieving, overthinking girly who's slaying in every area of your life except romantically, then you're in the perfect spot. Let's navigate these choppy waters together and turn your relationship anxiety into a source of strength.

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You know you're overthinking... so why can't you stop? 🤯

You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You know your attachment style, your triggers, and exactly why you're spiraling...

...so why are you still spiraling?

In this episode, we'll unpack the hard truth that most self-aware women never hear: understanding your anxious attachment isn't the same as rewiring it. If you're stuck in the cycle of "I know what's happening, but I still can't stop," this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we cover:

🧠 Why self-awareness alone doesn't stop relationship anxiety
💭 The trap of becoming an expert on your anxiety... without changing it
❤️ Why high-achieving women often feel the most frustrated with their healing journey
🔥 The difference between insight and actual transformation
✨ A client story that proves real change is possible when you stop collecting information and start practicing something different
🍪 Clare's favorite cookie analogy for why more journaling isn't always the answer

If you've ever thought...

"I know I'm overthinking. I know WHY I'm overthinking... so why can't I stop?"

...you're going to feel incredibly seen in this episode.

Whether you're navigating anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, people-pleasing, or simply feel exhausted from constantly trying to "fix yourself," this episode will help you understand what actually creates lasting change.

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