BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

Ever feel like your partner gets quiet and suddenly your entire nervous system decides the relationship is ending?

Yep. Been there.

In this episode, I'm sharing one of the biggest shifts that helped me stop spiraling every time I thought something felt "off" in my relationship. If you're a high achiever who can solve problems at work all day long but finds yourself replaying texts, analyzing their tone, or convincing yourself they're pulling away, this episode is for you.

We're talking about why your brain keeps trying to "logic" its way out of relationship anxiety, why reassurance only works temporarily, and the emotional skill that actually creates lasting security.

Inside this episode:

✨ Why your partner feeling distant can hijack your entire day

✨ The hidden pattern that keeps anxious attachment alive

✨ Why overthinking and reassurance are keeping you stuck

✨ The mistake high achievers make when anxiety shows up

✨ How to build real emotional safety instead of chasing temporary relief

If you've ever caught yourself wondering, "Are they mad at me?" or convinced yourself the relationship was over because they took longer to text back, I promise you're not alone.

Hit subscribe for weekly episodes on anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, emotional regulation, and building secure, healthy relationships.

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Hey Girlies! It's your girl Clare back at it with another episode of the BeThatHealingGirl Podcast where we're diving into the real and sometimes messy parts of our love lives. 🌟

This week is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that... especially with those sweet, secure types who just wanted to love us, right? Wondering why things seem to implode just when they're getting good?

Girl, you're not alone, and this episode is here to unpack all of that mess with you. We're talking about the signs, the whys, and how to finally stop self-sabotaging our love lives. 🚫💔

Whether you're the queen of 'big city moves' but can't seem to hold down a city boy, or you're married and picking fights over who left the cap off the toothpaste...this chat is for you. Plus, I'm sharing some super personal stories and client experiences that'll make you say, "Omg, that's totally me!"

Ready to kick those bad habits and start owning your love story? Press play, and let's get into it! And hey, if you love what you hear, don't forget to hit that subscribe button 🎧✨

#SelfSabotage #RelationshipAdvice #LoveLife #HealingJourney #PodcastLife #GirlTalk #RealTalk #empowerment

 

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Have you ever been convinced something was wrong in your relationship... only to realize later your brain completely made it up?

Maybe they took longer to text back.
Maybe they seemed quieter than usual.
Maybe one tiny moment turned into a full-blown story that had you convinced they were losing interest, pulling away... or worse.

If you've ever felt trapped in those spirals, this episode is for you.

In this episode of the Be That Healing Girl Podcast, I'm sharing one of the most personal stories I've ever told. During a solo wilderness retreat, my anxious brain convinced me—with absolutely zero evidence—that my husband was having an affair. It felt completely real... until I was finally able to watch my mind create the story in real time.

We dive into why anxious attachment doesn't just react to reality—it often fills in the blanks, creating stories that feel true even when they aren't.

In this episode, we cover:
✨ Why your anxious brain creates fake relationship scenarios
✨ The difference between intuition and anxiety
✨ Why your brain always assumes the worst
✨ How anxious attachment turns uncertainty into "proof"
✨ Why distraction isn't the same as healing
✨ The fear loop that keeps reinforcing relationship anxiety
✨ How to recognize when you're reacting to a story instead of reality
✨ The first step toward breaking the cycle

If you're a high-achieving woman who's exhausted from overthinking every text, replaying conversations, or waiting for the other shoe to drop—even in a healthy relationship—this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface.

💚 Want to stop living in false alarms and finally feel safe in love?

Check out the Secure Love Lab, my coaching program designed to help you break free from anxious attachment, stop spiraling, and build lasting emotional security.

 

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Hey Girlies! It's your girl Clare back at it with another episode of the BeThatHEalingGirl Podcast where we're diving into the real and sometimes messy parts of our love lives.

🌟 This week is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that especially with those sweet, secure types who just wanted to love us, right? Wondering why things seem to implode just when they're getting good? Girl, you're not alone, and this episode is here to unpack all of that mess with you. We're talking about the signs, the whys, and how to finally stop self-sabotaging our love lives.

🚫💔 Whether you're the queen of 'big city moves' but can't seem to hold down a city boy, or you're married and picking fights over who left the cap off the toothpaste - this chat is for you.

Plus, I'm sharing some super personal stories and client experiences that'll make you say, "Omg, that's totally me!" Ready to kick those bad habits and start owning your love story? Press play, and let's get into it!

And hey, if you love what you hear, don't forget to hit that subscribe button 🎧✨

#SelfSabotage #RelationshipAdvice #LoveLife #HealingJourney #PodcastLife #GirlTalk #RealTalk #empowerment

 

✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨

https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll

 

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JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY

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In this week's episode, I'm unpacking why reassurance never seems to stick and why asking for more isn't actually the thing that's going to make you feel safe.

One of the biggest mindset shifts I ever had was realizing I wasn't really asking:

"Do you love me?"

I was asking:

"Am I safe?"

And those are two completely different questions.

We get into:

✨ Why reassurance feels good... for about five minutes

✨ The anxious attachment loop that keeps resetting itself

✨ Why your partner can't fix something that isn't actually coming from them

✨ The difference between communicating your needs and chasing reassurance

✨ How to build the kind of internal safety that doesn't disappear every time they take three hours to text back

If you've ever felt embarrassed by how much reassurance you need or wondered why you can absolutely crush it at work but completely unravel over one delayed text... this episode is for you.

And if you're tired of understanding your patterns but still feeling trapped by them... I have something coming that's built exactly for that.

🎧 Let's get into it!

 

✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨

https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll

 

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JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY

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WORK WITH CLARE

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