BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

Worried they won’t show up for you on Valentine’s Day? Spiraling about whether you’ll feel chosen, loved, or disappointed? This episode is for you. 💔

In this week’s podcast ep, we’re talking about relationship anxiety around Valentine’s Day... and why overthinking romance, surprises, and expectations can actually block the connection you want most.

If you’ve ever:

- Wondered if you should tell your partner what you want… or stay “chill”

- Felt scared to seem needy or high‑maintenance

- Lowered your expectations so you don’t get hurt

- Fantasized about being chosen without having to ask

- Kept score after holidays, gifts, or effort …this conversation will hit home.

I’m breaking down the anxious attachment patterns that get activated around Valentine’s Day, including the internal debate of “Do I say something or not?”, people‑pleasing tendencies, and how the pressure to be the “cool girl” creates distance in relationships.

We also talk about:

✨ Why overthinking ruins spontaneity and romance

✨ The truth about wanting to feel chosen in relationships

✨ How scorekeeping damages connection over time

✨ What you’re actually in control of (and what you’re not)

✨ How to lead yourself through uncertainty without spiraling

Because here’s the hard truth: you are NOT in control of whether your partner “gets it right” on Valentine’s Day… but you are in control of how you show up for yourself. If you struggle with anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, or overthinking a good partner — this episode will help you reset before the holiday and focus on what actually builds secure love.

💌 Ready for deeper support? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we practice the tools and reps that move you from anxious attachment → secure connection.

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If things feel safe in person but the moment you’re apart your brain goes into panic mode… this is the episode to save, replay, and send to your bestie.

In this episode I share:

✨ Why your brain goes into “red alert” even when there’s no actual danger

✨ What overthinking is really trying to protect you from

✨ How anxious attachment can show up as avoidant behavior

✨ The sneaky ways your anxiety becomes a compulsion (yes, like gambling)

✨ What finally helped me stop trying to micromanage my relationship

This one’s personal... I also share how the same overthinking loop showed up in planning my trip to the Philippines (including seeing my dad for the first time in years)… and what finally helped me feel safe enough to stop trying to figure it all out.

And if you feel like you logically know there’s no threat but your body still freaks out? You're not broken. You're running an old system.

Inside The Healing Girl Gang, we don’t just talk about the theory, we practice the new pattern. 🎧 So if you’re tired of always waiting for the other shoe to drop, this is your sign to listen.

🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 

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In today’s episode, I’m getting real about the moment I didn’t look at the facts and how my relationship paid the price. If you’re an overthinker, a scenario-maker, a “what if” queen, or someone who keeps searching for problems when there are none… this episode is for you.

Because here’s the hard truth:

👉 Overthinking in relationships isn’t emotional intelligence.

👉 It’s avoidance.

👉 And it quietly pushes safe, loving partners away.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Wait… am I the drama?” (lovingly), you’re in the right place.

In this episode we talk about:

✨ Why anxious attachment makes you question healthy relationships

✨ How self-sabotage shows up as “being logical” or “being cautious”

✨ The difference between facts vs. stories your anxiety creates

✨ Why safe love can feel boring, uncomfortable, or “wrong” at first

✨ How trying to control conversations and outcomes kills intimacy

✨ What it actually takes to stop pushing good people away

 

I also share a personal update after my hysterectomy recovery, how this same self-sabotage pattern showed up in my health journey, and why anxious attachment isn’t just about dating... it’s about how we avoid deeper emotional truth in every area of life. If you’re a high-achieving woman who is crushing it in your career but spiraling in your relationship… I see you. You are not broken. You’re just running an outdated emotional system.

🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 

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Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! 🧠💘

Today’s episode is for the girlies who are exhausted from being the emotional project manager of their relationship. You know the one: the planner, the fixer, the emotional laborer, the one Googling “how to stop being anxious but still be lovable.”

If your brain tells you, “If I stop trying, nothing will happen,” and you're scared your relationship will crumble unless you give 200% every second… this episode will hit. hard. 👀

We’re talking:

- The lie anxious attachment tells you about effort = love

- How overfunctioning is killing your vibe and your connection

- What it actually means to feel safe and loved without working overtime

- And why letting your partner choose you requires you to chill (even if it makes you twitchy)

Plus... an update from my hysterectomy recovery era and how Head Nurse Craig is thriving, and I am deeply humbled and deeply moisturized.

🎧 And don’t forget: if you’re tired of the spiral, the resentment, and the fake chill girl act, the Healing Girl Gang is where we turn information into actual transformation. It’s not just “awareness,” babe. It’s reps, it’s nervous system work, it’s receipts. Come do the work and feel good doing it!

🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 

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If your brain goes from 0 to 100 the second something feels “off” ... if you replay conversations, wait for texts, or feel that frantic “I have to fix this” energy... this episode is for you! In today's podcast I’m walking you through a simple, science‑backed breathing tool you can use right now to slow down an anxious spiral and bring your nervous system back online.

This is the tool I personally use when:

• I feel the urge to check my phone

• My thoughts start racing

• My body feels buzzy, panicky, or unsafe

• My anxious attachment is running the show

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

✨ Why anxiety and anxious attachment thrive on speed

✨ What a “psychological sigh” is and how it calms your nervous system

✨ A step‑by‑step breathing technique to use when you’re spiraling

✨ The difference between calming a symptom vs. rewiring the system

And I’m also going to be real with you: This tool will slow the spiral, but it won’t heal anxious attachment by itself. That happens when you change the system your nervous system is running on.

That’s exactly what we do inside Healing Girl Gang through reps, structure, and real‑life nervous system retraining, not just mindset hacks.

And just know: You are not broken.

You are not too much.

Your nervous system learned a pattern... and it can learn a new one.

 

🦋 Ready for the deeper work? 

🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥 

💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖

🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕

FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session