BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

You know that feeling when your partner takes a little longer to text back, seems slightly less affectionate, or doesn't send the usual goodnight emoji and suddenly your brain is screaming SOMETHING IS WRONG?! 😭

Babe. I've BEEN there.

In this episode, we're talking about what to do when your partner feels distant, why even perfectly normal space can feel like rejection when you have anxious attachment, and how our desperate attempts to feel closer can actually push connection further away.

I'm sharing what dating my husband Craig taught me about navigating distance, why trying to keep every text conversation going isn't necessarily creating intimacy, and the difference between being proactive in your relationship and straight-up micromanaging it. 🙃

Because here's the thing:

Zero distance isn't intimacy. And giving someone space isn't the same as playing hard to get.

You don't need to pretend you don't care, ignore their texts, or become the world's chillest girlfriend.

But you CAN learn to stop treating every little bit of distance like a five-alarm relationship emergency.

Sometimes your relationship doesn't need fixing. It just needs a little room to BREATHE. 🫶🏽

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Have you ever worried that you're just... TOO MUCH in your relationship? 😭

Too needy. Too sensitive. Too emotional. Too many questions. Too much reassurance.

Meanwhile, you're a fully functioning, independent, successful woman in literally every other area of your life.

MAKE IT MAKE SENSE.

In this episode, we're talking about that awful feeling that your anxious attachment is going to push someone away, and what happens when you're so afraid of being "too much" that you start making yourself smaller.

Because there's a difference between having needs, experiencing relationship anxiety, and letting your fear decide how you show up in love.

And babe, you don't have to become the world's chillest, lowest-maintenance girlfriend to have a secure relationship. 🫶🏽

Not sure if it's your anxiety or something actually wrong in your relationship?

I made you a 2-minute quiz to help you start figuring that out.

Take it here:

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You rearrange your schedule. Keep your weekends open. Make sure there’s time to see them.

And somehow you’re STILL sitting there thinking… why don’t I feel like a priority?! 😭

In this episode, we’re talking about what can actually be happening when you feel unimportant or unchosen in your relationship, even when your partner is kind, considerate, and showing up for you.

Because sometimes the problem isn’t that they stopped prioritizing you.

It’s that somewhere along the way, you stopped prioritizing yourself.

I’m getting into why anxious attachment can make us completely merge with our relationships, the “cool chill girlfriend” trap, why knowing you self-abandon isn’t the same as knowing how to STOP doing it when the stakes feel high, and what my own relationship with Craig taught me about keeping your own damn life.

Because secure attachment isn’t caring less about your relationship.

It’s realizing you don’t have to abandon yourself to feel chosen by someone else. 🫶🏽

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You know when your partner has told you they love you, shown you they love you, and your anxious attachment is STILL like... okay but can you tell me again? 😭

In this episode, we’re talking about why you crave constant reassurance in your relationship and why trying to force yourself to “stop being needy” doesn’t actually solve what’s happening underneath.

I’m breaking down why reassurance can start to feel like a caffeine tolerance, the difference between wanting reassurance and needing proof, and how learning to sit with discomfort and trust yourself can help you move toward secure attachment.

Plus, I’m answering: “My partner says I ask for reassurance too much and it’s pushing them away. I know it’s a problem, but I can’t stop. What do I do?”

Because secure attachment isn’t never wanting reassurance again. It’s being able to receive the love that’s already there without needing them to prove it to you 15 more times. 🫶🏽

 

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You’ve read the books. Saved the posts. You KNOW you have anxious attachment. So why are you still overthinking everything?! 😭

In this episode, we’re talking about the frustrating gap between knowing your patterns and actually changing them. Because being wildly self-aware doesn’t necessarily stop you from analyzing the text, replaying the conversation, or wondering if something is wrong.

At some point, we have to stop becoming experts in why we spiral and start changing what happens when we do.

If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware girlie who is very tired of knowing better and still doing the thing... hiiiii. This one’s for you. 🫶🏽

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