BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

If you’ve ever said *“I’m gonna be the BEST partner ever and do all the right things”… and then wondered why you still feel anxious, on edge, or like you're constantly spiraling... this episode is for you. Today, I’m breaking down why over-focusing on your relationship is actually making you feel less secure, more anxious, and totally disconnected from yourself. Inside this episode, we dive into: 💔 The sneaky anxious attachment loop that leads to emotional burnout 🔁 Why logic alone won’t soothe your nervous system 🧠 How hyper-focusing on your partner creates fragility in your relationship 📱 The role your phone (yep!) plays in your spirals 🌱 What “watering your own garden” actually looks like when you have anxious tendencies Plus, I share a personal story about going to the movies alone (and loving it!) something old-me would never have done, and why this tiny moment marked a huge healing milestone. This episode is part love letter, part wake-up call and it’s the kind of grounded nervous system reframe I wish I had years ago. If you’re an anxious achiever, a closeted overfunctioner, or a recovering people-pleaser who’s tired of trying to “fix” your relationship by fixing yourself... listen to this one all the way through. There’s no shame here, just clarity, tools, and space to breathe again. 👇 Let me know in the comments if this hit home, and say “girlgang” if you’re ready to rewire this pattern with me inside The Healing Girl Gang.   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In this episode we’re breaking down the 3 most common (but sneaky) anxious attachment habits that slowly destroy connection over time... even in loving relationships! If you: - Feel like you’re too much or never enough - Constantly overanalyze texts, tone, or timing - Chase closeness, but end up feeling even more alone… This episode is your wake-up call and your path to healing!   We’ll dive into: 💔 The hidden habits rooted in fear of abandonment 🧠 Why “logic” won’t save you from spiraling 💡 What to do instead to create security, closeness, and calm   Whether you’re currently in a relationship or just trying to break old patterns before your next one, this is a must-listen! 🎧 Save it, share it, and come back when you need the reminder. P.s. If you're new here, this is exactly the kind of deep nervous system work we do inside of my community, the Healing Girl Gang - because healing anxious attachment doesn’t just change your relationships… it changes you. Let me know which habit resonated most in the comments 💬👇   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If your thoughts are spiraling… If you’re checking your phone again… If your brain won’t slow down and it feels like your nervous system is in overdrive… This episode is your quick reset. 🤍 In today’s episode I’m walking you through the fastest and most effective tool I use to calm an anxious spiral (especially when I don’t have the luxury of sitting in it). This isn’t a long list of coping strategies. It’s one tool. One moment. One practice. To bring you back to yourself. We’ll cover: ✨ How to disrupt an anxious overthinking loop in real time ✨ Why your chest breath might be making things worse ✨ The underrated ancient practice that resets your nervous system ✨ How to be present when you feel totally out of control If your texts are open, your heart is pounding, and you’re stuck refreshing their story or waiting for a reply… you’re not alone! I’ve been there. This is exactly the kind of moment where this tool matters most. 🎧 Save this episode. Come back to it. Share it with a friend who spirals too. And if you’re listening while I’m recovering from surgery (yep, hysterectomy time), send some love my way. I’ll take all the healing vibes you’ve got. 💌 As always, this is the kind of real, grounded, nervous system support we do inside the Healing Girl Gang. You are so not alone.   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In today’s episode I’m breaking down why your nervous system reacts so intensely to your partner’s mood, distance, or emotional shifts... and more importantly, how to stay grounded instead of spiraling. This one is especially for my high‑achieving, high‑functioning girlies who are crushing it at work… but feel like they’re one unread message away from losing their peace in love. We’re talking about: ✨ Why “the vibes feel off” can completely derail your nervous system ✨ The difference between reacting from fear vs responding from regulation ✨ Why reassurance only works temporarily (and what actually creates safety) ✨ How anxious attachment keeps you stuck trying to outthink or outwork your emotions ✨ The nervous system mistake high achievers make in relationships ✨ How to stay grounded (even when there is distance, silence, or uncertainty) I also share personal updates around my upcoming hysterectomy and how physical discomfort, overstimulation, and stress lower our emotional threshold - making relationship anxiety feel louder and harder to manage. (Spoiler: this isn’t about “doing more,” it’s about reducing the load.) Plus, I’m celebrating a HUGE win from a client who is navigating dating without losing herself! Proof that healing anxious attachment isn’t about perfection, it’s about recommitment. Sending you so much love, Clare 🤍   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session