BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

You rearrange your schedule. Keep your weekends open. Make sure there’s time to see them.

And somehow you’re STILL sitting there thinking… why don’t I feel like a priority?! 😭

In this episode, we’re talking about what can actually be happening when you feel unimportant or unchosen in your relationship, even when your partner is kind, considerate, and showing up for you.

Because sometimes the problem isn’t that they stopped prioritizing you.

It’s that somewhere along the way, you stopped prioritizing yourself.

I’m getting into why anxious attachment can make us completely merge with our relationships, the “cool chill girlfriend” trap, why knowing you self-abandon isn’t the same as knowing how to STOP doing it when the stakes feel high, and what my own relationship with Craig taught me about keeping your own damn life.

Because secure attachment isn’t caring less about your relationship.

It’s realizing you don’t have to abandon yourself to feel chosen by someone else. 🫶🏽

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You know when your partner has told you they love you, shown you they love you, and your anxious attachment is STILL like... okay but can you tell me again? 😭

In this episode, we’re talking about why you crave constant reassurance in your relationship and why trying to force yourself to “stop being needy” doesn’t actually solve what’s happening underneath.

I’m breaking down why reassurance can start to feel like a caffeine tolerance, the difference between wanting reassurance and needing proof, and how learning to sit with discomfort and trust yourself can help you move toward secure attachment.

Plus, I’m answering: “My partner says I ask for reassurance too much and it’s pushing them away. I know it’s a problem, but I can’t stop. What do I do?”

Because secure attachment isn’t never wanting reassurance again. It’s being able to receive the love that’s already there without needing them to prove it to you 15 more times. 🫶🏽

 

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You’ve read the books. Saved the posts. You KNOW you have anxious attachment. So why are you still overthinking everything?! 😭

In this episode, we’re talking about the frustrating gap between knowing your patterns and actually changing them. Because being wildly self-aware doesn’t necessarily stop you from analyzing the text, replaying the conversation, or wondering if something is wrong.

At some point, we have to stop becoming experts in why we spiral and start changing what happens when we do.

If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware girlie who is very tired of knowing better and still doing the thing... hiiiii. This one’s for you. 🫶🏽

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In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 things I learned to tell myself when my anxious attachment was triggered that helped me stop turning one tiny vibe shift into an entire relationship spiral.

We’re talking about why you can’t out-logic your nervous system, why what feels hysteric can be historic, and the BIG one: urgency does not equal truth.

I’m also answering a listener question about catching feelings during the talking stage and how to stop anxiety from rushing you into treating someone like a committed partner before you actually know them.

Because the goal isn’t to never get triggered. It’s learning how to feel the trigger without letting it write the entire story. 🫶🏽

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You know that feeling when they haven't texted back and suddenly your brain is doing A Beautiful Mind level calculations trying to figure out what it means? 😭

They told you they have a busy day. They've consistently shown you they care. You KNOW logically that nothing is wrong.

But your anxious attachment is like... okay but why are they being quiet???

In this episode of the Be That Healing Girl Podcast, we're talking about why your partner's silence can feel SO freaking unbearable when you have anxious attachment, and why a delayed text, a little distance, or them needing space can suddenly feel like proof that they're pulling away.

Because the problem usually isn't actually the silence.

It's what your internal system has learned to make the silence mean.

For me, silence used to mean: You're alone. No one's coming. Figure it out yourself.

And no amount of telling myself, “Craig is probably just busy” could make that feeling disappear.

Inside this episode, we're getting into:

✨ Why your partner not texting back can trigger an anxious attachment spiral
✨ Why you can be wildly confident at work and completely unravel in your relationship
✨ The “girl math” we do with response times when we're looking for reassurance
✨ Why your brain starts hunting for evidence that they're pulling away
✨ How people pleasing and overfunctioning can become ways of trying to earn safety in love
✨ Why “just communicate” isn't always the answer
✨ Why reassurance can feel amazing... until they go quiet again
✨ The childhood experience that helped me understand why silence felt so threatening to me
✨ My motion-sensor-light analogy for understanding relationship anxiety
✨ What secure attachment actually looks like when your partner needs space

I also answer a question from inside Secure Love Lab:

“Every time they need space, I immediately assume they're pulling away for good. How do I know if it's real?”

Because secure attachment doesn't mean your partner never goes quiet.

It means their silence doesn't automatically become a story about your worth, their feelings, or the future of your relationship.

And THAT is what we're working toward.

If you're a high-achieving woman who can run the meeting, manage the team, make the diagnosis, close the deal... but one unanswered text has you wondering if the relationship is over, hiiiii babe. This one's for you. 😂

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