BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

You keep chasing. They keep pulling away. And somehow you're both exhausted. 😵‍💫

If you've ever felt like you're carrying the relationship, making all the plans, initiating all the conversations, and doing all the emotional heavy lifting... this episode is for you.

Because here's the hard truth:

The more you push for connection, the harder it can become for someone else to show up.

In this episode, we're diving into what it actually takes to break the anxious-avoidant cycle and why the answer isn't communicating better, trying harder, or becoming the "perfect" partner.

Inside this episode:
💭 Why you keep finding yourself in the same push-pull dynamic
🫠 The surprising way anxiety creates distance in relationships
📅 Why making all the plans might be the thing keeping you stuck
❤️ What happens when you stop forcing connection and start allowing it
🌪️ How overfunctioning destroys intimacy (even when your intentions are good)
🌱 The difference between being flexible and being a people-pleasing pushover
✨ What secure attachment actually looks like in real life

If you're a high-achiever who can run a business, manage a team, crush your goals, and somehow still spend hours wondering why someone hasn't texted back...

Welcome. You're in the right place!

Because healing anxious attachment isn't about becoming easier to love.

It's about becoming secure enough to stop chasing it.

And sometimes the thing you're desperately trying to create is the exact thing you're accidentally preventing.

Grab your coffee, put your detective hat down for a minute, and let's talk about it. 🤍

#AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantAttachment 

✨ Ready to stop chasing and start feeling secure?

If you're tired of the push-pull dynamic running your relationship, Clare offers private coaching for women who are ready to break the pattern for good.

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They're busy, stressed, traveling, focused on work... and logically you know nothing is wrong.

But your nervous system? Your nervous system is acting like the relationship is on fire.

In this episode, we're talking about what to do with yourself when your partner feels distant and why the answer has nothing to do with getting them to text faster, reassure you more, or prove they still care.

Because the truth is:
The moment they pull back, most anxious attachers immediately abandon themselves.

And that's where the spiral begins.

In this episode:

💭 Why distance feels like an emergency when you have anxious attachment
📱 The urge to text, check, monitor, and keep the conversation alive
🫠 Why "matching their energy" usually creates even more distance
❤️ The difference between trusting your partner and actually feeling safe
🔍 How overthinking turns you into a relationship detective
🌿 What secure attachment really looks like when someone is having an off day
✨ The surprising question that will stop you from centering your entire life around their availability

If you're a high-achieving woman who can manage a business, lead a team, crush your goals... but completely unravel when someone's energy changes, this episode is for you.

Because healing anxious attachment isn't about getting better at reading signals.

It's about learning how to stay connected to yourself when someone else feels unavailable.

And that's exactly what we're diving into today. 🤍

✨ Want to stop spiraling every time their energy shifts?

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If you’ve ever had the BEST weekend together… only to spiral the second Monday hits?

This episode is for you.

We’re diving into:

✨ why the “post-weekend crash” happens

✨ why anxiety gets louder after connection - not quieter

✨ the hidden loop behind overthinking, decoding texts, and picking fights you don’t even want to have

✨ why reassurance never fully fixes it

✨ the difference between a relationship problem and an anxiety problem pretending to be one

I’m also sharing:

🤍 a personal story from my own relationship

🤍 a powerful client breakthrough

🤍 why your nervous system keeps trying to “prepare for loss”

🤍 and the exact reason so many high-achieving women stay stuck in this cycle for years

This episode is deep, validating, practical, and honestly one of the most important conversations I’ve had on the podcast in a while.

Because relationship anxiety isn’t usually about the weekend.

It’s about what your safety system learned to do long before this relationship ever existed.

🎧 Listen now if you’re tired of overthinking good things, sabotaging peace, or feeling like your brain is constantly searching for a problem.

 

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This episode is for the girlies who have the degrees, the promotions, the emotional intelligence, the podcasts, the therapy vocabulary… and still feel like they’re one weird text away from a spiral.

And if you’re tired of “understanding your patterns” but still feeling stuck inside them… I'm also sharing more about my newest drop... The Secure Love Lab! My new space for anxious overthinkers who are ready to stop obsessing over the relationship and actually experience it.

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If you constantly feel like you’re “too much” in relationships… this episode is for you. 🫶

Not because your needs are too big.

Not because you’re “crazy.”

Not because you care too much.

But because somewhere along the way, you learned that being lovable meant being easy.

Easy to date.

Easy to communicate with.

Easy to not disappoint.

Easy to never need anything.

So now you:

💭 overthink every conversation

💭 rehearse texts before sending them

💭 hold everything in until you explode

💭 feel guilty for having needs

💭 try soooo hard to be “chill” while secretly spiraling inside

 

In this episode, we’re talking about:

✨ why feeling “too much” is usually rooted in fear of rejection

✨ the exhausting cycle of overexplaining, overfunctioning & people-pleasing

✨ how anxious attachment turns you into a “service provider” instead of a partner

✨ why trying to be low-maintenance actually creates MORE disconnection

✨ the difference between healthy communication vs performing “easy girl” energy

✨ and how to finally feel safe taking up space in love

 

We also talk about:

🧪 codependency vs anxious attachment

🧪 why reassurance never fully scratches the itch

🧪 how overthinking blocks true partnership

🧪 a client win that will make every anxious girlie exhale

 

If you’ve ever thought:

“I just want to stop being so much.”

…this episode might completely change the way you see yourself. ❤️

 

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