BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

• Why Stillness Feels Unsafe When You Have Relationship Anxiety

  If you're constantly planning, smoothing things over, doing the most in your relationship while low-key wondering “Why can’t they just do more??” — this episode is for you. 💥 If you're a high-achieving, hyper-capable girly who’s exhausted from holding it all together in love, this is your sign to stop performing and start receiving. Period. 👀 In this episode, I break down: • The sneaky ways anxious attachment disguises itself as “being helpful” • Why trying to “earn love through effort” is killing your intimacy • How overgiving actually blocks your partner from stepping up • What it really means to feel chosen without performing • How to stop managing your relationship like a second job • What to do instead — so you feel prioritized and adored 🎧 We also get into: • A client win that had me in my feels 🥹 (from overthinking queen to secure & supported) • A peek inside what’s working inside Healing Girl Gang • How my husband Craig reminded me (with an accent wall no less 😅) what can happen when we let go and receive This one’s part tough love, part best friend pep talk, and all soul truth. Because you don’t need to earn love. You deserve to feel it, just as you are. 👇 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG Weekly trainings, nervous system resets, and live support so you stop spiraling and start receiving: HealingGirlGang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

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• How to Feel Like a Priority Without Chasing or Being Needy

  In this episoe we’re talking about how to feel like a priority in your relationship... without slipping into overthinking, over‑analyzing every text, or feeling like you’re “asking for too much.” This episode is for you if: • You know they care about you… but you can’t always feel it • You find yourself checking for proof or reassurance • You are tired of being the one initiating, planning, or emotionally leading • Your brain does wind sprints when there’s space or distance in the relationship • You’re successful in every other area of life, but your nervous system goes ✨ feral✨ in love   Trust me, I’ve lived this. I went from anxiously attached (and chronically exhausted from managing the relationship in my head) to actually feeling chosen, safe, and prioritized in a secure partnership. And we’re unpacking exactly how that shift happens today. 💛 🌙 If you're new: I’m Clare! Relationship and attachment coach for high‑achieving women who are incredible at life… but feel wobbly in love. MDs, founders, attorneys, academics, corporate powerhouses - the girlies who “have their life together” but still spiral at the slow text response? Yep. You’re home. Love you, mean it. x Clare 🤍 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

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• How I Accidentally Rewired My Anxious Attachment Into a Secure One

  You're not needy. You're just healing! In this episode, I’m sharing how I accidentally rewired my anxious attachment into a secure one...without forcing it, faking it, or labeling myself as “crazy.” If you’ve ever found yourself wondering: “Why am I spiraling when everything is fine?” “Why do I panic when things finally feel safe?” …or “Why can’t I just stay calm in a good relationship?” This one’s for you, bb 🫶 👇Here’s what we’re unpacking today: ✨ Why your brain freaks out when your body finally relaxes ✨ How “self-awareness” can actually be a form of over-control ✨ Why you still feel unsafe in a healthy relationship ✨ What it really means to self-regulate vs. spiral ✨ The power of experiencing consistent love (instead of just talking about it) ✨ And how your partner’s stability can rewire your nervous system—if you let it PLUS: real wins from the Healing Girl Gang! 💌 If you’re a high-achieving, emotionally intelligent woman who crushes it at work but crumbles inside a text bubble… this one’s for you. 🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed. 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

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• How Being ‘Chill’ Can Push a Safe Partner Away (When You Have Relationship Anxiety)

  Welcome back BBs! In this episode, we’re diving deep into a pattern I see all the time: acting “chill” when inside, you're spiraling. You know the drill...trying so hard to come off as the "cool-low-maintenance-unbothered-girlie" so you don’t scare a good partner away… but then end up feeling lonely, disconnected, or like they’re slipping further away anyway... Yeah, we’re unpacking THAT. We’re talking: ✨ Why “being chill” is often just masked FEAR ✨ How inauthenticity actually erodes intimacy ✨ What safe partners are really craving (hint: it’s not perfection) and ✨ How to stop false-signaling and start authentically expressing what’s real for YOU! Whether you're anxiously attached, healing from abandonment, or a high-achieving, high-performing baddie who secretly (or not-so-secretly) melts down when someone doesn’t text back right away… this one’s for you. 🫶 PLUS: I’m answering a juicy Healing Girl Gang Hotline question from someone navigating a relationship blowup and trying to repair trust after spiraling. 🎧 This episode is for you if you’ve ever: Said “I’m fine” through gritted teeth Pretended to be cool with ambiguity but were low-key obsessing Felt like your partner didn’t get how much effort you were putting into not freaking out Or thought, “Ugh, maybe I’m just not meant to be in a relationship” (spoiler: you are) P.S. Inside the Healing Girl Gang community, we’re not about faking it till we make it... we’re about becoming actually unbothered from the inside out. If you're ready for deeper connection, more ease, and to stop abandoning yourself to keep someone else, you’ll love this episode!! 🦋 And If You're Ready for The Deeper Work, Checkout These Resources: 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

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• 3 Mistakes You're Making That Make You Second Guess a Secure Relationship

  If you're in a healthy relationship but your brain won't stop spiraling... this episode is going to hit home. In this week’s episode I’m breaking down the 3 mistakes that keep high-achieving, anxious girlies stuck in the cycle of second-guessing even the most loyal and consistent partner. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: “Why can’t I just enjoy this person?” “Why am I prepping for the breakup when everything’s going fine?” “Am I making problems where there are none?” 👀 Then this is for YOU. I’m walking you through: ✨ The "prep for the pain" loop that keeps you emotionally exhausted ✨ Why treating your relationship like a project to manage is sabotaging your joy ✨ How mistaking surveillance for loyalty drains your connection ✨ And how to finally start trusting yourself so you can receive the love right in front of you Whether you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or navigating love after heartbreak, this episode is your permission slip to step off the spiral ride and start feeling secure for real. 🎧 Get ready to hear: → Why your anxiety won’t let you enjoy a secure partner → The real reason you keep sabotaging connection → How to stop overthinking and start building self-trust This episode is especially for my anxious attachment babes, my high-functioning overthinkers, and my career girlies who crush it at work but feel like a mess in love. This week we’re unpacking the real reason your brain confuses anxiety for intuition (and how to stop self‑sabotaging a healthy relationship!) If you’ve ever questioned your feelings, overanalyzed your partner’s every move, or convinced yourself your anxiety was a “gut feeling,” this episode is for you! 🧠 In this episode we'll be diving into: ✨ Why “the ick” is often a fear of intimacy, not intuition ✨ How anxiety shows up as false alarms in safe relationships ✨ The difference between red flags vs. self‑protection ✨ How to stop testing your partner and start trusting connection ✨ What your nervous system is actually trying to protect you from ✨ Why discomfort doesn’t mean danger—it means growth I share a personal story about how I almost lost an incredible partner because I thought my fear was “a sign.” (Spoiler: it wasn’t.) I want you to stop mistaking safety for boredom and start building the kind of secure relationship you’ve been craving! 🫶 Whether you’re newly dating, navigating relationship anxiety, or trying to trust your GOOD partner, this episode will give you the real talk, mindset shifts, and embodiment work you didn’t know you needed.   🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

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