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Finances. Sex. Laundry. Fights happen over all kinds of things and can drive husbands and wives apart. It always takes two to keep a cycle going, but sometimes one can stop it. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster to talk about how we should handle fights with our wives.
Why This Matters
How we handle conflict helps determine the strength, happiness, and longevity of our relationships. 
Key Takeaways
·      Fights are happening all the time: According to YouGov, 30% of couples argue once per week or more. 
·      Silly fights can cause serious damage: Fights are almost always about something deeper than what started them. 

Steps to Handle Fights
1. Get curious.
Ask yourself, “What is this really about?”
2. Own your part.
Acknowledging your part in conflict doesn’t mean blaming yourself or taking full responsibility. 
3. Forgive.
Go ahead and give the forgiveness today that you will most likely need tomorrow.  
4. Circle back.
Don’t let the fight go unresolved. Circle back and let your wife know you love her more than you love being right. 
Important Episode Timestamps 
00:00:34 – 00:01:57 | A Marriage Fight Ted Still Regrets
00:01:57 – 00:06:17 | Most Marriage Fights Aren’t About the Real Issue
00:06:17 – 00:07:30 | The Fear and Shame Cycle in Marriage Conflict
00:07:30 – 00:09:47 | Why Men Shut Down and Women Escalate in Arguments
00:09:47 – 00:11:40 | One Way Dads Can Break the Conflict Cycle
00:11:40 – 00:14:05 | The Danger of Rumination in Marriage Arguments
00:14:05 – 00:15:24 | A Real-Life Example of Misreading Intentions
00:15:24 – 00:16:38 | The Simple Power of Forgiveness in Marriage
00:16:38 – 00:19:40 | Taking Space Without Making Your Spouse Feel Abandoned
00:19:40 – 00:22:07 | The Pro Move: Ask If You’re Making Her Feel Safe
APD Pro Move:
The next time you are feeling conflict with your wife, ask, “Am I making her feel safe or afraid?”
All Pro Dad Resources:
4 Things to Do After an Argument With Your Wife
5 Traps to Avoid in an Argument With Your Wi
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Ask a teacher if his or her job is getting harder. Most will tell you student behavior is their biggest professional hurdle. Can dads play a role in fixing things at school? In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about how bad student behavior has gotten and how the solution starts at home. 
Why This Matters
If we want our kids to excel in the classroom, we should focus on promoting good behavior. 
Key Takeaways
·      Mental health impacts behavior: Increased anxiety, stress, and frustration make it hard for kids to focus.
·      COVID still lingers: The impact is still felt socially and academically.
·      Screens have changed kids’ brains: Constant visual stimulation makes paper and books "boring."
Practical Tips to Help Improve Student Behavior
1. Stop Passenger Parenting (see Episode 106). 
2. Deal With Anxiety. 
3. Relieve Stress Away From School. 
4. Start an All Pro Dad Chapter. 
Important Episode Timestamps
00:02:07 – 00:03:42 | Are Student Behavior Problems Getting Worse?
00:03:42 – 00:05:18 | What’s Driving the Spike in Classroom Issues
00:05:18 – 00:07:06 | The Self-Regulation Crisis in Kids
00:07:06 – 00:09:11 | Screen Time, Dopamine & Attention Problems
00:09:11 – 00:11:04 | The Disappearing Authority of Teachers
00:11:04 – 00:13:02 | Parents vs. Schools: Who Owns Behavior?
00:13:02 – 00:15:14 | Why Kids Struggle With Boundaries Today
00:15:14 – 00:17:26 | Emotional Regulation Starts at Home
00:17:26 – 00:19:41 | Supporting Teachers Instead of Undermining Them
00:19:41 – 00:22:58 | Raising Kids Who Can Function in the Real World
APD Pro Move:
Do one of these things: 
·      Talk to your kids about anxiety and work on coping mechanisms
·      Do something fun and crazy this week to reduce stress
·      Check out an All Pro Dad Chapter
All Pro Dad Resources:
Episode 106 – What is a Passenger Parent and Am I One?
Episode 95 – What Challenges Is Gen Alpha Facing?

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Remember when you were a kid and there was Breaking News on TV? The avalanche of images. The wave of emotions. The same thing happens today, every time we start doomscrolling. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about the dangers of doomscrolling, how it impacts us, and how dads can help their kids stop the cycle. 
Why This Matters
Doomscrolling reportedly leads to worse mental health outcomes, more anxiety, and higher rates of suicide.
Doomscrolling is looking through an endless feed of negative content.
Can Dads Stop the Cycle?
1. Talk to your kids about doomscrolling
2. Teach kids to think of good things
3. Fuel their optimism
Important Episode Timestamps 
00:02:20 – 00:04:46 | What Is Doomscrolling and Why It’s So Addictive
00:04:46 – 00:06:11 | Doomscrolling at Work and Before Bed
00:06:11 – 00:08:01 | The Brain Science Behind Phone Addiction
00:08:01 – 00:10:26 | How Doomscrolling Fuels Pessimism and Anxiety
00:10:26 – 00:12:14 | Negativity Bias: Why Bad News Sticks
00:12:14 – 00:14:09 | Teen Mental Health, Suicide Risk & Screen Time
00:14:09 – 00:17:22 | 24/7 Breaking News in Your Child’s Pocket
00:17:22 – 00:20:19 | How Dads Can Talk to Kids About Doomscrolling
00:20:19 – 00:24:41 | Fighting Doomscrolling With Optimism and Good News
APD Pro Move:
Have your kids tell you something good.  Find a positive or funny story to share with your kids every day. If your kids are teenagers, ask them to find a good story to share with you.
All Pro Dad Resources:
Episode 93 – How Do I Make the Social Media Algorithm Work For Me?
Episode 109 – Should I Let My Kid Be An Online Influencer?
Study on optimism during COVID pandemic

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A father’s words can build his kids up or tear them down. They are powerful, and can stick with kids for the rest of their lives. That’s why we have to watch what we say. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about how often we (even accidentally) say the wrong thing and what uplifting things we should be saying instead.
Why This Matters
The words we use with our kids can build up or tear down. We must choose them wisely.
Things to Stop Saying to Sons
1. “You can’t do it.”
2. “You’re not strong enough.” Or “Don’t be a wimp.” 
3. “I’m disappointed in you.”
4. “I’m working on something important. You’ll have to wait.”
Things to Stop Saying to Daughters
1. “Have you gained/lost weight?”
2. “Stop being so dramatic.”
3. “You’re just like your mother.”
4. “Oh, but you’re so pretty.”
5. “If you had done ______, you could have done even better.” 
Things to START Saying Instead
1. “I love you.”
2. “I’m grateful to be your dad.”
3. “I believe in you.”
Important Episode Timestamps
00:00:48 – 02:41 | Why Your Anger Isn’t Really About Your Kids
02:41 – 05:12 | The Hidden Triggers Behind Dad Reactions
05:12 – 07:36 | The Difference Between Discipline and Control
07:36 – 10:18 | Parenting From Pressure vs. Parenting From Purpose
10:18 – 12:44 | How Stress Leaks Into Your Tone and Body Language
12:44 – 15:03 | The 5-Second Pause That Changes Everything
15:03 – 17:29 | Repairing After You Lose Your Cool
17:29 – 19:58 | Teaching Kids Emotional Regulation by Modeling It
19:58 – 22:11 | Breaking the Generational Pattern of Anger
22:11 – End | The Dad Challenge: Lead Yourself First
 
APD Pro Move:
Give your kids a new affirmation every day this week.

All Pro Dad Resources: 
Episode 8 – What Are 7 Things A Son Needs From His Dad?
Episode 9 – What Are 7 Things A Daughter Needs From Her Dad?
Episode 87 – How Can I Connect With My Kids?
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What do kids fear most? Research shows they’re terrified of bullies. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about why kids bully, how it impacts them, and what to say if your kid becomes the bully.
Why This Matters
Bullying hurts kids and dads need to know how to console them when it happens.
Why Do Kids Bully?
1. They’re seeking power and control.
2. They want attention.
3. They show a learned behavior.  
4. They have emotional problems. 
5. They lack social skills and empathy. 
Common Types of Bullying
1. Verbal – This is common with, but not exclusive to, younger age groups. 
2. Physical – This should not be tolerated. Alert teachers or coaches if this is happening to your child.
3. Emotional – The impacts of bullying on mental health can be devastating. 
Action Steps for Dads
1: Be a support person for your child.
Create a safe space for them to talk and share their pain, struggles, and failures. Say things like, “I will help you stay positive when things are hard.”
2: Talk about bullying and what it looks like.
Kids are more likely to talk about bullying if you ask them questions about others, like “how do the people at school treat each other?” Eventually, move the conversation to them. 
3: Model empathy.
Show your kids how to treat people with kindness, care, and empathy.  

Important Episode Timestamps
00:01:05 – 03:04 | Could Your Kid Be the Bully? 
03:04 – 05:16 | Why We Assume Bullying Is Always Someone Else’s Kid
05:16 – 09:00 | Why Do Kids Bully?
09:00 – 11:22 | The Difference Between Teasing and Bullying
11:22 – 13:58 | How Parents Accidentally Enable Bullying
13:58 – 16:14 | Teaching Empathy Instead of Just Punishment
16:14 – 18:41 | How To Handle a Bully
18:41 – 21:03 | Taking Responsibility and Making It Right
21:03 – End | Raising Kids Who Use Strength the Right Way
APD Pro Move:
Ask your kids about how people treat one another at their school. Have a conversation about bullying this week and see what you can uncover about their world. 
All Pro Dad Resources
Episode 102 –
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