What Fresh Hell: Parenting, Relationships, and Making Life Better, with Two Funny Moms

This Deep Dive series is all about reducing the friction between ourselves and our kids when trying to communicate with them, whether it's yelling less, finding real reasons for constant defiance, or picking our battles.

We've all had times when our kids resist every. single. thing. you tell them to do. When is it part of a larger problem, and even if it's not, how do we manage the exhausting defiance?

Amy and Margaret discuss:

How to keep track of a kid's defiance in order to figure out where it's coming from

Gut-check questions to ask yourself to ascertain where ODD might be what's happening

the "two free requests" approach

Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:

Katherine Lee for VeryWell Family: ⁠Effective Ways to Handle Defiant Children⁠

Royce Flippin for Additude: ⁠Why Is My Child So Angry and Defiant? An Overview of Oppositional Defiant Disorder⁠

Dr. Douglas Riley: ⁠The Defiant Child: A Parent’s Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder⁠

Mount Sinai Parenting Center: ⁠Positive Opposites⁠

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What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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Back-to-school season doesn’t have to be a chaotic scramble. In this "Best of" episode, Margaret and Amy share practical tips to help parents make the transition smoother—without getting caught up in the “back-to-school industrial complex.”

From resetting sleep schedules to planning meals and snacks, here's what really matters for your child’s success and well-being this fall. You’ll hear strategies for easing morning stress, tackling "after-school restraint collapse,” and checking in on your family’s values to make sure those priorities are aligning with your new school-year schedule.

Margaret and Amy discuss:

How much sleep kids really need—and how to help them get it

Meal and snack strategies to keep your kid energized

Using visual schedules to stay organized

Share this episode with a fellow parent who's overwhelmed with all things back-to-school!

Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:

Drew DeSilver for Pew Research Center: ⁠‘Back to school’ means anytime from late July to after Labor Day, depending on where in the U.S. you live⁠

Rachel Murphy for PennState blog: ⁠The Medical Minute: Parents, add these health tips to back-to-school to-do lists⁠

Fousia Abdullahi for Fort Worth Star-Telegram: ⁠Expert advice for a stress-free back-to-school season for North Texas families⁠

⁠Bear in the Big Blue House potty-training episode⁠

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Overfunctioning is usually defined as taking on excess responsibility for other people’s feelings, issues, and tasks. And it's usually presumed to be tied to anxiety. IF someone's overfunctioning, it's either a symptom of or cause of the panic assumed to be lying just underneath.

But are we "overfunctioning" when we're doing our absolutely regular amount of way-too-much as a parent? Does anxiety have to have anything to do with it?

In this episode, we're talking about

the stress that comes with being the backstop

how to sense overfunctioning in ourselves as a potential barometer of anxiety

the MoSCoW method (Must Have, Should Have, Could Have, Won't Have) as a business-world framework that can help all of us discern what absolutely has to happen in a given "timebox"... and what might be able to wait

Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:

Kate Manne on Substack: In Defense of Mom Anxiety

Anne-Laure Le Cunff for Ness Labs: Overfunctioning: The Drive to Do it All, or When Helping Others Is Hurting You

Yunus Emre Yalçıner for Medium: The Moscow Method: A Comprehensive Guide to Prioritization in Project Management

And in response to this week's mailbag, here are a few of our past episodes specifically relevant to single / solo parenting:

Our episode Solo Parenting Seasons and How To Get Through Them

Our Fresh Take with Jamilah Lemieux

Our Fresh Take with Norah Lally

Our Fresh Take with Susan Sutton

Chris Fleming: COMPANY IS COMING!!!

What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.

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This "Deep Dive" series revisits a few of our past episodes on back-to-school challenges such as the morning rush, school projects which require lots of parental oversight, and how to help our kids navigate intensifying academic pressure.

Two recent national studies underlined that there's a surprising group of children at risk for worse mental health outcomes: kids who go to high-achieving schools. How do we protect our kids from the pressures all around them to succeed at any cost? ⁠Jennifer Wallace⁠, author of the book ⁠Never Enough⁠, shows us how to teach our kids that they matter intrinsically.

Jennifer Wallace is an award-winning journalist and a frequent contributor to the Wall Street Journal and the Washington Post. She lives in New York City with her husband and their three teenagers.

Amy, Margaret, and Jennifer discuss:

Why achievement pressure is at an all-time high

How parents contribute to, but are not solely responsible for, this pressure

How to teach our kids that they matter independently of their achievements

Here's where you can find Jennifer:

⁠jenniferbwallace.com⁠

@jenniferbwallace on IG

@jennifer.b.wallace on FB

Buy Jennifer's book: ⁠https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780593191866⁠

What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.

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What if the proven decline in the mental health of today's adolescents isn't just about phones and screen time? What if academic pressure and "achievement culture" is the real driver of the increase in anxiety and depression today's teens are experiencing?

Dr. Stuart Slavin, pediatrician and author of THE SUCCESS TRAP, explains just how widespread academic pressure and "achievement culture" in the United States has become— not just in fancy schools on the coasts, and not just in high school, either.

Amy and Dr. Slavin discuss:

the average teen's default state of sleep deprivation, caused by hours of homework per night (work that may not even do much to change outcomes)

the top stressors today's teens report—and why "peer pressure" doesn't even make the top ten

how smartphones feed maladaptive perfectionism and achievement culture

how schools that reduce demands on kids are also seeing improved test scores and academic performance

how parents can create "low-pressure zones" at home

how to advocate for healthier expectations at your kids' schools—and why you shouldn't fight that battle on your own

Here's where you can find Dr. Slavin:

https://drstuartslavin.com

Buy THE SUCCESS TRAP: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780593839386

@drstuartslavin on IG

What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.

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