The Dojo SA Podcast

This week the crew starts with the Y2KNine9 push and why nostalgia still hits when people no longer share the same cultural reference points. From there, the conversation turns into parenting, boys, sport, talent, and whether modern parents are making kids too soft for the world waiting for them. They also get into bloodline duty, generational missions, legacy, and the uncomfortable idea that greatness often comes with pressure, sacrifice, and intentional shaping. Later, they unpack South Africa’s G7 snub, Trump’s power flex on the world stage, and what that says about America, diplomacy, and our real place in the global order.

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The Dojo is back with a proper mixed bag this week. The episode opens with the Y2K comeback announcement, with the crew plugging the 2 May event at The Playground in Braam, pushing the daytime vibe, winter fits, and ticketing via Howler. From there, the conversation shifts into research stress, the reality of higher education, old-school confusion around IT careers, the missing middle, and why so many people still get left behind even when they are not poor enough for help and not rich enough to cope. It then moves into a strong parenting section around a daughter turning 18, homeschooling, safety, grit, and why girls may need more toughness and self-defence than we are comfortable admitting. The back end gets deeper into gender expectations, money, work, dependency, and the idea that a lot of adults are basically just functional alcoholics trying to survive modern life.

On this episode of The Dojo, we get into adulting fatigue, procrastination, and the quiet stress of trying to keep up with life when everything feels urgent at once. From there, the conversation moves into local elections, performative service delivery, bread handouts, and the frustration of only seeing politicians become visible when votes are around the corner.
We also unpack the two-pot retirement system, why so many South Africans are dipping into pension money, and the bigger tension between financial survival now versus long-term security later. That opens up a much deeper conversation about black tax, capitalism, community, and how modern life has made it harder for people to ask for help or lean on each other.
The episode closes with a heated debate around a divorce case involving stepchildren, maintenance, co-parenting, culture, fatherhood, and whether stepping into a parental role means you can ever truly step out again.

Why do guests get the good plates while the people who actually live in the house get the everyday stuff?
That’s where this episode starts — but it quickly turns into a much bigger conversation about how people, governments and entire countries give outsiders the best version of themselves while their own people get neglected.
The guys unpack the psychology of impressing strangers, why citizens often get the crumbs, and how that same mindset shows up in politics, public service and global power. From there the conversation moves into the US, Israel and Iran, nuclear power, why smaller countries are basically sitting ducks, and how international “rules” only seem to apply to certain nations.
Back home, they get into ANC succession talk, party funding, political career paths, South African corruption, and the uncomfortable truth that many people don’t steal because they are uniquely evil — they steal because the system is expensive, pressure is constant, and survival itself has become a hustle.
The back end of the episode gets more personal: school fees, debt, black tax, why salary never stretches far enough, why so many people feel one emergency away from collapse, and why maybe the real answer is to rebase — go back home, lower the pressure, reconnect with family, and build a life that protects your baseline.

Would you date a divorcee?
The episode kicks off with a wild dating take from the train — two kids is fine, but being divorced is where the line gets drawn. Is divorce actually a red flag, or are we just projecting our own fears about commitment?
Recorded on location at an Apricrest property in Bryanston, the guys also unpack the difference between sectional title ownership and corporate landlord models — from slower decision-making and levy risks, to whether single-owner rental estates actually make for better tenant experiences.
Then the conversation pivots into relationships:
Are women intentionally testing boundaries?
Is insecurity something we bring into relationships — or something that gets unlocked once we’re in them?
And why do honest conversations between men and women break down the moment insecurity enters the chat?
Expect debates on dating, emotional honesty, power dynamics and the uncomfortable truths nobody wants to own.
00:00 Would you date a divorcee?
03:00 Episode intro + Uzuri Online & Standby Auto Repairs
04:00 Corporate landlords vs sectional title ownership
08:30 Non-paying tenants & levy risk explained
11:00 Body corporate rules vs single landlord control
16:40 The headache of serious relationships
17:20 Do partners create chaos when things are “too peaceful”?
19:10 Boundary-testing in relationships
20:00 Can men criticise women objectively?
22:40 Nature vs intention in conflict
24:00 Emotional honesty vs “pop psychology” excuses
25:40 Insecurity in dating dynamics
26:00 Platonic friendships & trust issues
27:30 Owning your insecurity (or refusing to)