The Dojo SA Podcast

Why do guests get the good plates while the people who actually live in the house get the everyday stuff?
That’s where this episode starts — but it quickly turns into a much bigger conversation about how people, governments and entire countries give outsiders the best version of themselves while their own people get neglected.
The guys unpack the psychology of impressing strangers, why citizens often get the crumbs, and how that same mindset shows up in politics, public service and global power. From there the conversation moves into the US, Israel and Iran, nuclear power, why smaller countries are basically sitting ducks, and how international “rules” only seem to apply to certain nations.
Back home, they get into ANC succession talk, party funding, political career paths, South African corruption, and the uncomfortable truth that many people don’t steal because they are uniquely evil — they steal because the system is expensive, pressure is constant, and survival itself has become a hustle.
The back end of the episode gets more personal: school fees, debt, black tax, why salary never stretches far enough, why so many people feel one emergency away from collapse, and why maybe the real answer is to rebase — go back home, lower the pressure, reconnect with family, and build a life that protects your baseline.

Would you date a divorcee?
The episode kicks off with a wild dating take from the train — two kids is fine, but being divorced is where the line gets drawn. Is divorce actually a red flag, or are we just projecting our own fears about commitment?
Recorded on location at an Apricrest property in Bryanston, the guys also unpack the difference between sectional title ownership and corporate landlord models — from slower decision-making and levy risks, to whether single-owner rental estates actually make for better tenant experiences.
Then the conversation pivots into relationships:
Are women intentionally testing boundaries?
Is insecurity something we bring into relationships — or something that gets unlocked once we’re in them?
And why do honest conversations between men and women break down the moment insecurity enters the chat?
Expect debates on dating, emotional honesty, power dynamics and the uncomfortable truths nobody wants to own.
00:00 Would you date a divorcee?
03:00 Episode intro + Uzuri Online & Standby Auto Repairs
04:00 Corporate landlords vs sectional title ownership
08:30 Non-paying tenants & levy risk explained
11:00 Body corporate rules vs single landlord control
16:40 The headache of serious relationships
17:20 Do partners create chaos when things are “too peaceful”?
19:10 Boundary-testing in relationships
20:00 Can men criticise women objectively?
22:40 Nature vs intention in conflict
24:00 Emotional honesty vs “pop psychology” excuses
25:40 Insecurity in dating dynamics
26:00 Platonic friendships & trust issues
27:30 Owning your insecurity (or refusing to)

No Tabang this week, but the energy is still up.The guys kick off with everyday economics — refill stores, cheaper essentials, and how branding plays us. From there it turns into real adult talk: parenting struggles, phonics vs memorisation, and the frustration of helping your kid with maths homework when the methods don’t even make sense anymore.Then it gets political. SONA promises, water task teams, billion-rand budgets, and leaders saying they had to shower at hotels — while communities still go dry. The conversation moves into crime, Zama Zamas, whether deploying soldiers is extreme or necessary, and whether communities are slowly losing control.The second half gets spicy: gender roles, “house husband” perceptions, interracial dating dynamics, unemployment stigma, and what really defines a “bum” in a relationship.They close it off with a listener dilemma about a biological father wanting back into his child’s life — and the tension that creates in a new household.00:00 Refill stores & cheaper essentials02:36 Episode intro – Season 19 Episode 203:35 Uzuri Online & Standby Auto Repairs plug10:31 Parenting & why phonics matters19:33 Maths homework struggles39:16 SONA recap & water crisis frustration44:54 “Hotel shower” comments & public outrage54:24 Gangs, PAGAD & community safety01:04:23 Zama Zamas & “send the soldiers?” debate01:15:45 Travel stories & airline frustrations01:49:00 Gender roles & interracial dating dynamics01:58:24 What makes someone a “bum”?02:04:06 Attraction, standards & relationship equity02:08:45 Listener dilemma – stepfather vs biological father02:15:53 Boundaries, courts & household alignment02:29:24 How not to approach co-parenting conflict

In Season 19, Episode 1, we get into how power really moves: marriage, family ties, and elite networks that keep the same people connected—often from the same schools and circles. Then we shift to the Madlanga Commission / “Kat” money storyline (allegations, receipts, and how influence protects people), before closing with a straight-up conversation about what makes a man, modern gender expectations, and a side-quest into “African Casting” / porn culture and what it says about society.In this episode:00:00:00 – Intro & opening reflections00:01:03 – Marrying into power: why elite relationships compound access00:06:01 – Same schools, same circles: how networks reproduce themselves00:35:24 – The “Kat” money saga & Madlanga Commission thread kicks off00:46:33 – Politics, power, and why institutions struggle to hold elites accountable00:56:06 – “Billionaire mindset”, status, and the way money changes behaviour01:26:40 – “Softest land”: comfort, entitlement, and modern expectations02:02:32 – Masculinity vs feminism: “what makes a man?”02:27:07 – African Casting discussion & porn culture realities02:38:20 – Wrap-up & outroMembers link: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=UUMOuh1jlaqsPnQUCYZ0zGW_rAPatreon link: patreon.com/TheDojoPodcastMonthly donation link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuh1jlaqsPnQUCYZ0zGW_rA/join Once off donation link: https://pay.yoco.com/the-dojo-podcast-pty-ltd Merch: https://thedojoapparel.com/collections/allhttps://uzurionline.co.za/pages/seller-profile/the-dojo-apparel

Season 18, Ep. 13—our year-ender. We unpack a muddy but memorable Lesotho festival weekend: sound issues, rain, vendor wins, cash/airtime drama, and why Bushfire sets a high bar. Then we zoom out—on BE & fronting, corruption incentives, community vs. individual duty, “black tax,” child work vs. responsibility, and what a rite of passage really means today.
00:00 – Cold open & season wrap (“The Dojo”)

00:21 – Why this is the last drop of the year

01:01 – Missed last week & early drop talk

02:05 – Lesotho trip: the good, the rain, the reset

02:56 – Sound engineering & “be ready on Day 1”

03:49 – Stage setup, luggage chaos & planning gaps

04:57 – Rain plans, shelters & the beer garden problem

05:32 – Vendors were the MVPs

06:20 – Headline sponsors, screens & first impressions

06:52 – Pricing vs. Bushfire experience

08:56 – Performing in the rain; unfair to artists

10:25 – Party stage & creating your own vibe

12:20 – Cashless vs. cash-only: airtime, ATMs, and sponsors

15:45 – Why we’ll still go back (and how to fix it)

17:00 – Camping gear, showers & what actually worked

20:30 – Safety, screens outside camps, & network as “core product”

24:50 – Local participation: singers, crews, and fairness

28:55 – Packages & scams—what to verify

33:05 – Politics pivot: testimony, tenders & “nature of the game”

41:00 – BE vs. fronting: the messy middle

49:40 – Who really benefits? Supply chains & ownership

56:00 – “Black tax” reframed: conveyor belt of service

1:04:30 – Child work vs. responsibility: context matters

1:12:40 – Retirement, dignity, and consumerism creep

1:21:50 – Personhood: West vs. African communal lens

1:34:00 – Dual lives, values bleed, and community norms

1:45:30 – Ancestral home and why “opting out” isn’t simple

1:53:00 – Rites, leadership, and accepting the cookies

1:54:10 – Outro