If you’ve ever told yourself “I don’t have time to take care of myself” because you’re too busy taking care of everyone else — this one’s for you. Whether it’s your kids, your job, your partner, aging parents, or your community — a lot of us are constantly pouring out… while running on empty. In this episode, I’m sharing a concept from CrossFit — “core to extremity” — and how it changed the way I think about showing up for others. We’re talking about where real strength comes from, what happens when we don’t start at the center, and how taking care of yourself first is not selfish — it’s strategic. If you feel stretched thin or burned out, this might be the reframe you didn’t know you needed. 🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: What CrossFit taught me about power and strength — and how it applies to your life The lie behind “I don’t have time for myself” What happens when you serve from depletion vs. strength A new way to think about self-care (that’s not bubble baths and yoga pants) What I learned during one of the hardest seasons of my life — and how I show up differently now
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1353: The Most Powerful Exercise from My Recent Workshop
🔗 Apply Now for DEFENSE: 👉 Click here to apply Spots are extremely limited and filling fast. 💬 Episode Overview: After years away from hosting in-person events, I finally gathered with an intimate group of women from The Consistency Course — and what unfolded was deeper, more transformational, and more real than I could’ve imagined. In this episode, I’m walking you through the most powerful workshop exercise we did — the one that opened eyes, hearts, and sparked real change. It was the moment everything clicked for so many of us. And the best part? You don’t need to have been in the room to experience its impact. 🔑 In This Episode: The card exercise that revealed the cost of our excuses Why “good enough” is sometimes just a comfortable cage The difference between working in your life vs. on your life Why you might be clinging to your “red shovel” without realizing it How vulnerability + community = acceleration 💥 Want to build real momentum — and finally stop starting over? Most people focus on offense — plans, goals, strategies. Defense is what keeps it all from collapsing. It’s how you show up when it’s hard, inconvenient, or not working, and it’s the reason real change lasts. 🔗 Apply now at this link
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1352: When Trying Doesn’t Work: The Real Reason You Stay Stuck
You’re not broken. You’re not lazy. But you might be stuck in a loop of trying the same things over and over — even when they’ve never worked. In this episode, I’m diving deep into learned helplessness: why you feel like nothing works, how your brain tricks you into repeating the past, and what you can do to finally break free. We’ll unpack: Why recycling effort isn’t the same as solving the problem How you’ve been overemphasizing options and underemphasizing choice The trap of only considering what you’ve already tried The epidemic of passive consumption (and why it’s costing you your ability to think) This is a wake-up call and a relief — because once you see the loop, you can step out of it. 💥 Ready to break the cycle and rebuild from a place of strength? The 8-week DEFENSE program is where we change your operating system — so you stop defaulting to what’s familiar and start acting from clarity, strength, and self-trust. 🛡️ Apply now for DEFENSE at this link. There are only 20 spots and we start the first Monday in November. Don't wait!
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1351: The Real Problem Isn’t the One You’re Focused On
What if procrastination isn’t the real problem? What if what you see — the delay, the excuses, the inconsistency — is just smoke… and the real fire is underneath? In today’s episode, I’m walking you through a real conversation I had with a client in DEFENSE, where we uncovered the truth behind her procrastination — and it wasn’t time management. It wasn’t planning. It was belief. Identity. A narrow picture of what change had to look like… that she didn’t even want to live. We talk about: Why solving surface problems doesn’t lead to lasting change How “diet food” and “I don’t like exercise” become unconscious blocks What to do when you tell yourself “I’m just not worthy” Why you don’t need to be addicted to your comfort zone anymore 👉🏼 This is exactly the kind of work we do in DEFENSE. Applications just opened to the waitlist. Spots are extremely limited - only 20 are available. We spend 8 weeks together, and you’ll leave with a 50+ page custom strategy guide tailored to you. No templates. No one-size-fits-all. Just transformation, built around your life. Apply at this link
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1350: You Asked For It - Faith, Fear & Family
I’ve been asked about this multiple times, so here we go. Today’s episode is a little different. It’s personal. It’s about my faith. You don’t have to agree with me, in fact, I think it might be most valuable to listen if you don’t. Because this isn’t about convincing anyone. It’s about sharing how my faith impacts the way I experience fear, anxiety, the world around me, and how I lead my family. I’m not a theologian. I’m not here to debate doctrine. I’m just here to tell the truth about what’s changed for me and how that plays out in real life. Whether you’ve been curious about my faith journey or you’re just struggling to stay grounded in a chaotic world, I hope this meets you right where you are.
Why are we so stressed & overwhelmed? Why do we have clear & compelling goals but fail to reach them? How can we want to change so desperately yet make choices that keep us from that change? Because we keep focusing on the habits we want instead of building the skill of consistency that allows us to achieve them. Consistency is a skill. It's a superpower. It isn't one-size-fits all. It unlocks any door and makes every goal achievable. A more effective, realistic approach starts here.
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