The Fatherhood Mistake That Undermines Her Confidence
This Episode is for Teri.
This week on Friday Fuel, we’re shifting the spotlight. We're moving away from fixing problems and focusing on emotional presence. Fatherhood isn’t just about showing up for your kids; it’s about standing shoulder-to-shoulder with your partner through the pressure of early motherhood, career transitions, and the emotional weight she carries. If you're always offering solutions, you might be missing the real ask: to listen, to connect, and to understand.
In This Episode we highlight
- The pressure working mums feel (and why it’s not always visible)
- Why being emotionally available is more powerful than problem-solving
- How your presence shapes her confidence as a mother and professional
- The emotional cost of being solution-focused instead of support-focused
This matters because:
When your partner feels unheard, unsupported, or misunderstood, it affects your relationship, your home, and your kids. Being emotionally present doesn't make you weak, it makes you the man your family needs.
Here's what I want you to do:
- Listen. Respond less and focus on the connection.
- Validate her challenges. Take a moment to pause. Don't rush to “fix” the issue.
- Respect her emotional journey through motherhood and career
- Lead with empathy, not just logic. We're all guilty of overlooking the emotional drain on our resources.
What she needs is to feel heard and she needs you to understand her point of view.
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14:58
Show Up, Step Up. You Are Their First Role Model.
Fatherhood isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence, passion, and showing up even when you feel like you’ve got nothing left in the tank. This episode is your wake-up call to reconnect with the role only you can play.
Here's what to expect:
- How your everyday choices shape your child’s confidence, resilience, and inner voice
- The unseen cost of your absence, emotionally, mentally, and physically
- Why your kids don’t need a perfect dad, just a present one
- How to break generational patterns and redefine what success looks like as a father Your kids are watching.
Every interaction, every word, every moment of silence. This isn’t about guilt. It’s about legacy. You’re the most powerful voice in your home, and your actions today will echo in their lives forever.
Here's what I want you to do:
- Teach them to separate self-worth from external validation. Help them to focus on internal strength
- Define your success not by income or status, but by how you make them feel.
- Create space to help your kids discover their own voice, passions, and power.
If this hit home, subscribe to the channel, join the community and grab any of our free resources.
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Special Offer: Get all 5 of our transformative eBooks for just £24 and start creating the legacy your children deserve.
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18:43
How to Be a Happy Dad. Stop Surviving and Start Showing Up!
Are you running on empty and chasing success, but missing what matters most?
As a dad, your happiness isn’t a luxury, it’s essential. The energy you bring today is what shapes your children's outlook. Your energy creates an environment for them to thrive and you owe it to them to find and connect with things that make you smile.
In this episode we talk about:
Why your kids need to see you smile
How to define and pursue your own happiness
The hidden cost of always being “on”
Reconnecting with your purpose and presence as a dad
This important to you because:
Your kids don't just watch you but they absorb everything you say and do.
If they only see stress, distraction, and pressure, then they won't see you at your best, but more importantly that stress and pressure will become their normal.
If they see you smiling and ready to play and connect, then they will understand what's important and how to focus on it.
This week I want you to:
Write down 3 things that genuinely make you happy.
Make space to do one this week.
Be clear on what presence means to you and your kids.
Find time to create moments that matter.
And answer this in the comments below:
What makes you happy and are your kids seeing it?
Listen, Watch & Connect:
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Special Offer: Get all 5 of our transformative eBooks for just £24 and start creating the legacy your children deserve.
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24:14
The Father’s Role: Rebuilding Confidence & Guiding Your Kids Through Rejection and Growth
In this episode, we go deep into what it really means to be a father who leads, especially when your own confidence feels shaky.
We ask the hard questions:
💭 Who are you when life knocks you down?
💭 What example are you setting for your children?
💭 Are your actions teaching them how to face rejection, failure, and frustration with strength and resilience?
💬 You’ll learn:
Why your confidence is the foundation for your family’s stability
How your consistency shapes your child’s emotional resilience
What rejection and failure mean for children and how you can guide them through it
How to rebuild trust in yourself and become the leader your home needs
Why fatherhood is a mindset, not just a role and how it affects your child’s future
📢 This is your wake up call. I know I needed one:
You are your child’s mirror. The way you move through setbacks, passion, pain, and purpose — that’s the blueprint they inherit.
🔥 This is about more than being present. It’s about leading with energy, confidence, and compassion.
👨👧👦 Whether you're a new dad, a partner trying to reconnect, or a man rebuilding from burnout, this episode is fuel to help you show up, lead by example, and guide your children to do the same.
🎙️ Listen, Watch & Connect:
📌 Join the Modern Fatherhood Club: www.themodernfatherhoodclub.com
📌 Subscribe for Weekly Friday Fuel: 🎥 @TheModernFatherhoodClub
📌 Follow on Instagram for Daily Dad Insights! 📸 @the_the_modern_fatherhood_club
👉🏻 Special Offer: Get all 5 of our transformative eBooks for just £24 and start creating the legacy your children deserve.
💬 Comment below: What's been your biggest struggle in fatherhood?
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29:18
The Weight of Fatherhood: Reclaiming Yourself to Become the Dad They Deserve
In the shadows of fatherhood, many men quietly struggle, until the silence breaks them. In this raw and powerful episode of Friday Fuel, I talk about the internal battles men face in silence.
That unspoken pressure, emotional disconnection, and the crushing weight of not feeling enough.
What You'll Learn:
🎯 How unresolved pain builds pressure that disconnects you from your partner and child
🧠 Why men’s mental health isn't a one-time fix, but a commitment to mental fitness
💔 The real cost of emotional withdrawal and suppressing vulnerability
🛠️ The daily habits and mindset shifts that move you from survival to purpose-driven fatherhood
❤️ How to rebuild trust, show up with presence, and lead your family with strength
🔁 Why admitting you’re struggling isn’t the end but the beginning
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, disconnected, or like you’re silently failing then this one’s for you.
This is about positive masculinity, emotional resilience, and becoming the father, partner, and man you know you're capable of being.
Grab all 5 of our Modern Fatherhood Club ebooks for just £24 https://www.themodernfatherhoodclub.com/utlimate-new-dad-tool-kit
They’ll walk you through the real steps to becoming the father they need.
🎙️ Listen, Watch & Connect:
📌 Join the Modern Fatherhood Club:
🔗 www.themodernfatherhoodclub.com
📌 Subscribe for Weekly Friday Fuel: 🎥 @TheModernFatherhoodClub
📌 Follow on Instagram for Daily Dad Insights! 📸 @the_the_modern_fatherhood_club
Welcome to Fatherhood In Focus, the go-to podcast for new dads, expectant fathers, and men navigating the mental and emotional chaos of modern parenting.
Hosted by Aidan, founder of The Modern Fatherhood Club and father of two, each episode is packed with real talk, raw emotion, and practical insight to help you become the dad your kids actually need.
This isn’t polished parenting advice from the sidelines, this is on-the-ground support from a dad who’s in it with you.
Every episode tackles the real issues modern dads face:
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Building stronger connections with your kids
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