Fatherhood in Focus

If there’s one thing I want my sons to learn from me.

It’s not how to work hard.

Not how to make money.

Not how to lead a team.

It’s how to love the people they care about. And they’re learning that… from the way I treat their mum.

This week we talk:

How children model love from their parents

The way tone, language and emotional regulation play a key role in their development

Why conflict must be repaired quickly to preserve respect

How masculinity is rooted in stability and not dominance

And that your partnership remains strong when you stand shoulder to shoulder with one another.

This matters because:

Your children are watching how you speak to her.

They’re watching your tone.

Your body language.

Your reaction under pressure.

And that becomes their blueprint for:

How to love How to argue

How to repair

How to treat their future partner

Remember, you’re not just raising children. You’re shaping the relationships they’ll build for the rest of their lives.

This week:

Audit your tone during disagreement

Repair quickly and visibly

Stand shoulder to shoulder, not face to face in battle

Make sure you don't undermine your partner in front of your children Let them see affection, not just function

De-escalate instead of dominate

And if you're brave enough ask: What did they hear in that moment?

Comment below: What do your kids hear when you speak to their mum?

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There’s a pain I carry. Not from something I said. But from something I didn’t see. She was hurting. And I missed it.

Episode 60 is about her return to work and the moment I realised I hadn’t truly been standing beside her.

This was the moment when as her husband and their dad she needed me and I wasn't ready.

This week we talk:

Returning to work after baby

The emotional toll on mothers

Equality vs partnership

The pressure career mums face

Employer conflict and identity erosion

How men overlook silent struggle

Why support isn’t fixing, it’s absorbing

Repairing connection before it fractures

As a new dad this matters because:

Her return to work isn’t just logistical.

It’s emotional. It tests her identity. Her confidence. Her value. Her place in the world.

And if you don’t see it and if you don’t close the gap and support her then the distance between you will grow. Not because you don’t care but because you weren’t switched on.

And that distance can cost you everything you love.

As a father you owe it to your kids to support their mother during this important phase. She needs you in her corner. Mum needs you to have her back because nobody else will.

Your action this week:

Be switched on emotionally, not just practically

Don’t assume strength means she’s coping

Listen for what isn’t being said

Protect her confidence like you protect your income

Become a sounding board, not a problem solver

And Ask Her: Where did I miss the signs?

Understand: provision doesn’t replace partnership

Comment below: Was there a moment when she needed you more than she let on and you missed it?

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To your kids, you’re ten feet tall and bulletproof. Strong. Steady. Always there. But that invisible ‘S’ on your chest the one they place there, it fades with time.

This episode isn’t about being a superhero. It’s about who they see as the years pass… and what they remember when the strength looks different.

This week we talk:

Fatherhood, ageing and legacy

What children remember vs what we obsess over

Strength as return, not perfection

Emotional leadership and repair

Presence over performance

Writing your fatherhood story intentionally

Defining masculinity beyond power and control

 

This matters because:

Your kids won’t remember every word you said.

They won’t remember every mistake you made.

They’ll remember:

Whether you kept coming back

Whether you repaired after distance

Whether they felt safe beside you

The ‘S’ doesn’t stand for superhero. It stands for showing up again and again. And one day, when they’re older, that’s the strength they’ll recognise.

This week:

Write what you want them to remember, privately, honestly

Define what the ‘S’ means to you

Notice where you pull away and practice the return

Repair out loud: Apologise, explain, reconnect

Choose presence over image

Ask: Who will they see tomorrow if nothing changes?

Comment below (or journal privately):

What does the ‘S’ stand for in your home and who will they see tomorrow

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What part of you did you abandon when you walked back through the office door?

The part that softened.

The part that connected.

The part that was learning to love differently.

Episode 34 is about the lie many dads believe in early fatherhood; that sacrificing yourself is the price of being a good provider. And the cost that belief quietly extracts from your family, your identity, and your presence.

This week we talk:

Early fatherhood and the collision of identity

“Provide mode” and the erosion of presence

Emotional distance created by good intentions

Burnout, overwhelm and conflicted masculinity

Why sacrifice without clarity becomes self-abandonment

The tension between work, worth and connection

Reclaiming presence without abandoning responsibility

And this matters because:

Most dads don’t walk away from their family, they slowly drift while trying to do the right thing. Providing financially can look like love. But when it costs presence, warmth and emotional safety, it quietly becomes the very thing that creates distance.

Your kids don’t need a version of you that’s exhausted, hollow and absent.

They need you. Clear, grounded, present and emotionally available.

And that starts with redefining what contribution really means.

This week:

Identify what you abandoned when you stepped back into work

Audit the distance - here has sacrifice created separation?

Redefine contribution - presence is not optional

Name your values clearly - let them guide decisions, not pressure Interrupt “provide mode” before it hardens into identity

Ask daily: What do they need from me today - really?

Comment below:

What part of you did you abandon when you walked out the door — and what would it look like to bring it back?

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She became a mum the moment our son arrived. I became a dad… piece by piece.

When her world changed overnight, did I change with it? Or did I fall back into the habits that worked before children? This episode is an honest reflection on early fatherhood, partnership, sacrifice, and the quiet drift that happens when the outside world pulls you away from the people who need you most.

This week we talk:

Early fatherhood and the shock of responsibility

The invisible weight carried by new mothers

Returning to work and the emotional disconnect it creates

Guilt, pressure, and living between two worlds

Why presence matters more than performance

Emotional maturity, empathy, and modern masculinity

Choosing to lean into fatherhood instead of escaping it

Partnership, support, growing together and not apart

This matters because:

She needs you to step up and not step back

Her world didn’t just change physically. It changed emotionally, mentally, hormonally, and permanently.

And when we don’t change with it, not out of malice, but habit then the distance between mum and dad grows.

Connection fades.

Resentment quietly builds.

Early fatherhood isn’t something you can outwork. You can only attune to it.

This episode is about recognising that shift and choosing to meet it with strength, empathy, and leadership.

This week:

Ask instead of assuming e.g. “How are you really?”

Protect her rest. It’s not a luxury; be alive to her survival

Notice emotional drift early and don’t wait for resentment

Adjust your priorities.

Yes, work matters, but not at the cost of connection

Lean in and don’t escape. Because early fatherhood needs presence, not performance

Build resilience, mental, emotional and physical. It's a long road and they need you ready for the next challenge.

Please remember: provision without presence still creates distance

Comment below: When her world changed, did you change with it… or fall back into old ways?

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