Don't Let The Old Man In

In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Paul Drayton (author of Ride – Or Die Trying) to dive into his ADHD diagnosis in midlife, his struggles with alcohol addiction, and coming to grips with his neurodivergence gave him purpose in the second half of life.

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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro
01:50 Pleasing Others and the Influence of Family
04:14 Discovering ADHD Later in Life
07:25 The Diagnosis and Its Impact
12:59 Overwhelm and Self-Medication with Alcohol
17:24 Realizing There's No Trauma, Just ADHD
21:03 Managing Benders and Guilt
25:09 Moving Forward and Personal Growth
37:09 Reflecting on Life and Future Goals
42:34 Love Yourself to Manage Challenges
44:52 Final Thoughts and Advice for Listeners

#sobriety #adhd #midlife

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In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we speak with entrepreneur and author Steve Pratt about how selling his business drove him to find his purpose after 50, which he found by running midlife experiments.

We discuss what he's tried, how its helped him and why you should try them yourself.

Read Steve Pratt's substack: https://thecreativityguild.substack.com/

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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro
01:41 The “Lego Businessman” identity
05:38 Fitting in versus standing out
09:48 Selling the business and facing the messy middle
13:20 Letting go of scoreboards, wearables, and optimization
21:35 Exploring ketamine-assisted therapy
29:44 Doing stand-up comedy with his daughter
33:50 Taking a break from the phone—and Wordle
36:46 Sharing a vulnerable journey with family
41:03 The cost of personal experiments
43:16 Becoming fully yourself
46:13 One experiment to start tomorrow
49:52 What Steve would tell his 25-year-old self

Don't Let the Old Man In does not condone the use of illegal drugs.

#findingpurpose #trynewthings #midlife

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In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with behavioural scientist Nicholas Epley, to unpack why social connection is so important for overall happiness, how to make new friends in midlife, and why men shouldn't fear striking up a chat with strangers.

CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro
02:30 Research on talking to strangers
05:21 The train ride realisation
11:00 Personality, expectations, and social interaction
15:54 Approaching VS Avoiding
20:42 Experiments on talking to strangers during commutes
24:05 The role of voice in communication and understanding
34:07 Making friends in midlife and the power of warmth
41:55 Belonging, competence, and human needs
47:51 Lessons from Nick's daughter
51:53 Final tips: When in doubt, reach out

Get A Little More Social: https://www.amazon.com.au/Little-More-Social-Unexpected-Connection/dp/0593319540

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#midlife #socialanxiety #midlifecrisis

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In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we speak with Ian Westmoreland, a successful IT worker who left it all behind at age 59 to pursue a second half of purpose and fulfilment. We discuss what drove him to make a change, men's mental health, the honour of being awarded an Order of Australia Medal, and much more.

Learn about Mentoring Men: https://www.mentoringmen.org.au/about

Find out about Kintsugi Heroes: https://www.kintsugiheroes.com.au/

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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Introduction to Ian's Life and Transformation
01:19 The Message That Changed Ian's Life
12:11 The Power of Listening and Being Heard
20:41 The Metaphor of Kintsugi in Healing
24:32 Connecting Through Culture and Stories
36:00 The Impact of Vulnerability and Emotional Openness
37:09 The Work of Kintsugi Heroes and Storytelling
44:55 Reflections on Success, Love, and Life's Purpose
48:47 Final Thoughts and Advice

#midlife #findingpurpose #mensmentalhealth

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In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we speak with Dr Kathryn Page (organisational psychologist and author of Good Work) to understand what is draining our energy in the workplace, why burnout looks different in men, and the importance of maintaining identity outside of our work.

Learn more about Dr Kat Page's book here: https://www.drkatpage.com/about-4

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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Introduction to the episode and guest
02:17 Growing up in a police family and its influence
07:45 Work to live versus live to work
14:56 The concept of the third space and its significance
25:42 The effort recovery framework explained
42:23 Languishing versus flourishing and how to move forward
01:02:20 Final thoughts and message for future generations

#burnout #psychology #midlife

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