Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Hey lady! We’re heading into the descent of this year. It’s a glorious time to slow down and reflect on all that has unfolded throughout the year. Did you accomplish the goals you set out for yourself? Did you bounce back from the inevitable hiccups that occur as the days go by? Did you have fun? These are the questions that help you assess the year so you can plan for a more fruitful next year.
That’s why Terri and Dr. Dom have a fun conversation about the various ways they fill their cup while simultaneously challenging themselves and exploring their interests. By now you know that hobbies are important to a balanced life but did you know that there might be some deeper work that needs to happen so that you can get to a place where you enjoy the hobbies you have?
Terri and Dr. Dom explore some of the core wounding and early childhood programming that can keep us from tapping into our multidimensionality. And, they affirm the fact that you loving the hobby is enough, you don’t have to girlboss your way into joy.
So, lady, what are some the activities and interests that you’ve put off that you’ve been wanting to do just for you? Don’t forget we’re on YouTube! You can see our lovely faces there and then join us on Patreon for the juicy aftershow!

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Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
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Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

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Lady, you are enough, and you can learn to believe it.
In this week's throwback episode, Terri and Dr. Dom talk about the difference between self-esteem and confidence, and how each can shift through different seasons of life. They reflect on childhood bullying, painful self-talk, and the assumptions we make when we compare ourselves to other people.They also share practical ways to strengthen your relationship with yourself: name your strengths, give yourself a more supportive narrative, celebrate small wins, and meet yourself with compassion while you’re still growing. Confidence doesn’t have to mean feeling sure of yourself in every situation. It can start with understanding what confidence looks like for you.
Takeaways
Identify strengths you may be overlooking.
Practice a positive, personal narrative about yourself.
Start small, recognize your wins, and let yourself celebrate them.
Speak to yourself with the compassion you’d offer a friend.
Remember: confidence can vary by situation, and self-worth is a journey.
Quote of the Day
“I need to see my own beauty and to continue to be reminded that I am enough, that I am worthy of love without effort, that I am beautiful, that the texture of my hair and that the shape of my curves, the size of my lips, the color of my skin, and the feelings that I have are all worthy and okay.” — Tracee Ellis Ross
Mentioned
What Is Confidence? And How YOU Can Get More!

3 Confidence Boosters for That Time of the Month

2 Things Every Woman Should Start Doing to Boost Confidence & Self-Esteem

Mental health resources
Melanin and Mental Health · Therapy for Black Girls · Psychology Today · Your insurance provider
This episode is for support and conversation; it is not a substitute for care from a trained mental health professional.
Keep the conversation going
What has your journey toward feeling more confident looked like? Share your story with us.
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Lady! This week, Dr. Dom and Terri expand this year’s theme of community into the members of our community that may be on the margins. Dr. Niki Elliott, a clinical professor and director of the Center for Embodied Equity and Neurodiversity at the University of San Diego’s School of Leadership and Education Sciences and author of Heart-Centered Connections: Seven Essential Skills for Helping Neurodiverse and Marginalized Children Thrive, joins the podcast to discuss the importance of making space for those who are different than us – especially the children in our community.
Loving and caring for children living with neurodivergence requires a level of intentionality and self-awareness that is only now becoming mainstream. Some of the skills needed will call for the parents, caregiver, and community member to dig deep into themselves and address their unmet needs so that they can get out of the way and put the needs of the child first.
Dr. Niki provides a holistic approach to supporting children with neurodivergence needs and the first step is by offering compassion, not only to the child but also to the caregiver. Lady, you’ll want to tune in for actionable strategies you can begin to incorporate today that will shift your perspective in how you show up for the neurodivergent young people in your life…and, maybe even yourself too! Dr. Niki shares why helping young people train their nervous systems for resilience can help them navigate the world more skillfully.
It wasn’t all business this episode! Head over to Patreon for a special Oh You Blatchet! segment with Dr. Niki. She’s spilling the tea about her business and having fun doing so! We’ll catch you there!

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Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Where to find Dr. Niki Elliott:
Website: Dr. Niki Elliott
Book: Heart-Centered Connections: Seven Essential Skills for Helping Neurodiverse and Marginalized Children Thrive
Instagram: @iam_drniki

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:
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What are you most afraid of? Have you shared that with anyone? What have you done to address the fear(s)? No worries, if you have not taken any steps. Hopefully, listening to this episode will motivate you to take action. In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Guryan Tighe. Guryan is Founder and CEO of, Fourage, that's courage with an F. As an Executive Coach who specializes in helping people address their fears, Guryan joins Dom and Terri to discuss fear and communication. Each of the ladies opens up about something they are afraid of and Guryan utilizes her expert coaching skills to facilitate the discussion and offer best practices. Then Guryan provides tips on how to engage in healthy communication with partners and parents. Some of her tips may surprise you and you will definitely want to take notes. Let’s make fear our greatest teacher.
Quote of the Day: "FOURAGE is courage spelled with an F. We believe your fear is the gateway to your courage." - Guryan Tighe
Connect with Guryan:
Fourage.io Guryan@fourage.io
Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
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Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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With the fall film festival season (mostly) in the rearview and release dates set through the end of the year, Adam and Josh hold a Fall Movie Preview Draft that sees them largely ignoring obvious picks like Avengers: Doomsday and Dune: Part Three in favor of battling over some of the most intriguing indies still to come. Plus, a review of Aaron Sorkin's The Social Reckoning and Massacre Theatre.
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Intro (00:00:00-00:02:25)
‘26 Fall Preview Draft (00:02:26-0:25:19)
Filmspotting Family (0:25:20-00:31:25)
Preview Draft, cont. (00:31:26-1:02:41)
The Social Reckoning (1:02:42-01:30:58)
Massacre Theatre (01:30:59-01:36:46)
Credits / New Releases (01:36:47-01:44:01)
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-”The Family Guy” has the famous “It insists upon itself” joke – not “The Simpsons.”
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