Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Lady, when was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror to examine the negativity you may bring to your relationships? We know that doing so requires hard work and often a level of vulnerability that some of us will readily avoid. In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom offer us ways to identify when and why we are the toxic ones in our relationships. They also share some of their toxic ways. Within that sharing, the ladies also provide us with concrete steps to take if we are ready for making a change in our behavior patterns. Be sure to tune in and also scroll below for more information on tips and resources mentioned in this episode.
Quote of the Day: "Your toxicity in your relationships with other people is actually an extension of the toxicity in your relationship to yourself. What you have is not an issue with how you relate to others, but a fundamental trauma that is preventing you from being at ease within yourself. That is what you must address." - Brianna Wiest
Takeaways:
Signs it's you:
All of your problems are someone else's fault
You take more than you give
There's so much drama
You have a major superiority complex
You’re a Debbie Downer
You only express love or admiration when you need something.
How to make the change:
Watch how people interact around you
Monitor your own thoughts and actions
Apologize more and seek understanding
Identify the root of the toxicity and what must be done to heal
Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
The Self Compassion Deck
Relevant Past Episodes:
S5E3: A Fresh Perspective on Receiving Feedback and Managing Defensiveness
S5E4: How Your Words Are Creating Your Current Reality (Put Some Respect on Your Name) S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis
Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
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Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: herspacepodcast.com
Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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What's it really like growing up as the daughter of an NBA player and the sister of a global icon?
Shaya Bryant — daughter of NBA and European league legend Joe "Jellybean" Bryant, and sister of Kobe Bryant — joins Born To The Game for Part 1 of a deeply personal two-part conversation about family, legacy, identity, and life behind the fame.
In this episode, Shaya opens up about: Growing up in a basketball family and moving overseas to Italy and Switzerland as a kid Learning Italian in months and the culture shock of returning to Philadelphia Her tight-knit bond with Kobe growing up — "thick as thieves," pranks, and no real fights Kobe's early work ethic, 6am gym sessions, and the moment that shaped the Mamba Mentality Her father Joe "Jellybean" Bryant as a present, playful dad and the lessons he instilled Navigating fame, privacy, and protecting her peace from public perception Motherhood, grief, and carrying her family's legacy forward on her own terms
This is Part 1 of 2 — Part 2 drops next week with even more of Shaya's story.
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Lady! If you’ve noticed by now the unofficial theme for this year is community. How to build it, how to engage with it, and how to be responsible with it. As we continue to expand our understanding of what it means to be in community with others, we have to keep our most vulnerable in mind. That’s right, how are we helping the babies and the young people navigate the world?
This week, Dr. Dom and Terri offer a quick glimpse into ways we can help protect children’s peace. Are you being mindful of your conduct when in the presence of children? Studies show that kids are their most observant and absorbent of behavior and energy up to the age of 8 and it is our responsibility as community members to model what it is like to engage in ways that show self-respect and respect for others. Even if they aren’t your babies, they are somebody’s baby and they deserve an opportunity to have their innocence preserved and experience as peaceful a world as possible.
Tune in for a few tips on how to walk in the world knowing that there are literally people who look up to you and take their cues from how you move in the world.

Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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We all know what it feels like when someone violates our boundaries but how do we know when we are the boundary violator? Have you ever... offered unsolicited advice? Gossiped? Said what you would do if you were in someone’s situation? Asked personal questions? Interrupted someone in the middle of a conversation? Touched someone’s hair? Touched someone on the shoulder? Asked a coworker where they lived? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you, like most of us, have been a boundary violator.
In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom take us through multiple situations (including current events from pop culture and a subscriber question) in which we may be unintentionally invading someone’s personal space and offer us tips on how to navigate those situations.
Quote of the Day: "R-E-S-P-E-C-T...find out what it means to me!” - The Queen, Aretha Franklin
Takeaways:
What to do if we violate the boundaries of others
Apologize
Be willing to listen
Don’t take offense
Ask for permission
Resources:
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: herspacepodcast.com
Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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Hey lady! When you see someone you perceive as having great confidence do you seethe with envy or do you admire them and wonder how you can get some of your own motion? This week, Terri and Dr. Dom break down why Black women who exude confidence and self-assuredness get so much hate thrown their way.
In today’s popular culture it seems as if you step out into the public eye with high self-regard and good self-concept chances are you are going to catch your fair share of haters. Should you let that stop you? No. But, as a human is it possible to feel a sting when it does happen? Sure, which is why Terri and Dr. Dom impart some wisdom about how to still do your thing without worrying about what others think and have to say. Hint: Because 9 times out of 10 whatever is making them uncomfortable is a them thing, so keep doing you, boo!
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Goal Mapping Starter Guide
Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.
Branding with Terri
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.