This week, I’m joined by Producer, Pastor, and Podcaster Blaq Nubon who is the creator and host of That Husband Podcast, the only podcast on the continent dedicated to husbands under the powerful theme: “Husbands who know better, do better.” Together, we dive deep into the institution of marriage and the many dynamics that shape it. From ukukotiza, (a traditional Zulu practice where a new wife (makoti) lives with her in-laws to learn domestic skills and adapt to her new role as caregiver for her husband and extended family) to the ways men communicate in relationships as well as how cultural customs continue to influence modern unions. We also ask the big questions: Do age-old practices like ukotiza still have a place in today’s world? How can couples create their own relationship dynamics in a society where everyone seems to have an opinion on how marriage should work? Whether you're married, considering marriage, or simply curious about how relationships evolve within the African context, this episode offers honest insights, cultural reflection, and practical wisdom. Let us know what you think by rating this episode or leaving a comment on our social media platforms.
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The Cost of Being the One Who 'Made It' - Unpacking the Emotional and Financial Strain of Unequal Success in Black Families
In this episode, we delve into the emotional and relational complexities that arise when one person becomes the only financially successful member in their family. We explore in particular how sibling relationships can become strained—sometimes even breaking down, when success is unevenly distributed. We also unpack the subtle ways in which these dynamics can become transactional, with the successful sibling either feeling burdened as a provider or using their status to assert superiority. The episode offers practical reflections for both parties to foster healthier, more respectful relationships that go beyond material wealth. This conversation is especially relevant in the South African context where the unemployment rate rose to 32.9% early this year, with youth unemployment at an even worse standing at 62.4%. These figures highlight the structural inequalities that often place immense pressure on the few who "make it," particularly in black families, where success can unintentionally become a source of division rather than unity. Tune in to challenge your perspective on success, family, and the emotional cost of inequality.
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You Are Not Your Emotions: A Guide to Inner Safety
In this episode, I open up about my personal journey with anxiety and the emotional waves that often come with it. Here, I share the tools and practices that have helped me not only manage anxiety but also navigate a wide range of emotions with more clarity and compassion. But this isn’t just about learning how to live through difficult emotions—it’s about strength, growth, and learning to build a safe, nurturing relationship with your inner self. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or simply curious about emotional wellness, this episode is a gentle reminder that emotions are powerful, but they don’t have to overpower you. With the right tools, you can learn to soothe your inner world, rather than silence it or let it take the wheel. This episode is for anyone seeking to create a safe emotional home within themselves—one they don’t have to be afraid to return to. FOLLOW US: IG:https://www.instagram.com/an_extraordinary_takeigsh=MXF4bGd0bmZta242MA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@an_extraodinary_take Tik tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sbo_ngubane_cossa?_t=ZM-8vc1YkBGrun&_r=1
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Jesse Donn on Identity, Football, Fitness And Health
On today’s episode we are joined by Former Football player Jesse Donn, as he takes us through his own process of redefining himself and navigating life after a career move he never saw coming. Together, we unpack the often unhealthy relationship we can have with our work when we can’t separate ourselves from what we do vs who we are. Jesse, who has now transitioned to a Fitness Trainer, also takes us through the importance of women understanding how their monthly cycles affect how and when they should train. Thanks for listening, please do take time to leave a review at the end.
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Healing the Mother-Daughter Bond: A Conversation with Sebabatso Thulo
In this powerful episode of An Extraordinary Take, we dive into the complexities of the mother-daughter relationship with author, educator, and TEDx speaker Sebabatso Thulo. A passionate advocate for women’s healing, Sebabatso has dedicated her life to helping women mend the often complex relationships they have with themselves and each other. Sebabatso shares her deeply personal journey of discovering her own mother-wound and the courageous steps she took to heal her relationship with her mother. The conversation uncovers the barriers that often inhibit mothers and daughters from forming deep, authentic connections, while also exploring how these unresolved wounds manifest in children—insights she has gained from her experience as a high school teacher. As the founder and host of Healed and Loved, a women’s networking group aimed at inspiring and uplifting women, Sebabatso brings wisdom, empathy, and a roadmap for those navigating their own healing—whether together or on their own. This episode is a must-listen for mothers and daughters who are on their own journey of healing past wounds, and understanding the profound impact that their connection to each other has on who they become. Don't forget to share, and give us a review at the end of each episode. Enjoy!
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