Women of Impact

It’s Lisa Bilyeu and I’m PUMPED to share this episode of Women of Impact with you today about something SO important and SO hard to do, and that’s setting AND HOLDING your boundaries!
And the amazinggggg woman here to help is the Boundary Boss herself, my homie Terri Cole.!
Terri has been on the show a number of times because she is SO DAMN GOOD at empowering women to put toxic people in their place!! And in this episode, she’s sharing soooo many amazing tactics and insights into setting and holding your boundaries AND how to deal with the people in your life and exactly WHAT to say to those who don’t respect your boundaries.

We go into:
- The 5 categories of boundaries & why you need health boundaries in all of them
- Why boundaries are the best BRIDGES in your relationships, NOT BLOCKS!!
- How to get away from the manipulator who is exploiting your good heart to get you to stay
- Actual word for word Boundary scripts you can use to flip the conversation and power dynamic when someone is blatantly crossing your boundaries
- How to deal with someone who repeatedly & purposefully crosses your boundaries
- And MUCH MORE!

So listen up homie!! Cause your comfort and your feelings frikin’ MATTER, and the ONLY person’s feelings that are YOUR responsibility are YOUR OWN – it’s NOT your responsibility to take care of the feelings of others!!!

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Ever ask yourself, why does leaving a toxic partner have to hurt THIS much? Or why do even “normal” people become someone you don’t recognize during divorce?
This episode is for the woman who’s drowning in manipulation, confusion, and that sneaky cycle of regret, wondering if fighting for your freedom is even worth it.
Today I’m sitting down with divorce lawyer Holly J. Moore, who’s spent nearly two decades deep in the trenches of human behavior, breakups, and what our ugliest moments reveal.
If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by threats, blamed for everything, or scared to start over, Holly’s seen it all, and she gets brutally honest about the hardest parts…and how to survive them with your soul intact.
Here’s exactly what we dive into:
The secret psychology of revenge during messy divorces (and why it’s NOT about the stuff)
Why “normal” people act totally unhinged, and what’s REALLY fueling their actions
How to handle emotional, financial, and physical abuse when you’re trying to leave
Smart moves to protect yourself, legally and emotionally, when the other side plays dirty

Chapter Titles
Revenge Tactics: Emotional, Physical & Financial Abuse
The Survival Instinct: Why Threats Center on Kids (and Women’s Triggers)
Hidden Money? Forensics, Accusations, and What Clients NEED to Know
“Sometimes Staying Feels Easier Than Leaving”: Stories of Manipulation
The Real Pain Chart of Divorce (And Why You’re Not “Crazy”)
When Playing the Victim Becomes a Legal Strategy
Top Causes of Divorce, And What Holly Really Sees Behind the Stats
Money, Control, and Avoiding the Conversations That Kill Relationships
When Your Past Is Used Against You: Celebrity Divorce Examples
Addiction’s Role, and The Heartbreak No One Talks About
Perimenopause, Power, and Why Women Walk Away Now
Who Plots, Who Grieves: Divorce Games That Reveal Gender Differences

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Welcome back to the second half of this illuminating episode of "Women of Impact!" The conversation with Afrika Brooke continues as she shares her deeply personal journey of overcoming fears rooted in childhood and how these experiences shape her current approach to brave, honest expression. Lisa and Afrika dive into actionable strategies for handling disrespectful behaviors, especially within family dynamics, and stress the importance of establishing firm boundaries.

Listeners will gain valuable insights into the art of pausing and reflecting before reacting, maintaining integrity while being empathetic, and building confidence through consistent, truthful actions. Lisa and Afrika also explore the concept of self-betrayal, setting the stage for practical advice on navigating social pressure, groupthink, and developing effective communication skills both personally and professionally. Tune in to discover transformative strategies for asserting yourself and living authentically, no matter the situation.

SHOWNOTES
[00:00] Recap of Part 1 and diving into values alignment.
[05:30] Honest communication: Balancing truth and relationships.
[12:15] Navigating family dynamics and setting boundaries.
[18:40] Groupthink and the courage to think independently.
[23:50] Vulnerability: Building stronger relationships through honesty.
[28:30] Closing thoughts: The ongoing journey of self-expression.

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Welcome back to another episode of "Women of Impact!" In this riveting first half, host Lisa Bilyeu sits down with the profoundly insightful Afrika Brooke. They delve deep into the nuances of honesty and accountability in our relationships. Afrika shares her powerful reflections on defensiveness in relationships, emphasizing the difference between desired and embodied values. We'll hear from Lisa as she opens up about her own journey with her husband, Tom, detailing how they navigate giving each other permission to hold one another accountable without slipping into defensiveness.

Afrika and Lisa discuss the impact of direct honesty, the importance of practicing honesty to avoid self-righteousness, and how addressing insecurities can lead to true alignment with one's goals. This part of the episode sets the stage for understanding how self-awareness and emotional intelligence play critical roles in personal growth and intimate connections. Get ready to uncover groundbreaking insights that will transform the way you communicate and relate to others around you.

SHOWNOTES
00:00 Understand your fears before addressing patterns.
19:01 Environment shaped my hyper independence and feelings.
26:29 Fragmented identity led to decade-long alcohol struggle.
38:24 Resentments led to manipulation in relationships.
42:04 Shame and embarrassment hinder self-awareness.
53:39 Ownership interrupts conflict through personal responsibility.
01:01:45 Apologetic demeanor affects many, especially women.

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If you thought part 1 was jaw-dropping, you’re NOT ready for the second half. Gregory Hartley and I dive into one of the wildest “he said, she said” true crime stories, where the difference between life and death comes down to tiny, split-second clues in body language. Want to know how to spot a liar in real time? Or how to tell the difference between someone genuinely afraid and someone just putting on a show? This episode is filled with practical, empowering insight that you’re going to use for the rest of your life.
We break down the testimony from a brutal attempted cliff murder (the Koenig case), showing you signs of lying, truthfulness, shock, and residual emotion, with step-by-step analysis you can apply to your own gut instincts. Plus, Greg gives us the science behind culture, gender, “women’s intuition,” and why some people refuse to see the truth (until it’s too late). There’s even a rapid-fire game to test your own skills. This isn’t just for true crime lovers, it’s survival 101 for every woman who refuses to be caught off guard ever again.
SHOWNOTES
Comparing his and her stories: congruency, illustration, and the gestures that mean “truth”
Adapting, stress, and grooming: The difference between nervous energy and a liar’s “tell”
Why neither side wants to reveal every detail, and where the truth hides
Memory, trauma, and why big stress rewires what you actually recall
Cultures, gender, and why you can’t spot red flags until you know their baseline
Harsh truths: Why the most dangerous men are the ones you already know
The Pink & Blue Flag Game: Who lies better, who cracks first, and why women’s intuition can save your life

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