The Official BNI Podcast

Synopsis

The more artificial intelligence we have in our lives, the more valuable, authentic human relationships are going to become. AI can’t manufacture a relationship. Trust is still something that has to be earned person-to-person. A recommendation from an algorithm and a referral from somebody you deeply trust are fundamentally different things.

Don’t confuse connectivity with connection. Use technology to support the relationship, not substitute for the relationship. Until trust becomes obsolete, networking won’t become obsolete. In a world increasingly run by algorithms, relationships are your competitive advantage.

Links

Listen to Episode 886: The ABCs of AI.

Listen to Episode 899: AI and Networking (Part 1).

Listen to Episode 900: AI and Networking (Part 2).

Listen to Episode 974: Don’t Google, Greggle.

The Official BNI Podcast is sponsored by Misner Audio Programs.

Complete Transcript of Episode 986

Priscilla:
Hello everybody, and welcome back to the Official BNI Podcast. I’m Priscilla Rice, and I’m coming to you from Live Oak Recording Studio in Berkeley, California, and I’m joined on the phone today by the Founder and the Chief Visionary Officer of BNI, Dr. Ivan Misner. Hello Ivan, how are you and where are you?

Ivan:
I am doing great, and I just got back from Monaco, the [BNI] international convention, and last week I was in Italy at Lake Como, taking a few days off, and so I’m back home in Austin, Texas.

Priscilla:
That’s a great idea to take a few days off.

Ivan:
Yes, I like to call it “bleisure” – business and leisure.

Priscilla: (laughing) 
Bleisure, okay. Well, tell me, what are we doing here? What’s AI Versus networking?

Ivan:
Well, AI Versus Networking. I’ve really been giving a lot of thought to this, and people are, you know, really concerned about AI. Now, I honestly think that the full title for this was AI Versus Networking: Relationships Matter More Than Ever, and I honestly think that’s the case. Relationships certainly matter more than ever. There’s a lot of conversation today, and I’ve got a lot of stuff. I’m just gonna do a mind dump here on this podcast. So keep up, everybody.

There’s a lot of conversation today about what artificial intelligence is going to replace, and make no mistake, AI is going to replace or dramatically change a lot of basic functions in a lot of industries, and it already has. But there’s one thing I don’t believe, and that there’s one thing I don’t believe that AI is going to replace, and that’s the need for genuine human relationships. In fact, I believe the opposite may happen. The more artificial intelligence we have in our lives, the more valuable, authentic human relationships are going to become.

AI can do some remarkable things. It can help you research someone before you meet them. I’ve certainly used it for that. It can tell you about their company. It can help you prepare questions for a meeting. It can draft a follow up email. It can remind you when you haven’t contacted someone in a while. It can even help identify people you might want to meet. That’s incredibly powerful. But here’s the distinction: AI can accelerate a transaction, but it can’t manufacture a relationship.

Priscilla:
Mm hmm.

Ivan:
Because a relationship isn’t simply an exchange of information. A relationship is built through experiences over time. It’s built when you do what you said you were going to do. It’s built when you show up when somebody needs you. It’s built through generosity, credibility, consistency, and through trust. And trust is still something that has to be earned person-to-person. Information isn’t the same as relationship, and AI is extraordinarily good at information. Networking, however, is all about relationships. They are two very different things.

If I ask an AI system who is a great accountant in a certain city, it might give me a list of names based on reviews, websites, rankings, and other information, and that’s really useful. But imagine instead that a close friend calls me and says, “Ivan, I’ve worked with this accountant for 10 years. She’s outstanding. I’ve trusted her with my business, and I would absolutely trust her with yours.” Those two recommendations don’t carry the same weight. Why? Because one is based primarily on information; the other is backed up by a relationship. And referrals are all about trust.

I’ve been talking about referrals for more than four decades, and I think one of the most important things people need to understand is this: a referral is a transfer of trust, and when I refer someone to another person, I’m not simply giving them a name and a phone number. It’s not a lead. I’m putting some of my own credibility on the line. I’m effectively saying, “I know this person, I trust this person, and I trust them enough that I’m willing to attach my reputation to this introduction,” and that is powerful.

AI can make a recommendation, but a recommendation from an algorithm and a referral from somebody you deeply trust are fundamentally different things. The algorithm has information; the person has skin in the game. That’s why relationships matter.

Authenticity is going to become more and more valuable. There’s an interesting paradox happening right now. AI can write an excellent email. I know — I’ve done that a couple of times. AI can write a thoughtful LinkedIn message. It can create a beautiful thank you note. It can generate an impressive proposal, and as capabilities become commonplace, something fascinating is going to happen.

Perfect communication is going to become cheap. Authentic communication is going to become more valuable. Think about your own inbox. We’re rapidly moving toward a world where almost anyone can generate a perfectly written message in seconds. So what stands out? Personal phone call. Isn’t it interesting?

Priscilla:
Yeah.

Ivan:
It might go full circle. Personal phone call[s] might stand out. A handwritten note is going to stand out. A meaningful conversation. Someone remembering something you told them six months ago and talking about that. Someone making an introduction because they genuinely thought the two of you should know one another. Technology flattens the communication hierarchy, and that has been an amazing thing that I’ve talked about for decades.

But don’t confuse connectivity with connection. That’s something we’ve really learned from social media. Technology has given us unprecedented connectivity. You can have 5000 Facebook friends. Facebook has kind of redefined what a friend is. You can have 5000 Facebook friends. You can have 20,000 LinkedIn connections, or hundreds of thousands of followers. But here’s the question: How many of those people would take your phone call? And perhaps more importantly, how many would you take a phone call from if they needed your help? That’s the difference between connectivity and a connection, a connection with a human being.

I’ve said for years that networking isn’t about how many people you know; it’s about how well you know each other. And a database is not a network. A follower count is not a relationship. And an algorithm can’t turn a stranger into a trusted friend simply by putting the two of you in each other’s feeds. AI can actually make us better networkers, I believe. I think it’s an extraordinary tool, especially as a thought partner and working through my material. And I believe AI can actually make us better at networking if we use it correctly. I mean, imagine using AI before an important meeting to better understand someone’s business. Imagine using it to help organize your follow-up, so relationships don’t accidentally fall through the cracks. That’s fantastic.

But here’s my rule: use technology to support the relationship, not substitute for the relationship. AI should help you become more thoughtful, more prepared, and more effective. It shouldn’t become a wall between you and the people that you know. I don’t believe the future belongs to people who reject AI. That’s a mistake. That’s absolutely a mistake. But I also don’t believe the future belongs to people who try to automate every human interaction. I think the real opportunity lies somewhere in the middle. The winners will be the people who use artificial intelligence to become better at being human. Use AI to eliminate repetitive work, so you have more time for relationships. Use AI to prepare better, so you can ask better questions. Use it to help you follow up, so people don’t fall through the cracks. Use it to identify opportunities to help others. Use AI to be a thought partner in developing your ideas. I love it for that. But when it comes time to build trust, show up, have the conversation, listen, help someone without immediately asking for something in return. Do what you promised. Be there consistently because those are the things that build relationships.

So, could AI eventually replace networking? No, I don’t think so. I really don’t. AI can tell you who you should know. It can tell you what they do, it can tell you what you have in common. It can even suggest what you should say when you meet them, but it can’t make someone trust you. And until trust becomes obsolete, networking won’t become obsolete. That, by the way, is one of the reasons why we work in more than 75 countries — because trust transcends cultural differences. I actually think something much more interesting is going to happen in the future.

Ultimately, I think AI can replicate information; it can simulate conversation, but it can’t automate trust. The future isn’t AI versus relationships. It’s AI plus relationships. Let AI handle more of the artificial and give us more time for the human. And in a world increasingly run by algorithms, relationships will become your competitive advantage. What are your thoughts, Priscilla?

Priscilla:
That’s great. I love that you thought this through.

Ivan:
I’ve given a lot of thought to this topic because AI is kind of where you know the internet was in the mid ’90s, where people are like, “What do I do with this? How is it going to work? I don’t fully understand it.” So I’m trying to wrap my head around it with everybody else. But I want to look at it as a positive force.

Priscilla:
Yeah. Well, I think I think you did a good job of laying it out, and it’s true. It can’t replace the kind of trust that you need in order to do business with someone.

Ivan:
Yeah. Well, trust is the key, and that’s what makes networking work. And I think AI, like many other things that we use, is a tool. It’s a tool that we can use to our advantage. It’s a tool that can be overused, but it’s a tool that I certainly am incorporating as much as humanly possible in the work that I do, particularly as a thought partner to run ideas by, to get different concepts feedback from. It’s great for that. So that’s my message for today, Priscilla.

Priscilla:
Okay, that’s a good message. I appreciate that. That’s it for this week. Thank you so much for the great information.

This podcast is sponsored by www.misneraudioprograms.com. These audio programs will provide you with the tools and the inspiration to powerfully enhance your BNI experience. So check out the great material available to you at www.misneraudioprograms.com and then use the promo code IVAN50 for 50% off of everything [this code is good for a limited time]. All of the proceeds go to the BNI Foundation.

Thank you so much for listening. This is Priscilla Rice, and we look forward to having you join us again next week for another exciting episode of The Official BNI Podcast.

Synopsis

When you believe in something the way Danielle Stevens believes in BNI, inviting visitors doesn’t feel awkward. BNI introduces visitors to opportunities, relationships, support, referrals, and community. You can change someone’s life by inviting them to a meeting.

Danielle’s Guidelines for Inviting

Be direct but casual. You’re inviting them to breakfast, not proposing marriage.

Don’t over-explain BNI. You don’t have to teach them the system.

Set the date and time right away with your BNI Connect app.

Tell them how they’ll fit and who you’re going to introduce them to.

Start the introductions as soon as you’ve sent the invitation, with a 3-way email or text message.

The next great member in your chapter is someone you ran into casually, or someone that you already have in your everyday life.

Where have you found people to invite to BNI? Leave a comment and let us know.

Links

Visit Danielle’s website, Bellevida Design.

Listen to Episode 830: Inviting Members Through Social Media.

Listen to Episode 709: Inviting Visitors the Connector Effect Way.

Listen to Episode 671: Inviting Visitors Is (Even) Easier.

The Official BNI Podcast is sponsored by Misner Audio Programs.

Complete Transcript of Episode 985

Priscilla:
Hello, everybody, and welcome back to the Official BNI Podcast. I’m Priscilla Rice, and I’m coming to you from Live Oak Recording Studio in Berkeley, California. And I’m joined on the phone today by Spencer Reynolds, who is standing in today as a Guest Host for Dr. Misner, and he will be joining us from time to time. Hello, Spencer. Welcome to the podcast.

Spencer:
Great to be with you again, Priscilla.

Priscilla:  
Yeah. So, what do you have to share with us today?

Spencer:
Today, I’m joined by Danielle Stevens with Bellevida Design, the residential and commercial design firm that she owns with her husband Jeremy, who’s also a fellow BNI Tampa member. So they are in my region. Danielle is a seven-time BNI Tampa Member of the Year award recipient, one of the top connectors in our entire region, and second person ever to be recognized globally as a Master Connector by BNI as a global organization. She’s passed over 1200 referrals and generated over $9 million in business for fellow BNI members.

Priscilla:  
Mmm.

Spencer:
She served as a [chapter] President, an Area Director, a Director Consultant, and right now she serves on our regional team as the Director of Events and Recognition. But one thing Danielle is especially known for is inviting visitors. Her chapter consistently grows, and Danielle has personally invited an incredible number of people to experience BNI. So today we’re talking about one of the biggest growth drivers in BNI: inviting. Danielle, welcome.

Danielle:
Thank you. Thank you so much for having me, Spencer. I love this topic. Inviting people to BNI has completely changed my business, my friendships, my confidence, and honestly, my life. So why wouldn’t I want to change somebody else’s?

Spencer:
And you know, it’s 15 Seconds to Change your Life. Why is that? Because we have this joke that if people make eye contact with you for too long, they’re going to end up at BNI. So why does it come so naturally for you? And tell us a little about that.

Danielle:
Well, I mean, if you lock eyes with me, we’ve got about 15 seconds before I invite you to my BNI chapter. We meet on Thursday mornings, you know, at 7:30. So you’re just going to come to BNI with me. It’s that easy.

You know, I really genuinely believe that BNI helps people because it helped me. It helps countless people that I know. You know, I’m not dragging people into some sales pitch. I’m introducing them to opportunity, to relationships, to support, referrals, community. So when you really believe in something like that, inviting doesn’t feel awkward, and I can pretty much change your life if you look at me for longer than 15 seconds, because you will come with me.

Yeah. What about some of those members around the world who feel uncomfortable inviting because they don’t want to feel pushy or they don’t know what to say?

Danielle:
Well, in my personal opinion, and I’ve watched other people invite folks to BNI, I think they can sometimes overcomplicate it. You know, you’re not asking someone to marry you, you’re just asking them on a date. You’re saying, “Come and have breakfast with us. Come meet some great people. See what we do.” The pressure comes from making it way too serious. It’s not that serious. Just come meet us. We’re pretty cool.

Spencer:
And so, what does your actual invitation style look like in real life? Like, how do you actually do it? What are the words you use normally?

Danielle:
So I typically try to keep it really conversational. You know, I don’t want it to sound scripted. Of course, I don’t want it to sound salesy. I don’t want to make it sound like I’m asking them to fall in line behind me, and you know, we’re not going to prick each other’s fingers and trade blood or anything crazy, you know.

If I meet someone interesting, I say something like, “Oh my gosh, you would love my networking group. You should come visit sometime.” And then I follow up immediately with, “Why don’t you come and visit this week?” I literally had lunch today with someone who found me on a Facebook recommendation, wanted to have lunch with us, and guess what? He’s coming to BNI with me on Thursday.

Spencer:
And so you just asked directly.

Danielle:
Yeah, I mean, why not? Why not be direct? I love being direct, and I love when people are direct with me. And I think most people are not being direct enough about it. They hint, they’re awkward, they’re nervous, they’re unsure, they’re scared of the “no.” They say, if they finally get the guts, they say something like, “You should check it out sometime,” and it goes nowhere.

You know, I make it really easy. I pull out my phone. I invite them right then and there. Our BNI Connect app makes it really easy. I give them a day and a time. I tell them how they’ll fit, and I tell them who I’m going to introduce them to. Why wouldn’t they come? Right? “I want to introduce you to these people that can help you.” Why wouldn’t they come?

Spencer:
Well, and I think what you’re doing there is you’re actually showing them why people actually do come, why they really want to show up, and what they’re looking for when they will come to visit. I think that connection.

Danielle:
Absolutely, you know, as entrepreneurs, we can live on a little island, and we can be a little lonely, right? So we are craving connection as entrepreneurs. People want community. They want support. They don’t know when they walk in the room that they’re meeting their new family. You know, they don’t know those relationships, what they’re going to grow to be. But they are also craving relationships. They want new ideas. They want energy. You know, my board of directors sits in my BNI chapter. They don’t know they’re on it, but they are, right? They want to feel like they belong somewhere. As again, entrepreneurship can be really lonely. So you’re really changing the trajectory of someone’s business in their life by inviting them.

Spencer:
So you’ve probably done it wrong as well in the past.

Danielle:
Oh yeah.

Spencer:
What do you learn from the way that people are doing some of the mistakes or some of the mistakes you may have made when you were inviting at first?

Danielle:
Sure. So this is really rich coming from me, and you’ll appreciate this, Spencer, because you know me so well. But talking too much can scare people off. Again, rich coming from me, right? I never talk too much, right? No, but they explain BNI too much. They get too into it. You know, it can scare people off. It can seem intimidating. It can seem like a lot. You don’t have to teach them the system. You don’t have to lay out the whole meeting. You don’t have to tell them every step of it. You want to create a curiosity, and they’ll come because you’ve piqued their interest, and they want to come and see for themselves.

Spencer:
So, what should we say? Like, what is the best way, or what is the best method that you’ve found to do that?

Danielle:
Well, so in BNI Tampa, as I’m sure you know, because you taught it to me, we use the GRIP method. It’s a simple acronym that stands for: Are you looking to grow your business? G for grow your business. Do you rely on referrals for your business? So referrals is the R. I’d like to invite you to come to my meeting, and here’s the place that we meet. I really think people underestimate that “I” of grip. The invitation is what actually changes everything. You know, they’re not coming to BNI because I’ve sold them on something. I’m not giving them some brochure, and I’m not telling them about the 173 million dollars that BNI Tampa members help each other make over the past 12 months. But they’re coming and they’re applying when they come because we made them feel wanted. You have to keep it really simple, you know. I will literally say something like, “I’ve got someone I want to introduce you to, and I know they would want to meet you too. We’ve got this incredible group of people. We meet on Thursday mornings at 730. Would you like to come and visit?” Simple.

Spencer:
That is simple, and you know, I have to say, one of my favorite ways to do that introduction, so that people really just get the simplicity of it, is “I want to introduce you to one person.” There’s someone in this room, right? And so I tell them, “My friend, Danielle, in this room is an architect, and I know architects make your world go round as a contractor. Can I introduce you to Danielle?” It’s a one-to-one introduction, so that really matters because that’s what’s in it for them, right? What’s in it for them is the connection to somebody that will help them in their business that they see. Sometimes networking group that people don’t have a context of what that even means to outside of BNI.

Danielle:
And then make that connection. And does it have to start the two minutes before they show up because they got a little lost in where to park? No, it starts the day before in a three-way text. It starts the minute you invite them. After they get the invitation, that person you’re going to introduce them to — get them connected right away. That way, they’ve already developed a tiny bit of a relationship before they walk in the door. So now, two people want them there that they know about. The rest of it is just gravy, right?

Spencer:
So you’re really good at inviting outside of obvious places. So, where do you find visitors?

Danielle:
I find them everywhere. I won’t lie to you. I can overhear a conversation with people at a restaurant, and I’m not afraid to walk up to them because I’m kind of out there like that. But I get a lot of my invitations also from Facebook groups. People are telling us all the time that they are looking to grow their business. We just have to look for it.

So when someone asks for a plumber on Facebook, and you see this plumber refer himself, he’s probably looking for new business. What an easy ask! So Facebook is easy. Other networking events, vendor markets, school events, existing clients, gas stations. In fact, have a One-to-One with me, and I’ll tell you about the time I drove off with the gas pump still in because I was so excited this guy said yes. We were pumping gas, and he’s going to visit my chapter the next day. But people often forget that the next great member in your chapter is someone you ran into casually, or someone that you already have in your everyday life.

Spencer:
Yeah, that’s so great. You bring a lot of energy, not just to inviting people, but to everything. So, how important is energy inside of this?

Danielle:
I mean, to me, it’s like the number one thing outside of getting the guts to actually invite them. Nobody wants to attend something that you don’t seem excited about, right? So, be excited about it because it is exciting. Also, your meeting and your members, they all should be exciting as well. You have to invite, not like as an obligation, because people will feel that, like, “Oh, if you wouldn’t mind to come, you know, I really need this score on the Power of One report.” Like, that’s not a reason to invite.

Spencer:
No, no.

Danielle:
If you invite them, like, “Oh my gosh, you have to meet these people,” then your energy is totally contagious.

Spencer:
I so agree with that, and people like to hang out with Tigger a lot more than they like to hang out with Eeyore. So that’s one of the lines I use pretty often.

Danielle:
Yes, it’s so true. If you’re bummed out about it, they will feel that, in fact, in your everyday life, right? What do we say about positive attitude and BNI? Extend that through your invitation for sure.

Spencer:
So, what do you say to the member out there that’s listening to us, and they haven’t invited somebody in months?

Danielle:
I would say very lovingly and nicely, “You probably have to get out of your own way. You have to stop waiting until it feels perfect. You have to stop being nervous. Somebody invited you.” They went out of their way [to invite you], for the most part, right? Some people find BNI their own, but the vast majority were invited by somebody else. So just start asking people. Most people are so much more open than you think, or that you will give them credit for. You know, one visitor can completely change your chapter, even if they don’t apply, sometimes it’s not the right time, and that’s okay. Don’t be offended if you invite someone and they don’t apply right away. I know a lot of people that wait for the right season and they come back. Some people are slow decision makers; that’s okay too. But just don’t wait. Invite them. You may change their life in those 15 seconds it takes you to invite them, so don’t sit on the fact that there’s someone out there that that needs this. Just invite them like someone did for you.

Spencer:
So true. Danielle, this has been fantastic. Final question, and that is really what are your final thoughts around this? What does every BNI member need to think about inviting?

Danielle:
Well, stop thinking of inviting as recruiting to your chapter. You know, invite with an open heart and invite with the intention of giving. Thinking of it as opening a door for somebody else. BNI changed my life because someone invited me. So every invitation that you make has the opportunity for that to be for someone else as well. So be the hero in someone’s story. It just takes 15 seconds.

Spencer:
It’s so true. And you know, Priscilla, you’re in that San Francisco Bay Area where our friend Dawn Lyons is, and she really talks about inviting with a sponsorship mindset. That is another piece I really love.

Priscilla:  
Yeah, that sounds like another podcast right there.

Spencer:
It does. Well, Danielle, thank you so much for your time with us today. We appreciate it.

Danielle:
Thank you. I’m honored to have been here. Thank you so much.

Spencer:
Thank you. Back to you, Priscilla.

Priscilla:

I think that’s it for this week. Thank you so much to both of you. That was some really, really good information.

This podcast is sponsored by www.misneraudioprograms.com. These audio programs will provide you with the tools and the inspiration to powerfully enhance your BNI experience. So check out the great material available to you at www.misneraudioprograms.com and then use the promo code IVAN50 for 50% off of everything [this code is good for a limited time]. All of the proceeds go to the BNI Foundation.

Thank you so much for listening. This is Priscilla Rice, and we look forward to having you join us again next week for another exciting episode of The Official BNI Podcast.

Synopsis

Inviting visitors to your BNI chapter is not asking them to do you a favor. Guest Amy Kritzman shows you how to listen for the cues that making inviting easy.

People talk about their business needs all the time. Every salesperson knocking at your door, sending you email, or calling on the phone is someone who needs more business. So is every person who comes to do work at your home or office location.

Invite everyone who asks you for business. Tell them to bring a friend or colleague. If they can’t make it, ask whether someone else from their company could.

Links

Visit the Gold Medal Ideas website.

Listen to Episode 837: Sponsoring 52 Members in 3½ Years.

Listen to Episode 639: How to Bring a Visitor into the Room.

Listen to Episode 633: I’ve Invited Everyone I Know.

The Official BNI Podcast is sponsored by Misner Audio Programs.

Complete Transcript of Episode 984

Priscilla:
Hello, everybody, and welcome back to the official BNI podcast. I’m Priscilla Rice, and I’m coming to you from Live Oak Recording Studio in Berkeley, California, and I’m joined on the phone today by the founder and the chief visionary officer of BNI, Dr. Ivan Misner. Hello, Ivan. How are you? And where are you?

Ivan:
I am finally in Monaco. I’ve mentioned it a couple of times on the previous podcasts. I’m in Monaco for the [BNI] International Convention and for the [BNI] French [National] Conference. And I’ve been here before. I’m really enjoying myself. It’s good to be back here.

I have a guest today. It’s her first time on BNI Podcast, Amy Kritzman. Amy is the President of Gold Medal Ideas, where she helps businesses stand out through creative promotional products and branded merchandise. She currently holds the Promotional Products seat with BNI Networkers Plus [Chapter] in Long Grove, Illinois, [USA] and for nearly 15 years, BNI has been an important part of her professional journey.

Since early 2019, she’s also had the privilege of serving as a BNI Director, facilitating regional leadership trainings and launch trainings for a number of new chapters during the COVID years, the challenging years. She’s also proud to periodically serve as a substitute facilitator for [BNI US] National Speed Networking. Amy, did you know that we hold the Guinness World Record for speed networking?

Amy:
Oh, I did not. That’s fantastic.

Ivan:
Yeah, BNI holds the Guinness World Record for the most number of people at a speed networking event. It was in Australia at the last [BNI Global] Convention. So, welcome to BNI Podcast.

Amy:
Thank you.

Ivan:
Next time you do a National Speed Networking event, you can say BNI holds the Guinness World Record.

Amy:
I will do it.

Ivan:
All right. So your topic is Turning the Tables on Inviting. Talk about that because so many people ask me, “How do you invite?” For me, I don’t get it — it seems easy, but a lot of people struggle with this. So help us out.

Amy:
Oh, a lot of people struggle with it. I think that a lot of people struggle with it because they think it’s hard. They think they’re asking somebody to do them a favor. They just don’t understand all the time. And I think once you see that we’re listening to people talk about their business and their needs all the time, whether it’s customers or no matter who it is, and all we have to do is listen for the right cue. So, and it refers… there’s so many ways that this refers. It even works in referrals. But I’m talking about inviting.

So, for example, I get a phone call from a guy who says he’s with Verizon, and I say, well, okay, he wants to sell me something because I’m looking mobile, and it turns out he does want to sell me something. And my questions are: “Where do you work? What do you do? Are you responsible for growing the area? And do you live and work in the area?” And when those answers are all yes, clearly he needs to meet my network of people that I meet with because I’d like to introduce him to them. And before he has a chance to sell me anything, I have him registered to visit.

Ivan:
Yeah, absolutely. And I’ve had people on the podcast before that have said to their receptionist, “Put every cold call through to me,” and that’s what they do. They say, “I’ll meet with you. I’m happy to meet with you. Come meet me at this location at this time. Bring plenty of business cards, and we’ll talk.” And they get a lot of visitors that way. I love that technique.

Amy:
Yeah, it is fantastic, and I have a related story that I tell my chapters and I tell my members. About four years ago we needed a new roof and there was no roofer in my chapter and I went to another chapter, found a roofer, got it done, got the siding, spent a lot of money on it, so of course Facebook knows that I’m interested in this now.

Ivan:
Yeah.

Amy:
So Facebook says, “Here’s some pictures,” and I see a picture of a guy, and I like the looks of this guy. I like the truck. I like the ad. I have always felt a little bad that I connected through that Facebook ad because he probably had to pay for me to connect with him. And I said, “Can you give me a call?” He calls, and I say, “Tell me how you’re growing your business.” It led to an invitation. He joined the same week. He is the biggest referrer in our chapter, and has been for all the years he’s been in the chapter. The biggest referrer.

Ivan:
I love it, and roofing companies are great in BNI. I just sold a house that I used as a rental, and I needed to have it re-roofed. Used a BNI member to roof it. He came in quick. He did a great job. You know, when you’re using BNI members, I think they just do a cut above on a BNI referral.

Amy:
Absolutely, and with this particular guy, I got to tell you, a couple of weeks ago, he called me, because I’m also his [BNI] Director, he called and said, “Am I allowed to put in $500,000 for Thank You for Closed Business? And I said, “Well, I mean, is it real money? He said, “Yeah.” Well, a member referred him to one person, and then she took him all around the neighborhood, and he fixed everybody’s roofs.

Ivan: (chuckling)
Oh, yeah, that counts.

Amy:
I said, “Yeah. Yes, not only are you allowed to, but you must.” Yeah, you should absolutely.

Ivan:
All right. So, inviting doesn’t always start with who do I know. Talk about that.

Amy:
Inviting does not always start with who do I know, because we don’t always know the people that are calling us.

Ivan:
Yeah.

Amy:
And what we want to know is who’s already talking to me? Who has reason to be asking me for something. Well, then I can turn that into a conversation about what I want from them.

Ivan:
Right. It’s like the cold call that comes in. So, why do visitors matter? I mean, I know, but tell members. You’re a member and a director. Tell members why visitors matter.

Amy:
Well, we had a little session this morning at my BNI meeting, and we broke into groups with the five categories that fall under the Power of One. And I asked each group to tell us why that item was important to their businesses. And the kind of thing that comes out of that when it comes to visitors is what brings fresh energy into the room.

Ivan:
Yeah.

Amy:
And it gives us a chance to practice our messaging differently, new people to hear things, expanding the chapter’s reach, expanding our own reach, and we know that visitors do business with members, even if they are not interested in joining or not able to join at this time or apply at this time.

Ivan:
Yeah. Sometimes I’ve had visitors who, for whatever reason, they couldn’t join, and I’ve suggested to them, “Do you have somebody in your office that might be available?” And it’s amazing how they don’t think of that unless you present that idea to them, and so many times I’ve had people say, “Actually, I do have somebody in my office that would be able to do it,” and many times I would get an associate of the visitor to join.

Amy:
Yes, and often when I do have a new visitor on the hook, I will say, “And when you come, why don’t you bring somebody else with you? You might be more comfortable if you bring a friend, somebody else in your building, somebody else that you know who might want to meet some people.”

Ivan:
Right. You know that’s ironic because I actually started the third and fourth chapter of BNI for that very reason. One person didn’t want to come alone, brought a friend, and the two of them couldn’t join the second chapter because they were in the same profession that was represented there. So the two of them ended up opening up two more chapters, and it happened exactly as you’re describing there.

Amy:
Yeah, it’s great. It makes them feel a little more comfortable sometimes. Everybody doesn’t like to walk into a room full of strangers, believe it or not.

Ivan:
Yep, that’s very true. All right, so I’m going to change lanes slightly here. We’ve been talking about visitors, but you talk about being a Thank You for Closed Business junkie.

Amy:
I am totally a Thank You for Closed Business junkie. Here’s how that happened. You know, I’ve been around since about the end of 2011, and I’ve been a good solid member. I was a good solid member all along. You know, not the best, not the worst. We didn’t know the Power of One in those days. When we learned the Power of One was around the same time as we began to use the [BNI] regional websites. So one day I’m sitting looking out my window, and a great big tree had fallen on our lawn between my house and the next-door neighbor, and it didn’t do any damage, thank goodness. There was no landscaper in my chapter, so I said, “Well, what am I going to do now? Am I going to go to Google or am I going to go to BNI Connect?”

Ivan: (chuckling)

Amy:
Wait a minute! I got this handy-dandy regional website. I can go and find a landscaper in another chapter. Before I knew it, I had thousands of dollars in Thank You for Closed Business between my house, the next-door neighbor, and another neighbor down the street. And I said, “Wait, this was way too easy. I can do this.” And I started putting in my G.A.I.N.S. profile how much Thank You for Closed Business I was going to do that year, how much I was going to give to other members that year. And I have beat it every year that I have committed to a number.

Ivan:
See, this is why it’s so important to complete your profile on BNI Connect because when I’m looking for a profession, if they don’t have a reasonably well completed profile, I move on and to look for someone else. One of the ones that blew my mind the most was I was looking for a photographer, and I found several photographers in the area that I was looking for that didn’t put up their own photo.

Amy: (laughing)

Ivan:
A photographer who didn’t put up their own photo. It’s like, okay, you’re out. I’m not going to use you. And I hired a different photographer, which did have a great profile. So yeah, complete your profile.

Amy:
Absolutely.

Ivan:
Any last thought before we wrap up?

Amy:
Well, I love BNI. What could I tell you? I’m a big fan. I think I’ll stay.

Ivan:
Well, I’m really glad to hear that, and thank you so much for being on BNI Podcast today. I appreciate all that you do, and you had great content today.

Amy:
Thank you.

Ivan:
Thanks for being here. Priscilla, over to you.

Priscilla:
Okay. Thank you, Amy, and thank you, Ivan. I think that’s really, really nice and really a great podcast.

This podcast is sponsored by www.misneraudioprograms.com. These audio programs will provide you with the tools and the inspiration to powerfully enhance your BNI experience. So check out the great material available to you at www.misneraudioprograms.com and then use the promo code IVAN50 for 50% off of everything [this code is good for a limited time]. All of the proceeds go to the BNI Foundation.

Thank you so much for listening. This is Priscilla Rice, and we look forward to having you join us again next week for another exciting episode of The Official BNI Podcast.

Synopsis

Just stepped down from your chapter’s leadership team? Mark Graber wants you as a mentor for the BNI Passport to Success program. The Passport Program is an engagement tool for BNI members and a retention tool for BNI chapters. It brings together everything a member should be doing to get the most out of BNI.

Why Should You Mentor?

Being a mentor keeps both you and the new member actively involved in BNI.

Going through the Passport Program again deepens your own relationships and networking skills.

Growing the chapter through by onboarding quality members generates more business for everyone.

Links

Visit Mark’s region, BNI British Columbia.

Listen to Episode 922: The Power Beneath the Surface.

Listen to Episode 942: Engaging Longtime Members.

Read The Networking Mentor.

The Official BNI Podcast is sponsored by Misner Audio Programs.

Complete Transcript of Episode 983

Priscilla:
Hello everybody, and welcome back to the Official BNI Podcast. I’m Priscilla Rice, and I’m coming to you from Live Oak Recording Studio in Berkeley, California, and I’m joined on the phone today by the Founder and the Chief Visionary Officer of BNI, Dr. Ivan Misner. Hello Ivan, how are you and where are you?

Ivan:
I am doing great. I’m in Austin preparing for the [BNI] Global Convention in Monaco, and the [BNI] French [Conference], also in Monaco. So I’ll be there later this week. And going to Convention is always a blast.

Priscilla: Mm hmm. Sounds fun.

Ivan:
I have a good friend on. This is his first time on BNI Podcast. I’m a little surprised it’s his first time. Mark has always got great content. Mark Graber is [BNI] Executive Director for Vancouver Island, Lower Mainland Southeast, Lower Mainland West, Northern Interior — that’s a long description — in British Columbia, Canada. He was a high school mathematics teacher, which I didn’t know, for 15 years, and a lecturer at Curtin University in Perth [Australia] in the business school for 13 years. He has three children. Sophie, I can’t pronounce the next name, is it Lachlan (LATCH-lann)?

Mark:
Lachlan (LOCK-luhn).

Ivan:
Lachlan, okay, and Ellie. Mark joined BNI as a member in 2004 in Perth, and he’s developing learning management systems primarily with Moodle. [He was] on the Inaugural Innovation Task Force for BNI under Graham Weihmiller; he was 10 years on the Founder’s Circle. He helped to develop BNI TV on YouTube. He is the one who came up with the concept or the phrase “Ivan Unplugged” for my Ask Ivan stuff, which I use a lot, Mark. And I mostly refer that it came from you. He’s been in BNI for 23 years. Mark Graber, welcome to the BNI Podcast.

Mark:
Oh, it’s wonderful to be here, Ivan. Thank you so much for having me, and [thanks] Priscilla, and thanks to Dana for coordinating all of it. It’s a real pleasure.

Ivan:
Yeah, everybody needs a Dana. She’s a great assistant, and I’m lucky to have her. So you helped to develop with Hazel the Passport Program, and the topic here is Passport + Mentors = Retention. So, talk a little bit about how the Passport program began.

Mark:
So, it began really with the retention problem within our region, and we were losing first-year members. We wanted greater retention. We know that when members stay longer, they pass larger referrals, and chapters grow larger, so we knew it was a moving target. And I’d heard too many times, and still do, that you know, major reason people left was that they were too busy. So together with my business partner Hazel Walker, we started, as Hazel calls it, spitballing — brainstorming ideas and concepts of how we could onboard new members really well, and make sure they covered all the major topics and sort of the situations they would encounter, and to guarantee that each member was receiving the same level of engagement and sort of understanding.

So I took it from my academic life, a Capstone Unit in the Bachelor of Business degree, where all the schools came together from management, marketing, economics, finance, business law, and we created a passport there. They would meet each other, because they were in their own independent silos, and they were meeting for the first time. And so, I translated that concept over about onboarding. So Hazel began to create all the content, and we kept, you know, adding, taking away, thinking what was most important. You know, the usual whiteboard days and design samples and printing out hard copies, and you know, we were exchanging hard copies at conferences eventually, when it spread to different countries. So that’s how it began.

Ivan:
So you talk about the Passport Program being an engagement tool, not an educational tool. Talk about that.

Mark:
Well, we wanted it because we’ve established the [BNI] Core Value of Building Relationships and recognized that the engagement was key to a member’s length of stay in BNI. And that it was all about understanding about how much you know people care before how much people know… you know all about that. And so we knew that great customer engagement was a key, and that journey has been built upon by many people within BNI. And I stand on the shoulders of greats — Andy Hart’s great work, Rob Gorecki’s great work. Working with Hazel has been amazing, and it’s not just one person developing it. It was like a series of these really great tools about what a member should be doing to make the most out of BNI and their journey in of BNI.

Ivan:
By the way, I agree with this focus on engagement. I think the success of a chapter is the quality of members, the quantity of members, and the engagement of the members, so I couldn’t agree more. Now the Passport Program requires mentors. Talk about that.

Mark:
So the hardest part is really, I think, is filling the 10 mentor seats within the Passport Program. In the initial days, it was about you know being a Visitor host for a day, engaging with the Communications Coordinator, understanding what the VP did. But as we’ve grown, and of course, and as technology is a part of our life and our BNI life, there’s much greater emphasis on learning some of the technology. So we need mentors in roles, and we need senior members who’ve been in chapters for a while to translate and give that opportunity of building relationships and continuing that by our newest members and mentoring and standing up. So, I’ve seen it in my region, a chapter that was at 40 [members] going to 65 and managing the newest members coming up. You’re inviting 60 potential visitors every single month, and those visitors turn into members, and the numbers don’t lie. We know that in order to get great members, we need members with great character that really want to and live the Givers Gain philosophy. What we used to say, “bleed burgundy,” Ivan. You know, understand what it means to be an effective mentor, and that was so eloquently put in Stephen M. R. Covey’s book, The Speed of Trust, about what do we look at with great character.

Ivan:
Yeah, Stephen M. R. Covey, he’s a good friend. Love his book, The Speed of Trust. He’s also a member of the Transformational Leadership Council.

Mark:
Yeah, brilliant. And I think we had him.. did we have him at a conference one time?

Ivan:
Yeah, we had him at a [BNI] Conference.

Mark:
Yeah, absolutely. He was brilliant. Yeah.

Ivan:
Yeah. Now, why would someone want to be a mentor?

Mark:
Well, I think the key here is the ability to transfer your knowledge. We know that when you help other people, you’re going to help yourself.

Ivan:
Yep. 100%.

Mark:
So the key here for being the mentor is keeping people also actively involved. Sometimes when you step down from a Leadership Team, it’s like, oh, this is the end of my role of visibility. When actually, sometimes it’s more important to be a great mentor. You’ve got a chapter at 65 [members] that’s interviewing, you know, 20 potential applicants every single month. You need great mentors because the Passport Program is crucial to the onboarding of those 20 brand new members, and so we encourage mentors to continue to take a role, to continue to be involved. It’s key, and it’s the key as you grow.

Ivan:
So I think you hit the key point that being a mentor improves your own game, and I talk about that in the short book I wrote, The Networking Mentor, and I tell a story in there about coaching a bunch of 10-year-olds on chess and how my game improved when I coached 10-year-olds, and it was amazing to me that my game would improve by coaching 10-year-olds. So I think if you want to be a mentor, you not only help other people, but you can improve your own participation in BNI.

Mark:
Correct, and I’ve seen great successful chapters run as teams, and these teams of mentors on many levels really support that. You know, and it gives the newest member an opportunity to appreciate how the team works, the piece of the jigsaw puzzle, putting it all together.

Ivan:
Yeah. So, have you talked about that… I know integrity built through honesty. You want to talk about that a little bit?

Mark:
Well, I think really what we’re looking for here is mentors that are really being authentic about why they’re being in BNI. Why do they renew for 15 years in a row, 17 years in a row, understanding that BNI is a long game.

Ivan:
You know, Mark, we have members who’ve been in for over 40 years.

Mark:
I know it’s incredible, from the very first. It’s incredible. So you know that… and they’re all treated equally, and that equality is key. And you know, and Covey talks about the intent. What is the intent? The intent is to grow. What’s our motive to grow? Our motive to grow is to make you more successful. More members… we know the statistics, they don’t lie, they tell us the truth. That’s more members, more referrals, more average referral, more average receipt value, etc.

Ivan:
Yeah, so great successful chapters run as teams on a lot of levels. You want to talk about that before we wrap up?

Mark:
I want to I make it clear to people that they see might see three people at the front of a meeting one time, and think that those three people are doing everything. But there’s people and teams that lead behind the BNI Plus team, the Membership Committee team, the Visitor Host Team, the Follow-Up Team, the Greeter-Shepherd-Helper Registration Table Team, the IT Production Team. And so when new members come in and see and be a part of that team, that’s a real sense of belonging. They get to see how it works and to visualize it, to engage it, and to see what does it mean to be there at six a.m. when we’ve got a visitors day and we’ve got 40 visitors. What does it take? All of those experiences, and so the passport program was about that engagement into various experiences about being a BNI member and doing it with the right people in your first three months because that’s key and therefore getting people as mentors to help them through that journey.

Ivan:
You believe that the tools and the statistics that we have through BNI Connect have value. Do you want to talk about that briefly before we wrap?

Mark:
Sure, absolutely. I just wanted to say thank you to Dr. Caroline Irving, and thank you very much to the ELT for all the work, great work that she does. So we know that there are tools out there and utilizing… so just looking at member traffic lights, members who sponsor, members who are great in CEU points, etc. That’s really where my guide is to be able to try and find the correct mentor. So it’s continually my search. So to all of my members listening, please, if you want to take on a mentor role, please get in contact with us. We’d love it.

Ivan:
Absolutely. Mark, thanks so much for being on BNI Podcast. Mark’s website for BNI is www.bnibc.ca – for Canada. Thanks so much, Mark. It was great having you on, and come back again.

Mark:
Thank you very much, Ivan. Thank you, Priscilla. I loved it.

Ivan:
Over to you, Priscilla.

Priscilla:

You’re welcome. Okay, well, I think that’s it for this week. Thank you both so much for great information.

This podcast is sponsored by www.misneraudioprograms.com. These audio programs will provide you with the tools and the inspiration to powerfully enhance your BNI experience. So check out the great material available to you at www.misneraudioprograms.com and then use the promo code IVAN50 for 50% off of everything [this code is good for a limited time]. All of the proceeds go to the BNI Foundation.

Thank you so much for listening. This is Priscilla Rice, and we look forward to having you join us again next week for another exciting episode of The Official BNI Podcast.

Synopsis

Credibility is a key element of BNI’s VCP (Visibility, Credibility, Profitability) process. If you have no credibility, people will not work with with you, refer you, or follow your lead. The key to credibility is behavior. It’s doing what you say you will.

According to special guest Steve Farber, that means much more than following through on your commitments. Everything you say about what you stand for and what your values are is also a commitment. If you want to be a credible leader, you need to be a living, breathing, walking example of your values.

Links

Listen to Episode 635: Love Is Good Business.

Visit Steve’s Extreme Leadership website.

Get your copy of The Radical Promise: Mastering the Art of Doing What You Say You Will Do.

The Official BNI Podcast is sponsored by Misner Audio Programs.

Complete Transcript of Episode 982

Priscilla:
Hello everybody, and welcome back to the Official BNI Podcast. I’m Priscilla Rice, and I’m coming to you from Live Oak Recording Studio in Berkeley, California, and I’m joined on the phone today by the Founder and the Chief Visionary Officer of BNI, Dr. Ivan Misner. Hello Ivan, how are you and where are you?

Ivan:
I am home in Austin, Texas, this week, preparing for the [BNI] Global Convention, and I’ve got two really good friends who are coming to visit us. Dawn Lyons and Mike Macedonio are coming this week, so I’m looking forward to seeing them. Of course, you know Dawn and Mike.

Priscilla:
I know them well.

Ivan:
So they’re hanging out at my house later this week.

Priscilla:
Oh, they must be loving that.

Ivan:
Yeah, we have a good time together. So I’ve got a guest today. He has been on my podcast before, episode number 635, “Love is Good Business,” which is based on his previous book. Which, by the way, I loved that book, and I kind of argued with him at first that “Come on, you know, business and love. Seriously, Steve?” And he was like, “Yeah.” And then when he explained, I’m like, “Wow, yeah, love is damn good business.”

So Steve is a best-selling author. He’s a sought-after keynote speaker. He has spoken at a BNI Convention. I would argue probably one of the top two or three speakers I’ve ever had at a Convention in the 30-plus years that I’ve been doing Conventions. He’s a seasoned leadership coach consultant. He’s worked with a lot of public and private organizations, including BNI. He’s an author of six acclaimed books on leadership, including The Radical Leap which earned Fast Company’s Readers’ Choice Award and was named one of the 100 Best Business Books of All Time. Wow!

And his newest book, The Radical Promise: Mastering the Art of Doing What You Say You Will Do, which I think is really, really important, it was co-written with two of his good friends, Jim Kouzes, I think I’m pronouncing that right, and Barry Posner. Steve, welcome to the BNI Podcast.

Steve:
Thank you, Ivan. Great to be back with you, and thank you. Such high praise from you. I appreciate that.

Ivan:
Well, I mean it too. That’s the really nice part. Hey, so credibility is behavior, you suggest in the book. Talk about that a little bit.

Steve:
Yeah. So my co-authors in the book, Jim Kouzes and Barry Posner, have been conducting research on leadership for 50 years now. Jim is my most significant mentor, so it was really cool, full circle thing writing a book with him, but their research started with a very simple question, which is: What do you look for and admire in a leader? Someone whose direction you would willingly follow.             

The key word there is willingly, not because you have to, but because you want to. And they asked that question all around the world, across industries, across cultures, and the simple answer that came up again and again, back then and still to this day, is credibility. If this leader is not credible, I’ll follow because I have to – if they’re signing my paycheck, for example.

Ivan:
Mm hmm.

Steve:
But in order to engender commitment, I have to see this person as credible. And what then does credibility look like behaviorally? Simply put, a credible person is somebody who does what they say they’re going to do. So this idea of doing what you say you will do is, on the surface, such a simple thing that seems painfully obvious, but there’s a lot of nuance to it, and there’s a lot of challenge to it, and the stakes are very, very high. Because if we’re not seen as a person whose actions are congruent with their words, the whole foundation for leadership just crumbles.

Ivan:
Yeah, you know, the older I get, the less I believe in words, and the more I believe in behaviors. And now, words are powerful, don’t get me wrong, but behaviors are even more powerful. And credibility is part of the key fundamentals of what we teach with Visibility, Credibility, and then Profitability in terms of generating referrals. So, this fits really well with what we teach in BNI.

Steve:
Yeah, yeah. The words are really easy to use without any intention of following through, right? Yeah, you know flap our gums relentlessly and say things that we don’t really mean, or say things because they sound convenient in the moment. But words are important. I mean, we do want our leaders to say, for example, what commitments they’re going to make.

Ivan:
Yeah.

Steve:
We want them to say what values are important, you know. So with BNI, with your prevailing ethos of Givers Gain®, that’s not something you just hope people will experience. You say it. And once you say it, you’re putting a stake in the ground that says now measure us against this, and that’s what every leader should be doing. We need to say, “Here’s what I stand for. Here’s what’s important around here. These are the values that we should be adhering to. These are the standards that we set. These are the objectives that we have.” I say it, but then, of course, I need to be the walking, talking, living, breathing example of those words that come out of my mouth.

Ivan: Yeah, I mean, doing what you say is simple, but it’s not easy because following those words is the tough part.

Steve:
Yes, and it happens on a number of different levels. So you know, on the surface… and this is something that we really, I think we really do a good job of teasing out the nuances in this in the book because you know it’s written as a story, it’s written as a novel, so you get a chance to really experience what it’s like to stray from that, as the characters do in the book. It’s easy to lose sight of all of this, but the nuances are: on the surface, it sounds really simple. Doing what you say you will do is following through on promises and commitments. Okay, I tell you I’m going to call you tomorrow at 10 o’clock, I call you tomorrow at 10 o’clock. But on a deeper level, it’s what we were just talking about a couple minutes ago. Am I doing the values that I say are important? Am I modeling and leading by example through the things that are important to all of us on a values level? And when you look at the consequences, the advantages of being a congruent leader like that, and you look at the consequences of not doing that, what happens to the culture? What happens to the to the productivity and everything else? That’s where it really becomes very personal very quickly.

Ivan:
Yeah, you use an example of “Hey, I’ll call you tomorrow at 10 o’clock.” I would say you really want to under-promise and over-deliver. So I would often say, “I’ll get back to you before the end of the day tomorrow,” and then I would call them at 10 o’clock.

Steve:
Right.

Ivan:
So it’s like, “Oh wow, you got back [to me] early.”

Steve:
Yeah.

Ivan:
So you kind of over-deliver if possible, and to me that really shows a level of credibility when you show up even stronger than what you promised.

Steve:
Right, I agree. And there’s a challenge here most people aren’t even really aware of in my experience, and that is – oftentimes I make promises that I don’t even know I made. So, for example, if I say, “Hey, Ivan, I’m going to be in Austin next week. We should have lunch,” and maybe I’m thinking “or not.”

Ivan: (chuckling)

Steve:
You know, if it’s convenient, if it works out. But what are you likely to hear? Farber is going to be in town next week, and we’re going to have lunch. So next week comes and goes. We don’t have lunch. I didn’t follow through on that commitment because I didn’t even realize that I made it.

Ivan:
Yeah.

Steve:
And what happens? My credibility is still damaged in your eyes.

Ivan:
Yeah. All right. So you also talk about love and credibility being inseparable, and of course, episode number 635 was about your book Love Is Your Damn Good Business, which I really enjoyed. Talk about love and credibility being inseparable.

Steve:
Yeah, so love without credibility is just sentiment, right? It’s a greeting card basically.

Ivan:
Yes.

Steve:
So the idea of love in business, you know, we want our clients to love doing business with us. That’s where our advantage comes from. In order to make that happen in a sustainable way over time, we have to create an environment or a culture, a dynamic that people love working in. And I can’t do that as a leader unless I’ve got it myself first. It’s got to be authentic. I need to love this business, the people I’m working with, people I’m working for – otherwise, known as my customers.

So all that stuff again, it’s easy to say. You can print the banners and the buttons and you know bumper stickers about how much we love our customers, but the credibility comes from acting in a way that demonstrates that. So, what should love look like in the way that we do business is the question, and then how well and how consistently do we do that? So, credibility without love, it’s still a good thing, right?

Ivan:
Yeah.

Steve:
But love without credibility is just like I said, it’s an empty sentiment, and it’s more likely to create cynicism than it is to create any kind of advantage.

Ivan:
Yeah. What other message do you have from the book that you think my BNI members would have value from?

Steve:

Yeah. I think it’s really about when you look at… let’s talk about BNI members in particular. And again, I come back to Givers Gain® because to me, and I actually wrote about you guys in Love is Just Damn Good Business, and I used that example. So for a member, the question is: Am I — me personally, am I the walking, talking, living, breathing example of Givers Gain? Am I demonstrating what it’s like to give first and to be concerned with that, and to look at the value that I’m bringing to my fellow members and the people around me? For every value that we profess, to turn it back around and insert that first-person singular pronoun “I” — Am I doing this? And once I have the credibility, then I can demand it of others as well.

Ivan:
Yeah. It’s easy to say somebody else doesn’t practice Givers Gain®, but you got to start with yourself. Are you practicing it before you can point at other people? It’s that famous old saying that when I point at you, I’ve got three fingers pointing back to me.

Steve:
Right. Yes.

Ivan:
Yeah. All right. So your website is www.theradicalpromise.com. theradicalpromise.com. Any last thought before we wrap?

Steve:
Yeah. Just thank you for having me on the podcast again, Ivan. And I hope people will take that book to heart. You’ll enjoy the story, and then it ends with a very significant application section. So you’ll have the experience, and then you’ll know exactly what roadmap to follow to master the art of doing what you say you will do.

Ivan:
Well, Steve, thank you very much. I consider you a friend. You’re a participant in the Transformational Leadership Council with me, so I see you at least once or twice a year, and look forward to seeing you again. Thanks for being on BNI Podcast.

Steve:
Thank you.

Ivan:
Over to you, Priscilla.

Priscilla:
Okay, that was wonderful. I really look forward to looking at your book and reading it.

Ivan:
There’ll be a test next week, Priscilla.

Priscilla: (chuckling)
Okay, I’m ready for it. I think that’s it for this week.

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Thank you so much for listening. This is Priscilla Rice, and we look forward to having you join us again next week for another exciting episode of The Official BNI Podcast.