The Look & Sound of Leadership

A chief officer is infuriated by the behavior of his egomaniacal CEO. With his coach, he explores how to be a healthy leader while reporting to a boss he doesn’t respect.
Core concepts in this episode:
Egomaniacs rattle our sense of self.
They will not change.
Worrying does not help.
Be accountable for how you show up. Manage yourself.
Don’t take anything personally. They’re just a piece on a chess board.
Ask yourself: “Am I seeing this person clearly?” Don’t allow emotions to drive your actions.
Ask yourself: “How do I want to show up?” You have choice about what you prioritize and how you react in the workplace.

Resources mentioned in this episode:
Crucial Conversations provides scripts and thoughts that will help you manage yourself when dealing with difficult people. 

Tom and host Dave Stachowiak discussed “How to Handle a Boss Who’s a Jerk” on this episode of Coaching for Leaders. Great tools if you have a challenging boss.

Before sharing your reactions in the workplace, consider the politics around you. These two episodes will get you “Leading with Political Savvy” Parts 1 and 2.  

Each month, there are additional tools in our monthly email. 

If you’d like to explore Private Coaching, reach out to Tom. [email protected].

This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast library:
Managing Yourself
Leadership
Perception – How You Perceive Others

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133- The Narcissist Executive

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Wishing you a year of growth and development! 

From The Look & Sound of Leadership team, thank you so much for listening.

A senior vice-president worries that attention on his people’s development will get overwhelmed in the volume of work. He asks his coach for tools to make the process effective and efficient. 

Download our free tool that maps the Three Conversations Development Plan.

Core Concepts 
Prioritizing professional development is hard.
The 3-Conversation model makes development easy for the leader and meaningful for the person.
The three conversations in summary: 
Define ‘what,’ ‘why’ and give homework;
The person reflects on the homework and how they plan to improve;
Periodic check-ins about the homework. ‘What are you learning?’

The leader’s role in these conversations: 
Clarify the ‘what’ and ‘why’ 
Listen and encourage
Ask, ‘What are you learning?’

You can sign-up for more resources and tools in our monthly email. 

If you’re thinking about coaching for yourself, or for someone on your team, let’s talk. [email protected].

This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast library:
Feedback
Leadership
Management Skills

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132  Coaching Your People
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83  Leadership and Listening
206  Understanding Feedback

Thanks, as always, for your reviews!
Happy holidays. 

Until next time, thanks so much for listening.

From The Look & Sound of Leadership team

After a leader turns around the performance of one of his direct reports, he and his coach explore how it happened. And how to make it stick.  

Core ideas in the episode:
Workplaces improve when positive feedback is present
Our natural human negative bias is a barrier to giving positive feedback.
Learn to notice when things go well.
Tell people how they are helping solve the puzzle that is work.
Research says the most effective feedback ratio is 4-to-1, positive to developmental.

Positive Feedback might sound like this:
Recognize what’s going well – and be specific
Appreciate how it’s helping solve the puzzle
Express your thanks

Developmental Feedback might sound like this:
Describe what happened – and be specific
Explain how it affects the puzzle solving effort
Express your hope for a different outcome

You can Sign-up for more resources and tools in our monthly email. 

If you’re thinking about coaching for yourself, or for someone on your team, let’s talk. [email protected].

This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast library:
Managing Yourself
Perception – How You Perceive Others
Relationship Building

Related episodes to listen to are:
146 - Building Empathy
119 - Creating Devoted Followers
212 - How to Coach Your People
255 - How to Deepen Relationships at Work
260 - How to Guarantee Psychological Safety

Thanks, as always, for your reviews!
Until next time, thanks so much for listening.
From The Look & Sound of Leadership team

A toxic boss destroys psychological safety on her team. One of her direct reports talks to his coach about how to survive. And how to keep his own team safe. 

Core ideas in the episode:
Don’t take other people’s bad behavior personally.
You are not a victim. You have choice.
Document repeated bad behavior.
Openly discussing mistakes without blame creates safety on a team.
As the leader, be willing to admit your own mistakes.
Ask people: “How do you think that went?” and “What could we do differently?” Then listen without debate or rebuttal.

A free infographic supports this episode. Download it here. 

The episode referred to about creating strong personal relationships is:
#199 Personal Connections.

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Curious about coaching for yourself or someone on your team? Let’s talk. [email protected].

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And come join the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. Check it out here.
 
Get additional tools for keeping yourself and your team psychologically safe in our podcast library in these three categories:

Assertiveness
Leadership
Managing Yourself

Additional episodes to listen to are:
187 - Agreeable Disagreement
70 - Assertion Versus Aggression
"75 - Don’t Take Anything Personally”
222- The Conflict Conversation
181 - Inviting Dialogue

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From The Look & Sound of Leadership team

Concerned his introversion makes him less effective, a corporate vice president asks for coaching – from an extrovert! Together, the coach and client explore ways to assure his introversion is a strength.

Myers Briggs Type Indicator assesses four preferences. One is Introversion and Extroversion. Download a free sample of the profile report here.     

The six tools unpacked in this episode are:
Manage your energy
Monitor your self-talk
Have ideas ready
Manage your calendar
Share comfortably about yourself
Develop both your thoughts and your skills

Listen to Tom’s conversation with Tom & Tom on the Beyond Podcast episode.

Learn “How to Make Small Talk with Executives” on the Coaching for Leaders podcast.

Curious about coaching? Shoot me an email. [email protected].

Visiting the website? Sign-up for tools and resources in our monthly email. 

Help yourself to our free infographics in the Essential Tools bin.

Get more support for supercharging your introversion in our podcast library in these three categories:
Managing Yourself
Self-Talk
Social Skills

Additional episodes you could listen to are:
241 - Conquering People Pleasing
210 - How to Grow Your Self-Management
211 - How to Show Up as More of Yourself
254 - How to Talk so People Understand You
247 - Mastering Anxiety

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From The Look & Sound of Leadership team