Self Care is Sexy

Splurging isn't always about the price tag — sometimes the most indulgent thing you can do is allow  yourself to have that self-care without all the guilt and judgetments. This week I give you five realistic ways you can start to splurge on your self-care with intention that costs nothing and wont add to your to-do list.

Today we are going over the top 5 ways you can encourage others’ self-care without sounding preachy. And we’re talking about how helping others is really helping you on your self care journey.

Got a pile of laundry that's been sitting there for a few days? A sink load of dishes piling up? Well guess what? So does everyone else and it doesn't mean you're a failure. It’s time to tell the truth - "Spring Cleaning" and “tidying for joy” is just another form of performative toxic positivity trying to sell us more organizing and cleaning supplies and that is NOT self-care. Your self-worth should not be based on whether or not you vacuumed today. And for God sakes stop holding your snacks hostage until you have cleaned the living room.

Know someone facing a really hard time right now? Been up all night crying? How you offer help says a lot more about your own ability, or lack of self-care. The next time you catch yourself about to say "let me know if you need anything" — and you will, because we all will, I'm gonna say it this week, you're gonna say it this week —Pause. Just for a second. Ask yourself: what would I want? And if you don't know — that's not a failure. That's information. That's the assignment. That's where self care begins.

Your Feed Is Not Your Friend — half the self-care accounts we follow were never meant to make us feel good. Plot twist: the most powerful wellness move you'll make this week costs $0 and takes 30 seconds. (It's the unfollow button, babe.) This episode is your gentle nudge to curate your life a little differently. We're chatting about trading the highlight reel for habits that actually fit your real, beautiful, chaotic life. Think: the self-care practices that don't require a ring light, a fridge full of adaptogens, or a six-step morning routine. Just you, your actual needs, and maybe a really good playlist.