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Dr. Abby Medcalf
Relationships Made Easy
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  • Relationships Made Easy

    399. Why You Self-Sabotage When Things Are Finally Going Well

    2026/09/21 | 35 mins.
    You finally get the good thing: the relationship that's steady, the promotion, the friendship that's truly reciprocal, and right when it's working, you pick a fight, or pull back, or suddenly find something wrong that wasn't there last week. There are two very specific reasons you self-sabotage when things are finally going well, and today you'll learn both, plus effective tools so you can stop self-sabotaging and start enjoying your life.
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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-self-sabotage-when-things-are-good
    Take the assessment: Are You Self-Handicapping or Self-Verifying? A 2-Minute Check-In if You’re Self-Sabotaging When Things are Good: https://abbymedcalf.com/self-sabotage
    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.
    You'll get...
    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes
    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations
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    _________
    👉 Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 
    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries
    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook
    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 
    ____________________________
    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.
    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/resources
    Say hello on social:
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    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube

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  • Relationships Made Easy

    398. Why Your Conversations Keep Going in Circles (And the 2-Step Fix)

    2026/09/14 | 38 mins.
    You’re stuck in an argument. Maybe it’s the same fight you have every few weeks. Maybe it’s a standoff where nobody budges. Maybe someone goes quiet and passive-aggressive instead of saying what’s wrong. All three have the same root cause. You’re arguing the facts, and no one’s talking about what’s happening underneath the words. Whatever’s happening emotionally is what’s keeping the conversation stuck. You’re arguing the facts, hoping that’ll help, but it doesn’t because you’re focusing on the wrong thing. We connect through feelings, not thoughts, and until someone names the feelings, the facts just keep circling. Today I’m giving you my two-step process to shift this dynamic, so you can start connecting instead of going around in circles.
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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/conversations-going-in-circles-same-fight
    Get The Circle-Breaker Script Sheet: What to Say When a Conversation Won’t Move Forward: https://abbymedcalf.com/circle-breaker-script 
    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack
    You'll get...
    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes
    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations
    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby
    _________
    👉 Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 
    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/  
    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries
    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook
    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 
    ____________________________
    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.
    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/resources
    Say hello on social:
    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving
    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving
    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd 
    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube

    Our Sponsors:
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  • Relationships Made Easy

    398. Why Your Conversations Keep Going in Circles (And the 2-Step Fix)

    2026/09/09 | 38 mins.
    You’re stuck in an argument. Maybe it’s the same fight you have every few weeks. Maybe it’s a standoff where nobody budges. Maybe someone goes quiet and passive-aggressive instead of saying what’s wrong. All three have the same root cause. You’re arguing the facts, and no one’s talking about what’s happening underneath the words. Whatever’s happening emotionally is what’s keeping the conversation stuck. You’re arguing the facts, hoping that’ll help, but it doesn’t because you’re focusing on the wrong thing. We connect through feelings, not thoughts, and until someone names the feelings, the facts just keep circling. Today I’m giving you my two-step process to shift this dynamic, so you can start connecting instead of going around in circles.
    ____________________________
    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/conversations-going-in-circles-same-fight
    Get The Circle-Breaker Script Sheet: What to Say When a Conversation Won’t Move Forward: https://abbymedcalf.com/circle-breaker-script 
    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack
    You'll get...
    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes
    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations
    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby
    _________
     Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 
    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 
    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 
    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook
    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 
    ____________________________
    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.
    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/resources
     
    Say hello on social:
    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving
    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving
    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd 
    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube

    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Quince and use my code quince.com/RME for a great deal: https://www.quince.com
    * Check out Upwork and use my code upwork.com for a great deal: https://www.upwork.com

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  • Relationships Made Easy

    397. Whose Voice Is Your Inner Critic, Really?

    2026/09/07 | 45 mins.
    Your inner critic isn't really your voice. Research says that voice almost always started out as someone else's, usually a parent or caregiver from way back. The problem is you've been repeating it in your own head for so long you forgot it was someone else's way of thinking and not your own. It's time to choose what you say to yourself, so today I'm going to help you figure out who you are underneath that voice and my two-step process for getting it to stop running the show.
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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/whose-voice-is-your-inner-critic
    Get a 2-Step Tool for Quieting Your Inner Critic: https://abbymedcalf.com/quieting-inner-critic 
    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack
    You'll get...
    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes
    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations
    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby
    _________
    Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week!  https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 
    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries
    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook
    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 
    ____________________________
    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.
    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/resources
    Say hello on social:
    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving
    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving
    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd 
    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube

    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Quince and use my code quince.com/RME for a great deal: https://www.quince.com
    * Check out Upwork and use my code upwork.com for a great deal: https://www.upwork.com

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  • Relationships Made Easy

    396. The Mental Load: Why Helping Doesn’t Help

    2026/08/31 | 46 mins.
    You’re supposed to be sleeping, but what you’re doing is lying there in the dark thinking about all the things. Why did I say that stupid thing in the meeting today? Is that chicken still good or does it have to get cooked tomorrow? Did the permission slip get signed for the field trip? And crap, I forgot to call mom back!
    That’s the mental load, and it’s why you’re so tired. This isn’t about better sleep or having more downtime. It’s about the things you don’t realize you’re carrying. Today you’re going to learn what mental load really is, why it doesn’t get one bit lighter when somebody offers to help, and five things you can do about it.
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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/what-is-the-mental-load
    Free Download: Get the Mental Load Inventory: https://abbymedcalf.com/mental-load-inventory
    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack
    You'll get...
    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes
    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations
    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby
    _________
     Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 
    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 
    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries
    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook
    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 
    ____________________________
    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.
    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/resources
    Say hello on social:
    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving
    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving
    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd 
    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube

    Our Sponsors:
    * Check out Quince and use my code quince.com/RME for a great deal: https://www.quince.com
    * Check out Upwork and use my code upwork.com for a great deal: https://www.upwork.com

    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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About Relationships Made Easy
The research says the key to a happy life is happy relationships. But how exactly do you make your relationships better? That’s what this show is all about. I’m Dr. Abby Medcalf, psychologist, best-selling author, TEDx speaker, and (according to my kids) the bossy Jewish mom you didn’t know you needed. With decades of experience and millions of listeners in over 180 countries, I give you the no-fluff, research-backed strategies to make all your relationships better: with your partner, your family, your friends, and (most importantly) yourself. Every week on the Relationships Made Easy podcast, I mix straight talk, humor, and science to help you communicate effectively, set healthy boundaries, and stop second-guessing yourself. Because great relationships aren’t built in a day. Great relationships are built daily.
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