The Thais Gibson Podcast

Start Healing Your Attachment Style & Unlock Your Core Needs. Free for 7 Days + Bonus Course for Life! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=2iAB3SwfKMY&utm_content=yt-12-17-25&el=podcast How Do You Actually Bond With a Dismissive Avoidant, Without Losing Yourself? If you’ve ever felt confused, disconnected, or like you’re walking on eggshells in a relationship with a Dismissive Avoidant, this video is for you. Bonding is possible, but only when it’s done in a way that honors both your needs and theirs. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the real core needs that make dismissive avoidants feel safe, connected, and bonded, while also showing you how to communicate your own needs without self-abandoning or creating resentment . In This Video, You’ll Learn: Why unmet needs quietly starve relationships over time What Dismissive Avoidants are truly afraid of in closeness How to communicate needs without triggering withdrawal Why appreciation, empathy, and understanding matter more than grand gestures How safety, stability, and certainty create lasting emotional bonds Key Takeaways: ✔ Dismissive Avoidants bond through clear boundaries, autonomy, and emotional safety ✔ Concrete communication prevents misunderstandings and fear-based withdrawal ✔ Appreciation works best when it’s sincere, specific, and grounded ✔ Empathy and understanding meet deep unmet inner-child needs ✔ Healthy relationships require mutual needs to be acknowledged and met ⏱ Timestamps: 00:00 – What Makes Dismissive Avoidants Feel Bonded? 01:26 – The Significance of Needs 03:04 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Need a Sense of Autonomy, Independence, and Freedom 05:17 – Needs Course Promo 06:10 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Want to Feel Understanding in the Relationship 07:16 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Need Appreciation and Acknowledgement 09:17 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Need Empathy 10:09 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Need Certainty, Stability, and Safety Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #AttachmentStyles #DismissiveAvoidant #HealingAttachment #PersonalDevelopment #Relationships #EmotionalNeeds #ThaisGibson

Start Healing Your Attachment Style & Unlock Your Core Needs. Free for 7 Days + Bonus Course for Life! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-12-13-25&el=podcast The Fearful Avoidant attachment style is often labelled as unpredictable, confusing, or “mixed signals.” But behind the push-pull, the self-protection, and the sudden emotional shifts is something deeper: hidden childhood pain and conditioning that never got healed. This video uncovers that pain — the chaos, broken trust, abandonment fears, and betrayal wounds that wire the subconscious nervous system to equate love with danger. You’ll learn how conditioning forms, why your nervous system responds before you’re even conscious of it, and how ancient wisdom + neuroscience come together to create a practical path forward. Most importantly, we walk through a step-by-step exercise to rewire the core wounds Fearful Avoidants carry, and finally stop reliving the emotional past in the present. You’ll learn: ✅ The childhood patterns that shape Fearful Avoidant attachment ✅ Why your nervous system reacts before you can think ✅ How conditioning becomes identity — and how to break that link ✅ What ancient traditions teach about non-attachment and self-awareness ✅ Why observing your conditioning changes your relationship to it ✅ A powerful rewiring method to release abandonment, betrayal, and unworthiness ✅ How repetition and emotion reprogram core beliefs stored since childhood Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – The Inner Childhood Pain of the Fearful Avoidant 02:28 – Fearful Avoidants Experience Chaos in Childhood 04:43 – Conditioning Shapes Our Identity 06:48 – Needs Course Promo 04:23 – Express Your Needs Early On 07:14 – Pavlovian Conditioning: Pavlov’s Dog  09:42 – How Our Conditioning Can Affect Our Nervous System 13:14 – The Avenues to Healing  15:36 – Non-Attachment and the Observer  19:09 – Ancient Wisdom on Clinging to Our Conditioning  22:16 – Rumi: “Out Beyond Ideas of Wrongdoing and Rightdoing” 23:37 – Transcendence VS Rewiring 25:14 – Belief Reprogramming – Step 1: Write Down Your Wounds and Fears 26:37 – Step 2: Find the Opposite of Your Wound or Fear 27:28 – Step 3: Come Up With 10 Pieces of Evidence Why This New Idea is Possible   28:23 – Your Subconscious Mind Speaks In Emotions and Imagery 31:22 – Record and Listen Back for 21 Days 32:18 – Bowl of Light  Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentStyleHealing #AttachmentTheory #EmotionalTrauma #InnerChildHealing #Neuroplasticity #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #RelationshipHealing #SubconsciousReprogramming

Start Healing Your Attachment Style & Unlock Your Core Needs. Free for 7 Days + Bonus Course for Life! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-12-12-25&el=podcast If you’ve ever felt torn between wanting love and fearing it at the same time, this episode is for you. Join Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, for a powerful deep dive into the core wounds of the Fearful Avoidant (FA) attachment style and what it really takes to heal them. You’ll discover how FAs develop conflicting subconscious beliefs about connection, trust, and vulnerability and how those beliefs drive push-pull patterns, emotional burnout, and relationship anxiety. Thais shares her proven framework for identifying and reprogramming your own wounds so you can finally feel safe giving and receiving love. 💡 You’ll Learn: The core wounds that keep fearful avoidants stuck in painful patterns How to recognize the signs of conflicted attachment behavior Why your nervous system gets triggered during intimacy and distance Practical steps to reprogram fear-based beliefs and build inner safety How to use somatic tools to regulate emotions in real time A step-by-step approach to becoming a secure, emotionally available partner Key Takeaway: Healing as a fearful avoidant starts with understanding your core wounds, but true transformation happens when you reprogram your nervous system and beliefs to feel safe in connection. 🎙️ Meet Your Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and creator of the Integrated Attachment Theory™. With a Ph.D. and over 70,000 students worldwide, she teaches emotional mastery, subconscious reprogramming, and secure relationship skills. 📚 Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📘 Read Learning Love by Thais Gibson https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Explore the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentHealing #ThaisGibson #EmotionalHealing #SubconsciousReprogramming #SomaticHealing #RelationshipAnxiety #AttachmentStyles #SecureLove #PersonalGrowth

Start Healing Your Attachment Style & Unlock Your Core Needs. Free for 7 Days + Bonus Course for Life! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-12-10-25&el=podcast Many people misunderstand what sex and intimacy mean to a Dismissive Avoidant — assuming distance, shutdowns, or withdrawal are signs of disinterest. But neuroscience shows that Dismissive Avoidants bond through intimacy in very unique ways, and their core wounds around vulnerability deeply shape how they connect emotionally and physically. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down what happens in the mind, body, and nervous system of a Dismissive Avoidant during sex and connection. You’ll learn why intimacy activates old subconscious programming, why vulnerability can trigger fear, and how to build a safer foundation for physical and emotional closeness. You’ll learn: ✅ Why vulnerability activates core wounds like “I am unsafe” and “I am defective” ✅ How emotional intimacy can trigger shutdown after closeness ✅ Why pressure or expectations around sex lead to withdrawal ✅ How shame becomes subconsciously associated with intimacy ✅ The role of childhood emotional neglect in adult sexual dynamics ✅ How fear of inadequacy impacts desire and presence ✅ What partners can do to communicate without triggering shutdown Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – What Happens to Dismissive Avoidants Around Sex and Intimacy 01:00 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Have Big Core Wounds Around Intimacy 01:35 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Are Afraid of Feeling Trapped, Helpless or Pressured 02:50 – Needs Course Promo 03:17 – When There is a Lot of Vulnerability Around Sex 03:56 – If There is Pressure Around Sex 04:27 – When Sex Becomes Less Frequent or Creates Problems 05:17 – If They Feel Criticized About Sex 05:32 – When They Feel Incapable of Meeting Their Partner's Needs 06:04 – If They Are Critical About Themselves 06:22 – Do You Have Any Questions? Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #AttachmentTheory #AvoidantAttachment #IntimacyIssues #RelationshipAdvice #SexAndAttachment #Neuroplasticity #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool

Start Healing Your Attachment Style & Unlock Your Core Needs. Free for 7 Days + Bonus Course for Life! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-free-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-12-08-25&el=podcast If you’re tired of feeling confused, undervalued, or “left hanging” by someone who only gives you just enough to keep you around, this episode breaks down the psychology of Dismissive Avoidant breadcrumbing. Thais Gibson explains the deeper emotional and subconscious roots of breadcrumbing within the Dismissive Avoidant attachment style, including how their childhood emotional neglect creates a comfort zone around emotional scarcity. She also reveals why people on the receiving end of breadcrumbing often feel “stuck,” and how this dynamic stems from their own learned comfort with neglect. You’ll walk away with practical tools to recondition your subconscious comfort zone, shift limiting beliefs, rebuild your standards, and create a relationship model based on mutual nourishment rather than deprivation. You'll learn:  ✅ What breadcrumbing actually is and why it’s so common with Dismissive Avoidants ✅ How childhood emotional neglect creates an Avoidant's “breadcrumb comfort zone” ✅ Why trauma spreads through patterns, not intention ✅ How Dismissive Avoidants can stop breadcrumbing by learning to stop breadcrumbing themselves ✅ Why people who accept breadcrumbs usually have their own comfort zone of neglect ✅ How to recondition your subconscious to expect, and accept, real emotional nourishment ✅ The role of boundaries, standards, and self-worth in stopping the cycle ✅ Why identifying your needs changes your entire dating experience Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Are You Being Breadcrumbed by a Dismissive Avoidant? 02:34 – Why We Accept Breadcrumbs: Subconscious Comfort Zones 05:15 – Dismissive Avoidants Must Stop Breadcrumbing Themselves 06:37 – Giving Yourself What You're Not Receiving Externally 08:22 – Needs Course Promo 08:47 – Why You Stay in Breadcrumbing Dynamics 09:26 – Boundaries as a Declaration of Your Self Worth Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #AttachmentTheory #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #HealingAttachment #RelationshipPatterns #Breadcrumbing #EmotionalNeglect