The Thais Gibson Podcast

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You may want love, connection, and intimacy… yet still feel overwhelmed, misunderstood, or suddenly disconnected when relationships get close.

If this resonates, you may have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, and it’s not because something is “wrong” with you. These patterns are learned subconscious strategies designed to keep you safe.

In this video, Thais Gibson walks you through 10 powerful signs of Dismissive Avoidant attachment, helping you understand where these patterns come from and how they impact your relationships, so you can begin creating deeper, healthier connections without losing yourself.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why different attachment styles operate with different subconscious “rules for love”
How emotional neglect shapes dismissive avoidant behaviors
Why vulnerability, conflict, and criticism can feel so threatening
What causes sudden emotional shutdowns or loss of feelings
How healing codependency supports secure attachment and emotional safety

⏱️ Timestamps:

00:00 – The Attachment Styles Have Different Subconscious Rules for Love
01:25 – 1. You’re Afraid of Being Vulnerable
03:01 – 2. You Rely on Escapism as a Strategy to Avoid Your Feelings
06:53 – Ending Codependency Course Promo
07:15 – 3. You Dislike Conflict
08:22 – 4. You Are Sensitive to Criticism
10:46 – 5. You Have a Low Emotional Bandwidth at All Times
12:12 – 6. You Often Feel Misunderstood
14:56 – 7. You Believe That Everyone is Responsible for Themselves
17:54 – 8. You Want a Relationship That Is Simple, Harmonious, and Low-Effort
19:19 – 9. You Lose Feelings Suddenly in Relationships
20:51 – 10. You Believe That You Are Incapable of Giving Other People What They Need

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
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🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
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💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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You may want love, connection, and intimacy… yet still feel overwhelmed, misunderstood, or suddenly disconnected when relationships get close.

If this resonates, you may have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, and it’s not because something is “wrong” with you. These patterns are learned subconscious strategies designed to keep you safe.

In this video, Thais Gibson walks you through 10 powerful signs of Dismissive Avoidant attachment, helping you understand where these patterns come from and how they impact your relationships, so you can begin creating deeper, healthier connections without losing yourself.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why different attachment styles operate with different subconscious “rules for love”
How emotional neglect shapes dismissive avoidant behaviors
Why vulnerability, conflict, and criticism can feel so threatening
What causes sudden emotional shutdowns or loss of feelings
How healing codependency supports secure attachment and emotional safety

⏱️ Timestamps:

00:00 – The Attachment Styles Have Different Subconscious Rules for Love
01:25 – 1. You’re Afraid of Being Vulnerable
03:01 – 2. You Rely on Escapism as a Strategy to Avoid Your Feelings
06:53 – Ending Codependency Course Promo
07:15 – 3. You Dislike Conflict
08:22 – 4. You Are Sensitive to Criticism
10:46 – 5. You Have a Low Emotional Bandwidth at All Times
12:12 – 6. You Often Feel Misunderstood
14:56 – 7. You Believe That Everyone is Responsible for Themselves
17:54 – 8. You Want a Relationship That Is Simple, Harmonious, and Low-Effort
19:19 – 9. You Lose Feelings Suddenly in Relationships
20:51 – 10. You Believe That You Are Incapable of Giving Other People What They Need

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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When you finally stop trying… it can feel like everything suddenly shifts.

And with a Fearful Avoidant, that shift often activates a powerful, and confusing, internal reaction.

Understanding what actually happens inside a fearful avoidant when you’re done trying can give you clarity, closure, and the confidence to stop second-guessing yourself.

🎥 Episode Summary

In today’s video, Thais Gibson breaks down the 4 major internal reactions a fearful avoidant experiences when they realize you’re truly done trying.

You’ll learn why Fearful Avoidants often swing between distance and pursuit, how abandonment fears get activated, and why reconnecting doesn’t always mean they’re ready for a healthy relationship.

This episode is especially important if you:
Feel stuck in a painful push–pull dynamic
Are trying to understand a Fearful Avoidant’s mixed signals
Keep getting pulled back in after you start letting go
Or are a Fearful Avoidant wanting insight into your own patterns

✨ Key Takeaways

✔ Why a Fearful Avoidant’s fear of abandonment activates when you stop trying
✔ The sudden shift from withdrawal into pursuit and what it really means
✔ Why pursuit doesn’t always equal readiness for commitment
✔ The nostalgia and reminiscing stage Fearful Avoidants go through
✔ How rewriting the story helps them emotionally shut down
✔ Why codependent patterns keep these cycles repeating
✔ How healing your attachment style breaks the push–pull loop

⏱ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – What Happens When A Fearful Avoidant Realizes You’re Done Trying
00:58 – Fear of Abandonment Gets Activated
01:55 – The Two Sides of Fearful Avoidants
03:05 - Fearful Avoidants Will Swing Into Pursuit
03:40 - Fearful Avoidants Don’t Want The Relationship to Work Again
04:30 - How Fearful Avoidants Act When Their Fear of Abandonment Is Activated
05:25 - Fearful Avoidants Can Be Blind To How Their Actions Affect Other People
06:08 - Fearful Avoidants Might Feel Like Their Pain Is Normal
07:34 - When Fearful Avoidants Realize You’re Not Trying, They Start Reminiscing
08:53 - Ending Relationship Codependency & Enmeshment Promo
09:33 -  When Fearful Avoidants Realize You’re Not Trying, They Rewrite The Story

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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Have you ever felt deeply turned off, or suddenly rejected, and had no idea why?

What repels one attachment style can feel normal or even familiar to another.

And many of the biggest turn offs in relationships aren’t conscious choices, they’re subconscious survival patterns.

When those patterns go unhealed, they often create codependent dynamics that quietly sabotage connection.

🎥 Episode Summary

In today’s video, Thais Gibson reveals the biggest turn offs for each attachment style, Secure, Anxious, Fearful Avoidant, and Dismissive Avoidant, and explains why these patterns trigger attraction, withdrawal, or shutdown at a nervous system level.

You’ll learn how subconscious conditioning, unmet childhood needs, and emotional self-abandonment shape what we’re drawn to, and what pushes us away, often without us realizing it.

This episode is especially powerful if you:
Feel stuck in repeating relationship patterns
Are confused by sudden loss of attraction or connection
Struggle with codependency, people-pleasing, or emotional over-investment
Want to understand both your own triggers and your partner’s

✨ Key Takeaways

✔ Why secure attachment is turned off by inconsistency and emotional games
✔ How anxious attachment chases what actually dysregulates them
✔ The paradox of fearful avoidant attraction and repulsion
✔ Why Dismissive Avoidants shut down around intensity and emotional demands
✔ How subconscious comfort zones shape attraction
✔ Why healing codependency changes who you’re drawn to
✔ How unmet needs, not “chemistry”, drive relationship cycles

⏱ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – The Truth About Each Attachment Style's Biggest Turn Offs
00:52 – Secure Attachment 
03:06 – Anxious Preoccupied
05:10 – Fearful Avoidant
07:00 – Ending Copependency Course Promo
07:21 – Dismissive Avoidant 
09:02 – Check Out/Our Online Programs

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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When a fearful avoidant shuts down, it can feel final, like the door is completely closed.

But there are specific moments when a fearful avoidant becomes open to repair, reconnection, and real change.

And understanding what actually moves the needle can save you from chasing, over-functioning, or abandoning yourself in the process.

🎥 Episode Summary

In today’s video, Thais Gibson breaks down the key conditions that make a fearful avoidant want to fix things after a rupture or breakup and just as importantly, when it’s healthier to step back instead.

You’ll learn how fearful avoidant deactivating strategies are driven by unmet needs, core wounds, fear of enmeshment, and emotional disconnection and how authentic communication, boundaries, and nervous system safety can reopen connection without manipulation.

This episode is essential if you’re:
Trying to repair a relationship with a fearful avoidant
Unsure whether reconnection is possible or healthy
Or working on your own fearful avoidant patterns

✨ Key Takeaways

✔ Why fearful avoidants often feel “done” — until specific needs are met
✔ The difference between authentic repair and manipulation
✔ Why defining boundaries and converting them into needs is critical
✔ How unmet needs (not the relationship itself) trigger deactivation
✔ The role novelty, trust, and emotional connection play in reconnection
✔ Why fearful avoidants respond deeply to validation, empathy, and clarity
✔ The importance of deadlines so you don’t abandon yourself

⏱ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – When Fearful Avoidants Want to Fix the Relationship
00:47 – Manipulation Tactics Won’t Make a Relationship Fulfilling
03:18 – 1. Define Your Boundaries and Convert Them Into Needs
04:58 – 7-Day Free Trial Promo 
05:48 – 2. Get Clear About What Wasn’t Working With That Person 
06:44 – Why Fearful Avoidants Leave Relationships 
08:45 – Their Dealbreakers May Actually Be Solvable Problems
11:30 – 3. Identify Where the Fearful Avoidant Didn’t Feel Heard, Wanted, or Cared for
12:08 – 4. Communicate and Validate Unmet Wounds After 3-4 Weeks
14:05 – Make Sure You Have a Deadline

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/