THE MILK

We're back with two episodes this week babes! We're here with a Part 2 with licensed psychologist, Dr. Bahaur Amini. A couple of weeks ago you ladies submitted your (anonymous) relationship questions and struggles in hopes of getting some professional insight. So today is the day- Dr. B dishes out some freebie advice and valuable tools to help talk you through the situations so many of us go through yet feel so alone in. 
We dig into high-stakes parenting disagreements like vaccines and medicine, how to stop "keeping score", what to do when resentment is the big elephant in the room, how to rebuild intimacy when you're constantly too tired, & so much more. 
More Of What We Discuss:
clarifying shared values before making high-stakes parenting decisions like vaccines and medicine 
the impact of banning “always” and “never,” 
making invisible labor visible with the Fair Play cards and dividing tasks more objectively 
a simple boundary rule for dealing with in-laws issues
date night expectations
 navigating one partner wanting another baby and making it a true joint decision 
exploring loss of attraction
 trying a reset code word to stop escalation and take a break 

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Today we're getting real about relationships after introducing a new bundle of joy. Having a baby is truly magical- it's a love you've never quite experienced and comes with so many of your highest of highs- but it would be a disservice not to acknowledge some of the lows that can come along with it. A baby can turn a “power couple” into two exhausted teammates who can’t stop bickering and don’t even recognize themselves. It can be one of the loneliest feels because not many people want to admit when their relationship is hitting some road blocks- why is there still so much shame around admitting our struggles when we so freely speak on our wins? Today I'm committed to unearthing all of this by sitting down with licensed psychologist and new mom Dr. Bahaur Amini. In this episode we dig deep discussing WHY conflict arises post-baby, how to navigate these challenges, the reality of disconnection & intimacy changes, & just how normal most of these experiences are. 
More Of What We Discuss:
• why relationship stress spikes after a baby: sleep loss, identity shifts, higher tension and less intimacy 
• how stigma and secrecy make conflict feel heavier than it is 
• the way childhood family models shape parenting expectations and create new friction 
• gender roles, paternity leave realities and the mental load that fuels resentment 
• control struggles and why letting your partner learn matters 
• feeling like strangers and using simple gratitude to rebuild connection 
• hyperfixation, postpartum anxiety and social media comparison spirals 
• communication templates that lower defensiveness and surface the real need 
• signs conflict is stuck and how to take a break without avoiding repair 

You can find Dr. Bahaur Amini at Aminipsychology.com to schedule a free consultation and to explore virtual sessions. (Mention her episode on The Milk!)

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Intimated by birth? Hypnobirthing flips fear into calm & confidence with simple mind & body shifts. This week I sit down with hypnobirthing coach and doula Nicolle Kasch (owner of Mind Body Baby OC) to turn a fear-heavy narrative into a grounded plan you can practice ahead of time. We get real about the mechanics of calmer labor: how oxytocin and endorphins help the uterus work, why adrenaline shows up at the wrong time, and what you can do to keep your nervous system in a state that lets birth unfold.

Nicolle breaks down hypnobirthing as intuitive preparation, something any birth plan can include (not just the unmedicated ones!). You’ll learn simple, effective techniques—slow belly breathing with long exhales, relaxing the jaw and hands to soften the pelvis, and using the gate control theory of pain with a comb or spiky ball. We map out the “labor cave” environment that boosts oxytocin: dim lighting, cozy textures, familiar scents, and fewer onlookers. We also tackle different hospital scenarios , why food and electrolytes matter for stamina, and how partners can support you from start to finish: owning the birth plan and communicating with staff to hands-on comfort moves like shoulder anchors, light touch massage, sacral counter pressure, hip squeezes, & more.
More Of What We Discuss:
• defining hypnobirthing as intuitive birth prep
• oxytocin, endorphins, adrenaline, and labor chemistry
• fear–tension–pain cycle and how to break it
• slow belly breathing with long exhales
• face, jaw, and hand relaxation to soften the pelvis
• gate control theory, combs, and spiky tools
• light touch massage, counterpressure, hip squeezes
• sensory anchors using scent, lighting, and texture
• partners as advocates, coaches, and calm keepers
• creating a private, dim, nurse-aligned birth space
• staying flexible when plans change

If you want less fear, more flow, and a birth rooted in trust, this conversation gives you the science, the mindset, and the moves. 
Find Nicolle: mindbodybabyoc.com and @mindbodybabyoc. 

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Ever had life hand you a mirror and ask who you’re becoming, not who you’ve been? That’s the heartbeat of our conversation with wellness creator, co-founder of FORM, and soon-to-be first-time mom, Sami Spalter! We go beyond trimester talk to unpack identity, body image, boundaries, and the surprising ways pregnancy turns discipline into surrendering and perfection into presence.

Sami opens up about how the 1st trimester forced her to give up her highly adored pre-pregnancy routine and swap it for whatever her body needed most in that moment, her willingness to ask for help, & how she reminds herself daily that her weight does not define her worth.
 If you’re craving a warm, grounded take on pregnancy, purpose, and becoming, this one will feel like a DEEP exhale and a big hug to all the pregnant, postpartum & new mamas out there.

More On What We Discuss:
• pregnancy as identity shift and boundary builder
• reframing weight gain as intentional and purposeful
• dressing for comfort to protect mental health
• releasing perfection and people-pleasing
• practical prep for birth and the fourth trimester
• direction over speed in postpartum healing
• modeling self-respect and joy for our kids
• healing family patterns and reparenting ourselves
• surrendering to birth as initiation and choosing presence
Make sure to follow along Sami's pregnancy and motherhood story by following her on Instagram @samispalter
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Ready to rethink “post-baby body” without punishment or perfection? I sat down with friend, creator and mom of two, Alec Treffers, to map out the simple systems that helped her lose 18 pounds (in 4 months) after breastfeeding and—more importantly—maintain it while running a household and a growing brand. No extremes here: just clear goals, macro literacy, and a training split that builds strength and confidence.

Alec breaks macros down to earth: why protein should match your body weight in grams, how an excess of healthy fats can silently stall progress, and the reason carbs actually helped her get leaner. She shares realistic ways to track macros, her eating out hacks, cooking for her entire family while maintaining her goals, & creating meals that taste great without feeling like "diet food". 
More Of What We Discuss:
• the moment after baby two that made her want to make changes
• macros explained simply and the power of protein
• limiting fats and letting carbs fuel training
• ordering smart when eating out and the kids’ menu hack
• simple family dinners with three-minute measuring
• breakfast swaps, lunch shortcuts & realistic meal prep 
• alcohol tradeoffs and macro-friendly desserts
• her training breakdown & rest days
• how reaching goals has led to identity shifts & confidence boosts
• avoiding comparison and finding your own lane

Follow Alec on Instagram HERE
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