150 - How Raymond Transformed 30 Years of Anger in Just 5 Weeks
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.What if 30 years of anger could be transformed in just five weeks? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares the remarkable story of Raymond, a man whose volatile temper nearly ended his marriage — until one turning point helped him change everything. If you've ever felt like your anger is out of control, Raymond's journey will give you hope, practical tools, and a reminder that it’s never too late to change.Key Takeaways:-Even deeply rooted anger can be overcome — Raymond went from yelling five or six times a day to raising his voice just once in five weeks-Understanding that you can control your anger, rather than it controlling you, is a game-changer-Simple strategies like taking a Time-Out and not reacting immediately can prevent arguments and rebuild connection-Anger often has deep roots in past experiences, but healing and change are still possible at any stage of life-Online anger management programs offer the flexibility and repetition needed to reinforce lasting change-When you manage your anger, the effects ripple through your entire life — from your marriage to your workplace to your sense of peace.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Daysangersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System
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149 - Three Simple Steps To Control Your Anger
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever promised yourself you'd stay calm—only to find anger rising before you even realised it? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three powerful, easy-to-apply steps that will help you recognise, defuse and communicate through anger before it takes control. If you're tired of the regret that follows angry outbursts, these practical tools can help you shift from reaction to intention, and start creating more peaceful moments in your relationships.Key Takeaways:-Anger often builds slowly—learning to recognise the early warning signs gives you time to respond instead of react.-Your thoughts fuel your emotions; changing your self-talk helps reduce anger and increase perspective.-Clear, respectful communication is key to resolving tension and building deeper trust in relationships.-Expressing feelings with calm honesty can open the door to connection instead of conflict.-These three steps—awareness, reframing and communication—can be practiced daily and lead to lasting emotional change.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Daysangersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System
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148 - Breaking the Cycle of Abuse and Violence
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.This episode dives into one of the most difficult but essential topics: understanding how abuse and violence may show up in your life—and how to end the cycle. Anger expert Alastair Duhs speaks with clarity and compassion about behaviors that cause harm, whether through words, control, silence or physical actions. If you’ve ever questioned the impact of your anger or wondered if your actions have crossed a line, this episode offers a courageous path forward.Key Takeaways:-Abuse isn't just physical—it can be verbal, emotional, psychological or sexual, and all forms can leave deep, lasting harm.-If you’ve used anger to intimidate, control or manipulate, it’s time to look honestly at your behavior and its impact.-Alastair explains why abuse and violence are the same—because both hurt and control others, often in invisible but devastating ways.-Taking responsibility for your actions is not a sign of weakness—it’s a brave step toward healing and change.-True transformation begins with clarity, accountability and the willingness to break old patterns.-Help is available, and no matter what your past has looked like, it’s never too late to build respectful, safe, and loving relationships.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Daysangersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System
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147 - How to End Arguments Before They Begin
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Arguments in relationships often start small but quickly spiral into deep disconnection. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals why conflict escalates with the people we love most—and how to stop it before it starts. With three powerful, practical techniques, Alastair guides you to shift from reaction to response, helping you transform your most difficult moments into opportunities for connection.Key Takeaways:-Anger is one of the biggest obstacles to resolving conflict—but even small changes can prevent regretful blow-ups.-Trying to “win” an argument often sacrifices what truly matters: your connection and mutual respect.-Shifting your mindset from defending your position to understanding your partner creates space for healing and collaboration.-The “Magic Six Hours” technique helps couples intentionally invest in their relationship, building trust before conflict arises.-Conflict is inevitable—but how you handle it determines whether it brings you closer or drives you apart.-Support is available if you feel stuck—you're not alone, and real change is possible.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Daysangersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System
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146 - The Hidden Cost of Anger (and How to Heal)
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the emotional toll of anger—not just on the people around you, but on your own sense of self. If you’ve ever whispered an apology and still felt the weight of guilt, this episode will help you understand why anger shows up and how you can begin to break free from its grip. Real stories of transformation offer hope, showing that lasting change begins with awareness and a simple, courageous first step.Key Takeaways:-Anger is natural—but when left unchecked, it can damage trust, create fear and leave emotional scars.-Even well-intended apologies can feel empty if the deeper patterns of anger aren't addressed.-Children are especially vulnerable to the emotional impact of anger, which can affect their confidence and sense of safety.-Stories from real people like Nathan and Peter show that no matter your past, healing and change are absolutely possible.-Breaking the anger cycle doesn’t require perfection—just awareness, reflection and the willingness to respond differently.-You can begin to rebuild trust and connection with the people you love starting today.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Daysangersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System
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