155 - Why Anger Hits You So Fast — And How to Stop It
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever felt like your anger comes out of nowhere—one moment you're fine, and the next you're exploding? In this insightful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs breaks down the real reasons why you might think you get angry so quickly. By understanding what's truly happening beneath the surface, you can learn to spot the early warning signs of anger, break unhelpful habits and regain control before things spiral.Key Takeaways:-Anger rarely comes out of nowhere—there are always warning signs, and learning to spot them is the first step to staying in control.-The Tension Scale is a simple but powerful tool to help you track your stress before it boils over into anger.-Anger can become a learned habit, especially if you grew up around frequent outbursts—but habits can be unlearned with awareness and effort.-Your brain works incredibly fast, processing emotions and past experiences in the background, which can make anger feel sudden even when it’s not.-Reframing your thoughts in moments of conflict can help you choose understanding over outburst, even in high-stress situations.-With practice, patience and the right tools, you can replace reactive anger with calm, respectful responses that strengthen your relationships.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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154 - 6 Proven Tips To Control Your Anger Fast
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever said something in anger that you instantly regretted? In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares six powerful, practical tips to help you stay calm and in control—even in the heat of the moment. Whether you're struggling with sudden outbursts or lingering tension, these strategies can help you shift from reactive to reflective, strengthening your relationships and your emotional well-being.Key Takeaways:-Anger is a habit, not your identity—and habits can be changed with the right tools and awareness.-Your thoughts—not the events themselves—are what trigger your anger, which means you have the power to shift your emotional response.-The Tension Scale helps you recognise how close you are to an angry outburst so you can act before things escalate.-Expressing anger aggressively or abusively never helps—it often worsens the situation and damages trust in your relationships.-Simple relaxation techniques, like deep breathing and reframing your thoughts, can calm your body and mind in moments of stress.-Taking a Time-Out—done respectfully and with clear agreements—can prevent conflict from spiralling out of control and protect your connection with others.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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153 - Walking on Eggshells: Paul’s Story
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.What if one moment of clarity could save your relationship? In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs sits down with Paul, a single father whose anger was slowly pushing away the people he loved most. When his partner said life felt like “walking on eggshells,” Paul knew something had to change — and in just a few weeks, everything began to shift. This is a story of courage, self-awareness and the power of choosing a different path.Key Takeaways:-Constant stress and anger can make home life feel unsafe — even when there’s no physical violence-Awareness is the first step to change; noticing the signs in your body helps you stop before you snap-Small changes like pausing and using calm language (“That hurt”) can radically improve communication and connection-Many people grew up in angry households and inherited poor emotional tools — but you can learn better ones-Real progress doesn’t happen overnight. It’s gradual, honest, and deeply worth it.-When someone says, “I have my best friend back,” that’s the real power of anger managementLinks referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Daysangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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152 - 5 Excuses That Keep You Stuck in Anger
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Are you telling yourself you'll deal with your anger someday? In this compassionate yet eye-opening episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs breaks down the five most common reasons people avoid anger management — and why those reasons might be keeping you stuck. If you're ready to stop making excuses and start changing your life, this episode is your wake-up call.Key Takeaways:-Believing “anger management won’t work” often stems from past disappointments — but the right tools can lead to real, lasting change.-You don’t need years of therapy — just a few minutes a day with the right strategies can start to shift your reactions in as little as 21 days.-Anger management is personal — and modern programs, like Alastair’s, combine universal principles with one-on-one support and coaching.-The true cost of not dealing with your anger isn’t financial — it’s measured in broken trust, damaged relationships and missed opportunities.-Even if you’re not tech-savvy, online anger programs are designed to be simple and accessible, with support every step of the way.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Daysangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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151 - The Hidden Link Between Alcohol and Anger
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever poured a drink to unwind, only to find yourself angrier than before? In this eye-opening episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the often misunderstood connection between alcohol and anger. Whether you're a casual drinker or someone who struggles with outbursts after a night out, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a practical path forward.Key Takeaways:-Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and impairs judgment, making you more likely to lash out in anger-If you already have unresolved anger, alcohol can act like gasoline on a fire — intensifying aggression and conflict-Drinking doesn’t cause abusive behavior, but it does magnify emotions that are already beneath the surface.Recognising your personal limits and planning ahead can help prevent alcohol-fueled arguments-If drinking regularly leads to regret or outbursts, it may be time to reconsider its role in your life.-True change comes from looking inward — at the beliefs, habits and triggers that drive your anger — not just cutting back on alcohol.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Daysangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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