Anger Secrets

• 157 - Do You Want To Be Right — Or Be Happy?

  For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever felt the urge to prove you're right—especially in the heat of an argument? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares a personal story and a lesson from a truck-driving client that will change the way you think about conflict. Discover why letting go of the need to be right isn’t weakness—it’s one of the most powerful things you can do to protect your relationships and your peace of mind.Key Takeaways:-The need to “be right” often fuels conflict, putting your relationships and emotional health at risk.-Trying to prove someone else wrong rarely creates connection—it usually leads to resentment and defensiveness.-Seeking to understand instead of arguing your point helps de-escalate tension and fosters mutual respect.-Letting go of being right doesn’t mean giving in—it means valuing the relationship over the need to win.-Even small changes in behavior, like giving others space, can have a big impact on your calmness and safety, both emotionally and physically.-When you release the urge to control others, you gain true control over yourself.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

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• 156 - How to Build a Stronger, Happier Relationship

  For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Arguments that start small often end in deep emotional disconnect. In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores how seemingly minor issues can spiral into major conflicts—and how you can change that. He shares three simple but powerful tips that will help you manage conflict better, communicate more effectively and reconnect with your partner in a meaningful way.Key Takeaways:-Conflict doesn’t have to damage your relationship—when handled well, it can actually bring you closer together.-Trying to “win” arguments only leads to both partners losing; the goal is mutual understanding, not victory.-Active listening and asking thoughtful, open-ended questions can break patterns of miscommunication and foster deeper connection.-Small, intentional acts of appreciation and quality time go a long way in keeping a relationship strong and loving.-Making your relationship a priority—despite life’s busyness—helps build emotional intimacy and trust.-Even couples on the brink of separation can rebuild connection with the right tools and willingness to grow together.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

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• 155 - Why Anger Hits You So Fast — And How to Stop It

  For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever felt like your anger comes out of nowhere—one moment you're fine, and the next you're exploding? In this insightful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs breaks down the real reasons why you might think you get angry so quickly. By understanding what's truly happening beneath the surface, you can learn to spot the early warning signs of anger, break unhelpful habits and regain control before things spiral.Key Takeaways:-Anger rarely comes out of nowhere—there are always warning signs, and learning to spot them is the first step to staying in control.-The Tension Scale is a simple but powerful tool to help you track your stress before it boils over into anger.-Anger can become a learned habit, especially if you grew up around frequent outbursts—but habits can be unlearned with awareness and effort.-Your brain works incredibly fast, processing emotions and past experiences in the background, which can make anger feel sudden even when it’s not.-Reframing your thoughts in moments of conflict can help you choose understanding over outburst, even in high-stress situations.-With practice, patience and the right tools, you can replace reactive anger with calm, respectful responses that strengthen your relationships.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

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• 154 - 6 Proven Tips To Control Your Anger Fast

  For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever said something in anger that you instantly regretted? In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares six powerful, practical tips to help you stay calm and in control—even in the heat of the moment. Whether you're struggling with sudden outbursts or lingering tension, these strategies can help you shift from reactive to reflective, strengthening your relationships and your emotional well-being.Key Takeaways:-Anger is a habit, not your identity—and habits can be changed with the right tools and awareness.-Your thoughts—not the events themselves—are what trigger your anger, which means you have the power to shift your emotional response.-The Tension Scale helps you recognise how close you are to an angry outburst so you can act before things escalate.-Expressing anger aggressively or abusively never helps—it often worsens the situation and damages trust in your relationships.-Simple relaxation techniques, like deep breathing and reframing your thoughts, can calm your body and mind in moments of stress.-Taking a Time-Out—done respectfully and with clear agreements—can prevent conflict from spiralling out of control and protect your connection with others.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

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• 153 - Walking on Eggshells: Paul’s Story

  For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.What if one moment of clarity could save your relationship? In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs sits down with Paul, a single father whose anger was slowly pushing away the people he loved most. When his partner said life felt like “walking on eggshells,” Paul knew something had to change — and in just a few weeks, everything began to shift. This is a story of courage, self-awareness and the power of choosing a different path.Key Takeaways:-Constant stress and anger can make home life feel unsafe — even when there’s no physical violence-Awareness is the first step to change; noticing the signs in your body helps you stop before you snap-Small changes like pausing and using calm language (“That hurt”) can radically improve communication and connection-Many people grew up in angry households and inherited poor emotional tools — but you can learn better ones-Real progress doesn’t happen overnight. It’s gradual, honest, and deeply worth it.-When someone says, “I have my best friend back,” that’s the real power of anger managementLinks referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Daysangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

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