141 - It Wasn’t Yelling, But It Was Abuse - Leon's Story
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this powerful episode, host Alastair Duhs interviews Leon, a courageous man who recently took the step to control his anger.Initially, Leon didn't realise he had an anger problem. He thought that since he wasn’t yelling or being physical, anger was not an issue for him. Listen as Leon shares how this understanding changed, and how understanding the subtleties of emotional and verbal abuse transformed to approach to anger management.With his newfound awareness, Leon quickly became a calmer father and partner. In this episode, Leon encourages others to do the same, and especially to recognise the impact of words on the people you love.Key Takeaways: Leon did not believe he had an anger problem, but soon learned that anger could hurt others without being loud or aggressive. Awareness of stress and tension levels is essential to manage anger effectively. Leon recognised that his tone and words were impacting his family negatively. Leon emphasises the importance of positive self-talk for managing emotions. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.
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140 - How To Stop The Blame Game
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.The blame game is a trap that keeps people locked in negative patterns and arguments. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains that while blaming others feels good in the moment, it ultimately damages trust and connection in relationships. Recognising and stopping the blame game is crucial for personal growth and healthier relationships. By practicing self-awareness, empathy and better communication, you can take control of your anger and foster more positive interactions.Key Takeaways: The blame game can trap people in negative emotional patterns and arguments. The first step to breaking the blame habit is self-awareness and ownership of one's actions. Practicing empathy can shift the focus away from blame and foster connection. Communication without blame can lead to healthier conversations and relationships. Blaming others might feel empowering initially, but it ultimately leads to disconnection and hurt. Real strength comes from controlling one's own responses and not blaming others. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.
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139 - Can People Really Change? The Truth About Anger Management
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into the idea that real change in anger management is possible, even if it feels like nothing works. By the end of the episode, listeners will understand that anger management is a skill that can be learned, not just a trait they are stuck with.Alastair also emphasises that with the right tools and support, transformation is achievable, and that you are not alone on this anger management journey.Key Takeaways: Admitting the need for help with anger is a courageous first step towards change. Anger management is a skill that can be learned, not a fixed trait. Many people struggle with anger because they lack a proven path to follow. Real change in anger management is possible with the right support and commitment. You can control your reactions and choices, which is where your true power lies. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.
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138 - When Anger Costs You Everything: Gary's Story
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this powerful and deeply honest episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, Alastair Duhs sits down with Gary — a recent participant of The Complete Anger Management System — to explore the painful realities of letting anger go unchecked for too long.Gary opens up about the breakdown of his relationship, the guilt he carries and the critical moment he realised he needed to change — not just for his relationship, but for himself.With raw vulnerability, Gary shares how enrolling in The Complete Anger Management System helped him transform not only how he handles anger, but how he shows up in every part of his life — as a man, a father, and a human being.This is a conversation about regret, responsibility, and most importantly… hope.Key Takeaways: Gary's journey shows that real anger change is possible, even after losing a relationship. Recognising one's own anger is crucial for personal growth and healthier relationships. The tools learned in anger management can help reduce anger significantly over time. It's important to be proactive about anger issues before they affect your life dramatically. Being vulnerable and sharing experiences can help both the sharer and the listener grow. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.
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138 - Four Behaviors That Will End Your Marriage
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into four key behaviors that lead to the end of marriages, based on research by Dr. John Gottman. Alastair discusses how these behaviors often creep in unnoticed, slowly eroding trust and connection in relationships. He emphasises that criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are crucial patterns to recognise. Each behavior has its antidote, which can help partners communicate better and rebuild their relationship. By addressing these issues, couples can create a more loving and respectful connection.Key Takeaways: Arguments can often lead to silence, creating distance in relationships. Small patterns in communication can gradually erode trust and love over time. The importance of addressing negative behaviors before they cause serious damage. Four key behaviors that can predict divorce and how to counteract each one. Criticism can create resentment, and gentle communication is a better approach. By recognising harmful patterns, you can change the direction of your relationship. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.
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