For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Does alcohol cause your anger outbursts? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the hidden (and often misunderstood) connection between alcohol and anger. With honesty and compassion, Alastair reveals how drinking strips away your emotional guardrails, why it’s not the root of your anger and what you can do to stay in control, even in the heat of the moment.Key Takeaways:-Alcohol doesn’t cause anger—it amplifies what's already inside you.-Drinking impairs the prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain responsible for self-control and emotional regulation.-Most people blame alcohol to avoid facing deeper emotional patterns, but real change starts with taking responsibility.-Miscommunication and distorted perceptions are common when drinking, which often leads to explosive reactions.-Setting drink limits, having an exit plan for conflict, and asking a trusted friend to support you can prevent blowups before they happen.For some, the healthiest and safest path might be cutting out alcohol entirely to protect their relationships and emotional well-being.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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56 - Stop Letting Anger Win: Three Lessons That Change Everything
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever lost your temper and instantly regretted it? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals three life-changing lessons that will help you stop letting anger win and start responding with clarity, calm and control. Whether you’re just beginning your anger management journey or looking to deepen your self-awareness, these practical insights will show you how to break the cycle and build stronger relationships.Key Takeaways:-The first step to anger control is awareness—recognising the early warning signs before anger takes over.-Anger feels powerful in the moment, but it rarely helps solve the problem and often leaves deeper damage behind.-You create your anger through your thoughts and interpretations, which means you have the power to shift how you feel.-Tools like cognitive reframing can help you respond more thoughtfully and constructively, even in high-stress situations.-You are not a victim of your anger. You are the author of your reactions, and change starts with that realisation.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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55 - What Anger Really Is (and Why It Controls You)
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.What is anger, really? In this thought-provoking episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs joins Jake and Sarah to explore the emotion beneath the outbursts. Together, they unpack what anger truly is, why it takes over so fast and how understanding it can unlock the first step to real change.If you’ve ever felt like your anger controls you, or wondered if it has to, this episode will change the way you think.Key Takeaways:-Anger isn’t your actions, it’s the emotion underneath. Understanding that difference is the key to breaking the anger cycle.-Your thoughts and perceptions, not just the events themselves, are what trigger anger.-Recognising early warning signs of anger and using tools like deep breathing can help you interrupt angry reactions in real time.-Techniques like cognitive restructuring help shift how you interpret situations, reducing emotional intensity.Managing anger isn’t about suppressing it. It’s about learning to channel it in constructive, respectful ways.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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54 - How to Stop Fighting and Start Connecting
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Every relationship has conflict. But it’s how you handle that conflict that determines whether it brings you closer or drives you apart. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three powerful relationship tools that can help you stay calm in the heat of the moment, understand your partner more deeply and build a connection that lasts. If small issues often turn into big fights, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:-Conflict is natural, but disconnection doesn’t have to be. Anger expert Alastair Duhs explains how to transform arguments into opportunities for growth.-Mastering the art of pausing when anger flares up can be the first step to stopping destructive cycles before they start.-Shifting your mindset from “winning” the argument to “understanding” your partner builds trust and emotional safety.-Regular positive connection, what Dr. John Gottman calls the “Magic Six Hours”, can make your relationship more resilient to stress and conflict.-Emotional safety is built through small, consistent moments of appreciation, affection and real listening.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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53 - The Day I Saw Fear in My Daughter’s Eyes - Cameron's Story
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.What happens when the people you love start to fear your reactions, even if you never raise your voice or hand? In this moving episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs sits down with Cameron, a husband and father whose journey into anger management began the night he saw fear in his daughter's eyes. What follows is a powerful story of self-awareness, humility and real transformation.Key Takeaways:-Emotional outbursts, no matter how rare, can deeply impact your loved ones, especially children.-Anger management isn’t just for those who “lose control”. It’s for anyone who reacts in ways they later regret.-Awareness of early warning signs of anger is a crucial step in changing reactive behavior.-Small moments of calm, empathy and listening can start rebuilding trust in strained relationships.-Change is hard but possible. Cameron likens his transformation to getting sober: difficult at first, but freeing.-Emotional abuse doesn't require physical violence. Just the presence of fear, instability or recurring tension.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Daysangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
The Anger Management Podcast is your weekly guide to mastering your anger and creating the calm, happy and loving relationships you’ve always wanted.
Join anger expert Alastair Duhs as he shares practical tips, proven techniques and game-changing strategies to help you control your anger, master your emotions and transform your relationships into sources of calm, happiness and respect.
This podcast is for anyone who’s ready to break free from anger’s grip and create a life filled with peace and connection. If you're ready to take the next step toward a calmer, more fulfilling life, tune in each week and start your journey to true anger mastery.
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