53 - The Day I Saw Fear in My Daughter’s Eyes - Cameron's Story
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.What happens when the people you love start to fear your reactions, even if you never raise your voice or hand? In this moving episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs sits down with Cameron, a husband and father whose journey into anger management began the night he saw fear in his daughter's eyes. What follows is a powerful story of self-awareness, humility and real transformation.Key Takeaways:-Emotional outbursts, no matter how rare, can deeply impact your loved ones, especially children.-Anger management isn’t just for those who “lose control”. It’s for anyone who reacts in ways they later regret.-Awareness of early warning signs of anger is a crucial step in changing reactive behavior.-Small moments of calm, empathy and listening can start rebuilding trust in strained relationships.-Change is hard but possible. Cameron likens his transformation to getting sober: difficult at first, but freeing.-Emotional abuse doesn't require physical violence. Just the presence of fear, instability or recurring tension.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Daysangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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52 - When Anger Hurts the People You Love Most
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.When anger becomes a pattern, it doesn’t just hurt you — it affects the people you love the most. In this honest and deeply moving episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the emotional cost of uncontrolled anger in families, relationships, and everyday life. With stories of real people who reached their breaking point and chose to change, this episode is both a wake-up call and a roadmap to healing.Key Takeaways:-Anger leaves lasting echoes: Outbursts may pass, but their emotional impact — fear, distance, tension — can linger in your home and relationships.-Uncontrolled anger creates fear: Loved ones may start walking on eggshells, living in quiet anxiety, never knowing when the next explosion will come.-Anger often masks deeper emotions: Beneath the rage is often shame, fear, or pain that needs to be understood, not hidden.-These are learned patterns — not who you are: Anger is not your identity, and with support and practice, it can be unlearned and replaced.-The ‘pause and pivot’ method works: A brief pause before reacting creates space for empathy, honest communication and healing.-Real stories show real change: Listeners like Nathan and Peter transformed their lives by learning to recognise the impact of their anger — and choosing a different path.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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51 - The Real Reason You Get Angry
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.When anger flares up, it can feel like something other people cause — a disrespectful comment, a traffic jam, a partner’s forgetfulness. But what if the real reason you get angry isn’t out there, but within you? In this revealing episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs, with help from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, unpacks a powerful truth: your thoughts create your anger — and that means you can change it. If you're ready to reclaim your calm and control your reactions, this episode shows you how.Key Takeaways:-Anger begins with your thoughts: It’s not the event, but how you interpret it — your story about what’s happening — that creates anger.-Your reactions aren’t set in stone: Even deeply ingrained patterns of anger can be rewired through conscious awareness and consistent practice.-The power lies in the pause: Noticing the thought before reacting gives you the chance to choose a calmer, more helpful response.-Blame is easy — change is transformational: Shifting from “they made me angry” to “I created this feeling” is the first step toward real emotional freedom.-You’re not powerless: You can train your mind to respond differently, build stronger relationships, and feel more in control of your emotions.-Small steps lead to big change: Catch one thought, question one reaction, practice one pause — and you’re already breaking the cycle.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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50- How to Stop Anger Before It Starts
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever gone from calm to furious in seconds — and wondered how it escalated so fast? In this eye-opening episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals the one essential key to preventing outbursts before they begin: awareness. With help from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, Alastair explains how to recognise your personal early warning signs of anger, create space between trigger and reaction, and stop anger from taking control of your life and relationships.Key Takeaways:-Anger doesn’t come out of nowhere: Even explosive reactions start with subtle cues in your body, mind, and behavior — if you know how to notice them.-Awareness gives you power: The moment you catch anger rising, you create a pause — and in that pause, you can choose a better response.-Your early warning signs are unique: Learning what signals anger for you personally is the first step to stopping it in its tracks.-Real stories, real change: Dan, Kyle and Ross share how simple awareness transformed their relationships and helped them break destructive patterns.-Awareness is the foundation for every anger management tool: Without it, you're stuck on autopilot. With it, you can take control and build calmer, more connected relationships.-Change is possible for everyone: No matter your past, anger doesn’t have to define your future — and the journey starts with noticing.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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49 - Anger Doesn’t Work
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Anger can feel powerful — but that surge of energy, those sharp words or slammed doors, are often doing more harm than good. In this deeply important episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs and AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah reveal the truth: uncontrolled anger doesn’t solve problems — it creates them. From subtle emotional abuse to devastating outbursts, this episode explores how anger chips away at trust and connection — and how you can reclaim real power through calm, clarity, and conscious choice.Key Takeaways:-Anger doesn’t work — it wounds: What feels powerful in the moment often damages your relationships and leaves you feeling regretful and isolated.-Abuse comes in many forms: Uncontrolled anger can turn into verbal, emotional, or even physical patterns of abuse — even if it doesn’t look like “rage.”-The illusion of control: Using anger to get what you want creates a false sense of power — real strength lies in calm, conscious responses.-Unaddressed anger escalates: Left unchecked, anger tends to grow and multiply, creating destructive cycles that erode relationships and self-respect.-You can choose a different path: Learning emotional awareness, empathy and communication gives you the tools to respond instead of react — and truly change your life.-Change starts with a single decision: The choice to take back control of your reactions is the first step toward building healthier, more respectful relationships.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycleangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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