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21 - The Drama Triangle Is Destroying Your Relationship
For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating concept of the Drama Triangle—a powerful framework that sheds light on the destructive roles couples often fall into during conflict: namely the Victim, the Persecutor and the Rescuer. Learn how these roles shape your interactions, fuel misunderstandings, and keep you stuck in cycles of blame and defensiveness. More importantly, learn practical strategies to step out of the Drama Triangle and embrace healthier, more empowering ways to approach disagreements. Key Takeaways: The Drama Triangle consists of three roles: the Persecutor, the Victim, and the Rescuer, which can trap couples in toxic cycles. Recognising when you are in the Drama Triangle is the first step to breaking free from negative relationship dynamics. Each role in the Drama Triangle contributes to conflict, with the Persecutor blaming, the Victim avoiding responsibility, and the Rescuer enabling the cycle. To escape the Drama Triangle, one must shift their approach to conflict and actively choose healthier responses instead. Self-awareness is crucial; individuals should pay attention to their reactions during conflicts to identify their roles in the drama triangle. Empowering oneself involves setting boundaries, acknowledging personal responsibility, and practicing empathy towards partners during disagreements. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course.
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20 - He Lost Everything to Anger: Colin's Story
For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Colin thought he had his anger issues under control, but in the end anger cost him everything. Colin's story highlights a crucial point: ignoring anger issues can lead to serious consequences in relationships. In this episode of the Anger Management podcast, Colin shares the cost of uncontrolled anger. He also shares how he realised that his anger was a learned behavior, passed down through generations. By facing this truth, Colin took powerful steps to change for himself and his children. This episode emphasises the importance of recognising anger early and taking action before it’s too late. Key Takeaways: Realising anger can cost you more than you think is crucial for change. Colin's journey shows that recognizing anger as a learned behavior is key. Awareness of your anger triggers helps in managing responses to difficult conversations. It's never too late to seek help and start making positive changes for yourself. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course.
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19 - Building Self-Awareness: Three Tips for Anger Management
For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Self-awareness is the key to controlling anger. Many people don’t realise they’re getting angry until it’s too late, leading to regret and damaged relationships. In this episode of the Anger Management podcast, host Alastair Duhs shares three powerful tips to help listeners recognise their anger early, stay in control, and respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively. By identifying your personal anger triggers, using a pause before reacting, and paying attention to your early warning signs of anger, you can build a personalised toolkit for managing anger effectively. Key Takeaways: Self-awareness is crucial; recognising anger early helps in managing it effectively. Anger builds gradually, often shown through subtle physical and emotional signs. Taking a moment to pause before reacting can prevent regretful actions later on. Identifying personal anger triggers can help in navigating challenging situations safely. Cultivating a personalised toolkit for anger management empowers individuals to respond thoughtfully. Practicing assertive communication fosters healthier relationships and reduces conflict. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course.
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18 - The Truth About Anger
For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Anger can sneak up on you, even if you think they don’t have an anger issue. In this podcast episode, we explore the truth about anger, revealing that it doesn’t always include shouting or aggression. Instead, anger can simmer quietly, causing issues in relationships and overall well-being. Listeners will learn practical steps to identify if anger is a problem in their lives and how to address it constructively. This episode is packed with insights on harnessing anger in a positive way, so it's definitely worth a listen.Key Takeaways: Anger is a feeling, not an action, and how you respond matters most. Your thoughts create your anger, not the actions of others or events around you. Anger can be a powerful motivator for positive change when managed correctly. Recognising your anger can help you separate it from harmful actions you might take. If your anger is causing problems in life, it's time to seek help and address it. Managing anger effectively involves learning techniques to respond calmly and constructively. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course.
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17 - The Secret to Never Taking Things Personally Again
For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Taking things personally can really mess with your emotions. When someone criticises or snaps at you, it might feel like a personal attack, but it's usually more about their own stress. This episode dives deep into how to stop letting others' words control your feelings. Listeners will learn practical strategies for handling criticism, staying calm, and asking questions to connect instead of react. By shifting your mindset, you can reduce stress and improve your relationships, all while taking back control over your emotions.Key Takeaways: Most criticism directed at you is often a reflection of the other person's issues. When faced with criticism, pause and ask if there's something to learn from it. Your emotional reactions can take away your power; control how you respond instead. Asking questions can turn potential conflicts into opportunities for better understanding. Taking things personally leads to unnecessary stress; shift your mindset to improve relationships. It's an ongoing journey to not take things personally; practice is essential for growth. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.For Alastair's comprehensive anger management program, The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course.
The Anger Management Podcast is your weekly guide to mastering your anger and creating the calm, happy and loving relationships you’ve always wanted.
Join anger expert Alastair Duhs as he shares practical tips, proven techniques and game-changing strategies to help you control your anger, master your emotions and transform your relationships into sources of calm, happiness and respect.
This podcast is for anyone who’s ready to break free from anger’s grip and create a life filled with peace and connection. If you're ready to take the next step toward a calmer, more fulfilling life, tune in each week and start your journey to true anger mastery.
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