For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.What makes a marriage truly work — even in the face of conflict, disconnection, or emotional distance? In this heartfelt and practical episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the three essential relationship skills that every couple needs to thrive. With real-world insight from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, you'll learn how small, consistent changes can rebuild trust, restore connection and transform your relationship — no matter where you’re starting from.Key TakeawaysConflict is normal — but unmanaged anger is not: Every couple argues, but when anger turns aggressive or shuts down communication, it damages trust. Learning to manage your anger is often the first step toward healing.You can’t “win” an argument — but you can create understanding: Real communication begins with listening. Shifting from “you” statements to “I” statements and validating your partner’s feelings helps reduce defensiveness and build empathy.Active listening is a superpower in relationships: Techniques like paraphrasing, asking open-ended questions and checking for understanding help your partner feel heard and respected — even during tough conversations.The Magic Six Hours can transform your connection: Just six hours a week of intentional connection — like daily check-ins, small acts of affection and shared activities — can build an emotional buffer that strengthens your bond.You can’t control your partner, but you can choose your response: Emotional responsibility — managing your reactions, listening deeply, and showing up consistently — is the foundation of a lasting relationship.Links referenced in this episode:angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger managementangersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Daysangersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System
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34 - The Hidden Cost of Uncontrolled Anger
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Joe thought his anger was just who he was until a moment changed everything. In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares Joe's story, a successful businessman whose struggle with anger had profound effects on his life and relationships. Joe's journey shows that real change is possible, even after decades of uncontrolled anger. The conversation dives into the impact of anger on mental health and relationships, highlighting how it can spread and create rifts in connections.By the end, listeners are reminded that managing anger is a skill that can lead to peace and deeper connections in life.Key Takeaways: Anger is a natural emotion, but if left unchecked, it can hurt your health and relationships. Joe's story illustrates that recognising one's anger can lead to significant change and healing. Real change in managing anger starts with small steps and conscious decisions to pause and breathe. The transformation in Joe's life shows that it is never too late to control anger effectively. Uncontrolled anger can create rifts in relationships, making it harder to build trust and understanding. By managing anger, you can enhance your quality of life and the lives of those around you. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.
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33 - What Is Anger, Abuse and Violence?
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Anger is a natural human emotion, but how you react to it matters a lot. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into the differences between anger, abuse and violence. Alastair explains that feeling angry doesn't mean someone is abusive; it's about how actions can impact others. Alastair also discusses how harmful behaviors that can stem from anger can be changed with awareness and effort. Recognising patterns of abuse and violence is a brave first step toward healthier relationships and a calmer life. If you want to learn more about managing anger, this episode is a great starting point.Key Takeaways: Anger is a natural human emotion, just like happiness or sadness. Recognising the difference between feeling anger and acting abusively is crucial for healthy relationships. Abuse is defined by patterns of behavior aimed at controlling or hurting someone, not just by feelings of anger. Both verbal and emotional abuse can cause long-lasting harm, sometimes even deeper than physical abuse. Understanding that anger can trigger harmful actions helps in learning to manage responses better. Growth in anger management starts with awareness, honesty and a commitment to change one's harmful behaviors. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.
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32 - Five Skills That Can Save A Relationship
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode anger expert Alastair Duhs delves into the idea that the real danger in conflict isn't about winning the argument, but rather about losing connection with one's partner. Alastair emphasises that proving a point often comes at a high cost to trust and closeness.Learn five strategies that encourage understanding and respect during conflicts, including highlighting the importance of listening and maintaining respectful dialogue. By focusing on understanding your partner rather than winning, relationships can grow stronger even through tough conversations.key Takeaways: In arguments, proving you're right can cost much more than you think. The real danger in conflict is losing connection with your partner, not just the fight. Shifting from winning to understanding can strengthen relationships during tough conversations. Recognising your own anger signs is crucial for managing conflicts effectively. Listening to understand, not just to respond, can lower tension and improve communication. Setting ground rules for disagreements helps maintain respect and keeps conflicts constructive. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.
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31 - The Power of Walking Away — The Right Way
For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.A Time-Out can be a powerful tool for managing anger. In today’s podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs discusses how to use a Time-Out effectively to cool down before anger escalates too far. Alastair emphasises that it's not about avoiding issues but about taking a moment to self-regulate. This episode highlights the importance of recognising physical and emotional cues that signal it's time for a Time-Out and how to re-connect after cooling down.By using Time-Outs wisely, listeners can foster calmer, healthier and more respectful relationships.Key Takeaways: Time-Outs aren't about escaping conflict; they're about stepping back to cool down and think. Creating a Time-Out plan before conflicts arise is essential for effective communication and trust. Recognising the early signs of anger helps in calling a Time-Out before it escalates into something worse. During a Time-Out, focus on self-soothing techniques like mindfulness and deep breathing to calm down. Re-connecting after a Time-Out should be gentle and aim to repair the relationship, not jump back into conflict. Setting a specific time for a Time-Out is crucial so both parties know what to expect and can manage their emotions. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.
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