Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

You don't have to carry the weight of discipling your kids by yourself! In this episode, Karen and Emily sit down with children's ministry leader Kendra Fleming to share how partnering with your church can strengthen your family's faith without adding more to your plate. As we head into a new school year, we hope this episode encourages you to lean into the support God has already provided.
Episode Recap:
Kendra has been working in children’s ministry for 30+ years (3:30)
Church gives your kids another trusted voice and a place to serve (7:00)
What are some church rhythms that are worth protecting this school year? (11:00)
What does spiritual development look like at the different stages of childhood? (15:50)

Scripture: Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
"Two are better than one...if either of them falls down, one can help the other up."

Discussion Questions:
When you think about discipling your children, do you feel excitement, pressure, fear, or something else? Why?
Has your church encouraged or supported your family in ways you couldn't have done on your own?
What rhythms around church have been most life-giving for your family? Are there any you've allowed to slip?
Is there a children's ministry leader, small group leader, or mentor you could intentionally encourage or build a relationship with this fall?
What practical step could your family take this year to more intentionally partner with your church in helping your kids grow in their faith?

Resources:
Connect with Kendra on Instagram: @kendrafleming
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During Wire Talk+, Kendra continues to encourage us to be authentic in our relationship with Jesus, plus Kendra and Karen each give advice to their younger selves!
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In this listener-favorite episode re-air, Karen and Greg pull back the curtain on nearly four decades of marriage—the good, the hard, the early years, and the season they’re in now. This conversation will make you smile, and maybe even tear up, as they remind us that we serve a faithful God who wants the best for us and our marriages.
Episode Recap:
How Karen and Greg back met in 1984 (4:00)
What were some of your biggest differences as newlyweds? (7:50)
How did you stay connected during the early years of raising kids? (10:09)
What has been the hardest season of your marriage? (18:48)
How has your relationship changed now that your kids are grown and gone? (31:35)
What has surprised you about becoming grandparents? (37:19)
Lightening round questions (40:12)

Scripture: Proverbs 3:5–6 (NIV)
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
Discussion Questions:
Karen and Greg talked about prioritizing their marriage even while raising young kids. How do you currently make space for your spouse in a busy season of parenting?
Greg shared the advice he received from his dad: “Your family is your hobby.” What might it look like for you to protect your margin for your family?
Karen described her “needy gal” season where she learned to depend on God to meet her needs. How have you experienced God providing for you in a hard marriage or parenting season?
What small rhythms (like a daily debrief, date nights, or intentional quiet time) could you adopt to strengthen your connection with your spouse?
Looking ahead, what do you hope your marriage will look like when you reach the “high five” finish line of raising kids together?

Resources:
Use code WT20 to get $20 off SOAR registration today! 
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During Wire Talk+, Greg and Karen share advice for making it through difficult seasons of family life and don’t miss the very end of this conversation, when they share some of their biggest fights that they laugh about now!
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If you’ve been thinking that summer is the perfect time to potty train, this one’s for you! Christine Clark joins Karen and Emily today - she’s a mom, preschool teacher, and pro who’s successfully potty trained 17 children. From handling accidents with grace to dealing with fear, regression, or defiance, this episode is packed with wisdom and encouragement for moms in the potty-training trenches.
Episode Recap:
Christine runs an in-home daycare and LOVES toddlers (2:33)
Personality definitely feeds into potty training (5:58)
Is there a difference in training girls vs boys? (7:25)
Give us a step-by-step for those who are new to this (8:55)
What are the biggest mistakes parents make? (12:00)
How to support your child’s training at daycare (14:16)
What about kids who have “accidents” out of defiance? (16:35)
What if a child is afraid to go #2? (22:21)

Scripture: Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
Questions for Discussion:
What’s been your biggest potty training challenge so far, and what mindset shift could help you handle it with more patience?
How can you bring fun and encouragement into the process instead of frustration?
What does “everything can be cleaned” look like for you in this season of motherhood?
What other “hard things” have you done recently that remind you you’re capable of more than you think?

Resources:
Use code WT20 to get $20 off SOAR registration today! 
Reach out to have Karen come speak in your community!
Become a WT+ Insider this month and get an exclusive SOAR discount! 
Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms

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During Wire Talk+, Karen and Emily share some of their own adventures in potty-training and remind us once again that everything can be cleaned!
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From tantrums to name-calling to after-school meltdowns, this listener-favorite episode is packed with practical help for moms dealing with big emotions…and even bigger attitudes. Karen and Emily talk about red temperaments, ADHD outbursts, and how to handle disrespectful behavior without losing your cool. Listen in for advice on teaching kids to pause before reacting, role-playing tough situations, plus learn why setting boundaries with screens and school is worth the fight.
Episode Recap:
Meltdowns can happen at 6 or 16 (2:10)
Lean into the Lord and He will help you (5:14)
What do I do about a 10 year old who dominates her friends all the time? (6:31)
Role playing is a powerful teaching tool (8:56)
My daughter resorts to name calling when she’s angry - any advice? (9:39)
Anger is a secondary emotion (18:00)
I’m struggling with the amount of screen time that is embedded in school/homework, it clearly changes my kid’s behavior. What can I do? (24:00)

Scripture for Reflection:
Proverbs 15:1 (NIV) — “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Questions for Discussion:
How do you typically respond when your child is disrespectful or melts down?
What do you think is really behind your child’s anger in those moments?
What boundaries do you need to reinforce in your home around disrespect, screen time, or emotional outbursts?
How could role-playing or using tools like the feelings wheel help your child grow in emotional maturity?

Resources:
Use code WT20 to get $20 off SOAR registration today! 
Become a WT+ Insider, boaw.mom/insider

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During Wire Talk+, Karen and Emily talk about why so many parents are afraid to address disrespectful behavior and they discuss how to use devices intentionally so they serve your family instead of becoming a parenting crutch.
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We're re-airing one of our most popular episodes this week! Karen and Emily sit down with Elizabeth Pehrson to discuss how moms can parent with purpose by focusing on the long game. In this conversation, Elizabeth shares her no-nonsense approach to raising independent, contributing adults. Whether you’re navigating the pressures of parenting littles or wondering how to prepare your teens for the real world, this episode will leave you inspired and equipped.
Episode Recap:
Elizabeth is a long time friend of BOAW Moms and a breakout speaker at Soar (2:09)
Most women live a Groundhog Day kind of life, but they don’t have to (8:08)
We can’t love others when we’re not loving ourselves well (10:32)
How did The Exchange come about? (12:37)
We need to raise adults who are contributors, not consumers (18:25)
We are overprotecting and under preparing our kids for the real world (21:00)
Keep the long game in mind! (25:01)

Scripture: Proverbs 22:6 (ESV)
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart from it."
Questions for Discussion:
What areas of parenting do you feel pressured to “do more,” and how might adopting a “do less” mindset bring freedom to your family?
How are you currently preparing your children for independence, and what’s one practical step you can take to help them contribute more?
Elizabeth emphasizes the importance of rediscovering yourself as a mom. What’s something you used to enjoy that you can reintroduce into your life?
How can shifting your focus from short-term achievements to long-term character development change the way you approach parenting?

Resources:
Register for the SOAR Conference today. 
Become a WT+ Insider, boaw.mom/insider
Check out Elizabeth’s organization, The Exchange

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During Wire Talk+, Karen and Emily talk about why it’s easier to do for our kids than to teach them to do for themselves and Emily shares her new chore routine for her kids this summer.
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