Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

Last week, Karen talked about the temperaments. This week, she takes that conversation one step further by answering real questions from moms who are navigating strong-willed kids, harsh words, whining, and emotional outbursts. If you’ve ever looked at your child and thought, I know their heart is sweet, so why is this coming out so sideways? this episode is for you. Karen shares practical wisdom for understanding your child’s wiring, correcting with grace, and helping them grow.
Episode Recap:
Last week, we talked about blue and red temperaments (2:00)
My blue/green son often comes across as critical and harsh (3:00)
My rising Kindergartener is controlling and bossy and can be physical (7:23)
My daughter used to love being the center of attention, now she’s self-conscious (12:25)
What is the temperaments book you reference all the time? (16:05)
Pick a “lane” when you take the temperaments test (18:57) 

Scripture: Hebrews 12:11 (NIV)
“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”
Discussion Questions: 
Which of my child’s behaviors may be connected to their temperament, and which ones need clear correction?
Do I tend to react to my child’s tone or behavior in a way that escalates things?
How can I better coach my child after the emotional moment has passed?
Where does my own temperament make parenting this child especially hard?
What would it look like to be more patient and intentional in helping this child grow over time?

Resources:
Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Episodes featuring moms of different temperament colors: 330, 331, 332, 333
Grab Personality Plus for Parents by Florence Littauer 
Take the Colors Temperament Quiz today

Want More of This Conversation?
Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today Karen delves deeper into how moms’ own temperaments affect the way they respond to their kids and gives a helpful rundown of the core needs of each temperament.
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Today Karen and Emily tackle listener questions about kids with big emotions; the pouters, the perfectionists, the rule followers, and the fiercely competitive. Whether your child melts down when they lose, struggles to say they’re having fun, or takes rules a little too seriously, this episode will help you parent the way they’re wired instead of fighting against it.
Episode Recap:
Join Wire Talk+, our VIP club for listeners (3:45)
Is it okay to let my sensitive child pout in his room? (4:27)
My “blue child” never says she’s having fun and it’s discouraging to me (9:55)
How do I handle an overly strict rule follower? (13:30)
My 9 yr old cannot bear losing - should I give him consequences for meltdowns? (17:28)
You’re not going to change the way your kid is wired, but you can understand it (20:00) 

Scripture: Proverbs 22:6 (NIV) “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”
Discussion Questions: 
Does my child need space or correction in emotional moments?
Am I reacting to their personality, or am I training their character?
Do I expect my child to respond emotionally the way I would?
Where do I need to be more consistent with consequences?
How can I model emotional regulation in my own responses?

Resources:
Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Send us your questions through the BOAW Moms app [Apple] [Google Play]
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible
Check out Raising Emotionally Strong Boys by David Thomas 

Want More of This Conversation?
Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today Karen is sharing insights on parenting “blue” temperaments specifically.
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Are you parenting a Gen Z child and wondering why everything feels so different from when you were growing up? Today Karen and Emily sit down with leadership expert Tim Elmore, founder of Growing Leaders, to talk about the unique pressures facing this generation.
From overexposure to information and technology and underexposure to real-world experiences, Tim helps moms understand what’s really happening beneath the surface in a Gen Z kid. Don’t miss his fantastic illustration of what it means to be a “velvet-covered brick” as a parent!
Episode Recap:
Growing Leaders was created to help parents understand the next generation (00:54)
Who is the Gen Z kid? Who is Gen Alpha? (2:00)
Gen Z makes us better leaders (4:20)
Gen Z is overwhelmed by their overexposure to information (8:25)
This generation is underexposed to experiences (10:09)
How can a generation be so connected and still so lonely? (13:06)
How do I equip my kids to overcome hardship? (16:04)
Parents allow their kids to risk too little, and then rescue too much. (18:54)
What intentional habits can make a difference for this generation? (22:44)
Enter our giveaway on @birdsonawiremoms to win one of Tim’s books (27:20)

Scripture: James 1:2-4 (NIV)
“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”
Discussion Questions: 
Where am I most tempted to rescue my child instead of coaching them through something hard?
When my child says they’re overwhelmed, how do I typically respond?
How well am I balancing “be yourself” with teaching my child to belong to something bigger than themselves?
What is one real-life experience I could intentionally create this year to help my child grow up (not just grow older)?

Resources:
Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Check out all of Tim’s books on Amazon: https://amzn.to/4tQ7Iig
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible

Want More of This Conversation?
Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today Tim shares his perspective on the top 3 mistakes parents of teens are making with this generation.
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Do you ever feel overwhelmed, overtouched, overstimulated and find yourself wondering, why does this feel so hard?
Today Karen answers real questions from moms about marriage, resentment, anxiety, exhaustion, and the emotional weight of motherhood. From mismatched sex drives in the toddler years to school-day overload and traveling husbands, this conversation will remind you that you are not alone. Motherhood can be beautiful and exhausting at the same time- and good and hard can truly run on parallel lines.
Episode Recap:
Good and hard can run on parallel tracks! (3:10)
How can I honor my husband’s higher sex drive and actually enjoy sex right now? (4:33)
My afternoons are exhausting with 3 school age daughters - is this normal? (6:57)
My husband travels for work & chooses golf on weekends, I feel resentful (12:50)
My job and homeschooling has me feeling so anxious, I dread my day to day life (18:28)

Scripture: Philippians 4:19 (NIV)
“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.”
Discussion Questions: 
Where am I currently feeling the most overwhelmed — marriage, work, parenting, or emotionally?
Is there resentment quietly building in my heart? What honest conversation needs to happen?
What small buffer or margin could I create this week?
Am I trying to solve everything myself instead of laying it before the Lord?
Where do I need to remind myself that “good and hard can run on parallel lines”?

Resources:
Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible
Listen to episode 131 or 165 on having a healthy sex life after kids

Want More of This Conversation?
Wire Talk+ listeners get extended conversations every week! Today Karen shares a personal story about a painful season when she had to “bend the knee” to God’s will in her life. Join us and we hope you’ll come away encouraged.
Head HERE and join us for the full conversation.

Friendships in motherhood are rarely as simple as we expect them to be. Today Karen and Emily are continuing our friendship conversation by tackling comparison, conflict, cliques, and what to do when a friendship changes. They answer listeners’ questions about unmet expectations and learning when to lean in and when to let go. If friendship feels confusing, discouraging, or just plain messy right now, we hope this episode encourages you! 
Episode Recap:
What is happening over on Wire Talk+? (4:01)
Where do your friendship expectations come from? (10:30)
How have your healthy friendships naturally changed over time? (12:56)
Ask God for what you need - even in your friendships (14:52)
Friendship doesn’t always look exactly like what we have imagined (18:02)
How do we handle conflict and tension in friendship? (18:30)
You can create space without ghosting people (21:37)
How do I make friends when everywhere around me is full of cliques? (22:00)
My friend continually brings up a topic of conversation that irritates me (25:25)

Scripture: Proverbs 17:17 (EST) “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”

Discussion Questions: 
How has comparison (especially through social media) shaped your expectations of friendship?
Are there friendships in your life where proximity (distance, schedules, seasons of life) has changed the relationship?
When conflict or tension shows up, do you tend to address it or pull away? Why?
What kind of friend do you have the capacity to be right now? What kind of friendship do you realistically need in this season?
Is there one practical step you could take this month to strengthen a current friendship or pursue a new one?

Resources:
Listen to the rest of our conversation on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Join our BOAW Moms Facebook group
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible