488: House Rules, Hard Talks and Helping Your Kids Grow with Grace
From setting boundaries to tackling tough topics, today’s episode is all about navigating the hard parts of parenting with truth and grace. In this conversation, Karen shares practical wisdom for protecting your home, teaching empathy, and leaning on the Holy Spirit to do what only He can do, change hearts. Whether you’re navigating big emotions, sensitive subjects, or family boundaries, this conversation will help you parent with confidence and compassion.Episode Recap:My daughter’s friend is coming to live with us; what rules do we need to establish? (3:55)My daughter struggles with a judgmental heart, how can we help her? (5:15)My 8 year old son is asking questions about sex, help! (8:02)My SIL’s family has very different values from ours which makes visits stressful (11:45)Scripture: James 1:5 (NASB) “But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.”Discussion Questions: Do you have “house rules”? If so, what principles guided those rules? How do you balance firm boundaries with a spirit of grace?How can we help our kids live out their convictions without becoming judgmental toward others who make different choices?Does the sex conversation feel intimidating to you? Is it time for a conversation in your home? If so, how can you approach it with honesty and calm?Karen mentioned the Holy Spirit’s role in transforming hearts; how can you rely on His guidance more in your day to day parenting?Is there a “hard talk” or situation in your home right now that you can approach differently after hearing this episode?Resources:Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Follow @birds_bees for tips about talking to your kids about sexGrab the God’s Design for Sex series on Amazon! https://amzn.to/43jefX5Join our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms
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487: Balancing Discipline with Connection
How do you discipline your kids without damaging your relationship? Today Karen and Emily are talking about what it looks like to set boundaries, correct behavior, and still be your child’s safe place. From toddler tantrums to teenage independence, they share wisdom that will help you the next time you’re doling out discipline. Episode Recap:We’re afraid to discipline because we worry it will damage our relationship (4:52)My daughter confessed something small to me after YEARS (5:26)My child is hypersensitive to discipline from dad, what can I do? (7:39)My husband is too harsh with our teenage son (12:51)Our son doesn’t respect me the way he respects his dad (16:28)God commands us to discipline our children (21:17)Scripture: Proverbs 3:12 (NIV) “Because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.”Discussion Questions: What helps you stay calm when you need to discipline your child?Do you and your spouse have the same discipline style? Do your children respond differently to discipline from different parents? Emily talked about the notes Greg left her, which helped build up a base of connection. What’s one way you can affirm and encourage your child this week?What’s one tweak you need to make in your home this week to better balance discipline and relationship? Resources:Reach out to https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speak to have Karen come speak in your community!Grab Karen’s lunch box notes to encourage your child: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/gifts/products/lunch-box-notesJoin our private FB group, BOAW Moms: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BOAWmoms
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486: How to Handle Preschool Tantrums and Toddler Meltdowns
Between toddler tantrums, potty training battles, and endless power struggles, the preschool years can feel like the wild west of parenting. Today Karen is answering your preschool questions with her trademark practical tips, reminding us that structure, consistency, and patience go a long way. Above all, your daily walk with the Lord is what will sustain you during these exhausting and beautiful years!Episode Recap:My husband and I are at our wit’s end with our strong-willed 4 year old’s tantrums (6:11)Take a deep dive into the temperaments to learn how to discipline your child (7:00)My husband’s job keeps him away from home often, how can I help my young children cope? (10:30)Help! Potty training is driving me nuts! (14:54)How do I help my 3 year old regulate his emotions? (17:40)Giving in to a tantrum makes it worse 100% of the time (19:00)Everything is an argument with my four year old, any advice? (23:22) Your walk with the Lord truly does make a difference (27:49)Scripture: Galatians 5:22–23“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”Discussion Questions:How do you usually respond when your preschooler throws a tantrum? Is it working? Is there a new strategy you could try this week?Karen shared the importance of structure. What does a typical day look like in your home, and how could a little more routine help your preschooler?When your spouse travels or works long hours (or if you are co-parenting and splitting time between parents), how can you help your kids feel connected to their parent who is away?Potty training can be one of the most frustrating seasons. What’s worked (or not worked) in your family, and how do you keep patience in the process?Karen reminded us that we need to lean on the Holy Spirit’s fruit to parent well. Which “fruit” do you most need to pray for in this season? Let’s pray for one another this week!Resources:We are booking for 2026! Reach out to bring Karen’s wisdom to the moms in your community: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speakLearn more about temperaments in our most recent episode with Kathleen Edelman: https://wiretalk.transistor.fm/episodes/470-why-your-child-s-wiring-mattersSend us your question! Use the Ask Karen function in the BOAW Moms app: App Store: https://apps.apple.com/md/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927 Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.subsplashconsulting.s_JVZ5JB&hl=en_US
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485: Happy Couples Think Differently
What if a better marriage starts not with more work, but with changing the way you think? This week we’re sitting down with author and speaker Ted Lowe to talk about his book Us in Mind and the simple things that separate happy couples from struggling ones. From celebrating small wins to practicing empathy and taking thoughts captive, Ted unpacks practical ways to renew your mind and see your spouse differently. Whether your marriage feels stuck or just needs a little spark, we hope this conversation leaves you encouraged and equipped to do the next right thing.Episode Recap:How are great marriages different from struggling marriages? (6:42)Happy couples think in a way that unhappy couples don’t (8:42)“Madly in love” couples focus on what they do love about their spouse, not what they don’t (12:00)What you think about yourself affects how you interact with your spouse (17:08)Why do celebrations make such a big difference in our marriages? (25:12)Empathy is huge for happy marriages (30:01)Two words that changed Ted’s marriage (33:53) For Christians, our marriages are not just about us (38:44)Scripture: Romans 12:2 “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”Philippians 4:8 – “Whatever is true, whatever is noble… think about such things.”Discussion Questions:How does the way you think about your spouse shape the way you act toward them?Ted talked about “seeing the best” in your spouse. What does that look like in your marriage right now?Why is empathy so powerful in marriage? How could you practice “stepping into the puddle” with your spouse this week?How do you typically respond to your spouse’s successes or joys? What’s one way you can celebrate with them more intentionally?Which of Ted’s practical shifts (empathy, celebration, reframing thoughts, writing notes, pausing in conflict) feels most helpful for your current season of marriage?Marriage is meant to reflect the love of Christ. How does remembering this bigger purpose change the way you approach your relationship?Resources:Pick up a copy of Ted’s book today: https://amzn.to/4nKdkqDConnect with Ted: https://forusmarriage.com/Check out our Parenting Together curriculum for FREE in the BOAW Moms app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927Download the companion study guide in the BOAW store: boaw.mom/parentingtogether
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484: When Marriage Feels Like Hard Work
When one mom asks a hard marriage question, we know hundreds more are wondering the same thing. Today, Karen and Emily tackle your vulnerable questions about jealousy, mismatched sex drives, and resentment at home. Karen reminds us that fighting for our marriages is worth it, even when it means doing the hard work like going to counseling, seeing a doctor, or having the tough conversation. We hope this episode will encourage you to keep investing in your marriage no matter the season you are in! Episode Recap:I struggle with jealousy when my husband is around other women, is that normal? (5:11)My husband doesn’t initiate sex, what should I do? (8:20)As a SAHM, I’m super frustrated with the home workload (10:34)Communicate when things are calm, not just in the heat of the moment (17:03)My husband and I disagree about SO MUCH - how do we compromise? (18:16)My spouse will NOT apologize. What are my options? (23:39)How do you stay connected when you’re outnumbered by kids & have busy schedules? (24:18) Scripture: Colossians 3:13–14 “Bear with each other and forgive one another… And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”Discussion Questions:What expectations do you carry into your marriage that you haven’t clearly communicated to your spouse?How do you and your husband currently handle disagreements? What could you do to practice more “active listening” with one another?When it comes to intimacy, how comfortable are you being honest about your needs? What might help you take a step toward open communication?What are some small, practical ways you and your spouse can prioritize your marriage this week?What regular rhythms/routines could you establish to make sure you prioritize your marriage even when life feels overwhelming?Resources:Check out our Parenting Together curriculum for FREE in the BOAW Moms app: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/birds-on-a-wire-moms/id1419899927Download the companion study guide in the BOAW store: boaw.mom/parentingtogether
Wire Talk was created to encourage and equip moms throughout the challenging and life-changing journey of motherhood. Each week on Wire Talk Karen Stubbs offers godly, practical advice on the topics every mother has questions about: mom guilt, our children’s faith, potty-training, divorce, our teenagers dating, and more!
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