Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs

Parenting doesn’t end when your kids turn 18. In many ways, it gets more complicated! Today Karen and Erin are joined by longtime parenting expert Jim Burns for a wise and honest conversation about parenting adult children. They talk about releasing control, shifting your role, navigating boundaries, resisting unsolicited advice, and discerning the difference between helping and enabling. Whether your kids are still at home, newly launched, or already raising families of their own, this episode will help you parent with clarity, peace, and long-term perspective.
Episode Recap:
Jim is the founder of Homeward Ministries (3:06)
When our children become adults, we have to give up control (4:43)
What does it look like to embrace a new “job description” as moms? (7:00)
How can we offer wisdom to our adult children or do we just bite our tongues? (11:37)
Resist the urge to become a “one topic” parent (13:15)
What’s the difference between helping your kids and enabling them? (15:45)
How do we place good boundaries when adult kids move back in? (19:10)
What does it mean to, “wear beige and keep your mouth shut?” (24:00)
Can you cast vision for the grandparent years? (28:00)
Continue this conversation on WT+ at the link below (32:00)

Scripture: Ecclesiastes 3:1 (ESV) –  “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.”
Discussion Questions: 
What part of parenting adult children feels most difficult for you right now? If you don’t have adult children yet, what fears or worries do you have about that season of life?
How can you shift from giving advice to asking permission before speaking?
Is there an area where helping may have crossed into enabling dependency?
What expectations need to be clearly communicated in your family right now?
How can you focus on relationship building rather than behavior correcting?

Resources:
Listen to the rest of our conversation with Jim over on WT+: boaw.mom/insider
Grab a copy of Jim’s new book, Doing Life With Your Adult Children
Connect with HomeWord Ministries online
Check out Jim’s podcast and his recent episode on Long Distance Grandparenting
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible

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Discipline is hard, especially when the results feel slow or invisible. In this final episode of our Parenting Principles from Proverbs series, Karen and Emily shift the focus to the long-term fruit of faithful discipline and the peace it brings to both children and parents.
Drawing from Proverbs and Hebrews, Karen reminds moms that discipline is discipleship. It is not about control or behavior management in the moment, but about shaping hearts, building security, and leaving a generational blessing.  Don’t miss the end of today’s episode, when Emily announces our big winners from last week’s giveaway!! 
Episode Recap:
What does the fruit of discipline look like? (2:30)
Discipline now will bring peace later (7:10)
How do I teach my son to obey without all the drama? (11:30)
How do I stay calm while disciplining my bonus child? (14:12)
My kids argue and whine about everything. I’m exhausted! (17:30)
Discipline takes time and repetition (21:17)
Discipline leaves a generational blessing (22:54)
Our big giveaway winners announced! (24:42) 

Scripture: Hebrews 12:11 (ESV) – “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”

Discussion Questions: 
Why do you think discipline feels especially hard when results are not immediate?
How does seeing discipline as discipleship change your perspective?
Which scripture from this episode encouraged you the most and why?
Where might God be asking you to stay consistent, even when you feel tired?
What kind of long-term fruit do you hope to see in your children ten years from now?

Resources:
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible
Listen to episode 347 with David Thomas, Raising Emotionally Strong Boys
Grab Thomas’ book: Raising Emotionally Strong Boys

We are celebrating 500 episodes of Wire Talk and using this milestone to talk about something every mom wants: wisdom that actually works in real life. Today Karen breaks down what it means to be a wise mom, not a perfect one, and offers a simple grid for everyday moments by asking, “Will my response build my house or tear it down?” From discipline to independence, this conversation focuses on proactive parenting that shapes our kids over time.
Episode Recap:
Wire Talk is celebrating 500 episodes - don’t miss our BIG GIVEAWAY (2:34)
A wise mom builds her house up in all she does (7:10)
Children are born with a sin nature (11:00)
Being intentional is hard work (14:31)
What is the difference between teaching, training, and discipline? (15:50)
Consistency builds trust (20:30)
Discipline sets your child up for success long term (23:40)
Listener question - how do I discipline my biter? (26:44)
Listener question - is it too late for me to disciple my child in faith? (29:39)
How do I discipline tantrums in public? (31:52)
I don’t know how to help my daughters solve sibling conflict… (33:30)

Scripture: Proverbs 14:1 (NIV) – “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”
Discussion Questions: 
Karen’s guiding question is, “Will my response build my house or tear it down?” Where do you most need that filter right now? (Discipline, mornings, homework, sibling conflict, or marriage?)
Where do you tend to parent reactively, and what would it look like to be proactive instead?
How does remembering your child’s sin nature change both your expectations and your compassion?
Karen talks about how tearing down can show up in our words with kids or a spouse. Where do you need to shift from criticism to building up?
Which do you lean toward most: teaching, training, or disciplining, and which one do you tend to avoid? Why?
Where do you need to ask God for help right now, one specific area where you are asking Him to meet you with encouragement?

Resources:
Join our giveaway by commenting on this episode over on YouTube! 
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible
Listen to Wire Talk Episode 1! 
Start a new habit this year with Karen’s devotional: Moments with God for Moms

Karen and Emily are kicking off the year with a three-part series about parenting principles we can learn from the book of Proverbs. Today, Karen addresses the confusion many moms today feel around discipline, authority, and the pressure to “get it right.” Drawing from Solomon’s teaching, she reminds us that children need leadership, clear boundaries, and parents who are willing to direct them with confidence rather than fear. We hope this conversation encourages you to trust God for wisdom no matter what you are facing this week!
Episode Recap:
Wire Talk is celebrating 500 episodes next week
Subscribe to our YT podcast so you don’t miss the giveaway
Gentle parenting does not work
Stop Googling and start getting into the Word of God
We are bombarding ourselves with information overload
Moms are afraid of messing up and uncertain of what to do
What are the 3 stages of discipline? 
How do I discipline without introducing shame? 
Children are so resilient, we do not give them enough credit
Trust that God will give us wisdom exactly when we need it

Scripture: Proverbs 1:1-5 (ESV) – “The proverbs of Solomon son of David, king of Israel: for gaining wisdom and instruction; for understanding words of insight; for receiving instruction in prudent behavior, doing what is right and just and fair; for giving prudence to those who are simple, knowledge and discretion to the young—let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance…”

Discussion Questions: 
What messages about parenting have influenced you the most in recent years—culture, social media, your upbringing, or Scripture?
“More information is not always good information.” Where have you felt overwhelmed or anxious because of too much advice?
Why do you think the word authority has become uncomfortable in parenting conversations?
How does Proverbs reframe discipline as protection and love rather than punishment?
What is one area of parenting where you need to ask God for wisdom instead of trying to figure it out on your own?

Resources:
Check out our BRAND NEW Bible study: How To Teach Your Kids the Bible
Listen to our series on the 3 stages of discipline: 154, 155, 156
Grab Karen’s devotional book: Moments with God for Moms

As Christmas approaches, we are turning our focus to love this final week of Advent. In this episode, Karen and Emily unpack what it looks like to love like Jesus in everyday moments: choosing presence, serving quietly, pausing before reacting, and remembering that we love others because Christ first loved us. If the holidays have stretched your patience thin, we hope this conversation will help you refocus your heart on what truly matters!
Episode Recap:
We’re talking about love this week (6:05)
How do we respond to God’s love practically? (7:55)
Loving others looks like not being selfish (8:44)
Take an interest in others this Christmas (12:34)
Choose presence over perfection (15:54)
Speak life with your words (16:31)
Pause before you react (18:42)
Enjoy simple moments (20:20)
Serve quietly (21:15)
Focus on gratitude (22:42)

Scripture: Philippians 2:1-5 (NIV)
“Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.”

Discussion Questions: 
Why do you think loving others feels harder during the holidays?
In what ways do you catch yourself trying to impress others rather than love them?
Which part of Philippians 2:1–5 challenges you the most right now?
What does “choosing presence over perfection” look like in your home?
What is one thing you can do this week to respond with love instead of frustration?

Resources:
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